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Post by Olan on Sept 7, 2015 19:35:14 GMT
Gwynnie Bee membership (plus size clothing retail subscription)
FitBit
Would you be offended if your husband gifted you these things for your birthday?
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Post by Olan on Sept 7, 2015 19:36:04 GMT
Clarification: It wouldnt be one or the other it would be both. I have a back up gift.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2015 19:37:20 GMT
I would not be offended, because I've said many times I'd really like a FitBit but don't want to buy one for myself. And if I wear plus size clothing, why would money to buy clothes that fit me be offensive?
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Post by padresfan619 on Sept 7, 2015 19:37:51 GMT
The first one, yes, because I'm not plus sized so it would be of no use to me. The second one? I'm not sure. If I had hinted at wanting one or asked for it, I wouldn't be offended, but if he just decided to get me one without clues or straight up being asked I would probably not be too excited. I wouldn't be offended or hurt, but I wouldn't be jumping for joy.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 7, 2015 19:37:52 GMT
It would depend on whether I wanted those items or not. I have a friend who would probably love both of those things.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Sept 7, 2015 19:38:47 GMT
I specifically asked for a Fitbit so not exactly the same.
Edited: reading comprehension is a good thing!
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Post by caangel on Sept 7, 2015 19:40:51 GMT
The only reason my DH would get me those things would be because I told him I wanted it. So no.
I just had a bday and he did ask if I wanted a fitbit. We went through the pros and cons and I eventually decided it doesn't do what I need it to do.
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Post by Linda on Sept 7, 2015 19:47:27 GMT
depends on the reasoning behind it.
You're fat and don't dress well and I want you to do something about it - offensive
You deserve new clothes and I know you've been wanting a fitbit - sweet
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 7, 2015 19:50:14 GMT
The offensive level is completely conditional as to:
1. Am I plus sized?
2. Did I ever specifically say I wanted a FitBit?
If the answer to #1 is no, then I would find it offensive, like I was being told I look especially large.
If the answer to #2 is no, I would be offended because I would take it as a blatant hint that I needed to exercise, and that my current physique wasn't particularly pleasing.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2015 19:51:04 GMT
Unless, it was something I asked for, yes it would upset me.
It seems like passive aggressive bullshit at it's finest.
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Post by miss_lizzie on Sept 7, 2015 19:54:34 GMT
I'd be hurt if I hadn't explicitly asked for them.
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Post by jenb72 on Sept 7, 2015 19:57:11 GMT
It would depend on so many things, but mostly a.) if it was something I would use or had asked for in the past and b.) if I knew the motive behind why it was given. Both would actually be something I would appreciate from my SO.
Jen
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Post by Olan on Sept 7, 2015 20:00:34 GMT
The birthday girl did not ask for a fitbit. However she has expressed a desire to get healthy. Also She has two distinct styles of dress so it would be like replacing two wardrobes. The membership could cover what she would wear to work. I think it also says to her that I know she will be successful at her weight loss goals and will need clothing that fits as she drops sizes.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Sept 7, 2015 20:03:56 GMT
My friend's husband bought her a No No for her birthday. That went down well.
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Post by jenb72 on Sept 7, 2015 20:07:41 GMT
The birthday girl did not ask for a fitbit. However she has expressed a desire to get healthy. Also She has two distinct styles of dress so it would be like replacing two wardrobes. The membership could cover what she would wear to work. I think it also says to her that I know she will be successful at her weight loss goals and will need clothing that fits as she drops sizes. If there is any question that it may not be taken the right way, then that can be expressed in the card when it's given so that the birthday girl knows what the intentions are. Based on what you described, I think it's a great gift. Jen |
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Post by M~ on Sept 7, 2015 20:09:32 GMT
The birthday girl did not ask for a fitbit. However she has expressed a desire to get healthy. Also She has two distinct styles of dress so it would be like replacing two wardrobes. The membership could cover what she would wear to work. I think it also says to her that I know she will be successful at her weight loss goals and will need clothing that fits as she drops sizes. In light of your additional information, I'd think it was a very thoughtful and sweet gift. On Sunday, I'm giving my sister a fancy water bottle and an Under Armour gym bag. Why? Not because I think she should lose weight or get more fit, but because I know she will use them (as she goes to the gym and likes totes. Further, I have had several distinct conversations about her water bottles with her, so I know she'll appreciate this one). |
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Post by anxiousmom on Sept 7, 2015 20:11:39 GMT
My friend's husband bought her a No No for her birthday. That went down well. OMG. I would not have wanted to be around for the opening for that gift.  |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Sept 7, 2015 20:16:27 GMT
No, If I hadn't asked SPECIFICALLY for those items. I would be hurt. Now if your friend SPECIFICALLY said I want a fitbit, then yes. BUT if she just said she wants to be healthier. No. We say a lot of things to friends sometimes, but don't want the fact that we DO need to be healthier, or dress differently, or lose wt confirmed to us.
