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Post by grate on Aug 15, 2015 17:34:23 GMT
I just hope then that they follow through with their obvious threats if something happens-- now hearing stories of a well respected basketball coach getting fired (other basketball coaches told me my daughter would be in good hands at this school with him) because of a parent with pull and a daughter who was benched for throwing temper tantrums during games, tossing water bottles and yelling at teammates.. replaced with someone who let her play and did not really coach, they just played "pick up".
So if they let the girl bully her teammates and replaced the coach who tried to stop her, the whole no tolerance on bullying speech does not make sense. These are stories from parents involved with the teams and ones who aren't-- guess I just have to wait and see and change next year if I do not like the school atmosphere and direction. I just want my kids to get a good education and enjoy the extras.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 15, 2015 19:51:02 GMT
Grate, you SAY that you get it, but you really aren't getting it. ha. Esp with your follow up questions. THIS is the norm in the USA. At ALL schools. There is always going to be someone else's kids, or coaches, kids, or friend, etc that is going to get special treatment, or fits, or whatever. It's HS. There is drama. Always is. Doesn't matter what you did in Germany. Those that say you "skip" the mandatory meeting? how is that possible? All parents of kids in our state have to sign off that a parent and kid attended, or a make up meeting. They can't practice or play until they do.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2015 19:55:36 GMT
I never attended a parent's meeting for my son when he started track. You just pay the money and get a hand out.
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Post by grate on Aug 15, 2015 20:33:06 GMT
Grate, you SAY that you get it, but you really aren't getting it. ha. Esp with your follow up questions. THIS is the norm in the USA. At ALL schools. There is always going to be someone else's kids, or coaches, kids, or friend, etc that is going to get special treatment, or fits, or whatever. It's HS. There is drama. Always is. Doesn't matter what you did in Germany. Those that say you "skip" the mandatory meeting? how is that possible? All parents of kids in our state have to sign off that a parent and kid attended, or a make up meeting. They can't practice or play until they do. Well if YOU say I don't get it, guess I don't. My initial wondering was if the tough drug /alcohol/hazing/bullying/don't talk to coach and police presence was the new norm. It went on from there as I tried to look into it more as people asked questions and made other statements. I am in no way worried about competiton or overzealous parents.. Believe it or not there is that in Germany. At this point my daughter has not even made the team. So I get that a police presence is the norm, a strict drug/alcohol policy is the norm and so on. Questioned answered so thankful for your help. ETA... And the point was I have it this before, sat through numerous meetings as a student and a parent.. Heck I coached MS rec myself ..
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2015 20:38:31 GMT
grate, as I'm sure you are well aware. There is no NORM in the entire United States for high school sports. In my area, there are no sports on Sundays, so you might luck out. I was not required to attend a meeting. I signed a paper. Good luck! It's probably good you got in when you did with the new basketball coach. And yeah, the U.S. is not unique when it comes to teenage drama. Duh!
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Post by grate on Aug 15, 2015 20:42:37 GMT
grate, as I'm sure you are well aware. There is no NORM in the entire United States for high school sports. In my area, there are no sports on Sundays, so you might luck out. I was not required to attend a meeting. I signed a paper. Good luck! It's probably good you got in when you did with the new basketball coach. And yeah, the U.S. is not unique when it comes to teenage drama. Duh! There was some sarcasm . Just trying to prove I do get it. The basketball coach they have now if the ineffective one.. So we will see. Hopefully she gets the chance to navigate through volleyball first!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2015 20:45:33 GMT
Sorry, I read your response wrong. Well, here's hoping volleyball goes well.
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Post by grate on Aug 15, 2015 20:54:58 GMT
Trying to use emoji things from my phone to help explain my :-) tone but it is not working! Thanks!
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 15, 2015 22:27:37 GMT
Those that say you "skip" the mandatory meeting? how is that possible? All parents of kids in our state have to sign off that a parent and kid attended, or a make up meeting. They can't practice or play until they do. I haven't attended any kind parent meeting since the youngest started high school. None of them are mandatory, and the only paperwork we have to complete is a sports physical. There is only one orientation and that the annual school wide one before school starts. I went to the one for the oldest in 9th grade, but these days all the paperwork is on line and all schedules are emailed. There really isn't a need for us to go to the orientation. There is no separate or specific orientation for sports for our school. There may be paperwork for sportsmanship that is sent home, but I don't remember any. It could be that it is one of those that gets slipped in before I had any coffee in morning, but I think I would remember since I have kids that played in various sports every year for the past six years or so. I could be just our school though?
