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Post by Zee on Sept 7, 2015 23:52:02 GMT
You've made similar comments like this in a couple other threads. I've always responded in a way that would eliminate future confusion. Still you are always confused. In line with the demographic of the peas I choose to word the question in a way that was most relatable. If it means anything, I'm confused too. Her SO in this case is female, as she's stated in the past, though she has dated men. She simply asked about DH to make it more relatable to the majority of women here answering the question.
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Post by Olan on Sept 7, 2015 23:58:44 GMT
You've made similar comments like this in a couple other threads. I've always responded in a way that would eliminate future confusion. Still you are always confused. In line with the demographic of the peas I choose to word the question in a way that was most relatable. If it means anything, I'm confused too. What exactly are you confused about and why?
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Post by SabrinaM on Sept 8, 2015 0:00:19 GMT
If it means anything, I'm confused too. Her SO in this case is female, as she's stated in the past, though she has dated men. She simply asked about DH to make it more relatable to the majority of women here answering the question. Gotcha! Make sense!
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Post by Olan on Sept 8, 2015 0:02:02 GMT
I don't think buying a plus sized person clothing that fits is offensive but I would effectively be buying her a piece of clothing a couple sizes too small. Which isn't exactly the mission statement of Gwynnie Bee but I thought it would be a nice way to never actually buy a piece of clothing until you've reached your goal weight. She has joked her weight loss is only so we can buy more expensive pieces and justify the cost by sharing one wardrobe. She also had a bday deadline for some weight loss. With those things in mind I'm going to roll the dice. Fingers crossed. I'm also getting a gift membership for my sister. She just went back to work from maternity leave and is on fire. So, she can't fit into them yet? Then I'd say no to that for now. Well she would have control over the membership. I wouldn't choose the sizes but the intent behind the gift would be clothing for when she no longer fits into her work clothes.
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Post by GiantsFan on Sept 8, 2015 0:11:44 GMT
If I normally shopped at the store, then I would not be offended. I'm actually confused about your comment "I would effectively be buying her a piece of clothing a couple sizes too small". If I had to go down a couple of sizes, then I may not be offended but I'd be thinking "Ok what the skippy and I'm supposed to do with this?"
As for the Fitbit, I would not be offended.
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Post by Olan on Sept 8, 2015 0:12:21 GMT
Her SO in this case is female, as she's stated in the past, though she has dated men. She simply asked about DH to make it more relatable to the majority of women here answering the question. Gotcha! Make sense! My guess is had I replaced wife with husband thats where the focus would have been and at least some of the responses would have read "I don't have a wife". I've used the she pronoun before and Christine was "confused". No problem easy to clear up. I've done it twice that I can recall (and find in my posting history) but why pretend to be confused for the third or fourth time. Spreadsheets. Olan=dates men and women. Or there is pronouns.
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Post by AnotherPea on Sept 8, 2015 0:15:38 GMT
Initial reaction-no. But I guess it would depend. I would have never thought passive aggressive. I guess I could see how it would be in some cases. Not at my house.
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Post by Olan on Sept 8, 2015 0:15:29 GMT
If I normally shopped at the store, then I would not be offended. I'm actually confused about your comment "I would effectively be buying her a piece of clothing a couple sizes too small". If I had to go down a couple of sizes, then I may not be offended but I'd be thinking "Ok what the skippy and I'm supposed to do with this?" As for the Fitbit, I would not be offended. Gwynnie lets her choose the size and even the item of clothing. It's a subscription service like Netflix. But the intent and what I would put in the card is hey I know you want to lose weight here is a Fitbit and a membership so you can avoid buying clothes before reaching your smaller goal weight. Thanks for weighing in peas. I subscribed and will get the Fitbit the next time I am at Costco . Her birthday is this week.
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Post by GiantsFan on Sept 8, 2015 0:20:49 GMT
If I normally shopped at the store, then I would not be offended. I'm actually confused about your comment "I would effectively be buying her a piece of clothing a couple sizes too small". If I had to go down a couple of sizes, then I may not be offended but I'd be thinking "Ok what the skippy and I'm supposed to do with this?" As for the Fitbit, I would not be offended. Gwynnie lets her choose the size and even the item of clothing. It's a subscription service like Netflix. But the intent and what I would put in the card is hey I know you want to lose weight here is a Fitbit and a membership so you can avoid buying clothes before reaching your smaller goal weight. Thanks for weighing in peas. I subscribed and will get the Fitbit the next time I am at Costco . Her birthday is this week. Thanks for clarifying. I get it now.
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Post by M~ on Sept 8, 2015 0:20:55 GMT
May I modify my response? If she won't fit into any of the clothing now then no. Maybe workout clothing or workout year/ shoes?
I get why you would say husband, since a thread can get derailed over stuff that you'd think is not relevant
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Post by mlynn on Sept 8, 2015 0:27:52 GMT
DO NOT do the membership. Buying it for clothes se cannot wear is hurtful. Now if she had lost weight already and needed new stuff that fit, that would be the time to give the membership. Especially if she likes their stuff. If she does not or if you do not know, then not at all.
Fit bit...kind of sweet and supportive.
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Post by Nanner on Sept 8, 2015 0:28:30 GMT
I wouldn't be offended at all.
