my3freaks
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Location: NH girl living in Colorado
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Post by my3freaks on Aug 12, 2015 22:40:46 GMT
I am tired of being tired, being overweight, and being told to be "patient" and wait for the meds "to kick in". I am also tired of being in pain on top of it all. I have the day off and have done nothing because I am in so much pain and so tired. I feel like my life is wasting away. I should be prepping for the small birthday celebration we're having for one of our dds tomorrow and I have done nothing yet because i can't find the energy. And not-so-dh, when I say to you that "I am in a LOT of pain and going to bed," (and I truly NEVER talk about my pain, so this means we are at level 9 for me to bring it up), your response should not be, "Why are you talking about it? Aren't you always in pain? Do you need to talk about it?" I'm sorry you feel this, I just wanted to say I can relate, and it SUCKS. My husband has never said anything like that, thankfully, but he will say "You need to make an appt with the surgeon and see what he says this time", and sometimes I get pissy about it. Just some sympathy, not a suggestion of what to do would be nice. ((Hugs)) to you.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Aug 13, 2015 1:29:02 GMT
I have several. Here goes. *I am SO SICK of my dad's wife mistreating him. She called him stupid on Monday (I heard it while I was on the phone with him.) Yesterday she threw a huge fit because he put on a "wear at home" shirt instead of a "going places" shirt. A fit that included: SON OF A BITCH! SEE WHY I AM GOING CRAZY? I was there and witnessed that one first hand. My dad is a prisoner to her rants for now but hopefully that will be taken care of soon. She also has some health issues but she makes my dad feel like a burden to everyone, not just to her. He thanks me over and over for taking him to the doctor or to lunch or whenever I do the least little thing for him. Makes me sad. *DD1 has gotten very critical of me. During lunch yesterday (for which I was paying) she started to pick a fight out of nowhere...judging me. She did it again tonight when started talking about going to lunch when DD2 gets home from college for her week long break. It was like she was putting her foot down to me...I am saying that this is coming straight out of her fiance's mouth. She also has made some comments about that she does what is right for her and she doesn't care if it hurts anyone else. She says it with a shrug and an "oh well." *DD3 is just adding stress right now. Nothing wrong with what she is doing but it just hurts my heart. *My 11 year old sheltie has been sick. He has lost weight within the past year (from 38 pounds to 25.) His weight now is healthier for him but he isn't eating. I took him to a new vet whom we have known for several years as "one of the vets" at our clinic. He has recently opened his own business and we decided to try him out. He put Blizzard on antibiotics last week and said that he needed a "dental." I scheduled the dental as well as one for my other dog, 14 year old Frodo. Well I got a reminder text yesterday for Frodo. Later in the day I decided to call and make sure they had Blizzard's appointment down. They did NOT. They put him on the list, no problem, then talked to me about how he can't have the procedure because he was due for two vaccinations. I explained what the vet said about him being too sick to get them right now. We went back and forth (very nicely) and the lady finally said "Well I will put on his card that the doctor said it was OK for him to get this done without those shots." Fine but I want you to check with Dr. Josh, not take my word for it. Well this morning I drove Blizzard and Frodo to the clinic. I thought I'd basically drop them off but the put us in an exam room and Vet Tech 1 said "I don't know who is going to check you in...me or Vet Tech 2." She left and never came back. No one came. I peeked out the back door and no one is in sight. So I peeked out the front door and no one is in sight. I had left my purse and phone in the car because I thought it would be a quick drop off (as it always was at our old vet clinic.) I stood in the doorway because I could see my car through the window. Finally a receptionist and Vet Tech 1 came to the front. I went out and told her I was in a hurry and when was I going to be checked in. She had this dumb-founded look on her face and said "Well I guess I can check you in." She apologized a few times and said she told Vet Tech 2 to do it and she thought she had already done it. Then she started asking me about the vaccinations and how he has to have them, etc. We went back and forth about it and then I got really worried to leave my dogs there so I said "I need to see Dr Josh." She said "OK" and left the room. While waiting for him I ran out to the car and got my purse and phone. Someone was waiting for me to pick them up and I was now running much later than I should. Josh