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Post by christine58 on Oct 18, 2015 1:22:13 GMT
hide her...or change your settings so she can't see your posts.
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 18, 2015 1:25:04 GMT
Sometimes people are doing it to brag, but to comment on the post and make a "conversation" out of it. However, I would see that more between actual friends.
I'd post, "Glad David had fun this season" or just ignore the post.
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Post by GiantsFan on Oct 18, 2015 1:25:59 GMT
You mean that David's mom lists David's time on your a post with your sons photo? That is tacky.
Also, take a deep breath and delete it or hide her. I don't FB but can't you ignore or hide her posts?
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Post by mallie on Oct 18, 2015 1:26:56 GMT
She's a mom who competes through her kid's achievements. I'd either learn to roll your eyes at her or change your settings so she can't see your posts.
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Post by myshelly on Oct 18, 2015 1:45:59 GMT
Why would you "never" delete a comment?
I delete any comment I don't like. It's my FB page, my photo, my thread. Why would I keep comments I don't like?
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Post by annaintx on Oct 18, 2015 1:49:54 GMT
I would totally delete the comment and then make sure she can't see any more of my posts, but I'm passive aggressive like that.  I've done it to half of my ILs already, as I was tired of their passive aggressive posts about my life choices for myself and my DD. Delete the comment, it's your page and you can do what you want. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2015 1:53:01 GMT
ONe thing about facebook, there are no "norms" other than the norms of society in general. In all likelihood she would have included her son's times in a face to face conversation because she competes via her son. It rankles you because something in your competitive nature wants to respond to that call of competition.
I do delete comments that step over lines and make me unhappy for whatever reason. In a conversation the moment happens and is gone. In facebook it sticks around for a very long time. Why do I need a reminder about something that bugs me?
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Post by Basket1lady on Oct 18, 2015 4:06:41 GMT
How much power does this woman have in X country? I've found that mothers like that will weasel their way in with the coach. You can have them on your side or have an enemy. And in sports, my motto is to keep your enemies close. Really, I'd just ignore her post and then block her from viewing your posts. Don't I friend her--that will make her start sniffing around.
My DS was a football player. There was one mom who was always trying to prove to me (and the other parents) that her son was the better player. She had the AD in her pocket and actually wrangled her way onto the coaching staff the boys' senior year. I was VERY grateful that I'd spent the past 3 years trying not to engage her. I was the team mom and had to work with her. And she thought I was her friend, so I heard a lot of decisions that came from the coaches. That year would have been really rough if we had been enemies.
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Post by RiverIsis on Oct 18, 2015 4:14:27 GMT
How much power does this woman have in X country? I've found that mothers like that will weasel their way in with the coach. You can have them on your side or have an enemy. And in sports, my motto is to keep your enemies close. Really, I'd just ignore her post and then block her from viewing your posts. Don't I friend her--that will make her start sniffing around. My DS was a football player. There was one mom who was always trying to prove to me (and the other parents) that her son was the better player. She had the AD in her pocket and actually wrangled her way onto the coaching staff the boys' senior year. I was VERY grateful that I'd spent the past 3 years trying not to engage her. I was the team mom and had to work with her. And she thought I was her friend, so I heard a lot of decisions that came from the coaches. That year would have been really rough if we had been enemies. This. Let her have her moment. People that know her will roll their eyes. People that don't and see your posts will think "WTH is wrong with her" and then roll their eyes. It isn't worth your energy. FWIW I don't block people. I did have someone block me. I found out when I tried to contact them about an excellent job opportunity in their field which I could have given them a great contact for etc (I didn't just read it in the paper etc.). Oh well, their loss. |
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 18, 2015 4:29:48 GMT
Been there dealt with that. My situation happened over 10 years ago (with second graders!) and man did it feel good.
Things do come out in the wash. Her competitive/bragging nature will probably backfire eventually.
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Post by heartcat on Oct 18, 2015 8:54:27 GMT
I actually don't see anything terribly wrong with this and it wouldn't bother me. Unless I am misunderstanding, David's mom wasn't comparing the two boys, or putting your ds down in any way. She simply stated that her ds had a 'personal' best at the same event, and shared his time.
Since you hadn't shared your ds's time, she is not saying that David is better than your ds or anything. She is saying her ds had his own best run that day.
