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Post by scrapApea on Sept 24, 2015 2:33:30 GMT
If you work with senior citizens, bless you! Seriously you're on track for sainthood. I always see posts about teachers and working with kids, but geesh, if you're working with seniors, I think you're working with large scale preschoolers at times.
I was in line at Aldi today. There is one on my way home, I cringe to go there because it's usually packed with seniors. Today I was sandwiched between 2 women. At least 75 if a day. The one at the check out was totally distracted by something, the checkout lady had to keep telling her the total. Then the one behind me is practically in my shoes she's riding up the line so far. I was trying not to crowd the one paying but had to practically hold this other one back. She's pushing up all my groceries and moving up her stuff the whole time. Seriously? They have an automatic belt it will bring it up you don't have to crunch my chips to crumbs.
Then checkout gal finally get's the first one cleared out, starts my order, the first one she checked out is still trying to arrange her 4, yes 4 items in a bag. She then spots a pen on the floor. Keeps interrupting the checkout gal to give her the pen. At the same time the ol' gal behind me keeps asking her if she should unpack her box of 4 items or leave them. (No leave them, I'm going to have to make a casserole topping already with my chips at this point.)
I just stood there smiling at the clerk. She was SO patient. And those Aldi clerks have to work their butts off and then deal with people like this
So if you're dealing with this daily, kudos to you!
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Post by Nink on Sept 24, 2015 2:42:23 GMT
I love working with seniors. The majority of my patients are seniors. If you engage them in conversation they have some really interesting stories to tell, just think of all the changes they've seen. If I feel myself getting impatient with one, I just try and think of my mom who is 87 and has dementia. How would I want someone doing this to treat her. Good lord willing, we'll all be old someday, I hope people treat me nicely too.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Sept 24, 2015 2:45:19 GMT
I 100% agree with Nink. The majority of my patients are elderly. LOVE them. It's the 50 and under generation that are needy, demanding, and whiney. Srs have GREAT stories.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2015 2:45:39 GMT
I hope some day you find yourself in line between two 20 somethings who think you are an annoying waste of time.
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Post by Drew on Sept 24, 2015 2:47:11 GMT
This post can't be for real. Disgusting.
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Post by moveablefeast on Sept 24, 2015 2:48:44 GMT
On the other hand, think of the good it does to take a breath and have a moment of forbearance for a person whose cognitive abilities may be in decline as a result of aging and who may already be feeling in everyone's way, lonely, and useless (all common emotions in seniors).
I work with three year olds at school and I work with seniors at the library. Seniors are not like threes. Threes lack the life experience to struggle with their dignity. Threes lack the sense of what it's like to no longer be able to do what you used to do for yourself or to have a hard time with basic life tasks like grocery shopping. Threes are generally unaware if people look down on them for their age. Not so with seniors, promise you that.
Sorry if I'm getting all hand slappish but I feel really protective of seniors. I had no idea how careless people can be around seniors until I started caring for my senior parents. So often people just want my mom and her motorized cart out of their way or don't have a minute of patience to let my dad explain what he needs. The expectations are so high and the grace is so little sometimes.
So that is how I personally feel about that.
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Post by Nink on Sept 24, 2015 2:51:31 GMT
If you work with senior citizens, bless you! Seriously you're on track for sainthood. I always see posts about teachers and working with kids, but geesh, if you're working with seniors, I think you're working with large scale preschoolers at times.
I was in line at Aldi today. There is one on my way home, I cringe to go there because it's usually packed with seniors. Today I was sandwiched between 2 women. At least 75 if a day. The one at the check out was totally distracted by something, the checkout lady had to keep telling her the total. Then the one behind me is practically in my shoes she's riding up the line so far. I was trying not to crowd the one paying but had to practically hold this other one back. She's pushing up all my groceries and moving up her stuff the whole time. Seriously? They have an automatic belt it will bring it up you don't have to crunch my chips to crumbs.
Then checkout gal finally get's the first one cleared out, starts my order, the first one she checked out is still trying to arrange her 4, yes 4 items in a bag. She then spots a pen on the floor. Keeps interrupting the checkout gal to give her the pen. At the same time the ol' gal behind me keeps asking her if she should unpack her box of 4 items or leave them. (No leave them, I'm going to have to make a casserole topping already with my chips at this point.)