walked in and everything was fine. He apologized and I told him I got tired of talking about the vaccinations and I got scared. I was afraid Blizzard would catch something. He reassured me that it was ok about the vaccinations. He checked my dogs in himself and I told him that I just got scared but that I trusted him. LOL I also wanted him to know that communication between his staff needed to be improved (I didn't actually say THAT but did tell him about what I had experienced.) It took me probably half an hour to check my dogs in. And there were no other clients there. *Blizzard is still in pain. Dr. Josh said the strangest thing that Blizz's teeth move around. They are not loose in his gums but they are not connected to the jaw/ligament or whatever they should be connected to. He has no idea WHY and has never seen that before. But his teeth are nice and clean now but that is something we need to be aware of and to watch. Frodo had his remaining four teeth pulled. He feels better but Blizzard, not so much. He wouldn't eat but I did see him drink a bit of water. He hasn't peed. He is woozy and I can tell his mouth hurts. My baby. I can't make him take his antibiotics tonight because he winces whenever I touch his face. I hope he is better in the morning. That's it. Thanks for the opportunity to get this out! My DH appreciates it too, I'm sure.
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Post by txdancermom on Aug 13, 2015 1:40:19 GMT
I'm sorry you are feeling overwhelmed. I hope you can find some way to get some time for yourself.
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Post by PEArfect on Aug 13, 2015 2:47:27 GMT
#1 - I picked my 13yo daughter up from soccer today and as soon as she got in the Jeep she started to cry. They told them their teams today and she got JV. She's an 8th grader. Only three 8th graders were put on the JV team. She's embarrassed and disappointed. I know I should probably tell her to stick it out, but I told her if she wanted to quit it was fine with me. She can try out for soccer again next year. She loves the game, so she's conflicted.
#2 - My brother called me today about our dad today. He's an alcoholic and it's consuming him. My brother wants me to 'take care of it.' He thinks our dad will listen to me. I've been talking to my dad about his alcoholism for years. He's not listening to me either. I think my brother is more concerned about what other family members think of him right now then he is about our dad. He went to the latest family gathering and felt shunned. His whole family are enablers. THE day we moved my mom into a nursing home my grandma and uncle brought my dad two cases of beer. When I told my grandm to take it with home with her she said, "he needs the release." My dad had not had any alcohol for almost two years because he was caring for my mom. Of course after my mom died he started drinking even more. Now that his drinking has become a problem the rest of our family is apparently blaming me and my brother. They don't think we're doing anything to help him. His life is a mess. His house is a mess. His yard is a mess. His yard..wow! The grass in the back yard was up to my neck the last time I was there. I would be willing to pay to have the yard taken care of, but I know my dad won't maintain it. I don't pay someone to maintain my yard, so I wouldn't be able to afford to hire someone to regulary maintain his. My dad laughs it off when I mention his yard. His neighbors have mowed the front lawn twice because they got tired of looking at it. I have told him he needs to schedule time for household chores. He's 65, more than capable. He spends his days and nights at the VFW drinking. He doesn't spend time with us anymore. When we ask he either has 'plans' (VFW) or he's not feeling good (still goes to VFW.) My brother and nephew invited him to go to the tractor pulls at the local 4H fair. They go every year. My dad said he wasn't feeling good and stayed home. My brother drove by the VFW and our dad's vehicle was in the parking lot. I have a somewhat selfish attitude I suppose too. I feel like my dad should be helping ME. He never asks how things are going. Never offers to help with anything. We talk about my mom, but when I start to talk about my LH he cuts me off. Another reason why the family coming down on me makes me angry. He lost his wife. I lost my husband and my mom. Did they all forget about that? Even my brother is putting this on me. The really sad part is this isn't my dad at all. This is my dad while intoxicated 24/7. My dad sober is a very caring, giving man. The fun grandpa. He's always been the 'go to' guy in the family. The one everyone could count on. I really don't know what else I can do or say. His brother died alone in his house. He was an alcoholic. The condition of his house was not fit for humans. Hoarders episode! Even that doesn't seem to get through to him.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Aug 13, 2015 2:52:11 GMT
I am sorry PEArfect. The situation with your dad is very sad.
