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Post by raindancer on Aug 28, 2015 4:30:16 GMT
I'm going to a wedding at the end of September in Kansas, in a barn. I think it's going to be very shabby chic, leaning more towards pretty elegance than john deere.  I don't really know though. In Tucson that will still be pretty hot, but I'm guessing that will be legit fall like temps there? Also I truly have no idea what on earth to wear to a wedding that is outdoors and then celebrating with dancing in a barn. I'm short and have wide calves. I look pretty good in fall colors, they are also my favorites. What should I wear? I don't even have a jumping off point. I also do not have a ton of time to shop (full time grad student back in the middle of things again). Any ideas? I am a size 14. Pear shape. |
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Post by elaine on Aug 28, 2015 4:44:08 GMT
End of September = likely to be hot in Kansas. Fall temps don't usually come until mid/end of October.
I'd wear something as cool as possible and think about wearing bug spray if you are going to be outdoors all that time without air conditioning.
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 28, 2015 4:50:47 GMT
I'm going to a wedding at the end of September in Kansas, in a barn. I think it's going to be very shabby chic, leaning more towards pretty elegance than john deere. I don't really know though. In Tucson that will still be pretty hot, but I'm guessing that will be legit fall like temps there? Also I truly have no idea what on earth to wear to a wedding that is outdoors and then celebrating with dancing in a barn. I'm short and have wide calves. I look pretty good in fall colors, they are also my favorites. What should I wear? I don't even have a jumping off point. I also do not have a ton of time to shop (full time grad student back in the middle of things again). Any ideas? I am a size 14. Pear shape. Wait, what? I always pictured you more like Johnny Depp. Seriously, even though my rational side says differently. I think I remember you from scrapbook.com. Anywho… I attended one two Septembers ago and people were still quite nicely dressed. Just like a nice wedding anywhere. I wore a dress and had a shoulder thingie in case it got chilly. It didn't. |
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 28, 2015 4:53:36 GMT
I'm going to a wedding at the end of September in Kansas, in a barn. I think it's going to be very shabby chic, leaning more towards pretty elegance than john deere. I don't really know though. In Tucson that will still be pretty hot, but I'm guessing that will be legit fall like temps there? Also I truly have no idea what on earth to wear to a wedding that is outdoors and then celebrating with dancing in a barn. I'm short and have wide calves. I look pretty good in fall colors, they are also my favorites. What should I wear? I don't even have a jumping off point. I also do not have a ton of time to shop (full time grad student back in the middle of things again). Any ideas? I am a size 14. Pear shape. Wait, what? I always pictured you more like Johnny Depp. Seriously, even though my rational side says differently. I think I remember you from scrapbook.com. Anywho… I attended one two Septembers ago and people were still quite nicely dressed. My shoes were chunky since I didn't want to trash any of my really nice shoes. Other than my shoes it was just like a nice wedding anywhere. I wore a dress and had a shoulder thingie in case it got chilly. It didn't. I also packed a change of clothing in the car because it was a 90 minute drive home by myself in the pitch black in the mountains. I swear there were coyotes that were running next to the car. |
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Post by mom on Aug 28, 2015 4:57:28 GMT
You could do a above the knee dress (lace or denim) , with cute boots or sandals. Glam it up with some pearls or bling.
Or a maxi dress would be cute. Add a fat, wide belt and you are set to go.
Add a denim jacket for after dark - it could get cool.
Edited to add: I live not far from Kansas- and in a rustic area. This is what most would wear in my area to an outdoor/rustic wedding.
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Post by scorpeao on Aug 28, 2015 5:00:41 GMT
I was thinking maxi dress with a cute pair of wedges and a denim jacket.