Now if you had shared your ds's time, or she had said, 'David ran in X amount of time and beat Johnny yet again!' that would be something to delete.
I know she has a history of bragging and one upmanship, but regarding this incident, in and of itself, I really don't see it as being something to take offense at. I suppose it might have been better if she'd just written, 'David had a personal best at the event' and not included a time. Would that have made you feel differently about her post?
Regardless of how I view it, it is 'your' page, and these are your relationships, and if it makes you feel better to delete it, then that is what you should do.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 18, 2015 12:15:22 GMT
Why would you "never" delete a comment? I delete any comment I don't like. It's my FB page, my photo, my thread. Why would I keep comments I don't like? I agree with this... I do that too. But I try to not over do it. Usually just people who have political beliefs that are offensive to me or some of my friends. That aside. I would not delete this friends message. I would just give her the benefit of the doubt and think she is excited and pleased with her son's performance. And leave it at that! |
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Post by littlemama on Oct 18, 2015 13:06:58 GMT
Either delete her comment, or respond with "I'm so glad David has improved his times this year!"
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2015 14:28:10 GMT
Why would you "never" delete a comment? I delete any comment I don't like. It's my FB page, my photo, my thread. Why would I keep comments I don't like? I know I probably should just delete her comment. Maybe she would take a hint. Off to delete now. The flip side is why would her post annoy you so much that you would want to delete it If I saw a post like that (with no back story) I would think it's 2 moms talking about kids sport It's bothering you for a reason. For me personally I try to work on those things rather than going around contemplating deleting everyone else and their thoughts. Please understand I'm not judging...just explaining my own thought processes on matters like this because my ultimate life goal is to have no one's actions bother me  |
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Oct 18, 2015 14:32:41 GMT
I would totally delete the comment and then make sure she can't see any more of my posts, but I'm passive aggressive like that. I've done it to half of my ILs already, as I was tired of their passive aggressive posts about my life choices for myself and my DD. Delete the comment, it's your page and you can do what you want. ^^^^^That. |
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Post by RiverIsis on Oct 18, 2015 14:58:04 GMT
I know I probably should just delete her comment. Maybe she would take a hint. Off to delete now. The flip side is why would her post annoy you so much that you would want to delete it If I saw a post like that (with no back story) I would think it's 2 moms talking about kids sport It's bothering you for a reason. For me personally I try to work on those things rather than going around contemplating deleting everyone else and their thoughts. Please understand I'm not judging...just explaining my own thought processes on matters like this because my ultimate life goal is to have no one's actions bother me I don't even delete insulting (yup had a friend with a differing political belief call me all sorts of names) comments because that doesn't make them go away and you never know when you might need that information for whatever reason. But yeah, those comments say loads more about the other person than me. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 18, 2015 15:04:38 GMT
She is very competitive with her son's achievements. Now, if it were my son, I would make his favourite dinner just so I could and know that my son's achievements are awesome and she can one up you all she wants. She also may go on delete and ignore if it bugged me enough.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 18, 2015 15:35:19 GMT
The flip side is why would her post annoy you so much that you would want to delete it If I saw a post like that (with no back story) I would think it's 2 moms talking about kids sport It's bothering you for a reason. For me personally I try to work on those things rather than going around contemplating deleting everyone else and their thoughts. Please understand I'm not judging...just explaining my own thought processes on matters like this because my ultimate life goal is to have no one's actions bother me I don't even delete insulting (yup had a friend with a differing political belief call me all sorts of names) comments because that doesn't make them go away and you never know when you might need that information for whatever reason. But yeah, those comments say loads more about the other person than me. If you want sunshine and unicorns, that is what works for me! It's your Facebook page. You control what you want on your feed. If you want competitive people-great! If you want like-minded people-that's cool, too. If you want to be pissed off constantly-you control that as well. It's your page for your entertainment. |
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Post by RiverIsis on Oct 18, 2015 15:59:45 GMT