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Post by anonrefugee on Sept 8, 2015 0:38:55 GMT
I would like either one! But I have a friend who received a gym membership on a landmark birthday from her husband and she cried for weeks. In his defense -she'd been talking about it and he thought they could go together. He's a major fitness buff. But all she saw was 40=shakeup or breakup. It took longer than expected for Her to accept it wasn't a slam.
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Post by Zee on Sept 8, 2015 0:48:42 GMT
So, she can't fit into them yet? Then I'd say no to that for now. Well she would have control over the membership. I wouldn't choose the sizes but the intent behind the gift would be clothing for when she no longer fits into her work clothes. I see. If she can't fit into them yet, I'd skip that option. You can gift it to her later as a "congrats on your weight loss" gift.
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Post by georgiapea on Sept 8, 2015 0:50:18 GMT
My DH wouldn't have a clue as to whether either of those was animal, vegetable, or mineral, so if he got them it would be because it's what I'd asked for. Or he'd seen information on them torn out of a magazine and laying around with circles drawn around the items.
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Post by gorgeouskid on Sept 8, 2015 0:56:52 GMT
I might be a little hurt if those were things I hadn't specifically asked for.
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Post by jemali on Sept 8, 2015 4:10:31 GMT
I don't know how the Gwynnie Bee thing works, but you said she wouldn't be able to use it right away. Would you be able to delay the month the subscription started or would she miss out on those months?
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Post by SabrinaM on Sept 8, 2015 4:22:45 GMT
Gotcha! Make sense! My guess is had I replaced wife with husband thats where the focus would have been and at least some of the responses would have read "I don't have a wife". I've used the she pronoun before and Christine was "confused". No problem easy to clear up. I've done it twice that I can recall (and find in my posting history) but why pretend to be confused for the third or fourth time. Spreadsheets. Olan=dates men and women. Or there is pronouns. I'm not here often enough these days to update my spreadsheet. The last I remember you posting about personal stuff was when you traveled to meet a guy. That was you, right?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2015 4:44:08 GMT
OK for those who were as confused as I was:
So it's kind of a library card that you pay for, but for clothes instead of books.
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Post by ComplicatedLady on Sept 8, 2015 6:18:47 GMT
I took the gamble and got my Dh a Fitbit last Christmas. At first, he kept joking that I bought it for him because I thought he was a fata$$ (but I knew he wanted to get back into shape and get back to a gym routine). Fast forward 8-9 months--he loves his Fitbit and takes it to the gym and to work daily. He and his mom "compete" to try to get more steps in. I think you have to know the other person and how they'll respond to a gift like that. I knew my Dh would like it and use it, even if it meant I had to deal with occasional teasing about my gift.
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Post by marimoose on Sept 8, 2015 14:09:22 GMT
DH bought me a baby car seat for my birthday one year. I wasn't pregnant and had no intentions of imminently becoming that way, so yeah, I was offended! He thought it was hilarious. It wasn't. Sometimes men are so dumb with their thinking of what is funny. I don't get it. I have experienced it and now have the pleasure of my daughter being the recipient of her boyfriend's really boneheaded gift ideas. I get to sit back and laugh.
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Post by bianca42 on Sept 8, 2015 14:28:43 GMT
I started getting serious about diet and exercise December 1st and DH gave me a fitbit for Christmas. I was surprised and thrilled. If it was totally out of the blue and I'd been in lounge around mode, I might have been a little bit offended...I'm not totally sure what I would have felt.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2015 14:39:47 GMT
I think you have great taste and think you know her well enough that they would be well received. BUT...I would also get the concert tickets...you HAVE to go to that, too! LOL See, I am no help, girl!
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Sept 8, 2015 14:45:49 GMT
The Gwynnie Bee membership isn't something my DH would know about unless I sent the link to their website.
I think a fitbit is a popular gift and I wouldn't think twice about it.
I didn't know what GB but you clarified plus-size. Even if this is a husband's attempt to encourage a wife to become more healthy and fit, I don't think I would be offended or have my feelings hurt. I think there are more peas who have posted that their feelings are hurt when the day passes with no acknowledgement.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2015 15:44:56 GMT
Did I ask for either of those?
If I asked for it, definitely get it. If not, it's not appropriate for a birthday. Get something else for birthday and buy those items because I need them for good health and well-being.
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Post by ~Susan~ on Sept 8, 2015 15:55:10 GMT
It would depend on whether I wanted those items or not. I have a friend who would probably love both of those things.
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Post by Olan on Sept 8, 2015 18:15:41 GMT
I think you have great taste and think you know her well enough that they would be well received. BUT...I would also get the concert tickets...you HAVE to go to that, too! LOL See, I am no help, girl! O I got tickets the second AMEX released them for sale! I love Stevie. So though it is a back up gift it's as much if not more for me than it would be for her.
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Post by scrapperal on Sept 8, 2015 19:12:07 GMT
Gwynnie lets her choose the size and even the item of clothing. It's a subscription service like Netflix. But the intent and what I would put in the card is hey I know you want to lose weight here is a Fitbit and a membership so you can avoid buying clothes before reaching your smaller goal weight. Thanks for weighing in peas. I subscribed and will get the Fitbit the next time I am at Costco . Her birthday is this week. I think the gifts are thoughtful, but I don't understand the bolded part. Maybe say "here's to a healthier you and a wardrobe for the new you" instead?
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