The soccer thing is sad also. Wouldn't she be more likely to make the team next year if she plays this year? Good luck!
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Post by maryland on Aug 13, 2015 2:57:33 GMT
I have three messy girls, so needless to say, I clean all day every day it seems! I don't know how I would be able to get it all done if I didn't stay home. It must be so hard to work all day, then come home to do all the stuff I do all day. I would have to have a cleaning person come every day to get done what I do.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Aug 13, 2015 3:16:33 GMT
Liars. Irresponsible dishonest people. They suck.
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Post by PEArfect on Aug 13, 2015 3:17:08 GMT
I am sorry PEArfect. The situation with your dad is very sad. The soccer thing is sad also. Wouldn't she be more likely to make the team next year if she plays this year? Good luck! Soccer attendance at the high school has been scarce the past two years. It looks like they barely have enough players to compete with a JV and varsity team this year. There are rumors that they might just compete with one team. My 16yo played her freshman and sophomore, but decided not to this year. The varsity coach lost his whole defense this year, juniors and seniors. The varsity coach is a tough coach to play for. Most of the girls stayed because of the JV coach. Unfortunately the JV coach is not coaching this year. It's sad because before my 16yo started high school girls soccer had enough players for three teams. Freshman, JV, and varsity.
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Post by RiverIsis on Aug 13, 2015 3:34:28 GMT
I am sorry PEArfect. The situation with your dad is very sad. The soccer thing is sad also. Wouldn't she be more likely to make the team next year if she plays this year? Good luck! Soccer attendance at the high school has been scarce the past two years. It looks like they barely have enough players to compete with a JV and varsity team this year. There are rumors that they might just compete with one team. My 16yo played her freshman and sophomore, but decided not to this year. The varsity coach lost his whole defense this year, juniors and seniors. The varsity coach is a tough coach to play for. Most of the girls stayed because of the JV coach. Unfortunately the JV coach is not coaching this year. It's sad because before my 16yo started high school girls soccer had enough players for three teams. Freshman, JV, and varsity. Oh wow. I was going to suggest showing willing and sticking it out but with that info it may be time to focus on Rec Department/Travelling leagues and not school teams.
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Post by RiverIsis on Aug 13, 2015 3:36:12 GMT
Dear OP and other SAHM. When I worked Full Time my house was clean because the kids were everywhere else but the house. Since I have been home they are home and thus it is a bazillion times more work, and running around, etc. I know no two situations are the same, but definitely consider taking yourself away from such negativity, you just don't need it.
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Post by PEArfect on Aug 13, 2015 3:49:50 GMT
Soccer attendance at the high school has been scarce the past two years. It looks like they barely have enough players to compete with a JV and varsity team this year. There are rumors that they might just compete with one team. My 16yo played her freshman and sophomore, but decided not to this year. The varsity coach lost his whole defense this year, juniors and seniors. The varsity coach is a tough coach to play for. Most of the girls stayed because of the JV coach. Unfortunately the JV coach is not coaching this year. It's sad because before my 16yo started high school girls soccer had enough players for three teams. Freshman, JV, and varsity. Oh wow. I was going to suggest showing willing and sticking it out but with that info it may be time to focus on Rec Department/Travelling leagues and not school teams. I have been considering traveling teams, but I also think it's important to participate on school teams. It does seem like most of the players that are on traveling teams make the varsity teams at school. My 16yo played soccer from 4th grade through 10th. She really misses playing. She is co-coaching a league team this year with our neighbor, but it's not the same as playing. My 13yo played league soccer 2nd-6th. Then 7th grade for the school. My 8yo has been playing league soccer since she was 4yo. The league only allows K-9th.
