Jili
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Post by Jili on Aug 17, 2015 2:17:40 GMT
Wow, you all are a lot more supportive than I was expecting! I thought I'd come back to a bunch of "cut the apron strings" posts. Sadly, I have heard ad nauseum about going online not being "real college" (it's a well known state school with online classes as well as a traditional campus), keeping her "sheltered too much", etc. For her, and us, it's the right choice but you'd think I was locking her in her bedroom in a tower, lol. Thanks peas. I totally understand where you're coming from. I would have a very hard time moving to a different country and leaving a new high school graduate behind. I don't think I could do it, and my dd would not be entirely comfortable with this, either. Independence needs to come gradually--at least it does for both dd and for us as parents. My dd is back at school for her sophomore year. She goes to a school about 2 hours We moved her in on Tuesday, and then she came home with us to finish out the week at her summer job. She is taking a car with her this time, so yesterday after having lunch with us, she left around 2:00 to head back--and that was it. Today was weird. I woke up this morning and my first thought was "she's not here, and it'll be awhile before she is". Setting the table at dinnertime was kind of sad (only 3 of us), and seeing her towel on the rack in the bathroom. Overall, though, it's not as difficult as it was last year. Definitely not. It'll still be an adjustment, but it's different. |
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 17, 2015 2:20:23 GMT
basketlady1. the kids do NOT wear boots in MN. HA. it's just not cool. Where is he going again? I know you've told me, but I'm pulling a blank. LOL The boots are for ice fishing and working out in the woods at my parent's house. They have a bunch of wood they want brought in. I would also imagine that my brother will take him hunting as well. DS has never hunted, so I'm not sure what "the boys" will be up to. My brother and SIL never had kids and he is their guardian if anything happened to DH and I. As DS has gotten older, they have become closer. They like to yuck it up and my brother tells him stories of how mean I was when we were younger. My parents are an hour away, my SIL and her husband are less than an hour, I have cousins and aunts in the area. It's the extended family he never had! He's going to St. Thomas in St Paul. They have been wooing him for two years now and gave him a ton of scholarships. DS actually had to decline the $11,000 Yellow Ribbon program because he gathered too much in scholarships. He's already got a job lined up and is registered for two retreats in September--one with the Honors program and one with Campus Ministry. He has Asperger's and I'm worried about how he's going to cope with everything, but I think he's going to have a blast once the dust settles. He has a mentor lined up on campus and has a professor keeping a close eye on him. We are trying to let him out of the nest, but with a safety net for peace of mind. |
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Jili
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Jun 26, 2014 1:26:48 GMT
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Post by Jili on Aug 17, 2015 2:25:23 GMT
This is kind of how I feel/felt. My dd left on Tuesday. I've cried almost every day since...over stupid stuff: half eaten food left in the pantry, coming home after a weekend away and not having her here to greet me, not having to leave the hall light on because she's out, and having her car permanently parked in the driveway. While I'm excited for her and her next chapter, I'm mourning the fact that my life will never be the same.I totally understand this, and this completely describes me last year. Even having a year of this under my belt, I am also in the process of realizing that our family dynamic will never quite be the same. It's a lot to handle and I admit that I try not to think about it! Edited: I totally messed up the quote here, and I can't fix it! |
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Post by jengels999 on Aug 17, 2015 2:56:12 GMT
My twins are leaving as well. We are in Utah, and they will be in Ohio. Definitely going to be different around here. We leave on Tues, with a few days in town to get the rest of the things they need together, and they move into their dorms next Saturday. We are not flying home until Monday morning, then my husband will be leaving for the week for work. Going to be weird, but I can sit on my porch and watch my next door neighbor send her little one off to kindergarten, and remember what that was like.
Janell
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 17, 2015 3:26:21 GMT
Mine leaves on Tuesday. We will be driving him 20 minutes up the road. He is the youngest and makes me laugh about 15 times an hour. I'll still have my older son and husband around, but they don't make me laugh 15 times in a day. I persuaded my youngest to live in the dorms even though it is in town. I think living in the dorms is a great experience. He is very social and should love it. At first I really wanted him to go to the school of Mines about two hours away, but honestly am glad I will get to see him more often. Both of my boys are the best of friends and I can't see them not seeing each other for months.
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Post by grate on Aug 17, 2015 10:11:31 GMT
My DD is moving with us to Korea and doing at least a year or 2 online. People are sort of horrified, but I am so happy! She just turned 17, I can't imagine her here and us there...plus she wants to go. I know it's lame, but contemplating her being gone made me feel that she can stay forever and its fine by me. Her sister would miss her so much, too, they are best friends. I don't even care if people are judging us, I'm just that happy I got a reprieve for a few years! What a great education she will get living in Korea! Can in no way pass that up! |
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hannahruth
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Location: Adelaide, Australia
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Post by hannahruth on Aug 17, 2015 11:48:38 GMT
I think it wonderful that she is going with you what a great life experience for all of you.
I find it amazing reading all these teens leaving home to go to school all over the country. It is not the norm in Australia for our teens to leave home in the same way. Our DS was at home until aged 22 until he finished at university and then he moved inter state to work.
That was when I felt life had changed forever. It had but in a good way because DS was well employed, lived in a great share house and loved living where he was.
Give them wings and they will fly - my mantra that helped me when I missed him most.
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