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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2015 21:07:44 GMT
For my daughter to leave for college. She will be on the east coast, which is way to far away from us.
My heart is getting very heavy.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 16, 2015 21:13:42 GMT
And I am SOOOO ready for my dd to go BACK to college. ha. It's been a long summer. She's only 4 hrs away though.
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Post by ellen on Aug 16, 2015 21:20:43 GMT
I'm going to miss my daughter, but she is so ready to go - to the point where you can tell that she needs to move onto this next phase. She was ready to be done with high school. She has worked her butt off waiting tables at a busy summer restaurant and can barely drag herself in for her last few shifts - made a ton on money though and does not need to work at all during school which she will really appreciate in about two weeks. My daughter will be four hours away. It'll be fine. It'll feel strange at first, but it will be fine.
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Post by gryroagain on Aug 16, 2015 21:27:12 GMT
My DD is moving with us to Korea and doing at least a year or 2 online. People are sort of horrified, but I am so happy! She just turned 17, I can't imagine her here and us there...plus she wants to go. I know it's lame, but contemplating her being gone made me feel that she can stay forever and its fine by me. Her sister would miss her so much, too, they are best friends.
I don't even care if people are judging us, I'm just that happy I got a reprieve for a few years!
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Post by luvnlifelady on Aug 16, 2015 21:47:19 GMT
I hear you on that. We leave on Wednesday to take her. I am ready mentally but not emotionally. Now if my mouthy 15 yo DS could just go either in her place or in addition to her, it would be fabulous! LOL! DD is ready to take the next step but she is nervous which is to be expected. I am sad and glad at the same time. I think DH will cry at drop off. He's gotten pretty close to her this summer. We fight like mortal enemies but are also best friends. Thank God for social media to stay in touch. When DH went to college and it was only one phone call home a week. I couldn't imagine.
I am ready to have less mess to clean up though since neither one of my kids bothers to clean up after themselves. The whole roommate thing should be interesting.
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Post by edie3 on Aug 16, 2015 21:57:29 GMT
I know your pain. I get a big lump in my throat thinking of my youngest going to school. In CHicago, no less. 13 hours away! His aunt and uncle live about 45 minutes away, so that helps some.
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Post by polz on Aug 16, 2015 22:00:29 GMT
Awww. I'm looking forward to DD spreading her wings and leaving the nest but at the same time, I like having her home. Got two more years to go before DD goes to uni.
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Post by ellen on Aug 16, 2015 22:07:52 GMT
My DD is moving with us to Korea and doing at least a year or 2 online. People are sort of horrified, but I am so happy! She just turned 17, I can't imagine her here and us there...plus she wants to go. I know it's lame, but contemplating her being gone made me feel that she can stay forever and its fine by me. Her sister would miss her so much, too, they are best friends. I don't even care if people are judging us, I'm just that happy I got a reprieve for a few years! Spending two years in Korea is something I would not want my kid to miss out on. I also would not feel comfortable being oversees for that long when my kid was just starting college. She can get the traditional college experience when your family returns.
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Post by scorpeao on Aug 16, 2015 22:09:33 GMT
Awww. I'm looking forward to DD spreading her wings and leaving the nest but at the same time, I like having her home. Got two more years to go before DD goes to uni. This is kind of how I feel/felt. My dd left on Tuesday. I've cried almost every day since...over stupid stuff: half eaten food left in the pantry, coming home after a weekend away and not having her here to greet me, not having to leave the hall light on because she's out, and having her car permanently parked in the driveway. While I'm excited for her and her next chapter, I'm mourning the fact that my life will never be the same.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 16, 2015 22:19:27 GMT
While I'm excited for her and her next chapter, I'm mourning the fact that my life will never be the same. This is it exactly for me. I'm so excited for DS. He's a really laid back kind of guy and he just seems to eager to get on with his life. It's rare to see him so excited about things. But I'm so going to miss him. 1,300 miles is a long way apart. And then when were were back there last week, DD was looking at colleges as well. Different schools, but only a mile apart. I jokingly told them that we would buy a house and that they could both live there during college and I could be the House Mother and DH could commute from Virginia. The horror on their faces was pretty good! He doesn't leave for 2 more weeks. We have a few more things to pick up, but most of his items are already bought and in Minnesota. He will need a better pair of winter boots, but I've tasked his uncle with getting those when there are more choices on the shelves. I'm driving him out there and will be there again in October for a few days for Parent's Weekend, then again at Christmas. But he won't be home again until Spring Break. I'm savoring these last few weeks with both my babies in the house.
