Moms of girls - hair ?

It will be ok for them to do it when you are ready to let them start trying to do it and being ok with imperfect results. My dd had short hair so it wasn't an issue too much but she wasn't interested in blow drying until she was around 15 or so. She was more of a "wash and wear"

I started putting up my own ponytails the summer between 5th and 6th grades but didn't master much of any other hair styles until I was closer to 15 and developed a whole new interest in fashion, make up and looking more trendy.

What do you mean by them being okay to do their own hair? Do they want to do their own hair? Do you not want them to? Are they interested in learning to use a straightener and a blow dryer?

My daughter is 13 and in 8th grade. She is a wash and wear girl too. She hates a blow dryer and washes her hair in the evening and lets it air dry. I used to do all sorts of fabulous things with her hair until she was about 6 years old, then she decided she just wanted to wear a ponytail. She's been brushing her own hair and making her own ponytail since then. It hasn't always looked polished, but I am okay with that. I keep wondering when the interest in fashion and hairstyles will kick in, but so far she is happy with her own style (or non style).

Cute Girls Hairstyles is a great Youtube channel for girls their ages. They have several DIY videos so your girls could learn how to style their own hair.

My DD who just started 8th grade FINALLY started taking an interest in styling her hair as opposed to letting it fly wildly all over the place. She loves watching CGH and practicing the techniques. My advice would be to let them try the hairstyles on themselves in the evening, not in the morning right before they have to leave for school.

DD is 9, and has brushed and braided her hair herself for a year now. She doesn't use the blowdryer yet. The one time she tried, it got stuck in her hair (it's so long she can almost sit on it) and after that, she wants me to do it. She also needs help getting the shampoo out of her hair (it's not only long, but super thick too). I have asked her if she wants to wash her hair on her own, but when she realised that meant she would have to cut it, she was fine with me helping her.

I don't have girls myself but remembering back for me, I think it was 5th & 6th grade when I started showing an interest in doing my own hair. My mom was a hairdresser and showed me how to use all the tools early on but kept my hair pretty short through early elementary because it was just easier for both of us - I had (still have) a very sensitive scalp and most mornings would end in tears when my hair was longer (I still can't allow people to comb my hair for me...when I go to the salon, I always do the initial combing/brushing first because it hurts so bad to have other people do it). So until I showed interest in learning how to do it myself, we kept it short. 5th grade, I started learning how to use the curling iron and hair dryer though I think most times I just washed at night and let it air dry and then did what I could in the morning. Middle school, I went through a tragic perm phase and by high school, I left it down unless it was a game day, then it was up in a pony (I was a cheerleader).

I hated my hair in school though - it wasn't curly and it wasn't straight and it always frizzed out when I got too warm and I refused to use products at the time (my rebellion against my hairdresser mother, I think). And I'm so thankful I don't have a girl myself.

I have no advice, but this reminded me of my #1 daughter. I went to work at 6 am and her dad took her to kindergarten. She had long frizzy hair. He brushed it but did not put in a pony tail or anything. (not interested in trying)

So every day when I picked her up she looked terrible. I finally got her a short haircut. I thought it was really cute but she hated it and was mad at me. (she told me after she was older).

After she told me, I found a picture of her with her frizzy, unbrushed hair and made a scrapbook page. The title was: "this is why I cut your hair".

Yep, that's just like one of my girls--she still (21 next week) wears a ponytail every single day. It's what she loves. I prefer her hair down but it's hair not mine!

I think my daughter will be much the same when she's 21.  I love that your daughters have completely different styles.  Even if you'd rather see something other than a ponytail.  I took a picture of my daughter the other day when her hair was down and drying after a shower.  It looked so pretty and I have about three photos of her not in a ponytail in the last seven years!  But I agree - it's not my hair and she loves it!

Yes, don't you just cherish those photos with it down! I hope to get a lot of photos of them this weekend for their 21st birthday dinner. We will see what hairstyles appear Saturday evening! I can bet one will be a ponytail!

My daughter still has no interest and she's finishing up middle school. The only time she blow dries her hair is when she takes a shower in the morning and it's subzero outside. Usually she showers at night and air dries (or should I say bed dries?) She wears her hair in a low ponytail 99% of the time - well unless it's in a bun for ballet. The only time she's curled her hair, it was when she was a party girl in Nutcracker. It's just not her thing. Once in a blue moon she'll ask me to straighten it - usually for a dance or party. Picture day was today - she left it down and brushed it to the side - that's styling for her!