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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2015 13:24:57 GMT
Oh, no, I'm so sorry to hear this. You are a smart, strong woman, and the future holds brighter days for you. Please take everyone's advice to take care of your health. That is the one thing it can be almost impossible to get back once it's severely compromised. Eat enough to run on, and be sure to sleep. I know from personal experience how hard it all is, but I know you can do it. Be good to yourself -- you're worth it!
Congrats to your son on his wonderful achievements!
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Post by SallyPA on Sept 24, 2015 14:28:02 GMT
I'm so sorry- I too had the rapid weight loss due to no appetite. I never knew how emotional pain can cause you so much physical pain. Hugs to you.
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~Susan~
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Post by ~Susan~ on Sept 24, 2015 14:34:03 GMT
So sorry to hear this. I wish you patience and peace in the days ahead.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Sept 24, 2015 14:53:57 GMT
So sorry.
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Post by dillydally on Sept 24, 2015 14:54:29 GMT
I'm really sorry.
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Post by malibou on Sept 24, 2015 15:09:42 GMT
So very sorry.
Huge congrats to your son. How proud you must be.
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Post by dreamer on Sept 24, 2015 15:51:15 GMT
Sending you hugs! Please eat. Try some chia seeds soaked and make a pudding or something. You need your strength. You don't want to crash physically.
Congrats to your SON! How exciting!!!
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Post by ro on Sept 24, 2015 16:23:18 GMT
Congratulations to your son! br]I left my husband 6 months ago and although it has been stressful beyond belief, I can already say I am much happier. True there are many sad days and moments that can hit like a ton of bricks, but the fact I can breathe now and I am slowly finding peace in my life, makes those moments worth it.
FWIW, I left after a 20 year marriage, I have always been a SAHM, and making a new path at almost 45 years old is really scary. But by the same token, it can be pretty exciting to be able to reclaim the person you once were.
{{{hugs}}}
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Post by ilikepink on Sept 24, 2015 16:37:00 GMT
I'm sorry you are joining the "club". You will come out the other side better and stronger than ever! It's not easy, but it's not supposed to be. You do need to take care of yourself - for you, and for your son.
As parents, you must have done something right that in the midst of all this, your son has achieved so much! Congratulations to all of you for that.
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Post by auntkelly on Sept 24, 2015 17:09:15 GMT
I'm very sorry about your divorce. It sounds like you are doing everything right to protect yourself financially.
Congrats to your son!
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Post by KikiPea on Sept 24, 2015 17:30:59 GMT
Congrats to your son!
Prayers for your new journey. Take care of yourself!
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Post by scrapmaven on Sept 24, 2015 17:32:51 GMT
I'm sorry that you're going through such a sad and stressful time. This is when you might want to read all of the posts about life after divorce from our peas who have survived the ordeal. It's really inspirational when you hear from a pea who is so happy and thriving after going through the stress of divorce w/them on-line.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Sept 24, 2015 17:38:47 GMT
Jenny, so sorry you are going through this. You sound very organized and I think this will help you get through it. Try and eat something that doesn't make you sick. You are going to need the strength to get through this.
On another note, congrats to you son and his accomplishments.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Sept 24, 2015 17:46:56 GMT
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. But congrats to your DS!
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Sept 24, 2015 17:48:55 GMT
Sorry to hear this Jenny. Sending prayers and good wishes your way. Try not to let stress take over, give yourself time to celebrate your sons success. Be kind to yourself and hope that a great job opportunity is on the horizon for you.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2015 17:52:52 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear this. Hugs to you.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2015 17:54:15 GMT
so sorry you are now a member of this club....kudos to your DS
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2015 18:17:22 GMT
Well...as if more stress was necessary, he was in an accident this morning and believes his car is a total loss.
Last night, he lashed out at me over something with DS. I told him that I was going to continue to do the right thing in regards to our children, even if he refused.
Today, when he called for help, I did the right thing. One day, I hope to have him join me on the high road and being respectful during this period in our lives and in the future. I'm not going to allow his bad behavior and attitude cause me to behave badly.
He was taken aback today when he called USAA and asked me for the log in and passwords. (you don't need those to call to report a claim) I told him that I changed the log in, passwords and pin numbers. Sorry dude, this is what happens when you get a divorce. (we qualify for USAA because of me, my name owns the account...I've not done anything out of spite, but I am very deliberate in my actions to protect myself)
Had some stuff to get done today...seeing my divorce attorney tomorrow.
Thank you for the kind words. I know that in the long run things will be better. I'm thankful that my kids are not young. So for as stressful as this is, there are many ways that this could be even worse...so for that, I'm thankful. If I can get through the uncertainty of every day, I know I'll come out better.
