MrsPea #2861
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Jul 9, 2014 3:19:52 GMT
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Post by MrsPea #2861 on Oct 11, 2015 5:04:25 GMT
I tried to for my 40th. No one showed up. I'm sorry. I totally would have come. Me too!
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Post by penny on Oct 11, 2015 6:23:02 GMT
I think I'd feel a bit uncomfortable - I don't enjoy being the center of attention, and especially when I've brought the attention on myself... I don't have to worry about it though... My birthday falls on a holiday weekend so there's always something happening, and if I wanted to throw a party I use the holiday as the reason why...
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Post by crazy4scraps on Oct 11, 2015 6:55:27 GMT
Not for a birthday, but for a milestone anniversary. DH and I hosted at our lake place and paid for all the food, beverages, cupcakes, etc. It was a very fun and relaxed event that was well attended and everyone seemed to really have a great time. It was neat because quite a few of our guests were at our wedding many years before too. I'm not a big one for being the center of attention, but since the party was for both of us I didn't have to be in the limelight by myself and it was a lot more tolerable for me.
I think if someone thinks it will be fun, they should go for it!
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Post by corinne11 on Oct 11, 2015 9:52:52 GMT
I'm not getting the faux pax of throwing your own party? Is it because you consider it a gift grab? I think we tend to be a bit more casual here and less hung up on formalities that it isn't even on my radar. Everyone does it here particularly for milestone birthdays. I never bat an eyelid when I get an invitation from a friend for a 40th or 50th etc that they are organising. I love celebrating with people and for a lot of us if we left it to someone else to organise it would never happen. After seeing a friend get mightily disappointed at not having anything for her 40th (she wanted her dh to throw a party) I decided I would organise my own big party with lots of friends and we had a ball. We supplied champagne, wine, beer etc and lots of finger food. I couldn't care less about gifts, I said I didn't want them but most brought along something. Here in Australia most people I know plan their own birthdays and organise the dinner or party.
I didn't celebrate my 40th due to medical issues at the time so when I turned 50 I decided to have a big party. My gift was a trip to Hawaii so my theme was Hawaii 50. I had an amazing time organising decorations, costumes, food and games all with an Hawaiian theme. Was I the center of attention? You bet! But that's the whole idea of a birthday party for my circle of family and friends. We supplied all food and drinks and yes most people did bring me a gift. We don't see it as a gift grab type of thing though.
Now, when I was invited to an engagement party and the bride to be threw the groom to be out of their house a week later and SHE kept all the gifts - that's a gift grab! I would have happily given our $150 gift voucher to the groom to be so he could set himself up again but it was not to be.
Corinne
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Oct 11, 2015 10:45:49 GMT
corinne11 your 50th sounds perfect and is what seems to be the norm here re throwing parties. Grr on the engagement, that sucks!
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Oct 11, 2015 11:22:08 GMT
I fall into the rather-not-have-a-big-deal group and my bday falls into one of our busiest times of year so my husband normally does an occasion for me when things calm down a bit- usually a delay of about two weeks and we kick off our Christmas season with a big night out. That being said, last year we had a small drinks party as some old friends were in SA for a week; it had to be indoors as our deck was not finished and quite hazardous. We then went out to eat.
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Post by Freefallfast on Oct 11, 2015 12:15:18 GMT
My birthday usually falls right around Thanksgiving or actually on Thanksgiving so I've never really had birthday parties .so when I turned 50 I had a really big Hello Kitty birthday party. it was really fun .I did all the planning. I paid for everything. I think we all had fun.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2015 12:25:14 GMT
Nope. I don't have any friends. Plus it's very close to Christmas. No one wants another party around that time.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Oct 11, 2015 12:48:53 GMT
My friend thought she was throwing herself a little party last night for her 60th birthday, but we surprised her and had a big "western" party complete with a band and line dancing. The theme was her dd's idea and it was so much fun!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Oct 11, 2015 17:30:12 GMT
My birthday usually falls right around Thanksgiving or actually on Thanksgiving so I've never really had birthday parties .so when I turned 50 I had a really big Hello Kitty birthday party. it was really fun .I did all the planning. I paid for everything. I think we all had fun. Ha ha! Hello Kitty! I love it!