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Post by Karmady on Aug 16, 2015 22:22:04 GMT
Mine heads back on Aug 29th. She is 5 hours away. I'm happy for her. She loves her school and program. This year she has a grea apartment with 2 nice girls.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2015 22:23:31 GMT
3rd year in doesn't seem much better... it's already too quiet again. I still have one at home, but he is pretty easy! I miss having girls around! Since I work from home it is hard to make good girl friends after moving...so at times my girlies are my closest friends!
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 16, 2015 22:33:37 GMT
basketlady1. the kids do NOT wear boots in MN. HA. it's just not cool. Where is he going again? I know you've told me, but I'm pulling a blank.
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Post by melissa on Aug 16, 2015 22:50:59 GMT
I hear you, loud and clear!
I have a few months' reprieve. Dd18 begins her new life as a trainee in a ballet company a 10 hour drive from here on Jan 1. We were lucky to already secure a studio apartment for her with a lease that works with that date. I am very excited for her to begin this new adventure. I just wish it wasn't so far from home! Dh thinks it's good because we can always drive out there, but I wish it was a city that was more of an air hub for flights!
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Post by Blind Squirrel on Aug 16, 2015 22:55:00 GMT
Right there with you. I've been a blubbering mess off and on for the past two days. We'll be taking my eldest for his first year on Friday. He'll be a bit more than 6 hours away. I'm excited for him, but nervous and worried too. On another note...dang, it's expensive getting them ready to go!
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Post by bc2ca on Aug 16, 2015 23:11:19 GMT
My DD is moving with us to Korea and doing at least a year or 2 online. People are sort of horrified, but I am so happy! She just turned 17, I can't imagine her here and us there...plus she wants to go. I know it's lame, but contemplating her being gone made me feel that she can stay forever and its fine by me. Her sister would miss her so much, too, they are best friends. I don't even care if people are judging us, I'm just that happy I got a reprieve for a few years! If we were in your shoes, DD would be going too, and I'm sorry people are judging you over this.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2015 23:35:02 GMT
I am right there with you. Not ready. We just finished up the bulk of the packing. She will be 9 hours away from us, and we leave at the end of the week. I am SO EXCITED for her, but at the same time going to miss her so badly.
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Post by LauraTen on Aug 16, 2015 23:36:08 GMT
We ARE ready!!!
We will take DS to college this week (he is my oldest).
He will be about 3 hours away, in a neighboring state.
This school was his first choice (and he was accepted early decision).
DH took him to tour the school in the spring of his junior year.
In September, DS rode the train himself to attend a weekend for for prospective students (he had to send test scores and write an essay to be accepted to attend!!!).
He's only been home a little over 2 weeks from being on campus for a 5 week summer program (he completed 4 credits!!!)
So for us, even though it is his first year of college, it seems like we are all familiar with him being away and what college will be like.
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Post by myboysnme on Aug 16, 2015 23:45:05 GMT
It is hard to let go for many of us. Even though my youngest is at college less than an hour away, I still miss him being here. I haven't even been over to see his new house for this semester because he's so busy. I can't believe my son lives someplace I haven't even seen. It's hard.
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Post by *christine* on Aug 16, 2015 23:46:28 GMT
Awww...My baby is starting HS and I'm freaking out. Will your daughter be in New England? Can I put together a gift box from a pea auntie to send her?
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Post by caro on Aug 17, 2015 0:02:16 GMT
Gosh, I remember those days. When oldest DD went she was only an hour or so away and we still had two very busy DS's at home. It's when the youngest left that got me.............. For about a week. Then all of a sudden it dawned on me, we were free to do what WE wanted to do. It wasn't nearly as hard as I thought.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 17, 2015 0:09:36 GMT
For my daughter to leave for college. She will be on the east coast, which is way to far away from us. My heart is getting very heavy. Me too! We drop mine off tomorrow and its like scary for me. I've never gone more that 4 weeks without seeing her. I guess I gotta grow up
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Post by CeeScraps on Aug 17, 2015 0:28:09 GMT
We are all ready for dd to go.....dd, my dh and me! Our dd is anxious which is natural, but she is ready.
Will I be sad.....maybe. It dawned on me yesterday that a week from now she won't be here. Although that too means her mess won't be here either. That part I'm looking forward to. She has worked a lot this summer so she really hasn't been around much. It's been good. She has made more friends and gotten more responsibilities at her job.
A week from now......
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 17, 2015 0:43:08 GMT
I sent my oldest off last year. My youngest is a high school senior this year and will be going off next year. I still don't know how I feel about it. I have a friend who just sent her youngest off to college and she says she is calling this stage of her life 'the naked years.' As in, she can walk around her house naked if she wants to.
