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Post by threegirls on Nov 3, 2015 13:35:38 GMT
People only use the front door. I wouldn't open the back door if someone was there (unless it was a neighbor).
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2015 13:37:05 GMT
Wow, I have never heard of such a thing--ever. We have owned and lived in 4 different homes over 26 years, and never has anyone ever used a back door (in SC, TX, or NC). Our current home has 4 doors--the front door and 3 doors on the back of the house. We also have a door from one of the garages but people couldn't get to that because the garage doors are always closed. The front door is on the first level but walk across that room and you are then on the 2nd level because we are built on a hill. We have a walkout basement that has two doors from different rooms that lead outside. Then the 3rd back door is up the deck that leads into the same room as the front door. To get to any of the back doors, you have to walk down another driveway by another garage, through our fenced in yard, and then choose which of the 3 doors you would knock on. I wouldn't hear you at any of them except the one off the deck.
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Post by MsKnit on Nov 3, 2015 13:41:50 GMT
People who know us use the back door. If there is a knock on the front door, it's a stranger and rarely gets answered.
Growing up, we always used back or side doors, because we knew where the owner of the house preferred us to knock.
Usually, if it's someone new, they tell us which door to use. There is a certain amount of come through the garage houses.
Personally, we don't use the front door because it is a PITA. It's an old, heavy door. Sometimes it swells and sticks. One of the joys of an old house. Plus, when the boxelders are bad, a number of them will fall down on your head. Yuck! There's no spraying for them. The like maple trees and we are surrounded by them. Oddly, they like the front of the house, because they all stay there. I think they mustn't like brick, as the back is completely brick. The front of the house is not.
MaryAnn mentioned UPS. UPS always leaves packages at our back door. FedEx on the other hand always leaves them at our front door or in front of the garage door. I prefer the packages be left around back.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Nov 3, 2015 13:45:26 GMT
We have a front, back, garage door. People only use the front door. The back door goes to the screened lanai, so they'd have to cut through the grass, into the screen door, by the pool. Just not practical. If someone did that, I'd think it very strange, in deed.
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Post by anonrefugee on Nov 3, 2015 13:46:14 GMT
I'd freak out if someone popped up at my side or back doors. Not even good friends do that. My parents might if they're unloading car, they have keys, but always call first.
Lol I thought people with "good" rooms have them so they can be seen and used at entry- not avoided!
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Post by melanell on Nov 3, 2015 13:49:04 GMT
It all depends on the set-up of the house. Many of the older homes in my town have detached garages set back on the property. So people pull all of the way up to the top of the driveway, and there's the back door, so they use it.  The front door becomes the out of the way door. I knew a kid in school who had furniture against their front door because no one ever used it. They had a house that basically had 2 front doors. One closer to the drive was actually a mudroom that opened to the kitchen, but there was a door on the front and back of that mudroom addition, so as you looked at the home from the road, you saw 2 front doors. They used to call the mudroom doors the front back door and the back back door.  I can actually think of a lot of people around here who have 2 fronts doors. In those cases I think the one closer to the sidewalk or drive is what get used, whether it's the formal entry or not. One house had doors that butted up to one another. You got on the porch and there were double front doors, but then on the adjacent wall was a single door. You'd ring the bell and sit there wondering what door would be opened.  Our back door is a pain to access from the driveway, so it's exceedingly rare that someone comes to the back door. I think I can only recall it happening once, and it was someone who knew us well. When we didn't answer the front door, they came around thinking that maybe we didn't hear their knock.
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Post by moodyblue on Nov 3, 2015 13:55:50 GMT
People only use our front door. It's closest to the driveway, and has a sidewalk directly to it. To get to the back door you have to walk through the side yard to go around the house. The only time anyone comes to the back door is if it's the neighbor's coming over for a gathering that will be on the screen porch in back - and they come through the back yards to get there.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2015 14:00:55 GMT
The way our house is situated, we have a front door and a side door that we call the back door. Both are accessible from the driveway. The side door is behind the fence and is pretty much only used to let the dog out or to take trash out. All visitors come to the front door.
In previous houses, the back door was pretty much only used by family and closest friends. If there's a knock on a door, odds are we are not expecting you.
