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Pearl Clutcher
Not my circus, not my monkeys ~refugee pea #59
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Jun 25, 2014 19:51:11 GMT
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Sept 2, 2015 12:38:31 GMT
Maybe she meant that he needs a ride to/from this week and she would cover the next week but you were not open to having a conversation so it never got that far. Perhaps the rudeness was mutual. With all the backstory you provided, you were clearly perturbed when you answered the phone.
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PaperAngel
Drama Llama
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Jun 27, 2014 23:04:06 GMT
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Post by PaperAngel on Sept 2, 2015 12:46:58 GMT
Unfortunately, I've also met "this" mom. In my experience, you did the right thing for your sanity (if B's mom is this bold with a stranger, imagine what she may expect after you actually meet her!) & wallet (inevitably the parents have not paid the fee, which is due upon arrival on the first day of your "carpool" for their child to participate) by directly addressing her entitlement at the onset! I share your frustration with unnecessary drama over children's activities, & hope you feel better soon...
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Post by monklady123 on Sept 2, 2015 12:56:53 GMT
Not rude at all, in my opinion. The OP I mean. The other mom was. Yes, carpooling can be a nightmare, although if it works well then it's a godsend. Back in my kids' sports days I learned the hard way and eventually we had a great group of families. Everyone pulled their weight, and if someone couldn't make it on their turn it was always for a good reason (like husband traveling and younger child sick at home, something like that). -- OP, I don't think that other mom even understands what a carpool is. She seems to be looking for a flat out chauffeuring service, with you as the chauffeur.
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sweetandsour
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Jun 30, 2014 17:43:52 GMT
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Post by sweetandsour on Sept 2, 2015 13:11:35 GMT
I think the OP handled this quite well. A lot better than me, I'm afraid. I really would have been "rude" after SelfishMom's last comment and told her to teach her son some manners and to tell her that SHE was rude for ASSuming that I could do pick up and drop off in a "carpooling" situation!
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sharlag
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I like my artsy with a little bit of fartsy.
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Location: Kansas
Jun 26, 2014 12:57:48 GMT
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Post by sharlag on Sept 2, 2015 13:28:11 GMT
My favorite phrase of the morning!
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tiffanytwisted
Pearl Clutcher
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Sept 2, 2015 13:38:48 GMT
Not rude in the least. And even if you had a tone in your voice, it was rude of her to point it out. And what's with the 'you figure out what it's all about' crap? She called you! Why the hell would you be the one to figure anything out? I can't. I just can't. roundtwo - hilarious! anniebygaslight - you are a true wordsmith. |
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Jun 1, 2024 6:12:48 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2015 13:54:25 GMT
If you are giving her child a ride over *and* a ride back, is it really called carpooling?
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mallie
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Post by mallie on Sept 2, 2015 15:26:58 GMT
If the conversation was as you described, I don't think your words were rude, but your tone (given that you hinted about being irritated from being awakened from a nap and also not feeling well) may have been a little snippy or terse? Let's see, a kid called her repeatedly, then the mom demands a favor while pretending it's a joint venture to benefit both parties. Ya know, I'll live with the horror of being snippy or terse after that series of events. Boo to the hoo. |
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Post by ceepea on Sept 2, 2015 15:33:08 GMT
Obviously the woman does not know the definition of carpooling. I bet she is having her kid call everyone they could think of just to get a ride now. She's not looking to make anything easier for anyone but herself.
I feel bad for the kid.
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Post by anonrefugee on Sept 2, 2015 16:11:57 GMT
My favorite phrase of the morning! It is elegant! |
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MerryMom
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Post by MerryMom on Sept 2, 2015 16:49:58 GMT
If the conversation was as you described, I don't think your words were rude, but your tone (given that you hinted about being irritated from being awakened from a nap and also not feeling well) may have been a little snippy or terse? Let's see, a kid called her repeatedly, then the mom demands a favor while pretending it's a joint venture to benefit both parties. Ya know, I'll live with the horror of being snippy or terse after that series of events. Boo to the hoo. [ The OP asked for opinions as to whether she was rude, I clearly stated that her words weren't but that perhaps her tone was a bit snippy or terse . That might have been what the other mother was responding to. . As she wasn't aware of the son calling repeatedly. So Boo Boo to your Hoo hoo |
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Moose. It's what's for dinner.
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Location: Alaska -The Last Frontier
Jun 30, 2014 17:15:19 GMT
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Sept 2, 2015 17:51:52 GMT
That is quite an entertaining story. Some people just blow my mind!
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Post by lucyg on Sept 3, 2015 5:55:33 GMT
Maybe she meant that he needs a ride to/from this week and she would cover the next week but you were not open to having a conversation so it never got that far. Perhaps the rudeness was mutual. With all the backstory you provided, you were clearly perturbed when you answered the phone. I cannot imagine a circumstance under which it would be acceptable for the other mom to inform OP that she is being rude ... even if she actually were being rude. There is no obligation to extend unfailing kindness and patience to people who will only take advantage of other people's fear of being anything other than unfailingly kind and patient. If the OP was brusque, so be it. The other mom was still clearly at fault. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 7:35:10 GMT
Let's see, a kid called her repeatedly, then the mom demands a favor while pretending it's a joint venture to benefit both parties. Ya know, I'll live with the horror of being snippy or terse after that series of events. Boo to the hoo. [ The OP asked for opinions as to whether she was rude, I clearly stated that her words weren't but that perhaps her tone was a bit snippy or terse . That might have been what the other mother was responding to. . As she wasn't aware of the son calling repeatedly. So Boo Boo to your Hoo hoo The question in the subject line wasn't asking for an opinion. The "I'm" is emphasized. She's pointing out the irony. |
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MerryMom
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Post by MerryMom on Sept 3, 2015 10:47:20 GMT
[ The OP asked for opinions as to whether she was rude, I clearly stated that her words weren't but that perhaps her tone was a bit snippy or terse . That might have been what the other mother was responding to. . As she wasn't aware of the son calling repeatedly. So Boo Boo to your Hoo hoo The question in the subject line wasn't asking for an opinion. The "I'm" is emphasized. She's pointing out the irony. So with 20 other posts that give an opinion as to whether the OP was rude, you choose to call out my post for offering an opinion? |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 15:48:10 GMT
The question in the subject line wasn't asking for an opinion. The "I'm" is emphasized. She's pointing out the irony. So with 20 other posts that give an opinion as to whether the OP was rude, you choose to call out my post for offering an opinion? No. I didn't call you out. (Edited to add: I wasn't saying anything about your opinion.) It sounded like you misunderstood the OP so I was explaining what I understood the OP to be doing. Funny thing is this happened to me yesterday as well. On another message board I replied to someone, but I misunderstood them. Someone pointed that out to me and I appreciated it. No big deal. Figured others would feel the way I did. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Sept 3, 2015 17:28:47 GMT
The sad part is some other spineless parent is probably going to cave because "they don't do confrontation" thereby reinforcing rude mom's sense of entitlement. And so it goes.
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