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Post by StephDRebel on Sept 7, 2015 20:20:07 GMT
Bottom line, only you know your partner well enough to know her reaction. If there is any chance she'll have hurt feelings go with the backup
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Post by Zee on Sept 7, 2015 21:24:48 GMT
I don't know. If you're plus sized, I can't see how getting you clothing options that fit would be offensive. What would be offensive is getting clothes several sizes too small, plus a fit bit. That's like saying "here's a fit bit, get busy". I think it's a nice idea if she's wanting an updated work wardrobe.
If she wants a fit bit, then go ahead with that idea too.
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Post by Olan on Sept 7, 2015 21:39:44 GMT
I don't think buying a plus sized person clothing that fits is offensive but I would effectively be buying her a piece of clothing a couple sizes too small. Which isn't exactly the mission statement of Gwynnie Bee but I thought it would be a nice way to never actually buy a piece of clothing until you've reached your goal weight. She has joked her weight loss is only so we can buy more expensive pieces and justify the cost by sharing one wardrobe. She also had a bday deadline for some weight loss. With those things in mind I'm going to roll the dice. Fingers crossed. I'm also getting a gift membership for my sister. She just went back to work from maternity leave and is on fire.
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 7, 2015 21:48:46 GMT
DH got me a treadmill one year for mothers day. I love it
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Post by christine58 on Sept 7, 2015 21:52:09 GMT
Are you gifting this to a friend?? I was confused by your post about getting it from a husband,
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 7, 2015 22:09:49 GMT
DH bought me a baby car seat for my birthday one year. I wasn't pregnant and had no intentions of imminently becoming that way, so yeah, I was offended!  He thought it was hilarious. It wasn't. |
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Post by chaosisapony on Sept 7, 2015 22:18:32 GMT
I wouldn't be offended at all. I'd like a Fitbit and I nearly signed up for Gwynnie Bee last year (only reason I didn't was I didn't like the clothes.) Since I've expressed interest in these items I'd be happy to receive them.
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Post by monicad on Sept 7, 2015 22:38:58 GMT
My friend's husband bought her a No No for her birthday. That went down well. LOL! |
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Post by paigepea on Sept 7, 2015 23:10:29 GMT
I call the retail membership offensive. (unless I only only only shop there). To be honest, I don't find a retail membership a gift (does the person get clothes or just the ability to buy clothes?).
Fitbit only if the person asked for it.
Paige.
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Post by Olan on Sept 7, 2015 23:44:10 GMT
Are you gifting this to a friend?? I was confused by your post about getting it from a husband, You've made similar comments like this in a couple other threads. I've always responded in a way that would eliminate future confusion. Still you are always confused. In line with the demographic of the peas I choose to word the question in a way that was most relatable. |
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Post by SabrinaM on Sept 7, 2015 23:48:57 GMT
Are you gifting this to a friend?? I was confused by your post about getting it from a husband, You've made similar comments like this in a couple other threads. I've always responded in a way that would eliminate future confusion. Still you are always confused. In line with the demographic of the peas I choose to word the question in a way that was most relatable. If it means anything, I'm confused too. |
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Post by Zee on Sept 7, 2015 23:49:42 GMT
I don't think buying a plus sized person clothing that fits is offensive but I would effectively be buying her a piece of clothing a couple sizes too small. Which isn't exactly the mission statement of Gwynnie Bee but I thought it would be a nice way to never actually buy a piece of clothing until you've reached your goal weight. She has joked her weight loss is only so we can buy more expensive pieces and justify the cost by sharing one wardrobe. She also had a bday deadline for some weight loss. With those things in mind I'm going to roll the dice. Fingers crossed. I'm also getting a gift membership for my sister. She just went back to work from maternity leave and is on fire. So, she can't fit into them yet? Then I'd say no to that for now. |
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He thought it was hilarious. It wasn't.