I just stood there smiling at the clerk. She was SO patient. And those Aldi clerks have to work their butts off and then deal with people like this
So if you're dealing with this daily, kudos to you! Following pea rules and all.
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Post by anonrefugee on Sept 24, 2015 2:56:12 GMT
I get what you mean. I adore and am friends with my almost 80 Mother but the checkout lane with her can make me batty. And she is as independent and fully functional as she ever was! It's just now she's a little particular about double checking she's got all of her pieces and parts.
We all were toddlers once, and if we are lucky we get to be seniors too. Few go through life without annoying someone along the way. I too appreciate the folks that work with both!
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Post by mom on Sept 24, 2015 2:58:42 GMT
I hope this post isn't a real 'vent'. Seniors have been through so much, doe so much that I *hope* younger ones can find a bit a patience with them.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2015 2:58:45 GMT
If you work with senior citizens, bless you! Seriously you're on track for sainthood. I always see posts about teachers and working with kids, but geesh, if you're working with seniors, I think you're working with large scale preschoolers at times.
I was in line at Aldi today. There is one on my way home, I cringe to go there because it's usually packed with seniors. Today I was sandwiched between 2 women. At least 75 if a day. The one at the check out was totally distracted by something, the checkout lady had to keep telling her the total. Then the one behind me is practically in my shoes she's riding up the line so far. I was trying not to crowd the one paying but had to practically hold this other one back. She's pushing up all my groceries and moving up her stuff the whole time. Seriously? They have an automatic belt it will bring it up you don't have to crunch my chips to crumbs.
Then checkout gal finally get's the first one cleared out, starts my order, the first one she checked out is still trying to arrange her 4, yes 4 items in a bag. She then spots a pen on the floor. Keeps interrupting the checkout gal to give her the pen. At the same time the ol' gal behind me keeps asking her if she should unpack her box of 4 items or leave them. (No leave them, I'm going to have to make a casserole topping already with my chips at this point.)
I just stood there smiling at the clerk. She was SO patient. And those Aldi clerks have to work their butts off and then deal with people like this
So if you're dealing with this daily, kudos to you!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Just an FYI, on THIS board changing the title to a "." doesn't make the thread difficult to access.
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Post by scrapApea on Sept 24, 2015 2:58:50 GMT
Whatever! obviously people didn't get the jist of my post I don't post 5000 a day. If anyone is always respecting the seniors it's me. I'm just saying I could not deal with those attitudes all day, and applauding those who do. Guess I was having a bad day.
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Post by moveablefeast on Sept 24, 2015 3:02:59 GMT
Whatever! obviously people didn't get the jist of my post I don't post 5000 a day. If anyone is always respecting the seniors it's me. I'm just saying I could not deal with those attitudes all day, and applauding those who do. Guess I was having a bad day. I don't want to get into a pissing match and have also had a crap day so my annoyance level is already admittedly kind of high, but... ...if that was my mom you were making fun of for getting distracted by the pen (she does get really hung up on small things sometimes), I wouldn't feel that it was you "always respecting the seniors". I'm just sayin'.
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 24, 2015 3:05:28 GMT
The OP didn't say that the elderly women were a waste of space. She was complaining about her experience in line. This place is so overly PC it is not funny. IF she had said they shouldn't be shopping, then get offended, but damn. She wasn't mean nor did she say anything to either woman. She vented. scrapApea you changed the title to just a period. that is a sure way to get a lot of traffic here. FWIW, I get irritated at slow people too. Often they are older. I try to remind myself to take deep breaths and that not only are my parents getting up there, but I will hopefully too one day.
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Post by Mystie on Sept 24, 2015 3:08:50 GMT
I can understand having one of "those days" and feeling frustrated...but some thoughts just don't need to be articulated. Someday that could be you fumbling and struggling, you know.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Sept 24, 2015 3:10:45 GMT
"Whatever! obviously people didn't get the jist of my post I don't post 5000 a day. If anyone is always respecting the seniors it's me. I'm just saying I could not deal with those attitudes all day, and applauding those who do. Guess I was having a bad day. " ---------------------------------------------------------------------
Ah...if you are respecting the seniors, you wouldn't be talking to them about "those attitudes all day". You DO know that all ages of people have attitudes? not just the seniors?