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Post by grate on Aug 15, 2015 22:48:03 GMT
Those that say you "skip" the mandatory meeting? how is that possible? All parents of kids in our state have to sign off that a parent and kid attended, or a make up meeting. They can't practice or play until they do. I haven't attended any kind parent meeting since the youngest started high school. None of them are mandatory, and the only paperwork we have to complete is a sports physical. There is only one orientation and that the annual school wide one before school starts. I went to the one for the oldest in 9th grade, but these days all the paperwork is on line and all schedules are emailed. There really isn't a need for us to go to the orientation. There is no separate or specific orientation for sports for our school. There may be paperwork for sportsmanship that is sent home, but I don't remember any. It could be that it is one of those that gets slipped in before I had any coffee in morning, but I think I would remember since I have kids that played in various sports every year for the past six years or so. I could be just our school though? SO I guess things are different from place to place ;-)
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 15, 2015 23:09:49 GMT
I haven't attended any kind parent meeting since the youngest started high school. None of them are mandatory, and the only paperwork we have to complete is a sports physical. There is only one orientation and that the annual school wide one before school starts. I went to the one for the oldest in 9th grade, but these days all the paperwork is on line and all schedules are emailed. There really isn't a need for us to go to the orientation. There is no separate or specific orientation for sports for our school. There may be paperwork for sportsmanship that is sent home, but I don't remember any. It could be that it is one of those that gets slipped in before I had any coffee in morning, but I think I would remember since I have kids that played in various sports every year for the past six years or so. I could be just our school though? SO I guess things are different from place to place ;-) Definitely sounds like it!
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Post by peasapie on Aug 16, 2015 1:02:41 GMT
Is this normal?? I played sports all through MS and HS and never got this feeling before. I know the take on things is different in Germany but I left feeling a bit sick to my stomach and wondering if my kids are in a safe environment. ETA--- I taught in schools that had police, in the Bronx and Baltimore and it was more to keep people out. It was very clear that this one was to keep an eye on the kids. Is this normal now??? Actually, I like that they take a clear stand on drinking and let the kids know in advance that they aren't going to take any BS excuses. If you're at a party and there's drinking - leave. Period. No "It wasn't me, it was someone else." That helps keep your child safe. And as far as a safe environment? No such animal. Safety is in making the right decisions when you are faced with situations that kids all face.
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Post by RiverIsis on Aug 16, 2015 15:35:22 GMT
I haven't attended any kind parent meeting since the youngest started high school. None of them are mandatory, and the only paperwork we have to complete is a sports physical. There is only one orientation and that the annual school wide one before school starts. I went to the one for the oldest in 9th grade, but these days all the paperwork is on line and all schedules are emailed. There really isn't a need for us to go to the orientation. There is no separate or specific orientation for sports for our school. There may be paperwork for sportsmanship that is sent home, but I don't remember any. It could be that it is one of those that gets slipped in before I had any coffee in morning, but I think I would remember since I have kids that played in various sports every year for the past six years or so. I could be just our school though? SO I guess things are different from place to place ;-) Yes, it all depends on the Athletic Association the school is attached to whether it is the State or a private one. Different regs for different groups. I think I'm the only one who said her kids have been random drug tested for any competitive activity in which you represent the school. So that is different than what anyone else has posted. Our athletic association also doesn't allow 8th graders to play varsity in most sports and doesn't allow school to school transfer without sitting out a year unless the family has moved. The private schools in our state get around the non-recruiting rules by saying they are hardship/need/academic scholarships.
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Post by RiverIsis on Aug 16, 2015 15:40:29 GMT
Is this normal?? I played sports all through MS and HS and never got this feeling before. I know the take on things is different in Germany but I left feeling a bit sick to my stomach and wondering if my kids are in a safe environment. ETA--- I taught in schools that had police, in the Bronx and Baltimore and it was more to keep people out. It was very clear that this one was to keep an eye on the kids. Is this normal now??? Actually, I like that they take a clear stand on drinking and let the kids know in advance that they aren't going to take any BS excuses. If you're at a party and there's drinking - leave. Period. No "It wasn't me, it was someone else." That helps keep your child safe. And as far as a safe environment? No such animal. Safety is in making the right decisions when you are faced with situations that kids all face. That is ridiculous. We have family reunions and family Holiday activities with alcohol present. I would put my kid forward for alcohol testing before saying sports before family. And that is what that "rule" broadly encompasses. And just who do they think are going to be in the stands supporting these kids if the families are alienated. 99% of these kids aren't going to play competitive sports after HS. I think the picture rule is really wobbly and wouldn't hold up if challenged in court.
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Post by grate on Aug 16, 2015 15:54:42 GMT
I did hear that this school (public) does random alcohol checks at dances.. not sure if it includes drugs. I actually agree with the 8th grader and V play stance. There is such a great maturational difference between most 8th graders and V level players.
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