shawallapea
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Post by shawallapea on Sept 18, 2015 22:43:20 GMT
I am getting remarried in November. A very small ceremony including my children and parents (with a large fun reception/party to follow next spring). The person I had planned on standing up with me has revealed herself to not be the friend I thought she was (really quite devastating to me). My husband to be is having my dad stand up with him and I would most whole heartedly have my mom as she's always been my best friend except she's had multiple strokes and has some definite cognitive challenges. As I was thinking about who I would have stand up with me instead of the above mentioned person, is there any reason why my 16.5 year old son couldn't? He and I are extremely close and we've (both he and his little brother 12.5 yrs) have been through a lot together in the last 7 years. Both kids are very happy with this new union.
Please talk to me about this ... legal ramifications? Etc.
Keep in mind this just popped in my head a few minutes ago and I haven't had time to overthink it like I'm prone to do lol.
TIA
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quiltz
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Jun 29, 2014 16:13:28 GMT
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Post by quiltz on Sept 18, 2015 22:44:22 GMT
Check with the laws of your state. Google is your best friend. Contact where-ever you get a marriage license. |
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Sept 18, 2015 22:46:25 GMT
No idea where you are or where you're getting married but in Ontario, the age requirement is 16. So why not?
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Post by anonrefugee on Sept 18, 2015 22:46:41 GMT
Congratulations!
Can't help you with the issue but how wonderful you have this kind of relationship. Could you have both sons by your side and then an adult sign the paper?
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Sept 18, 2015 23:04:48 GMT
When I got married my sister was my MOH. She was only 16, and we had to have one of my bridesmaids sign the license. The church secretary said any adult that witnessed the marriage could sign the license. Congratulations!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2015 23:08:19 GMT
He can certainly fill the ceremonial part. But most states won't allow a minor to be the signatory on the actual marriage license. So you are still going to need another person over 18 to sign that.
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melissa
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Post by melissa on Sept 18, 2015 23:10:58 GMT
As he has your father standing up, what about one of his parents standing up for you?
I think I would want both sons to have the same or similar status (legal issues aside)/
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PaperAngel
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Post by PaperAngel on Sept 18, 2015 23:21:42 GMT
Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! I think having one or both of your sons walk you down the aisle would be a sweet & memorable element of your ceremony, while simultaneously making him/them feel a part of the special day marking your new family. In our state, the two witnesses to the marriage license are not required to be members of the wedding party; call the Register of Deeds (or appropriate department) in the county where the license will be filed. While your mom's health may prevent her from standing during the ceremony, perhaps she & the groom's mom (assuming she's still living & attends the event) could have the honor of legally witnessing the license. Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness...
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Post by femalebusiness on Sept 18, 2015 23:44:29 GMT
Go for it! Sounds like a good idea to me.
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Post by littlemama on Sept 18, 2015 23:46:41 GMT
I would think he would have to be 18 to sign as a witness, but you would have to check on the laws in your state.
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Belle
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Post by Belle on Sept 18, 2015 23:47:59 GMT
I was 19 and stood up for my dad's wife when they got married. Her son stood up for my dad. I do not remember if we signed the marriage certificate but we must have?  |
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shawallapea
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Post by shawallapea on Sept 18, 2015 23:50:46 GMT
I called our county clerks office and the witness must be 18 or older. I'll have to figure someone else out. I am ever so grateful to have a fantastic relationship with my kids. I really wish my mom was able to do it. It sucks when your mom has always been your bestie.
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shawallapea
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Post by shawallapea on Sept 18, 2015 23:54:15 GMT
Unfortunately both his parents have passed away otherwise I think that would be special. I will still have the boys involved in something for sure. This ceremony though will be very simple. Maybe we can do something special when we have our reception/party in the spring. That will involve lots of good food, games and dancing!
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momgo
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Post by momgo on Sept 19, 2015 0:16:56 GMT
Congratulations!
My 14yo son was my witness last year when my husband and I got married.
He signed the paperwork as well.
We're in California.
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Post by KelleeM on Sept 19, 2015 2:35:23 GMT
In Massachusetts your witness doesn't need to sign anything so I would assume you could have your son if you live here. When dh and I got married 2.5 years ago I had my dd and he had his 3 sons and my son...we were really happy to have them all stand with us for the ceremony.
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