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Post by krazykatlady on Sept 24, 2015 3:11:32 GMT
As the daughter of an 88 year old mom in the early stages of dementia I will choose to not respond further on your post other than to say I hope you're trying to be funny ...but just know you're NOT!
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Post by GiantsFan on Sept 24, 2015 3:11:45 GMT
I'm sorry you got in a slow checkout line. In my experience, if you're feeling pushed from behind in the checkout line a polite "excuse me" usually works, especially with seniors. As for being distracted or helpful, I just go with it. I put a smile on my face, even if I'm in a bad mood, and realize that I'll probably drive someone crazy one day. Especially since my Mom likes to chat with checkout clerks and I'm just like her.
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Post by anonrefugee on Sept 24, 2015 3:12:19 GMT
Whatever! obviously people didn't get the jist of my post I don't post 5000 a day. If anyone is always respecting the seniors it's me. I'm just saying I could not deal with those attitudes all day, and applauding those who do. Guess I was having a bad day. I thought you were praising the people who work with seniors. You might have been a little too thorough describing how tedious it felt to You. But that only highlighted patience shown by the Aldi clerk. You described a moment in your day while complimenting someone. That's not bad.
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Post by annabella on Sept 24, 2015 3:19:14 GMT
There's plenty of things that bother me at the grocery store, but honestly by the time I get home I forget about it, it's such a small thing in life.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Sept 24, 2015 3:20:05 GMT
I've worked with the elderly for many years and yes, sometimes it's hard and you get a few hard to deal with people but I try to think "treat them how I would want my elderly loved ones to be treated" I think most of the time they are just set in their ways.
Some are a hoot! When I was working home health I had a client who explained how to property give oral sex LOL! I loved her! Then of course I had one client who lived in a nursing home and threw knives at me from her meal tray. Haha!
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Post by happymomma on Sept 24, 2015 3:24:12 GMT
I ADORE Senior Citizens! They have so much life experience that I love to listen to them and learn from them. I just turned 48 and have been catching myself doing weird things lately, mostly related to forgetfulness. It's giving me a whole new view of what the aging mind is like. I understand that it's annoying to be smooshed in line but really that happens with people of all ages. I extend massive respect to our Seniors. They've lived through things that would break the younger generations to pieces. Even though they may be a bit forgetful or not thinking clearly, they're smarter in this thing called life than I'll ever be. Maybe next time instead of standing there annoyed, extend some compassion, strike up a light conversation to pass the time and probably brighten their day!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2015 3:30:27 GMT
Whatever! obviously people didn't get the jist of my post I don't post 5000 a day. If anyone is always respecting the seniors it's me. I'm just saying I could not deal with those attitudes all day, and applauding those who do. Guess I was having a bad day. You know who is having a crap day? Two of my "older" friends. One had to put her husband into a living facility today for patients with Alzheimers. Because he was becoming too aggressive for her to handle. And the other one who is coughing up blood and was hospitalized. Those are two couples who have been married 40-50 years and are sleeping apart tonight for the first time and at least one of them will probably never share a home or a bed again. And then there are two friends who are waiting for results on their scans for cancer. THOSE people are having crap days. Standing behind someone in line who is a little slow and graciously is trying to pick up something off of the floor is not a crap day worthy of a vent.
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Post by anxiousmom on Sept 24, 2015 3:41:56 GMT
I would recommend never moving to Florida-we are surrounded by lots and lots and lots of older folks. We are the Mecca for the retirement set along with all of our own aging population. There are very few places in my world where the under 50 set is the majority.
When I go to Publix, I know that there is a good chance that I will be one of the youngest ones there. I put on my patience panties and roll with it. I know I will be stuck in the aisle with two buggies parked adjacent to each other so you can't get by. I know that there will be the inevitable walk around the corner to just barely avoid the pusher of a buggy who is stopped to compare prices on oatmeal. Just the other day there was a lady pushing a buggy who was just randomly putting things in a cart, followed by another lady with a cart who was consulting a list. The first woman would dart from one side of the aisle to the other without any regard to what was happening around her-I couldn't go around her for fear of running her over. The other woman turned and whispered to me that the other woman was her younger sister who had Alzheimer's and grocery shopping was her most favorite thing to do. She filled up her basket and the really nice manager of the store would take the cart and pretend to bag the items (but they would actually ring up and bag the other sister's stuff with the sister none the wiser.) ((I love my Publix))
The list goes on and on. Grocery shopping is not a fast in and out deal. Best thing I ever did was realize that I needed to slow my roll and let it happen.
