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Post by dulcemama on Jun 27, 2014 14:20:58 GMT
So, last night, I backed into another car in a parking lot and cracked the bumper on that car. I totally panicked. My first instinct was to drive away so I pulled out and started driving. But before I was out of the parking lot, I began thinking a bit more clearly and looped the parking lot and then parked away from where I had hit the car. I went into the store, still wanting to run away but not sure what I was going to do. I had a return to do at the store, so I did that and while I was doing that, I notice a man kind of hanging around the doors, talking with a store employee. I thought "that must be the guy who owns the car." Still not sure what I was going to do.
I headed over to do my shopping but then I just turned around and went to the man and talked to him. He was the owner of the car and we got everything straightened out. I feel good about that but am feeling horrible that my first instinct was to run away. I can't seem to get past that. I feel really disappointed in myself. Help me out here. This is normal, right?
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Post by miominmio on Jun 27, 2014 14:25:00 GMT
I don't know if it's normal or not, but at least you did the right thing in the end. Don't be so hard on yourself ((hugs))
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jun 27, 2014 14:30:10 GMT
As someone who had her car backed into last night and was happy to get a note from the back-ee, I would say that, in the end, you made the right choice and that's what counts.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 27, 2014 14:30:35 GMT
I think fight or flight is pretty common. Resisting the flight urge in the face of adversity is a good thing and you ultimately resisted. I am curious why you went into the store to shop though instead of leaving your contact info on his car. What if he came out and left before you ran into him in the store?
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Post by sharlag on Jun 27, 2014 14:32:35 GMT
Just chalk it up to panic, like forgetting to 'stop, drop and roll' if you're on fire.
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Post by BoilerUp! on Jun 27, 2014 14:39:28 GMT
Don't beat yourself up!
You did the right thing, and I suspect that your initial instict was out of fear.
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Post by loco coco on Jun 27, 2014 14:40:17 GMT
at least you did the right thing. I got hit in my work parking garage pretty bad and they didnt even leave a note, I was so pissed esp since everyone in there is mercedes and jaguars
You panicked but you did the right thing, you have some good karma coming your way!
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Post by Princess Pea on Jun 27, 2014 14:52:14 GMT
Fleeing the scene would have been the easy way out and so tempting. It takes courage to accept responsibility in a situation like that!
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Post by dulcemama on Jun 27, 2014 15:05:32 GMT
I think fight or flight is pretty common. Resisting the flight urge in the face of adversity is a good thing and you ultimately resisted. I am curious why you went into the store to shop though instead of leaving your contact info on his car. What if he came out and left before you ran into him in the store? I don't know. I think I went in because I hadn't really decided what I was going to do yet and I was trying to get my bearings by doing something normal. I am very glad he hadn't left yet and that I noticed him. |
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Post by debb1c0le on Jun 27, 2014 16:10:41 GMT
Good for you for doing the right thing! My husbands car (he had it 3 weeks) was backed in to in the parking lot where he worked and they just left the scene. Luckily for us it was on video so we were able to go after the girl, and let me just say she knew she hit him there was no doubt ($3000 damage). It took a lot for you to go in and take responsibility, focus on that positive!
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Post by manda on Jun 27, 2014 16:36:12 GMT
Having ran into a light pole once and taking off very quickly after that snafu (which caused $1k+ damage to my parents car), I think we're embarrassed and don't want to be seen having made that sort of mistake. I don't think it's even always that we're concerned about the money, though I'm sure some are. At least that was my instant thought. Don't feel too bad... I went to my friends house after and didn't tell my parents until 4 or 5 hours later when I got home.  |
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Post by tomocus on Jun 27, 2014 16:48:18 GMT
As someone who had her car backed into and damage left on the bumper in a parking lot with no note or contact, good for you for letting your better judgement prevail!!
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Post by AnneMD on Jun 27, 2014 16:57:03 GMT
You are human! Concentrate on what you ended up doing, which is the right thing. We all have various reactions to different stressors - reactions we may not ever expect to have. You needed a few minutes to get your bearings and then you did the right thing. That is what matters.
My brother had a friend who ran into a light pole in his dad's car - it did a LOT of damage to the car. Anyway, the friend jumped out of the car and took off running! No idea where he was running to - but he *literally* went into "flight mode!" He eventually calmed down and came back. I laugh every time I picture him jumping out of the wrecked car and running away!
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Post by dulcemama on Jun 27, 2014 17:43:01 GMT
Thank you guys! I am starting to feel better now. I think the incident just really threw off my sense of myself. I'm typically a very honest person and to see that my first response was to run away was kind of an eye opener. And, as I said before, disappointing.
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Post by lovemybabes on Jun 27, 2014 18:10:12 GMT
Don't beat yourself up! You did the right thing, and I suspect that your initial instict was out of fear. This.  It's okay. You did the right thing! |
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Post by Grom Pea on Jun 27, 2014 18:46:32 GMT
Don't feel bad, I scuffed a bumper but ultimately ended up leaving a note...I was terrified an angry person would call but the most understanding and kind woman called. Since my car just had a but of a scratch I didn't even have to pay a deductible, my insurance covered it. Ironically I've been left with a huge dent in my bumper from someone who was not as honest as I am. When I called the insurance the lady who took my call said I was a rare and honest person, so I'm guessing most people 23 skidoo when it happens.
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It's okay. You did the right thing!