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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2015 21:30:56 GMT
DD's junior high school year is turning out cruddy....between ex-bf and some "not so much" friend situations it's ending up that she has very few friends to hang out with. Hasn't found anyone she is interested in dating and the couple of close friends she has have bf's that occupy much of their free time. She works a fair amount, which helps, but for a girl that likes to get out and do stuff, this is really a sucky situation. And she is still doing quite a bit - but it's getting to be sitting home most weekend nights unless she's working (other kids her grade partying/drinking factors into this - that's gotten to be the thing to do for a lot of kids in her grade). We've talked about her putting herself out there a bit more to make new friends, which I know she does need to do - but I can't force it or do it for her.
She commutes to state college (on-campus) for 2 classes now and takes 3 classes at her HS. She really likes her college classes and is doing well - no problem keeping up. If she didn't have full-year HS classes, she would probably switch to FT college next semester. At a minimum, she may commute to college FT next year and the only thing she would do at the HS is Big Sister volunteering. She doesn't like the drive - it's about 40 minutes each way.
She has asked if we would let her go live on-campus next year. I'm totally in favor, my only thought being I would want her to live in the dorm for the first 2 years. She doesn't know where she wants to go yet, which accelerates college searches. DH isn't in favor just for the friend situation, but knows maturity-wise and academically she would do fine. She also isn't sure of what she wants to study at this point (she thinks pre-med or the sciences but isn't positive) and is hoping she can just take generals next year.
Anyone have their child go off to college a year early and how did it go? |
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Post by buddysmom on Oct 9, 2015 21:52:11 GMT
My best friend did.
She has an October birthday so was young when she started school and graduated HS early.
She went off to college (lived in the dorms) at age 16.
Then she graduated college early-at age 19!
Everything worked out great, married, kids, great job, etc.
She is very independent and has always been very level-headed, etc.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 9, 2015 21:53:29 GMT
Mine went after senior year, but like your daughter, took multiple classes at the college level. He is loving the fat that this semester he can take all classes towards his major since he got his electives out of the way in high school. My son, a freshman, says that there are a few girls who are 17 in his dorm. I really don't think there is a huge gap between 17 and 18 for girls. Some high schools require four years of subjects, so is she sure she can graduate a year and half early? I would have her talk to a counselor and see what her choices are.
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Post by maryland on Oct 9, 2015 22:02:23 GMT
My friend's daughter started college at 16 and lived on campus (over an hour from home). She is doing well, and will apply for medical school this year. Her brother started college a year early (at 17) and is 10 hrs. away and doing great!
My daughter just turned 18 and is a freshman at college 5 hrs. away. She didn't technically start a year early, but she is a year younger than most in her grade at high school. Some kids were over a year older than my daughter. She is doing well at school. She too didn't have a ton of friends in her high school, and is doing so well in college! She has made a lot of friends and my husband and I are so happy that she is making friends and so independent and going to sporting events, finding her way around the large university!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2015 22:02:05 GMT
Our state has dual enrollment - so you can be a FT college student and use those classes to fulfill your HS credits. She would just graduate with the rest of her HS class. I have heard of kids that go off and live in the dorms in this program, just don't know any personally.
She is very level-headed and mature. I'd be bummed to see her have virtually no connection to HS for her last year, but if it will be like this year she may as well. Biggest thing is if she wants to do this and I think she is strongly leaning that way.
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Post by melissa on Oct 9, 2015 23:18:35 GMT
I'm not sure that the social picture is a reason to stay in high school or move on. Boyfriends come and go. It is unfortunate when girls abandon their friends for a boyfriend. BTDT many times myself in both high school and college. It's just how some are.
Is she involved in any school activities? I know you mentioned that she works, but there are many activities in school that would easily parlay into a new social circle.
As far as academics and applications, there are several things to consider if she is to get all her chicks in a row and apply this year. One is the standardized testing that many colleges ask to see. Another is making sure she will have all the appropriate credits to graduate this June. Another is to consider applying to colleges as a transfer student as she may have enough credits by the end of the year.
