Post by maribeth on Sept 28, 2015 1:16:02 GMT
Hi.
I have what I think is a sensitive question to ask. Backround - may family is not very close, and has been somewhat dysfunctional through the years. I am going to see my sister who is 8 years older than I am (I am 55). She finished raising my two boys when I was unable to do so (they were 11 and 14 when then went to live with my sister). She has has some recent heath issues. We have had a "freindly" relationship through the years. I want to leave "heritage" information for my sons children or their children should any of them be interested (my sister has no children, but is close with one son and his children). I want to ask her some "deep" questions in order to document who she is, and her thoughts on our family, because she played such an important role in my sons up-bringing, but due to her recent health issues, what do you think is appropriate, and what questions do you think are important to ask.
All of your expertise is invaluable, and tremendously appreciated.
Maribeth
I have what I think is a sensitive question to ask. Backround - may family is not very close, and has been somewhat dysfunctional through the years. I am going to see my sister who is 8 years older than I am (I am 55). She finished raising my two boys when I was unable to do so (they were 11 and 14 when then went to live with my sister). She has has some recent heath issues. We have had a "freindly" relationship through the years. I want to leave "heritage" information for my sons children or their children should any of them be interested (my sister has no children, but is close with one son and his children). I want to ask her some "deep" questions in order to document who she is, and her thoughts on our family, because she played such an important role in my sons up-bringing, but due to her recent health issues, what do you think is appropriate, and what questions do you think are important to ask.
All of your expertise is invaluable, and tremendously appreciated.
Maribeth
I do not think she will mind... especially if you put it in the words how she played such an important role in their lives. How you were unable to & how you appreciated the gift she did. I have had a number of family members became ill. They were always glad to talk about their lives & memories & ancestral info too. I imagine your dear sister will feel the same way when you ask her. Do not be afraid to talk to her. 