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Post by melanell on Oct 11, 2015 17:43:57 GMT
No, I haven't. But you know what, I haven't had a birthday party in a darn long time, so maybe one of these years I will.
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Post by tracyarts on Oct 11, 2015 18:20:07 GMT
I did when I turned 30. I invited all my friends over for drinks and dessert that evening. Since most of my friends were acquainted with each other already, it turned out to be a really nice time. Just everyone hanging out together and enjoying each other's company for a while. It was my best birthday ever because it was so low key and comfortable.
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Post by librarylady on Oct 11, 2015 18:32:42 GMT
I also gave myself a retirement party. I declined the "official party given by the school." I have been to enough of those to know how fake they are--faculty darts in, grabs the cake and leaves. I wanted to be surrounded by those who gave a damn whether I lived or died. My last 5 years had been in a new school district and in a school where 1/3 ( or more) of the faculty transferred out each year.
My party was for the good friends from my previous school and a few from the more recent school--but most of all it was a group of people who actually cared about me and my retirement.
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Post by duchess on Oct 11, 2015 19:46:37 GMT
I gave myself a 50th party at our house with tacos and margaritas. It was a lot of fun.
Edited to add that I requested no gifts and they complied except for the sister who couldn't make it who sent a little something to me.
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Post by shinyhappytina on Oct 11, 2015 21:20:32 GMT
I wouldn't have considered throwing myself a party, but you all are inspiring me! Maybe I'll do that when I turn 50. I was really disappointed when my hubby didn't do anything for my 40th, he didn't even invite my parents over or buy a cake. I threw him a huge bash when he turned 40 and invited all of our friends out, paid for dinner and a big cake and we all went to a local bar for drinks, it was a blast! I was surprised when he thought that I wouldn't want a party and didn't do one for me. (men!)
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Post by sacteach on Oct 11, 2015 23:31:59 GMT
I did, for my 30th. I invited friends and co-workers to a party at Chevy's. I paid for appetizers and a set number of pitchers of margaritas and beer. If people wanted a full meal or different/additional drinks, they were on their own. Only one couple didn't pay their bill and I got stuck paying it, but other than that, those that wanted to eat/drink more were fine doing so and those that only wanted the free appetizers/drinks were good too. We were able to bring in a cake and had a private area for the party and it worked out great. When it was done, I went out with my boyfriend at the time and two other couples and we went bowling and played laser tag. It was a great night.
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Post by miss_lizzie on Oct 11, 2015 23:38:24 GMT
We had an open house for DH's milestone birthday. He loved it and it was great to not have to plan a formal party--people just came and went as they wanted. We had platters of sandwiches, fruit/veggies, and cake.
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akathy
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Post by akathy on Oct 12, 2015 0:17:10 GMT
I'm not getting the faux pax of throwing your own party? Is it because you consider it a gift grab? I think we tend to be a bit more casual here and less hung up on formalities that it isn't even on my radar. Everyone does it here particularly for milestone birthdays. I never bat an eyelid when I get an invitation from a friend for a 40th or 50th etc that they are organising. I love celebrating with people and for a lot of us if we left it to someone else to organise it would never happen. After seeing a friend get mightily disappointed at not having anything for her 40th (she wanted her dh to throw a party) I decided I would organise my own big party with lots of friends and we had a ball. We supplied champagne, wine, beer etc and lots of finger food. I couldn't care less about gifts, I said I didn't want them but most brought along something. I think that the kind of party most people object to is when you throw a party for yourself but expect your guests to pay for their own dinner/appetizer/drinks/admissions, etc.
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