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Post by AR Scrapper on Nov 3, 2015 3:25:39 GMT
I couldn't help myself with the title.. sorry if you expected a different kind of post.  My question is if you have both a front door and back door that are easily accessible from your driveway do guests come to your front door or your back door. We just bought a new house and have been shocked at how many people come to our back door rather than our front door. And its not a side door its actually in the back of the house. I would never walk to the back of a persons house to knock on their back door. Is this common or am I just odd. I finally asked the sales person who came to my back door( after I opened the door a crack and said can you please go around to the front door we don't like people using the back door), what about our house made them think to come to our back door rather than the front door? His response was he always goes to peoples back doors because normally they don't like people coming to the front door because it leads to the "good" room and they don't like having people come in that way. I think that is crazy and would much rather someone come into my living room than coming around the back of my house into our laundry room. What say the peas? Did I just move to a strange town or is this the norm? If it makes any difference our driveway does go all the way to the back of our house as we have a large detached garage behind our house, so they walk down the driveway, not in the grass to the back yard. |
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Post by myshelly on Nov 3, 2015 3:31:39 GMT
People only ever come to our back door.
I can't even remember the last time we opened our front door.
Our house is situated so that the driveway and parking is in the rear.
The front door is at the top of a flight of stairs because the house is up on a hill.
Friends and family always come to the back door because that's where the park.
Solicitors skip our house bc they don't want to climb the stairs.
ETA: the back door is inside the fenced in back yard, which we keep locked unless we know someone is coming over. So if someone drops by unexpectedly they have to text us to open the gate. It's nice because in the ten years we've lived here we've gotten maybe five unexpected knocks/doorbell rings.
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Post by scrapsotime on Nov 3, 2015 3:32:12 GMT
We have a front door, a door out the back of the garage and french doors out to the patio. To get to the garage door and the french doors you have go through the fence gate. No one goes to either one of those. If a stranger did I just might be yelling at them to leave before I call 911.
My front door opens to a tiled entryway with a opening to the kitchen on the right and front room straight ahead. I don't buy his reasoning.
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Post by AR Scrapper on Nov 3, 2015 3:36:36 GMT
We have a front door, a door out the back of the garage and french doors out to the patio. To get to the garage door and the french doors you have go through the fence gate. No one goes to either one of those. If a stranger did I just might be yelling at them to leave before I call 911. My front door opens to a tiled entryway with a opening to the kitchen on the right and front room straight ahead. I don't buy his reasoning. I'm glad I'm not alone in my thinking. Our back yard is partially fenced in, but the fence ends on either side of the driveway so you can pull in past the fence and be in our backyard. I just don't understand going into a strangers back yard to knock on the door. My kids play our back all the time and that kinda makes me question the back yard being safer than the front yard if random people feel free to walk into the back yard. |
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Post by AR Scrapper on Nov 3, 2015 3:38:34 GMT
People only ever come to our back door. I can't even remember the last time we opened our front door. Our house is situated so that the driveway and parking is in the rear. The front door is at the top of a flight of stairs because the house is up on a hill. Friends and family always come to the back door because that's where the park. Solicitors skip our house bc they don't want to climb the stairs. ETA: the back door is inside the fenced in back yard, which we keep locked unless we know someone is coming over. So if someone drops by unexpectedly they have to text us to open the gate. It's nice because in the ten years we've lived here we've gotten maybe five unexpected knocks/doorbell rings. I've thought about putting a gate across the driveway to keep random people from coming to the back door, but then I would have to get out of the van and open the gate to get to the garage and that sounds like a pain, especially in the winter. |
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Post by myshelly on Nov 3, 2015 3:40:13 GMT
People only ever come to our back door. I can't even remember the last time we opened our front door. Our house is situated so that the driveway and parking is in the rear. The front door is at the top of a flight of stairs because the house is up on a hill. Friends and family always come to the back door because that's where the park. Solicitors skip our house bc they don't want to climb the stairs. ETA: the back door is inside the fenced in back yard, which we keep locked unless we know someone is coming over. So if someone drops by unexpectedly they have to text us to open the gate. It's nice because in the ten years we've lived here we've gotten maybe five unexpected knocks/doorbell rings. I've thought about putting a gate across the driveway to keep random people from coming to the back door, but then I would have to get out of the van and open the gate to get to the garage and that sounds like a pain, especially in the winter. Could you put one that is on a remote control track across the driveway? |
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Post by scrapbookdiva on Nov 3, 2015 3:41:03 GMT
Lol! Thanks for disclaimer.