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Post by jackie on Nov 3, 2015 14:05:39 GMT
We are a back door house. It's that way by design. If someone comes to our front door, I know they are a salesperson or someone who doesn't know us well. But our set-up is not ideal and is very back-door encouraging. We have a somewhat long driveway that goes into a good-sized turnaround at the back of the house. People who come usually go to the end of the driveway and park in the turnaround. Or, if it's a parent dropping their kid off, they go back to the turnaround to drop and turn their car around. Once you are in the turnaround, there are a couple steps down to our patio and the sliding door to the family room is right there. Almost everyone enters there. They can also go up about five steps to our deck from the patio and enter at the sliding door that goes into our dining room/kitchen area. A few do that.
To go to the front door, they would have to walk back up the driveway and cross our grass (there is actually no pathway to the front door--hey, I didn't design the place!). If they come in the front door, they go directly in our living room and off-white carpeting because there is no foyer or tile/wood entryway (again, this is what I was given). So yeah, I do not like it when people come to the front. It's only solicitors and pizza delivery people that do this.
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Post by ~Susan~ on Nov 3, 2015 14:16:29 GMT
If someone came to my back door, they would probably get a gun in their face. The house I live in now, everyone comes to the front door because the other doors are only accessible through the garage or a 6 ft. high gate. The last two houses before this one. Most people came to the side door because it was the one that was the most accessible. I guess it sometimes depends on the design of a house and where it is located. Then sometimes people are just weird, I guess
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Post by bigbundt on Nov 3, 2015 14:18:56 GMT
Most people come through the front door, our back doors are out of the way behind a fence and either on our deck or screened in porch. Friends and family will come through the garage door into the kitchen unless the garage is closed. It actually freaks me out when salespeople ring our garage door bell instead of going around to the front.
In my old house, most people did come to the back because of the way the driveway was set up. The carport was in the back so if someone pulled all the way up, they were pretty much a few steps from the back door rather than having to walk all the way around the house to the front door.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 3, 2015 14:22:30 GMT
Strangers mostly use the front door, but occasionally use the side door as it's right at the end of the driveway. Family & friends all use the side door. It enters into a hallway (bordered by a half-wall to the breakfast room) that serves as an entryway so it's no big deal.
All the other exterior doors would be very awkward for people to get to. There are two glass doors onto a high deck on the back, a slider from the walk-out basement, and a utility room exit door.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2015 14:26:57 GMT
If it makes any difference our driveway does go all the way to the back of our house as we have a large detached garage behind our house, so they walk down the driveway, not in the grass to the back yard. It's hard to say without seeing it. If it were my SIL'S setup and design of house I would go through the front. For another setup I might go through the back. In general I always go to the front, unless the homeowner has asked me to go to another door.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 3, 2015 15:33:45 GMT
We have a front door, a garage service door that is also in the front, a back door that goes directly into our laundry room from the back deck, and a sliding patio door that leads to the back yard (also via that back deck). We also have a door between the house and attached garage. The laundry room door is always locked unless we are actively coming and going doing yard work. The only other people who use the patio door to come in are our next door neighbors, and that's pretty infrequent. That door is also always locked unless we're coming or going in and out to the yard. The garage service door leading to the outside is blocked by a bunch of 5 gallon water bottles. Everyone else uses the front door. We usually come in through the garage. To come in the back patio doors, you would have to walk all the way around the house and through the grass to get there. It's not the most direct route.
All of the outside entry doors to our house have tiled flooring, so no matter which door anyone comes in it's easy to keep the floors pretty clean. I would hate having carpeted entryways.
ETA: No matter which door someone would decide to come to, you will be greeted by two very large, very noisy dogs who will be onto you the minute you come up or into the driveway (or anywhere even close to the property, LOL). No one ever gets even close to the house without setting one or more of them off.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Nov 3, 2015 16:09:40 GMT
that's just odd... I would think the back door (if it gets used by anyone other than family at all) would be for people you're friends with already, as it's less formal.
Sounds like the salesperson was trying to snow you, in my opinion. Do you even have a doorbell or a peephole at your back door?? Why would a stranger go up to a door without a doorbell?? My guess is he was counting on you thinking it was someone you knew so there would be more chance you'd actually open the door... it's easier to ignore someone at the front door and just 'not answer' it like you're not home.
eta: people can only come to our front door, because our back door is behind the gate. But when people do ring the front doorbell, they are greeted by our 'doggy doorbell' of three dogs barking their heads off. We have a locked security door; any sales literature ends up stuck inside the slats on the security door... we typically don't answer the door to salespeople.
