calm me down, mom and hysterectomy and scare at CC

What a fearful and stressful time. I'm thinking good thoughts that everything is benign w/your mom.

How old is your mom?

If she is past the age of menopause and having a hysterectomy for bleeding, there is no other answer that I can think of other than cancer. I understand she was on blood thinners but even being on blood thinners would not cause bleeding in a post-menopausal women, esp not enough to warrant surgery. Now, keep in mind that many cases of uterine cancer are cured by hysterectomy alone. If it is confined to the inner layers of the uterus, that's it. It it goes a bit further, then radiation may be added to the mix. Lymph node involvement can change the treatment picture, but that's jumping even further ahead.

A note in your mom's defense. I avoided even saying the word when I was diagnosed. If I didn't say I had cancer, it wasn't real. Sounds silly, but not talking about it helped me get through the earlier days of the diagnosis. Heck, most Peas come to the boards for support. I didn't tell my email group (pissed some people off permanently... but that's another story), 2Peas or many others in my life until I had as many answers in hand as I could. I did that alone with my dh and my sister. Didn't even tell our parents until it had been removed and I had a semblance of a treatment plan. I know it's denial, but accepting a diagnosis like this is similar to accepting death. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross's stages do apply. Denial came first for me and it may be for your mom as well.

Prayers for both your mom and son.

How scary in both situations.

(((hugs)))

((Hugs))

They said heat stroke but did not tell you to get him to the hospital? Heat stroke is a serious, life-threatening emergency. How did they determine that over the phone? Is he running a high fever? Unconscious?

Hope your mom is ok.

Sounds like she did not want to worry you. My in laws do this all.the.time. Cancer, tumors, sugar issues, seizures, etc, all on a need to know (they determine the need to know) basis. Drives us a little crazy. But my MIL figures that if they resolve it then tell us, we don't have to worry. It's always this huge shock and if it did not go favorably we would have lost visiting opportunities, as they live 1100 miles away.

Hope it's not aggressive and is treatable. Parents know their children well. Your mom was likely protecting you.

I'm really sorry you are hurt by your mom keeping the diagnosis from you, but you need to let go of making this about you when talking to family & friends (venting here is fine). 

Many, many people keep this kind of diagnosis to themselves whether because of denial, not wanting people to treat them differently, not wanting to be always asked "are you OK", etc. For whatever reason, your sister is the one that was in the know and that is not easy on her (whether or not she agreed with mom's decision, she respected it).

DH just found out one of his oldest friends is in hospice with weeks to live. No one but his immediate family knew he was going through a 5 year battle with metastasized prostate cancer. His wife is now dealing with losing his partner and a lot of very upset and angry friends and extended family because she repected his wishes, so don't dump on your sister for knowing. Even his son wasn't told until the last year what was going on.

I hope your mom has a better prognosis and her cancer is early stages and treatable.

I'm sorry about your son and mom and hope the test results are good.

Wishing your Mom all the best.  I too had uterine cancer diagnosed after post-menopausal bleeding, and some of the cancer cells had escaped into a couple of lymph nodes - it is now 5 years since my hysterectomy and there has been no sign of any recurrence of the cancer. Don't lose hope.