Happens to us all the time! When we first moved here 20 years ago, I even went so far as making a sign for the back gate that said " please use front door". People used the back door anyway. I don't get it. some of the visitors have said that they are "back door friends." I don't even know what that means! I do know if it's raining and the use the back door, they drip all over my dining room floor instead of the mat at the entryway by the front door.
i use the front door when visiting others.
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Post by AR Scrapper on Nov 3, 2015 3:45:22 GMT
I've thought about putting a gate across the driveway to keep random people from coming to the back door, but then I would have to get out of the van and open the gate to get to the garage and that sounds like a pain, especially in the winter. Could you put one that is on a remote control track across the driveway? I thought about that, but I'm not sure how well it would function in our crazy NY winters. I'd be afraid the snow or ice would render it useless and then I wouldn't be able to get into the garage. |
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Post by FurryP on Nov 3, 2015 3:50:50 GMT
Wow... I never heard of such a thing. People only come to our front door, and they would have to jump the fence if they wanted to use the back door.
However, if there was access, I would let my dogs scare them away from the back door (through the glass), if they did that because WHO DOES THAT?!! It's just weird.
We have always had fences blocking access to the back, and at my childhood house, nobody ever came to the side door either.
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Post by stingfan on Nov 3, 2015 3:55:43 GMT
We have two french doors on the side of the house - where you are when you drive up the driveway and park. To get from there to the front door, you have to walk along the front of the house. So I think people are often confused about where they should come in. If I see them coming, I go to the side and let them in. If I don't see them, they usually settle on coming to the front door. UPS/Fedex generally leave things by the side doors. Our back door is up a flight of stairs on the deck, so I don't see anyone using that . |
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Post by RiverIsis on Nov 3, 2015 3:59:03 GMT
My aunt's house is a back door house. My house is a front door house, but my backdoor is in the basement. I think sometimes it just depends on logistics and people thinking you have to be "formal" to go in the front.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Nov 3, 2015 3:59:22 GMT
Everyone uses our front door including us. Our backdoor is only accessed through our fenced yard. This is the first house we've owned without an attached garage. In those houses we always entered through the garage.
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Post by paget on Nov 3, 2015 4:02:20 GMT
I've found my people. Wtf is up with coming to the back door? Ugh. I hate it! And my back door is in my kitchen and it is an all glass door so there is no hiding from the freaks who just pop back there! Come to the front door like a normal person into my entry way/living room that I always keep presentable instead of my probably dirty kitchen!
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Post by paget on Nov 3, 2015 4:03:49 GMT
The thing is it makes no sense to even come to the back. The front door has a cute porch and obviously the front door. You have to walk down my pretty long driveway to get to the back door!
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Post by RiverIsis on Nov 3, 2015 4:27:04 GMT
you could always insist that the door lock is broken and that they need to go around to the other door... after a few times they might get the hint, of course it will take a while to get quotes  |
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Post by anniefb on Nov 3, 2015 4:33:00 GMT
Friends generally come to the back door, salespeople to the front door it's fine with me - saves me unlocking the front door and I'm usually in the kitchen/dining room at the back of the house. |
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Post by marimoose on Nov 3, 2015 4:40:27 GMT
Wow... I never heard of such a thing. People only come to our front door, and they would have to jump the fence if they wanted to use the back door. However, if there was access, I would let my dogs scare them away from the back door (through the glass), if they did that because WHO DOES THAT?!! It's just weird. We have always had fences blocking access to the back, and at my childhood house, nobody ever came to the side door either.  . We even lived in a house when I was a kid that the side door was on the front of the house - it was a corner facing house AND even then, no one came to the side door except friends of ours or my Mom. I find it weird that people woudl go out of their way to go to a backdoor. Honestly, that creeps me out. |
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Post by gorgeouskid on Nov 3, 2015 4:48:52 GMT
We have a front door, a side door, and a back door. I never use the front door- always the side. I don't even know how to unlock the screen door.
Guests who know us, use the side. If someone is coming over for the first time, they'll use the front. Never the back or side, but we have a driveway gate that is always closed.
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Post by STBC on Nov 3, 2015 4:55:59 GMT
Could you put one that is on a remote control track across the driveway? I thought about that, but I'm not sure how well it would function in our crazy NY winters. I'd be afraid the snow or ice would render it useless and then I wouldn't be able to get into the garage. A friend of mine has one. It works fine during the Illinois winter. Growing up, we had a front door and a side door, facing the driveway. Friends and family all used the side door. |
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Post by gmcwife1 on Nov 3, 2015 5:39:00 GMT
Our back door is actually on the side of our house behind a fence. We have never had anyone come to that door. Our front door faces the street and has a walkway to it.