Had some toast with a bit of peanut butter this morning. Haven't had lunch...have to leave in a bit to go get him his rental.
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Post by Lexica on Sept 24, 2015 19:06:54 GMT
I know facing the unknown after so many years as part of a couple can be a scary thing. But it is also a positive thing. You now have the opportunity to fill your life with anything you desire. It will take time to get used to the new you, but you will ultimately feel so free and alive.
Spend some time healing and surrounding yourself with supportive friends. Before you know it, your new life will crowd out all the thoughts of the old life. In my situation, my Dh cheated. Once I got over the shock and pain, I realized I didn't have the marriage I thought I had, and he was definitely not the man I had assumed he was. I didn't lose an amazing man and solid marriage at all. I was now shown the truth and set free to live my life as I saw fit.
Congratulations to your son too.
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Post by ilikepink on Sept 24, 2015 19:12:32 GMT
Jenny, you are doing the right thing by taking the high road. I've had two divorces, and it's so much better when everyone is nice about it! Remember to care for yourself!
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Post by jenb72 on Sept 24, 2015 19:27:46 GMT
Glad to hear that you seem to have your ducks in a row and you're taking care of yourself financially. Also that you're trying to take care of yourself physically, even with the stress. Try to eat small, frequent snacks if you can't stomach full meals. Just don't go all day without eating anything again. That's scary.
As for taking the high road, good on you. If nothing else, it sets a great example for your kids and they will appreciate it down the road.
Jen
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Post by calgal08 on Sept 24, 2015 19:32:06 GMT
I'm so very sorry you're going through this. Know you have lots of folk here willing to lend an ear when you need it
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Post by scorpeao on Sept 24, 2015 19:37:09 GMT
Sorry you are going through this. Definitely the lowest point in my life to date. I also lost a ton of weight. So much that I had people asking if I had cancer. Like you, I couldn't eat. Anything I ate upset my stomach. One thing I started doing was drinking Slim Fast. It was the only calories my stomach could tolerate.
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Post by lesley on Sept 24, 2015 19:44:38 GMT
I'm sorry Jenny. I wish you strength in the coming months. Even though you sound very together and clearheaded, there will still be sad times ahead. I know you will come out the other side stronger than ever.
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Post by birukitty on Sept 24, 2015 20:07:33 GMT
I'm sorry to hear this Jenny, and I'm sending you lots of hugs.From what you've written it sounds as if you are handling things well. I'm very impressed with you taking the high road and especially with how you handled the USAA insurance question from him regarding the passwords-good for you!
Of course, emotionally any divorce is hard no matter what the circumstances are or who decided to leave who. We are here for you. If you need a shoulder to cry on, people to vent to, or women (and a few men) to ask questions of, we're here. Lots of us have been where you are before (me included) or are on the same path now.
I remember the not eating part-it's called the "divorce diet". I went to Japan for 6 months when one of the friends I worked with went through her divorce. When I came back and she came to visit me I didn't recognize her. She'd lost so much weight and had coloured her hair-she'd gone grey early and her ex had never let her colour her hair-it was one of the first things she did when they split up. She looked at me with the biggest smile on her face and she was so happy.
Debbie in MD.
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Post by 3SugarBugs on Sept 24, 2015 20:33:14 GMT
Awww Jenny I'm so sorry to read this. Hang in there! It will get better, just takes time. Concentrate on that awesome DS...how terrific for him!
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Post by mimima on Sept 24, 2015 20:41:41 GMT
I'm so very sorry to hear - big hugs.
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Post by loco coco on Sept 24, 2015 20:48:38 GMT
Im very sorry to hear this. It sounds like youve already taken some good steps, big hugs
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 24, 2015 20:55:51 GMT
Welcome to the Fellowship of Former Wives, the club that no one ever wants to join, but that many members learn to appreciate and enjoy. Although the first few months are hard, you will find a new normal and get back to yourself--the self you might feel has been lost in the marriage.
Weight Watchers, Atkins, Low Carb, Sugar Buster, Paleo---none of them hold a candle to the Divorce Diet in terms of fast weight loss. Even if you can't manage a full meal, eat a couple of bites of the hamburger, nibble some crackers, slice some fruit and eat a few pieces. It might feel like you are wasting a lot of food, but at least you'll be getting something in. Eventually, when you begin to adjust to your new normal and the stress backs off, you'll regain your appetite.
All kidding aside, I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this.
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Post by jenjie on Sept 24, 2015 21:02:00 GMT
Hugs my friend.
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