Judy26
Pearl Clutcher
MOTFY Bitchy Nursemaid
Posts: 2,971
Location: NW PA
Jun 25, 2014 23:50:38 GMT
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Post by Judy26 on Jul 23, 2014 19:42:03 GMT
Absolutely take the new job. But I would definitely send the thong. My only question would be do you wash it first or use the power of aroma to keep you "fresh" in his memory in case the new job doesn't work out!
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Post by LAM88 on Jul 23, 2014 19:52:55 GMT
I absolutely agree with everyone else (except cycworker). For me, the bottom line is that most employers have absolutely zero loyalty to employees. You need to do what is best for your career and your life. Do not have any sort of misplaced loyalty to a job or even just an accepted job offer. They would dump you in a second if someone they liked better came along during that month before you start. But I agree that you are probably burning that bridge. OH WELL. Surprisingly, I agree with you... and in part it's because I agree with you that I'd be reluctant to walk away from the current job to take the better offer. Employers have all the power. They don't NEED to be loyal to us. We need to be loyal to them, or we will get screwed. If this person turns the current offer down, and something goes wrong with the new one, they will be hooped. What if they hate it? What if they aren't any good at it? What if the organization goes belly up?
No... for me, I think it's safer to just stick to the first commitment, work hard, and stay there as long as possible, ideally forever.
But that's me... I value stability over EVERYTHING. I'd rather have a safe, stable, secure job that's totally dull & unrewarding than take a risk on something better that may not work. But there's no more safety or stability in the first job than there is in the second job. IOW, something could just as easily go wrong in the first job and then you'd really be regretting having stuck with it, especially when there was a much better opportunity you turned down. You can't predict the future...you can only go by the information you have today.
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Post by rebelyelle on Jul 23, 2014 20:20:53 GMT
100% agree with UTMR. Totally understandable. And happens all the time. Don't burn professional bridges. You do that, by being professional. Agreed. It happens, and I've been through it. The candidate was very, very professional. She's still within my professional networking circle, so I see her from time to time and think she made the right choice for herself. I'd certainly consider her again if she applied to a future open position. I have to think of it this way - if it were ME, and I acted courteously and respectfully in declining the position, wouldn't I want to be treated with courtesy and respect if in the future my circumstances changed and I wanted to reapply to that company? Burning professional bridges goes both ways.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 23, 2014 20:26:09 GMT
^^^^^Tango1 said my stuff, so I don't have to say it!
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Post by Barbie on Jul 23, 2014 20:58:46 GMT
The OP didn't specify if the second offer came from an interview that occurred before or after the first offer. My guess is, there were lots of interviews, and then the first offer came. Then another company with whom he had interviewed finally came through with an offer. Happens all the time. My SO had several offers coming in over the course of several weeks--some before and some after he had accepted one. But all the interviews occurred before the offer he accepted. Now, there were some other companies who called asking for additional interviews after he accepted another offer, but before the start date. He had to decide if they were worth pursuing or not. He weighed the pros and cons, and decided the offer he had accepted was good enough not to take a chance on the possibility of a different offer, and withdrew himself from consideration.
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