The house we grew up in was a back door house. Everyone used the back door because the driveway and parking was right there. The front door was hidden off to the opposite side.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2015 6:26:53 GMT
I hate back door friends. My back door is the laundry room and it is never clean enough for visitors
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Nov 3, 2015 7:10:47 GMT
Front door house here. If someone came to our backdoor it would startle the shit out of me.
Side note: did you ever notice on a lot of tv shows visitors come in through the back door, which always seems to be in the kitchen.
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Nov 3, 2015 8:02:28 GMT
I have the same situation with courtyard gates, each of which has a door it leads to. What on earth leads people to ignore the double one, the one with the sign, the house number AND the doorbell, in favour of one of the small ones? One of them is obviously a side door which leads to a spare garage, but they still favour tapping on that one before they approach the front one. Strange indeed |
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Post by amom23 on Nov 3, 2015 12:54:17 GMT
Our house is a front door house. It's actually more work to go through the garage door, etc. On a side note, I think it's strange to have a front door then never use it. My MIL house is that way.
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Post by tincin on Nov 3, 2015 12:57:12 GMT
At my house people use the front door. The back door is in the garage and unless I am working outside or in the garage, the garage door is down.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2015 13:06:25 GMT
I couldn't help myself with the title.. sorry if you expected a different kind of post. My question is if you have both a front door and back door that are easily accessible from your driveway do guests come to your front door or your back door. We just bought a new house and have been shocked at how many people come to our back door rather than our front door. And its not a side door its actually in the back of the house. I would never walk to the back of a persons house to knock on their back door. Is this common or am I just odd. I finally asked the sales person who came to my back door( after I opened the door a crack and said can you please go around to the front door we don't like people using the back door), what about our house made them think to come to our back door rather than the front door? His response was he always goes to peoples back doors because normally they don't like people coming to the front door because it leads to the "good" room and they don't like having people come in that way. I think that is crazy and would much rather someone come into my living room than coming around the back of my house into our laundry room. What say the peas? Did I just move to a strange town or is this the norm? If it makes any difference our driveway does go all the way to the back of our house as we have a large detached garage behind our house, so they walk down the driveway, not in the grass to the back yard. YOu found salesmen who know people don't answer the front door but are caught by surprise by a knock at the back and WILL look to see who it is. If your drive is situated so that friends likely park there and you can't see who it is until you open the door, you've set yourself up. I'd figure out a way to fence the yard so the drive is accessible but the door is not. My parents have the same issue. They put a fence on the one side of the drive (not so that blocks the drive) but so a gate can be locked. I'm having a hard time imagining your set up. At my house the garage is in the front so people can park on the drive and come to the front door. To get to my back door you'd have to get a gate open, fight through an overgrowth of rose-of-sharon bushed and hope to not find the dog indicated by the 'beware of dog" sign on the gate. |
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Post by moveablefeast on Nov 3, 2015 13:19:58 GMT
At my in-laws' house, the front door is farther from the parking area than the back door, and you have tromp through the yard to get there. So you would probably automatically go to the back door because it would always look like the back door is the door you're supposed to go to. I've never once in 15 years married into that family gone around to the front door for anything.
I live in an interior unit townhouse backing to woods, so it would take a tremendous amount of work to get to my back door from the outside.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2015 13:24:16 GMT
My back door is not easily accessible, but I think it's weird. Unless you are close friends or family, it might be okay to come to the back.
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Post by littlemama on Nov 3, 2015 13:28:40 GMT
IN the house I grew up in, the back door was on the other side of the gate, so people always used the front door. Every once in a while there would be someone who was bold enough to enter the backyard to knock on that door, but not very often.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2015 13:29:33 GMT
People use both. UPS drops at the back door, because there's a screened porch that's more protected to leave packages. People I don't know always come to the front. Friends usually come to the back. They're equally accessible. Except last winter when we were overwhelmed with snow and couldn't shovel the front walk. We cleared the back steps, so people came in that way.
My office is in the back of the house, and I can see the driveway, so the back door doesn't bother me. In any case, the dog ALWAYS barks loudly at anyone on our property, so I'm never surprised by visitors.
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. We even lived in a house when I was a kid that the side door was on the front of the house - it was a corner facing house AND even then, no one came to the side door except friends of ours or my Mom. I find it weird that people woudl go out of their way to go to a backdoor. Honestly, that creeps me out.