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Post by mom on Aug 28, 2015 5:22:32 GMT
I think this would be a cute outfit to wear. link |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2015 5:59:00 GMT
I think this would be a cute outfit to wear. linkNope. Sorry, not for a wedding. Don't do the dressy western denim either. Maybe a classic no collar sundress with a lacy cardigan. Sparkly ballet flats a must. |
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Post by miominmio on Aug 28, 2015 10:17:37 GMT
As someone who actually had a barn wedding, I would beg you to stay away from the john deere look (or any look that will hint to farm equipment  ). Our female guests mostly wore knee lenght dresses (it was late August, and here it means autumn). |
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Post by sues on Aug 28, 2015 10:32:17 GMT
My sister had a lovely garden wedding and most of the groom's side came dressed like they were going to a barbecue.
Dress for the event, not the venue. You're on target with 'pretty elegance' vs. 'John Deere'.
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Post by cannmom on Aug 28, 2015 10:48:57 GMT
You might be able to Google the venue and get an idea of what it looks like. It might be less rustic than you are thinking. We have a local place that does barn weddings,but the barn was constructed for that purpose. It was never really barn YKWIM.
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Post by Kerri W on Aug 28, 2015 11:44:49 GMT
A wedding is a wedding not a costume party. My DD had a barn wedding, albeit not in Kansas, and the guests dressed just like they would for any other wedding.
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Post by grinningcat on Aug 28, 2015 11:51:37 GMT
Can you look up the historical temperatures for the date and see what it's been like in previous years? The nice thing about a dress (yes, I said the nice thing) is that you can layer on or layer off depending on the temperatures. Go without stockings because that's the best way but if it's cool, throw on a pair of tights. Use a pashmina or wrap but get a wicked shawl or long sweater if it gets cold. I will never recommend boots, because those are from the devil, but being able to change shoes also makes a difference.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2015 11:54:22 GMT
Late September in Kansas is typically still fairly warm but it can be surprisingly cool too. It is a transitional season. I'd dress in a short sleeve dress but bring a wrap just in case. I agree with the advice to dress for a wedding without regard to it being in a barn.
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Post by raindancer on Aug 28, 2015 13:27:44 GMT
A wedding is a wedding not a costume party. My DD had a barn wedding, albeit not in Kansas, and the guests dressed just like they would for any other wedding. Well most weddings I have been too have been very formal. Like prom fancy with heels and formal dresses or else like church (and I'm talking mormon church so pretty plain, super modest dress). I wasn't planning on dressing in a costu.e or anything but I really feel stumped on a style that would work. |
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Post by abr79 on Aug 28, 2015 13:33:01 GMT
I had a barn wedding, the end of September, in Nebraska (which by all intents and purposes is similar enough to Kansas). I agree with others that unless the couple has specifically said it's a theme wedding and one should "dress the part", you should probably just wear what you'd wear to any wedding. It can still be pretty hot in that area the end of September (our wedding day was a hot, humid day that ended with a tornado) so pay attention to the forecast the week of and dress accordingly.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2015 13:33:55 GMT
A wedding is a wedding not a costume party. My DD had a barn wedding, albeit not in Kansas, and the guests dressed just like they would for any other wedding. Well most weddings I have been too have been very formal. Like prom fancy with heels and formal dresses or else like church (and I'm talking mormon church so pretty plain, super modest dress). I wasn't planning on dressing in a costu.e or anything but I really feel stumped on a style that would work. Do you know what the style of the wedding party will be? What was the style of the invitation? If those were on the more elegant/formal then I'd dress to that style without considering the venue other than the need for weather considerations (like an appropriately styled wrap or coat) I don't think brides really think about the confusion to guests when they do a formal wedding in an informal venue. But go with the formality of the invitation and wedding party instead of the formality (or lack) of the venue. |
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Post by raindancer on Aug 28, 2015 13:45:17 GMT