If she is truly interested, it not only accelerates college shopping, it accelerates preparing to apply as this is already the start of application season. I am already seeing some acceptances posted from schools with rolling admissions. Of course, I also know that some have not sent in a single application yet too!
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Post by eventhinker on Oct 9, 2015 23:54:23 GMT
My son did this back in 2011. The school solicited him but it was where he planned to go from the first time he saw it.
We were slightly apprehensive but he did very well. Hit the ground running. Graduated this past May and is the youngest guy in the math grad department at his school now...tuition free and getting a paycheck for his teaching.
Consider it....if he had stayed at the high school another year he'd have lost his momentum
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Post by Pahina722 on Oct 10, 2015 0:04:30 GMT
DS is fulltime dual enrolled at the community college where I teach. Although he was generally happy in high school with lots of friends and involvement in extracurricular activities, he was also tired of the silly BS that goes along with high school: home room, pep rallies, projects, this testing, that testing, etc. He loves being at college. He's making lots of new friends while still staying in contact with the ones back at high school, but most importantly, feels that he is interacting more with people who actually care about learning.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2015 0:21:49 GMT
Love hearing the positive stories and outcomes!
This program is a little different than typical college application schedules...although now if she doesn't continue at the state college she goes to and would switch to private, I would have to make sure the application deadline is the same May or June that it was for us this year. Standardized testing wasn't required, either, just HS rank, GPA and her guidance counselor's approval. So...some quick chicks in a row for sure! Only some of the colleges in our state participate, although it is free books and tuition. The dorm aspect I'm sure would change when we would want to apply, too, so she got into housing.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2015 0:27:41 GMT
As for school activities, she is a Big Sister (mentor to younger vulnerable student) and in an anti-bullying program. No sports anymore and she dropped out of band. There isn't a lot left...a couple of art groups. She was passed over for NHS even though she was close to the being in the top 5% of her class and without anything different, I don't expect she would be inducted this year as she is opting to fill her free time with work.
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Post by elaine on Oct 10, 2015 0:47:25 GMT
Love hearing the positive stories and outcomes! This program is a little different than typical college application schedules...although now if she doesn't continue at the state college she goes to and would switch to private, I would have to make sure the application deadline is the same May or June that it was for us this year. Standardized testing wasn't required, either, just HS rank, GPA and her guidance counselor's approval. So...some quick chicks in a row for sure! Only some of the colleges in our state participate, although it is free books and tuition. The dorm aspect I'm sure would change when we would want to apply, too, so she got into housing. I'm a little unclear about what her status would be next year - would she be a high school student going to a college, or would she be a high school graduate and full-time registered college student? If it is that she will be a "regular" college student like everyone else, unless it is a community college, her application deadlines will be in November and December, even for state colleges and universities, and there will be SATs and/or ACTs to take this month at the latest. If she will be in a special program as a high school student, then they might have different deadlines and not require SATs or ACTs. I was 17 when I went to college and did just fine, but I had graduated high school right after turning 17, so went as a regular student. |
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Post by mom on Oct 10, 2015 1:45:04 GMT
Our son is doing to the dual credit route. Socially, he is like your daughter. But for us, we think he needs to stay in high school for the extra activities. Adult-hood is coming fast enough - I want him to enjoy being a kid as long as he can.
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Post by tamiq on Oct 10, 2015 5:13:51 GMT
My DD graduated at 16 and enrolled in college the same year. She is now almost 18. People are always shocked that she is so young and almost done lol. She also somewhat struggled in high school socially because she didn't "party", but believe it or not, in college she goes to parties and it's ok that she doesn't drink etc so she has a great time and has really become a social butterfly. (btw, all 3 of my youngest kids go to the same college here in MD, weird huh?)
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 10, 2015 18:55:30 GMT
My niece is graduating a semester early and has opted to volunteer and work instead of starting college early but a number of her friends are going straight to college.
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Post by PaperAngel on Oct 10, 2015 19:13:40 GMT
Perhaps a college-prep private school for her senior year would be a compromise. It will prepare her for college, help with applications, expose her to new people, & still allow her to have a high school experience. Like your husband, I wouldn't rush her into adulthood...