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Post by melanell on Nov 3, 2015 16:29:04 GMT
If it makes any difference our driveway does go all the way to the back of our house as we have a large detached garage behind our house, so they walk down the driveway, not in the grass to the back yard. This is exactly why I think it happens. People get out of their car and go to the closest door. If the parking situation places them closer to your back door, then they'll probably use that.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2015 16:34:35 GMT
When we moved into our last home we had only the one obvious front entrance and the garage door which had a door on the side of the house. Most people wouldn't even know about that door because it was tucked in the back, far away from the driveway.
My mom decided to come into the home after we moved in by going to the side of the house entering through the door by the side of the garage, going up a flight of stairs and through our mudroom. And she knocked which left me wondering who the hell was knocking on our mud room door.
I couldn't even contain my WTF face. Here we had an obvious nice grand front entrance and she chose the utility entrance.
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Post by calgal08 on Nov 3, 2015 16:42:15 GMT
Front door only. We have 2 patio doors for our back doors, but, the only way someone could access them is to climb a ladder to our deck, which at the back of the house is probably close to 15-20ft from the ground, then climb over the railing.
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Post by sillyrabbit on Nov 3, 2015 16:43:18 GMT
We are a back door house. We live rurally so there is no street access sidewalk, and we don't have a sidewalk from our driveway to the front door either because we never use it. Even with a sidewalk we wouldn't use it because it is quite a trek to the front of the house, and our parking is much closer to the back door off the patio. Everybody comes to our back door, and it works for us. Now, when I go to other homes, I always use the front door (if it's easily accessible) and will use that until they indicate that the back door is where I should come in.
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Post by cannes on Nov 3, 2015 18:56:25 GMT
We've got a front door, a side door (that is off the driveway, right next to the garage. It leads to the laundry room) and a back door.
Friends and family use the side door. Deliveries, repairmen, solicitors, (people we don't know at all or don't know well) come to the front door.
Very rarely will someone come to the back door (you have to enter our fenced yard to access this door). This only happens when people I know are coming over to look at the animals and they go out to the barn first. They'll then come and knock on the back door since it's the closest one to the barn.
I would not like random strangers entering my yard to knock on the back door.
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Post by femalebusiness on Nov 3, 2015 19:21:54 GMT
No one could get to my backdoor. High fence and locks stop that. Everyone uses my front door, which 99% of the time stands wide open. That salesman is full of crap. He just catches people easier if they think it is someone they know at the back door. I'd put a big Beware of Dog-Use Front Door sign on the backdoor if people keep using it.
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Post by Rhondito on Nov 3, 2015 20:16:35 GMT
My old house had a fenced back yard so no one ever came to the back door. What I did find strange though was if my garage door was open, some people would come into my garage to the door there, rather than to my front door.
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Post by ametallichick on Nov 3, 2015 20:44:32 GMT
I was mainly raised by my grandparents and they had a house with a very visible front door and a side door (although we always referred to it as the back door). People going door to door, mailman, deliveries etc always went to the front door. Only friends and family came to the back door. To the OP, yes, I think it is strange for people to be going to the back door.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Nov 3, 2015 20:52:03 GMT
One of my daughters friends and her mom came to our house for the first time recently and they came to our front door. My daughter and I cracked up about it because NO ONE EVER comes to our front door! 
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Post by eastcoastpea on Nov 3, 2015 21:06:48 GMT
Family and close friends come to the back door. All others knock at the front door.
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Post by mjmone on Nov 4, 2015 0:15:05 GMT
Also back door only. We have a beautiful front door and porch, but the sun comes in through the windows right onto the tv, so we have to 'curtain it off' and for a long time we kept our treadmill there. So, we are one of those, that only strangers try the front door. Back door is accessible to to driveway, and dogs very friendly 
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Post by smokeynspike on Nov 4, 2015 2:08:27 GMT
Front door
I think in the decade that we have lived here only a couple of people have come to the back door. I don't answer either of my doors anyway unless I know that you are coming, so this doesn't bother me.
Melissa
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