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Post by huskergal on Oct 17, 2015 22:58:39 GMT
If the wife is cheating on the husband and after counseling says she wants to stay with the other guy, should she have to move out?
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Post by christine58 on Oct 17, 2015 22:59:12 GMT
If the wife is cheating on the husband and after counseling says she wants to stay with the other guy, should she have to move out? Yup...the cheater should leave. Just my two cents |
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Post by littlemama on Oct 17, 2015 23:01:35 GMT
In my opinion, the one who cheats is the one who leaves.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2015 23:04:01 GMT
Have to agree except sometimes there are financial considerations where the one cheated on can not afford to keep the home/mortgage.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 17, 2015 23:10:39 GMT
I think the person who is going to have the most time with the kids should stay. If there aren't kids and the non cheater can afford the house, the non cheater stays. It is a consolation gift.
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Post by ~KellyAnn~ on Oct 17, 2015 23:12:33 GMT
My ex was the cheater. However, I decided to leave after I filed and found a new construction condo. This is my home where happy memories are made.
We owned a hobby farm and it was definitely something I couldn't keep up. He had done a lot of half-a$$ed projects that drove me nuts (ie - put in a second bathroom downstairs but never hooked up the plumbing! When I left, he took the wall down between the master bedroom and one of the bedrooms to create a master suite for his new girlfriend. He put in a walk-in closet and an ensuite, but that was never hooked up either. She moved out. Now he's on his own and building an addition. Why, I don't know. However, I'd place bets that it's never finished properly!!!)
Even though the kids were raised there, I don't have any regrets finally leaving (after the kids were adults). When I drive past the farm, it seems like a life-time ago that I lived there.
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Post by lucyg on Oct 17, 2015 23:21:45 GMT
I think the one who plans to continue living there, perhaps with the children, and can afford to keep up the payments, gets the house.
In case of disagreement, I guess the cheater should lose, but really, it's going to be whatever the judge says, so don't stress over it too much either way.
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 17, 2015 23:33:16 GMT
In a perfect world, the one cheated on should get to make the choice.
But in a perfect world, assholes wouldn't cheat in the first place.
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Post by GiantsFan on Oct 18, 2015 1:40:51 GMT
IMO, the cheater hits the road.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Oct 18, 2015 2:41:46 GMT
If the wife is cheating on the husband and after counseling says she wants to stay with the other guy, should she have to move out? Yup...the cheater should leave. Just my two cents Yup I agree 100% |
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Post by penny on Oct 18, 2015 2:45:29 GMT
The one that makes the choice to leave the relationship, leaves the house... If finances, or the well being of children, or there's something with the timing that it would be better to move out at a certain date, that's cool (as long as it's not making things worse)...
A friend had an elderly sick pet and a family reunion coming up... She actually wanted the STBXH to stay until after she was back - the pet wouldn't have done well in a kennel, and didn't like other people to start with... Think it was about two months that he ended up staying... But they had a large house so he 'moved out' to the basement (clothes, toiletries, everything), and there were no kids involved...
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Post by anniefb on Oct 18, 2015 3:06:20 GMT
Here in New Zealand it's strictly 'no fault' divorce so if the parties can't agree how to divide things up, the Family Court will usually allow the main caregiver to keep living in the family home whether they cheated or not.
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Post by huskergal on Oct 18, 2015 3:11:27 GMT
No children involved.
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Post by mom on Oct 18, 2015 4:50:50 GMT
You cheat, you move. I *might* still move (even though I wasn't the cheater) but it would be on my own terms.
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Post by mom on Oct 18, 2015 4:51:23 GMT
If the wife is cheating on the husband and after counseling says she wants to stay with the other guy, should she have to move out? Are we discussing you? |
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Oct 18, 2015 12:57:29 GMT
I'm of the mindset that the one that wants out needs to leave, cheater or not. That being said, I do understand that there are times that I know that isn't an option. But for the most part, that is my thoughts.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Oct 18, 2015 13:26:48 GMT
imo the one who was cheated on should have the chance to make the decisions, BUT a cheater has already proved their selfishness so they likely won't care about making it right and leaving.
My cousin's marriage didn't work out, hubby dug his heels in and wanted the house, refused to move. Story unconfirmed but he was the issue (as in possibly visiting prostitutes.) Cousins family had helped them with the down payment on the house as well as some projects. Long story short she should have been able to stay....but he wasn't willing to go. She finally had enough and went...worked out for her in the end. She bought a nice little townhouse and he bought her out of the house.
Think in the end, you have to decide is it really worth the effort of fighting over it? Trust me if I loved my house, had been cheated on, etc., I wouldn't be too thrilled to be giving up even more. But getting out and moving on rather than fighting has it's merits too!
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Post by chaosisapony on Oct 18, 2015 14:59:56 GMT
Cheater or not, whoever is choosing to leave the marriage is the one that should move.
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Post by georgiapea on Oct 18, 2015 15:04:45 GMT
I don't feel it should be decided in that way. If I was cheated on after what I'd thought was a happy marriage, no way would I want the house full of reminders of what a fool I'd been. But some people might be so attached to their house they would view it differently. Each situation should work out who keeps the house for itself. Many factors come into play so a cut and dried 'rule' doesn't seem practical.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Oct 18, 2015 15:30:09 GMT
If you both want to stay, the one cheated on, gets first dibs.
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Post by scraphollie27 on Oct 18, 2015 16:11:25 GMT
If there are no children to provide for and both parties are in a financial position to afford the house/buy the other party out, then it comes down to who wants it more. I would think that if the wife wants to build a life with the new man, then she would move out but if the DH doesn't want to stay in the long run, it might make more financial sense to walk away and take a buy-out.
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Post by CarolT on Oct 18, 2015 16:23:14 GMT
Assuming there aren't complicating financial factors, I think the person who was cheated on, should get to choose who moves out.
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