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Post by Scrapper100 on Oct 10, 2015 19:48:59 GMT
If she doesn't want to be around partiers and drinking college will most likely be worse than high school especially living on campus. I started college at 17 and had issues with my first dorm and switched to s quieter less party prone dorm.
I don't think I would want a 16 year old in a dorm.
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Post by likescarrots on Oct 10, 2015 21:54:51 GMT
Not my child, but my husband graduated HS a year early and went directly to university (lived in dorms). I'm not really sure why he did it, I think he was just bored.
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Post by littlemama on Oct 10, 2015 22:44:18 GMT
With our graduation requirements, I don't even think that is an option here. Students can dual enroll at the local community college- paid for by the school as long as it is not a class offered at the high school- for example, you can't take calculus as a dual enrollment class because the high school has calculus.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2015 21:25:51 GMT
Love hearing the positive stories and outcomes! This program is a little different than typical college application schedules...although now if she doesn't continue at the state college she goes to and would switch to private, I would have to make sure the application deadline is the same May or June that it was for us this year. Standardized testing wasn't required, either, just HS rank, GPA and her guidance counselor's approval. So...some quick chicks in a row for sure! Only some of the colleges in our state participate, although it is free books and tuition. The dorm aspect I'm sure would change when we would want to apply, too, so she got into housing. If it is that she will be a "regular" college student like everyone else, unless it is a community college, her application deadlines will be in November and December, even for state colleges and universities, and there will be SATs and/or ACTs to take this month at the latest. If she will be in a special program as a high school student, then they might have different deadlines and not require SATs or ACTs. I was 17 when I went to college and did just fine, but I had graduated high school right after turning 17, so went as a regular student. She would be a high school student attending college. The college treats her like any other student although there are different application/enrollment requirements. She does need to apply ASAP as we did not originally plan she would live on-campus and now that is what she is planning to do. She has her ACT test coming up soon. There are no requirements of what she has to take, beyond that the classes need to meet her remaining HS requirements.
She'll be 17 and turning 18 a few months after she would start next year, so age-wise she isn't going to be particularly young. I would say mama didn't plan she would be heading off to college next year already  but it is a fantastic opportunity if she is ready and saves us a decent chunk of college expenses.
We have some college visits scheduled (she has 3 done already, although she doesn't think any will be her top choices). For now, we'll proceed as if she will go next fall and if she changes her mind, that would be fine and she can continue at the state school she is commuting to now.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 11, 2015 22:03:56 GMT
I'm a little unclear about what her status would be next year - would she be a high school student going to a college, or would she be a high school graduate and full-time registered college student?If it is that she will be a "regular" college student like everyone else, unless it is a community college, her application deadlines will be in November and December, even for state colleges and universities, and there will be SATs and/or ACTs to take this month at the latest. If she will be in a special program as a high school student, then they might have different deadlines and not require SATs or ACTs. I was 17 when I went to college and did just fine, but I had graduated high school right after turning 17, so went as a regular student. She would be a high school student attending college. The college treats her like any other student although there are different application/enrollment requirements. She does need to apply ASAP as we did not originally plan she would live on-campus and now that is what she is planning to do. She has her ACT test coming up soon. There are no requirements of what she has to take, beyond that the classes need to meet her remaining HS requirements.
She'll be 17 and turning 18 a few months after she would start next year, so age-wise she isn't going to be particularly young. I would say mama didn't plan she would be heading off to college next year already but it is a fantastic opportunity if she is ready and saves us a decent chunk of college expenses.
We have some college visits scheduled (she has 3 done already, although she doesn't think any will be her top choices). For now, we'll proceed as if she will go next fall and if she changes her mind, that would be fine and she can continue at the state school she is commuting to now.
When you put it this way, yes, it is a good idea. My son had 28 credits towards his degree while he was still in high school. The high school paid a majority of his tuition and testing. I figure at the least that saved us 25K. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Oct 11, 2015 23:09:19 GMT
From the experiences my youngest dd has told me, ah, no. I would keep her home, and have her attend from home. But not live in the dorms for another yr.
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but it is a fantastic opportunity if she is ready and saves us a decent chunk of college expenses.