I told her to sleep on it. She might feel differently tomorrow.
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Post by PEArfect on Aug 13, 2015 3:56:00 GMT
Dear OP and other SAHM. When I worked Full Time my house was clean because the kids were everywhere else but the house. Since I have been home they are home and thus it is a bazillion times more work, and running around, etc. I know no two situations are the same, but definitely consider taking yourself away from such negativity, you just don't need it. That's what I've always thought. They're not messing it up if they're not home. At least during the day your house is clean. Maybe the kids destroy it in the evenings though after their parents get home from work? I'm a SAHM. There is definitely a difference between our house during school and during summer break. It's not as bad as it has been in the past though, thankfully.
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Post by RiverIsis on Aug 13, 2015 3:56:08 GMT
Oh wow. I was going to suggest showing willing and sticking it out but with that info it may be time to focus on Rec Department/Travelling leagues and not school teams. I have been considering traveling teams, but I also think it's important to participate on school teams. It does seem like most of the players that are on traveling teams make the varsity teams at school. My 16yo played soccer from 4th grade through 10th. She really misses playing. She is co-coaching a league team this year with our neighbor, but it's not the same as playing. My 13yo played league soccer 2nd-6th. Then 7th grade for the school. My 8yo has been playing league soccer since she was 4yo. The league only allows K-9th.
I told her to sleep on it. She might feel differently tomorrow.
My DSs played school soccer. Well, they were on the team and had to suck up a lot of practice time for minimal playing time. Bluntly, the youngest no doubt had the best time to goal ratio for the squad! At least he scored. FWIW our state doesn't even allow 8th graders on Varsity squads if that helps her feel better. It might be worth putting up with the garbage to play, you never know what may come out of that decision (at worst a college application essay about sticking to your dreams etc...)
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 13, 2015 5:02:35 GMT
OP - That doesn't sound like a good friend. Good friends lend you strength when you are burdened, not add to your load.
My vent:
My coworker who makes me want to run face first into a wall every time I have to work with her. Why are you so lazy, coworker? You know how to do the job, so please don't just wander around, doing nothing.
And second coworker - Please don't come in so hungover that you are vomiting and stumbling around, not to mention, completely incapable of working. I was the one who had to pick up all the slack.
And third - bosses, you see these coworkers, and their lack of helpful contribution, and yet they are still employed why?
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Post by darkangel090260 on Aug 13, 2015 5:36:23 GMT
Friend is single with grown children and works outside of the home always. She only had two children and only one lived with her.
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Post by RiverIsis on Aug 15, 2015 15:05:02 GMT
Friend is single with grown children and works outside of the home always. She only had two children and only one lived with her. Wow. I remember the days when it was just me or just me and DH and I could sort the house out and all the chores in an afternoon. Now I seem to be running around chasing my tail. Some people just can't appreciate that others can have more complicated lives. I honestly can't imagine having to run a child to dr/therapist appointments on top of it all so hats off to you! Some people just have to put others down to feel good about themselves.
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Post by utmr on Aug 15, 2015 15:21:39 GMT
My same-level peer sent me an email. "I need you to set up a meeting blah blah blah." I so badly wanted to reply "I need you to kiss my a$$". But I didn't.
He is a bullying jerk and I'm getting tired of it. He's a suck up and brown nose to the remote office boss and the local hr person and a jerk to everyone else.
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Aug 15, 2015 16:19:53 GMT
happymomma I'm impressed that you're trying it over with DH. That takes guts!