I don't even delete insulting (yup had a friend with a differing political belief call me all sorts of names) comments because that doesn't make them go away and you never know when you might need that information for whatever reason. But yeah, those comments say loads more about the other person than me. If you want sunshine and unicorns, that is what works for me! It's your Facebook page. You control what you want on your feed. If you want competitive people-great! If you want like-minded people-that's cool, too. If you want to be pissed off constantly-you control that as well. It's your page for your entertainment. Yes, it's my public page, but I guess I just don't get as enraged by other peoples' opinions and statements as most. It just isn't worth letting negative energy affect my actions. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 18, 2015 16:13:40 GMT
It's your Facebook page. You control what you want on your feed. If you want competitive people-great! If you want like-minded people-that's cool, too. If you want to be pissed off constantly-you control that as well. It's your page for your entertainment. Yes, it's my public page, but I guess I just don't get as enraged by other peoples' opinions and statements as most. It just isn't worth letting negative energy affect my actions. I wish I could just let stuff people post not get to me. You need to write a user's manual "How not to sweat what people say or post and other life's tidbits that make things easier to not get angry at". I need that MANUAL NOW!!! |
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Post by CarolT on Oct 18, 2015 16:16:10 GMT
Honestly, I would roll my eyes and leave her comment. Anyone else who sees it will be able to draw their own conclusion about her post. I only delete things that are genuinely hurtful to someone. If someone posts a comment that makes them look petty, foolish, judgmental or annoying, I assume that's what they were going for and let them have that opportunity  |
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Post by momto4kiddos on Oct 18, 2015 16:24:10 GMT
If she had posted his times on her own wall, i'd have rolled my eyes and moved on. Because she posted them under your sons photo i'd delete them. Let her brag on her on wall.
I have a relative who posts often bragging about himself and it can be irritating. He finally put up a lie/brag that was totally outrageous and I blocked his stuff from my page. Much happier not seeing his stuff on my wall.
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Post by anonrefugee on Oct 18, 2015 16:32:30 GMT
Those kind of people also post their own scores on the FB aptitude quizzes!
I wouldn't (and don't) delete that kind of comment about her son. I'm sure most people who know us see what's happening. But it is irritating.
Good luck, you're not alone disliking this behavior. And congrats to your son too. Hope his legs feel better soon.
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Post by Country Ham on Oct 18, 2015 19:51:58 GMT
I don't know that what she posted was in poor taste at all though. My kids don't participate in those sorts of competition but what I read is that you posted a generic post about what a great invite to end a great season. She replied back something like "yes it was, "bobby" got a personal best today of ______". Seems OK to me. I don't have a history with her though.
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Post by stingfan on Oct 18, 2015 21:22:11 GMT
Did anyone else comment on the post? If not, I might be inclined to delete the whole post, write a new one, and set it to not be view-able by her.
And do you really want to be FB friends with this person? Doesn't sound like you really like her much. I'd probably not un-friend her though, just block her from seeing any of my future posts.
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Post by pierkiss on Oct 18, 2015 21:41:10 GMT
You mean that David's mom lists David's time on your a post with your sons photo? That is tacky. Also, take a deep breath and delete it or hide her. I don't FB but can't you ignore or hide her posts? Yes, she did. I found it so odd, that she would do that when I never mentioned DS's time. I am not on Facebook very often, but do post occasionally, so I was wondering if this is the norm. Delete her comment and move on. If she asks just say you don't like to get into details about kids on facebook. |
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Post by peabay on Oct 18, 2015 21:49:32 GMT
I wouldn't delete it. I'd let everyone see what an asshole she is.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2015 21:53:57 GMT
I don't even delete insulting (yup had a friend with a differing political belief call me all sorts of names) comments because that doesn't make them go away and you never know when you might need that information for whatever reason. But yeah, those comments say loads more about the other person than me. If you want sunshine and unicorns, that is what works for me! It's your Facebook page. You control what you want on your feed. If you want competitive people-great! If you want like-minded people-that's cool, too. If you want to be pissed off constantly-you control that as well. It's your page for your entertainment. The only issue I can personally see with this line of thinking is very rarely can people do it with a black and white decisive approach and this thread is an example of that. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 19, 2015 7:01:31 GMT
Mom here may just have needed to say what she said. Mom also may choose to filter her Facebook. It also may be really difficult for her to block people. I hadn't thought of that before, but blocking someone like the other mother might make things difficult for the kids.
I keep my Facebook as my own personal thing with my hobbies. Each person approaches it differently and what is right for me, might be totally wrong for them.
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I've done it to half of my ILs already, as I was tired of their passive aggressive posts about my life choices for myself and my DD.