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Post by paget on Sept 24, 2015 3:45:52 GMT
I feel like we are being punked. Did the OP not see the clusterf*** thread similar to this one about a different population a couple weeks or so ago?! How could could someone not see this wouldn't go well?
I actually love a good vent post and am almost always on the side of the vent-er but this one just seems... Mean. And petty. If that's a bad day for you, consider yourself pretty damn lucky.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Sept 24, 2015 3:49:14 GMT
I deal with 70+ year olds in my work all the time. I adore them and love hearing their stories. When I meet mobile and alert/with it 95 year olds I get really ticked off inside my head because they got to live 20 years longer than my mom will. That is my issue. I just love my 95 year old ladies. The one who lived in India, South Africa and then Argentina THEN came to Canada in 1941 to be a War Bride. Yeah...loved her AND her 85 year old niece!
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Post by gramma on Sept 24, 2015 4:34:22 GMT
If you are lucky enough to live long enough you'll be that 70+ year old in line. I hate shopping any more. There are more rude, self-absorbed, impatient people out there than ever. And you sure as hell don't want to be in a wheelchair. My husband was in one for almost a year. Then you are either a real inconvenience or you're invisible.
Sorry to be so snappy but your post just hit me wrong
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Post by scrapalotomous on Sept 24, 2015 4:52:31 GMT
I think I get what you were trying to say.
I have all the patience in the world with kids but find my patience is shorter with elderly people (note that I never let this show). I think that it is because my own dad is starting to get doddery and I am noticing that he is starting to lose his short term memory etc. It scares the shit out of me so I think my lack of patience stems from my fear of what's maybe coming.
I too would find it hard to work with the elderly all the time and commend anyone who works in this area regularly. I believe I can say this without being disrespectful towards elderly people and their struggles, wealth of life experiences and what they still contribute towards the community.
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 24, 2015 5:38:22 GMT
scrapapea you changed the title to just a period. that is a sure way to get a lot of traffic here. Too true!! Not sure what the original title was, but if it said something like "My vent for the day, add yours" I wouldn't have even bothered opening it up. But give me a thread title that just says "." and I'm in baby! It's gotta be drama!!
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Post by peatlejuice on Sept 24, 2015 6:46:45 GMT
This place is so overly PC it is not funny. IF she had said they shouldn't be shopping, then get offended, but damn. She wasn't mean nor did she say anything to either woman. She vented. Agreed, but I'm pretty sure that it's against the SanctiPea code of conduct to allow someone to vent about another human being without at least one person getting butthurt over it. Look, I love seniors. I could spend days talking to them, I hold doors open for them, and I give them all kinds of consideration in daily interactions. I have close, immediate family members with dementia who I could easily see doing what the OP described. But I've also been that already irritated person who has had a crappy day at work and finds herself sandwiched between the woman quibbling over her 50 cent double coupon and the man who is so close to me that I can feel his breath on my neck. NOTE: I have never said anything to these people directly. But yes, it annoys the shit out of me, regardless of whether they are 80 or 20. I would expect someone in the OP's situation to show consideration for my seniorfamily members by remaining silent, but I wouldn't blame them for being internally annoyed and possibly venting about it later. Seniors, like all ages, can be frustrating sometimes.
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Post by Country Ham on Sept 24, 2015 11:45:32 GMT
I think it does take a tremendous gift to work with the elderly, with children, with cancer patients, on a burn unit, as a social worker etc. Each group have unique challenges and not everyone is able to help meet those challenges. I remember back when I worked as an RN in Canada back in the early 90s. I loved loved loved trauma and the pediatric ICU. Remember those old TLC shows called "adrenaline junkies" etc. That was me. One night it was super quiet on my unit and I went to help out on a geriatric rehab unit. To me those nurses were gold. I felt myself getting tense as the shift went on. One lady kept coming up asking the same question over, and over, and over and over. I was never abrupt or unkind to her, but I knew that elderly care was not my thing. That's ok though. Those nurses who worked the geriatric units couldn't fathom working a peds ICU where children are acutely ill. We all have our niches.
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