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perumbula
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Post by perumbula on Aug 15, 2015 16:55:10 GMT
My husband decided last week that it was time to start a big project again. We're turning a small bedroom that's next to our room into a master bedroom closet. I'm excited. I have been asking for it to be done for years. But it is overwhelming. For various reasons, the room has never been used as a bedroom. It's been basically a storage room for years (it was supposed to be DH's music space but it was always the dumping ground for crap we didn't know what to do with.) The mess is now in my dining room. We have a massive pile for a yard sale I'm not sure I want to have but the money would help buy the supplies for the closet. I had to clean up the mess in the basement storage room to make space for the things that need kept out of the little room. So now we have trash and stuff everywhere and it's driving me crazy. I'm not the neatest housekeeper but this is more than I can handle.
I'm just taking deep breaths and picturing my new closet.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 15, 2015 17:51:28 GMT
#1 - I picked my 13yo daughter up from soccer today and as soon as she got in the Jeep she started to cry. They told them their teams today and she got JV. She's an 8th grader. Only three 8th graders were put on the JV team. She's embarrassed and disappointed. I know I should probably tell her to stick it out, but I told her if she wanted to quit it was fine with me. She can try out for soccer again next year. She loves the game, so she's conflicted. Please don't encourage her to quit. Is she going to try out next year and quit if she is again placed on the jv team? Is a year or not playing and not practicing going to help her play next year? What is wrong with jv? If she likes the game, she should play or she should quit soccer completely
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 15, 2015 17:53:03 GMT
My same-level peer sent me an email. "I need you to set up a meeting blah blah blah." I so badly wanted to reply "I need you to kiss my a$$". But I didn't. He is a bullying jerk and I'm getting tired of it. He's a suck up and brown nose to the remote office boss and the local hr person and a jerk to everyone else. oops, I didn't read that email
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 15, 2015 17:58:02 GMT
I am sorry PEArfect. The situation with your dad is very sad. The soccer thing is sad also. Wouldn't she be more likely to make the team next year if she plays this year? Good luck! Soccer attendance at the high school has been scarce the past two years. It looks like they barely have enough players to compete with a JV and varsity team this year. There are rumors that they might just compete with one team. My 16yo played her freshman and sophomore, but decided not to this year. The varsity coach lost his whole defense this year, juniors and seniors. The varsity coach is a tough coach to play for. Most of the girls stayed because of the JV coach. Unfortunately the JV coach is not coaching this year. It's sad because before my 16yo started high school girls soccer had enough players for three teams. Freshman, JV, and varsity. ooh, that does suck. I had the best coaches in high school. If they barely have enough, it may be that she is on jv, but will play up with varsity as needed. Are there competitive leagues going during the same time? We had competitive in the fall, high school in the spring and there was no competitive for hs in the spring because everyone played for their school. If there are travel teams, she could go that route, just keep in mind the coach could hold it against her.
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Peal
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Post by Peal on Aug 15, 2015 18:11:45 GMT
Everything has exploded this weekend. We got notice at work yesterday that FINRA was coming, so everyone is super tense and will be until they leave. I just discovered water damage in DS's bedroom that I think the previous owners new about but covered up. I talked with the insurance company, the damage is covered but they think the repair will be less than the deductible so it's best to not make a claim. Dh could do the work when he is here in 3 weeks, but I don't want to waste the week we have with him on demolition as we wont see him again until Christmas. So I need to get quotes and have the work done, which will require time away from work that I don't have. And to top it off, I think my dad dis-inherited me this week. I don't care about the money, it's theirs and I doubt there will be much left after they are gone considering the longevity my family has and my dad's health issues, but it's so petty. He's mad we're upset that he offended us. He sent and apology that was essentially, "I'm sorry you were hurt, but...and if you don't accept my apology you wont get your share of the estate, which is a lot, nyah, nyah, nyah." I don't even know how to respond to that.
I need to go convinvce myself that carrot sticks are as good as chocolate for dealing with this, because, oh yeah, I've gained 10 pounds this summer.
