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Post by ptamom on Sept 3, 2015 1:25:26 GMT
Not about starting college, but about starting college so late.
We're in California, and the public state colleges (CSU's), started in late August. High school (DDhas some friends who are now HS Seniors) started last week.
DD will be attending a UC (University of California, another public school system but different than CSU), and she doesn't start until Sept 24.
She worked long hours this summer teaching drama camps for the city, but they are over now.
The rest of her time not spent sleeping, she spent with her friends.
But she has spent the last two weeks saying goodbye to friends leaving for private schools, for CSUs, to out of state schools, and in the case of her friends still in high school, back to high school.
She's gone from never being home to never leaving home.
I'm back to work now that school has started, so she's home alone during the day. She sleeps a lot.
I feel sad that this is the end of her summer.
Though I will miss her horribly when she is off to college, I'm looking forward to her starting this new phase of her life, like her friends all have. She's kind of miserable waiting for it to begin.
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Sept 3, 2015 1:30:11 GMT
That has to be difficult. Perhaps you could leave her a list of errands she could run for you while you work or find something else to get her out of bed and moving. At least it is most likely just temporary, once she begins school she will be too busy to be sad.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Sept 3, 2015 2:02:00 GMT
My one DD also starts college later them most here. Only 2 wks later though, but yea, it's hard for her to be the last one gone, and the last one home for the summer. Honestly my girls liked the downtime. They LOVE!! to sleep. On their days off from work though, or down days, they have chores. Does your dd? It's nice to have her have a good rest up before she hits school hard again.
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Post by ellen on Sept 3, 2015 2:07:52 GMT
My daughter started college 2 weeks after her two best friends went off to school. She was bored, crabby, nervous, and just wanting to get on with the whole thing. My daughter slept late, laid around on the couch, and then she went off to the job that she was sick of. She would repeat it the next day. I was twisted up in the weeks before she left. All I could think about were the many things that could go wrong for her even though I knew it was far more likely that things would go really well. It's just a strange feeling that your kid is leaving your home. She's into her second week of school and all is going well.
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Post by valincal on Sept 3, 2015 2:10:26 GMT
It's such a difficult time. She'll be ok momma! I'm sending DS2 off for second year on Sunday. Much easier than last year!  |
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Post by scrapmaven on Sept 3, 2015 2:13:46 GMT
That has to be difficult. Perhaps you could leave her a list of errands she could run for you while you work or find something else to get her out of bed and moving. At least it is most likely just temporary, once she begins school she will be too busy to be sad. Great advice: Your dd is probably bored and that easily leads to depression. She's feeling isolated and though she's excited, she might be scared about leaving, too. Can she volunteer at your local food bank just to give her something important and a reason to get up and out? She'll feel good helping others and it'll be a good and healthy distraction. |
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Post by Memo on Sept 3, 2015 2:14:07 GMT
My friend's daughter is starting at Oregon State and I was just noticing how late they started (also Sept. 24th, I believe). It's hard when there's all the build up to go to college and she feels left behind. Just a few more weeks and then it's a whirlwind! We just dropped off our son this weekend for his 2nd year, so I understand the build up. Hang in there, Mama!
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Post by ptamom on Sept 3, 2015 2:57:20 GMT
That has to be difficult. Perhaps you could leave her a list of errands she could run for you while you work or find something else to get her out of bed and moving. At least it is most likely just temporary, once she begins school she will be too busy to be sad. She did offer to drive her brother to school if we needed her to. We don't need her to, so that's out. She balked when I suggested she could do some cleaning. I'm willing to pay her, and have done in the past, but she made a lot of money over the summer so cleaning doesn't have the same draw as when she was broke. The wage I used to pay her to clean when she was 13-15 is not acceptable now, and I'm not willing to raise the rate. Especially because she never did a really good job. And she is useless at grocery shopping. The produce she brings home is barely fit for human consumption. I used to bring her to help me with picking up our farm share, so she should be a pro at picking vegetables and fruits, but no. There are a few events in town she's looking forward to. The Improv group she just aged out of will be having shows, which she will attend. Hopefully that will cheer her up. |
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Post by cmpeter on Sept 3, 2015 4:06:10 GMT
My son doesn't start until 9/24 either. He's keeping busy with his summer job. His best friend goes to the same college, so they keep each other company too.
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Post by monicad on Sept 3, 2015 5:08:06 GMT
I've wondered that about ds' UC friends. The junior colleges don't start until the end of this month, too. It's got to be hard just sitting around, while everyone else has moved on already. I know my son was really bored by the end of July. Good luck to your dd...she'll be busy again soon!
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 3, 2015 5:11:22 GMT
I have never heard of colleges starting so late. All of the ones around here went back at least a couple of weeks ago. Isn't football and other sports seasons already like 3 weeks in when they start?
When do they get out?
I think the errand thing is a great idea. Maybe a to do ish type list with even some just for fun things.
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 3, 2015 5:18:50 GMT
I just dropped DS off today and he was the last of his friends to leave for school. It was tough just waiting around. You are probably right--it's tough to be the one left behind. Even though you don't need your DD to drive your DS to school, it could be a good idea anyway. It would wake her up and get her out of the house.
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Post by maryland on Sept 3, 2015 10:52:07 GMT
It must be hard for our sons and daughters to see all the excitement their friends have leaving for college, and them not starting for a few more weeks. And it's always sad when it's the end of summer, so that makes it harder. I don't have advice, but I hope it goes well for her when she starts!
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Post by stampinbetsy on Sept 3, 2015 14:23:45 GMT
My dd has a friend who goes to BYU's Idaho campus, and she starts later this month and is always on some weird schedule. She's still working her summer job. Her schedule is way out of sync with most of her high school friends. It does seem like it would be hard.
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Post by bc2ca on Sept 3, 2015 14:53:58 GMT
DD's friends have spread far & wide this year. All have started except the one going to a UC school and start dates range from Aug 17 through to Sep 24. It is a drag being the last one to go.
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Post by RiverIsis on Sept 3, 2015 16:29:06 GMT
I think athletes at these schools started in the summer. Heck, I know an athlete at WVU and she started in June, less than a month after she graduated High School. A lot of sports schedules overlap semesters.
One of my son's friends is at Chicago and they are a late start. He just kept working and going to ball games and being asked when he goes etc. My DS was one of the last to leave before him and he was already getting at a loose end and his school had nearly a week of New Student Orientation and activities. The next year my DS was a New Student Advisor and so went earlier than everyone around here!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 16:32:19 GMT
Free time is such a drag. |
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