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Post by auntkelly on Aug 21, 2015 13:33:05 GMT
I wouldn't feel obligated to go to a shower for a non relative, but I always try and go to showers for family members. I know not everyone sees it this way, but for me, it's just one of those things you do for family.
I'm guessing that in the OP's husband's family, the female members of the family always attend bridal showers. If that is the case, then I'd suck it up and go even if I hated bridal showers. It's just not a hill I would want to die on. I would stand my ground on more important matters, although I realize to some people this would be an important matter.
I do think it was rude for the OP's brother in law to call.
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Post by lonr on Aug 21, 2015 14:21:54 GMT
I am hosting a shower in a couple of weeks. I don't care if people can't or don't want to come! I'm not a huge fan of showers either. And in my case, the guest of honor doesn't care either. I know this because she gave me a long guest list and said- don't worry, more than half won't come. They just need to know they are invited. HA!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2015 15:20:49 GMT
No you do not need a reason. In my family, you would need one for a nephew or a cousin's kid. We are a close family and it is just assumed if not expected that we would be at an event like that without a good reason not to. This is how it is in my family as well.
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Post by epeanymous on Aug 21, 2015 15:54:04 GMT
An invitation isn't a summons. There is no reason anyone should be following up when you decline.
My husband's uncle's wife didn't come to my daughter's bat mitzvah a few weeks ago. My husband's parents wanted to ask him why not/if there is some reason she didn't come to a family event. We told them pleeeeeease not to do that, and hopefully they didn't. I think she is just a homebody and didn't want to travel, particularly since we are going to be holding five of these things and that is a lot of eventage to commit to for kids whom you see maybe once every two or three years. What if that is not the answer? Would we really want to know? It's her business.
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