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Post by PEArfect on Aug 15, 2015 18:22:45 GMT
#1 - I picked my 13yo daughter up from soccer today and as soon as she got in the Jeep she started to cry. They told them their teams today and she got JV. She's an 8th grader. Only three 8th graders were put on the JV team. She's embarrassed and disappointed. I know I should probably tell her to stick it out, but I told her if she wanted to quit it was fine with me. She can try out for soccer again next year. She loves the game, so she's conflicted. Please don't encourage her to quit. Is she going to try out next year and quit if she is again placed on the jv team? Is a year or not playing and not practicing going to help her play next year? What is wrong with jv? If she likes the game, she should play or she should quit soccer completely I wasn't encouraging her to quit. I let her decide. I think all extracirricular activities should be fun, not forced. If she plays next year JV is more than likely the team she'll be on. Almost all freshman are on the JV team. What is wrong with JV? Nothing. It's one of those awkward middle school moments where she's embarrassed being older, but on JV. She was also hoping to play for the varsity coach. She loves the game, and she'll continue to play. My 16yo is co-coaching a league team this year, so she's helping her with scrimmages. If she's interested I'll see if there are any openings left on the league teams in her age group. I didn't sign her up because she intended on playing for the school again this year.
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Post by PEArfect on Aug 15, 2015 18:26:28 GMT
Soccer attendance at the high school has been scarce the past two years. It looks like they barely have enough players to compete with a JV and varsity team this year. There are rumors that they might just compete with one team. My 16yo played her freshman and sophomore, but decided not to this year. The varsity coach lost his whole defense this year, juniors and seniors. The varsity coach is a tough coach to play for. Most of the girls stayed because of the JV coach. Unfortunately the JV coach is not coaching this year. It's sad because before my 16yo started high school girls soccer had enough players for three teams. Freshman, JV, and varsity. ooh, that does suck. I had the best coaches in high school. If they barely have enough, it may be that she is on jv, but will play up with varsity as needed. Are there competitive leagues going during the same time? We had competitive in the fall, high school in the spring and there was no competitive for hs in the spring because everyone played for their school. If there are travel teams, she could go that route, just keep in mind the coach could hold it against her. They do have traveling teams in our area and I think that is making a big difference in school and league teams as far as not having enough kids trying out. They're choosing the traveling teams. You're right! The coaches don't like working with players that are also on traveling teams. It's usually either/or.
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ComplicatedLady
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Post by ComplicatedLady on Aug 15, 2015 19:10:01 GMT
3 year olds are intermittently possessed by demons. I'm not sure why it happens, but it's worse when it happens in a restaurant.
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Post by nyxish on Aug 15, 2015 19:21:07 GMT
i just do not know WTH is wrong with me anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2015 19:23:23 GMT
3 year olds are intermittently possessed by demons. I'm not sure why it happens, but it's worse when it happens in a restaurant. YES! My son was a holy terror from birth to age 8 or so. By 10 he was an angel. "You don't love me! You never loved me! You never wanted me!!!" (That's why I kissed him all over morning until night. I constantly told him how much I loved him and how important he was in my life. I said things like "boys need their moms, but moms need their boys, you know".)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2015 20:35:19 GMT
I had to read about my husband's grandmother passing away on Facebook, in a post a cousin made only a couple hours after it hAppened, and before all the extended family had been informed. (My husband was on a plane.)
On the Facebook post, to the cousin, I wrote "I wish you had waited before posting this."
So she Unfriended me.
How nice of her.
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Post by scrapqueen01 on Aug 15, 2015 23:22:11 GMT
My vent is my 85 year old mother. She insists something has changed on her computer. When she scans something it shouldn't be a pdf. When I looked everything looked like it should. Nope. Something has changed. She also "knows" something is wrong with dd11. Other than a pre-teen attitude she's fine.
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