Well most weddings I have been too have been very formal. Like prom fancy with heels and formal dresses or else like church (and I'm talking mormon church so pretty plain, super modest dress). I wasn't planning on dressing in a costu.e or anything but I really feel stumped on a style that would work. Do you know what the style of the wedding party will be? What was the style of the invitation? If those were on the more elegant/formal then I'd dress to that style without considering the venue other than the need for weather considerations (like an appropriately styled wrap or coat) I don't think brides really think about the confusion to guests when they do a formal wedding in an informal venue. But go with the formality of the invitation and wedding party instead of the formality (or lack) of the venue. I will have to ask my mom to see it. It's my cousins wedding. We are very close and for some reason my invite went MIA in the mail. But that's a great idea. Thank you |
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Post by KikiPea on Aug 28, 2015 13:55:29 GMT
Pardon the bad pic, but I wore this dress to a shabby chic, outdoor wedding in Idaho Falls: I had a small sweater to wear, if needed. I would have worn this for the wedding you describe as well. Have fun!  |
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Post by freebird on Aug 28, 2015 14:05:09 GMT
I'm going to a wedding at the end of September in Kansas, in a barn. I think it's going to be very shabby chic, leaning more towards pretty elegance than john deere. I don't really know though. In Tucson that will still be pretty hot, but I'm guessing that will be legit fall like temps there? Also I truly have no idea what on earth to wear to a wedding that is outdoors and then celebrating with dancing in a barn. I'm short and have wide calves. I look pretty good in fall colors, they are also my favorites. What should I wear? I don't even have a jumping off point. I also do not have a ton of time to shop (full time grad student back in the middle of things again). Any ideas? I am a size 14. Pear shape. September is a transition month. You can be freezing your butt off, or sweating it off. One or the other. I'd probably wear a cute dress with some boots and a jean jacket layered that can go off or on. I had an october 4 wedding last year in a barn. It was great until it got dark. I was legit freezing, it was about 40 deg in there. My husband (who shoots with me) had to leave to put gas in the car just so he could warm up. It was the longest 6 hours of my life! On the other hand, I've been sweating like a cow on the same day. |
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Post by bethany102399 on Aug 28, 2015 14:22:54 GMT
Barn weddings are trendy around here right now, I've seen some that are just gorgeous. Depending on how late in Sept the leaves may have started to turn so it's a lovely time of year to get married.
It's been a cool summer for us, I'm hoping to get one last use of our pool membership this weekend because we haven't been able to use it as much as I'd like this year. While September is a transition month typically, I'd prepare for cooler temps.
I would wear layers and be prepared for warm in the afternoon getting colder in the evening. I sat outside last night for soccer practice and froze my butt off.
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Post by YooHoot on Aug 28, 2015 14:31:33 GMT
Look at this blog about a farmhouse wedding...they still look weddingish just slightly more casual. Link |
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Post by ohiodianna on Aug 28, 2015 15:00:35 GMT
My daughter is getting married in a VERY NICE barn next September. It will be an outdoor wedding and reception in an air conditioned "barn". The barn was built to look like a barn but is a beautiful reception hall. Her wedding is not black tie but it will be a nice wedding. I anticipate people dressing the same as they would for any other nice wedding.
Can't seem to express myself but I agree with the person that said please don't try to dress for the venue unless you have been told otherwise please dress as if you were attending a nice wedding.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 28, 2015 16:17:53 GMT
Some friends of ours had their wedding reception in an actual barn in early October several years ago, and it was downright COLD once the sun went down (granted, we are in MN but it can still be quite warm even in October). I was glad I wore dress pants and had a real coat in the car instead of just the sweater I planned on wearing, and I was still cold. I was also glad I wore real shoes instead of something open toed or dressier, because the unheated barn the reception was held in had a dirt floor so it was VERY dusty in there. Can you say, "I'd like a little wedding cake with my side of dust!"  Gross. It was awful. I have been to outdoor weddings that were much better simply because there was grass underfoot. I guess what I'm trying to say is it would be good to try to find out what the specific venue is like before you decide what to wear. If I would have worn anything previously suggested here in this thread, I wouldn't have been able to stay through dinner because I would have frozen to death. As it was, DH knew I was miserable so we beat it out of there at the earliest opportunity. I can't even imagine how much dustier it got in there once everyone started dancing!  |
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). Our female guests mostly wore knee lenght dresses (it was late August, and here it means autumn).
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Gross. It was awful. I have been to outdoor weddings that were much better simply because there was grass underfoot.