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Post by monklady123 on Aug 17, 2015 0:48:12 GMT
We just got back from dropping off dd today. She's living in an apartment this year, her first. She has three apartment-mates, all good friends (she's going to start her junior year so these are friends she's made at college). They each have their own bedroom and own bathroom. She is SO happy to have her own bathroom, SO HAPPY! lolol. She's always had to share with the three of us. We do have a full bath in our basement (finished basement) but mostly we don't use that one unless someone is actually in the upstairs one. So she's always shared. Anyway, she's thrilled. Her apartment is lovely, the other girls are lovely, etc. My only worry is that she does not have a car and it's a bit away from campus, too far to walk. The town buses are free to students and the bus stop is almost directly across from her building, and her three roommates all have cars, and bunches of her sorority sisters live there and in the next building and most of them have cars.... But, I still worry about her being stranded at school late at night after the buses stop running. Which I know is stupid because her roommates have all assured me that they'd never leave her stranded. lol at me. -- She's only 3 hours away so that's a good distance for me, and for her. Close enough for me that we could get down there easily if there was some sort of emergency, and far enough for her that she knows we won't just drop in as a surprise. lol
And ds is moving to Georgia next month. This is my older kid, the one who's been living at home, attending our local community college, and trying to figure out his life. He's moving down there with friends, and says he will be going to college. Woot! We told him we'd pay his rent and some living expenses, same as dd, as long as he's in school. So maybe that's the motivation for the school, but whatever....it's a college degree, that's all I want. He has actually said he wants to be a high school history teacher. He LOVES history and kids like him, so I think he'd be a good teacher. We will see...
So I am looking at having no one home here. I enjoyed ds's company so that will be different. (I like dd's too, but I mean ds's when she was at school.) When dh is traveling it will be just me and the dog.
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Post by gryroagain on Aug 17, 2015 1:01:23 GMT
Wow, you all are a lot more supportive than I was expecting! I thought I'd come back to a bunch of "cut the apron strings" posts. Sadly, I have heard ad nauseum about going online not being "real college" (it's a well known state school with online classes as well as a traditional campus), keeping her "sheltered too much", etc. For her, and us, it's the right choice but you'd think I was locking her in her bedroom in a tower, lol.
Thanks peas.
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Post by anonrefugee on Aug 17, 2015 1:11:38 GMT
Wow, you all are a lot more supportive than I was expecting! I thought I'd come back to a bunch of "cut the apron strings" posts. Sadly, I have heard ad nauseum about going online not being "real college" (it's a well known state school with online classes as well as a traditional campus), keeping her "sheltered too much", etc. For her, and us, it's the right choice but you'd think I was locking her in her bedroom in a tower, lol. Thanks peas. I do t know where you live now, but it sounds like an adventure! I question the judgement of anyone who thinks an opportunity to live, really live, in another country is being sheltered. It's an education!
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Post by oaksong on Aug 17, 2015 1:31:18 GMT
gryroagain, it sounds like an ideal situation for your daughter to be able to experience another culture and also start her college courses. You all are fortunate. We are leaving Tuesday to take DD for her freshman year of college 16 hours away. Then at the end of the month, DS will leave for his senior year on the east coast. We'll officially be empty nesters. I am honestly not as sad as I thought I would be at this point. I am trying to focus on the great opportunities that both kids have ahead of them, plus we're busy packing and getting dorm room stuff together. DH is a bit of a mess though. Come September, I'll probably be inconsolable.
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Post by Really Red on Aug 17, 2015 2:08:53 GMT
Twins leaving One over 700 miles away and the other nearly 200 miles away. Way, WAY too far. Sigh.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 17, 2015 2:09:55 GMT
Wow, you all are a lot more supportive than I was expecting! I thought I'd come back to a bunch of "cut the apron strings" posts. Sadly, I have heard ad nauseum about going online not being "real college" (it's a well known state school with online classes as well as a traditional campus), keeping her "sheltered too much", etc. For her, and us, it's the right choice but you'd think I was locking her in her bedroom in a tower, lol. Thanks peas. Where are you moving to? I'm assuming South Korea--what city? We lived in Seoul for 2 years from 2001-2003. I always say it was a great adventure that I'm not in a hurry to repeat. DH worked for the Army (he's active duty Air Force) and the hours were just grueling. 16 hour shifts, 7 days a week, 30 days a month... But we had a wonderful adjama (house keeper) and the community was really close. And the fabric market was only a subway ride away. I think that moving to another country is a big adventure. I don't blame your DD for following along! That's why DS is going to school so far from us. We don't know if we will be here any longer than a year, so it makes sense for him to pick a place near our extended family. Plus the campus really seems a great fit for him. And they offered him a ton of scholarship money!
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