Are you a highly emotional kind of person? Need some help

I'm so sorry honey. Do you feel like you are crying too much or is it because of what your dad said?

Take it easy on yourself. Everyone deals with things in a different way and crying is not wrong. It may be a bit embarrassing to break out into tears at a random moment but I've been there and it too shall pass. And I cry for stupid stuff, I once remember starting to cry when picking up pizzas because dh ordered something i hate...so your crying is definitely warranted, unlike my episode...poor pizza guy, I probably scarred him for life. Hugs!

Well, good news. You are human.
Yep. As humans we have emotions and sometimes when we are sad, we cry.
Sometimes when going through a really rough situation, we cry uncontrollably and at the most inopportune moments or in places we would not like to be crying in.
I cried my way through grocery shopping last night. Luckily the store was not busy and I don't think anyone noticed. I'd rather not have been crying in public, but there it was. What else can you do? When it hits it hits.
I'm sorry for the difficult times you are going through. You are bound to be very sad. All you can do is continue to spend quality time with your mom and tell her that you love her.
My heart goes out to you, but don't feel bad for crying.
Hugs.

Honey, of course you are crying. You're experiencing a thing that is hard and sad and it makes you cry.

Crying is okay. Crying a lot is okay. I would be more surprised if you didn't cry right now.

My question isn't are you crying but are you coping? Can you get out of bed in the morning? Can you go to work? Can you function a while before you fall apart? If so, I would think you are doing okay.

I don't know if your friend is right or not. what I do know is, shame won't help. It will only hurt you. Allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel. I like what moveablefeast asked - are you functioning? You are talking with professionals and here so that's good too. They will let you know if they think you need something else. Bring it up with the hospice worker. They've seen everything.

Grieving looks different for everybody. Me personally, I don't fit the mold of shock-anger-denial-whatever. (Which by the way was intended to be from the standpoint of the dying person, not the people who love them) My grief looks like noboy I've seen or read. I'm probably the opposite of you. I'm seeing more and more sunlight. Yeah There are days there is nothing I can do to get out from under it. I have to ride the wave until it passes. But Even on the darkest days I know the sun will shine again.

So my worries have looked different than yours. Asking myself, begging God to show me if something is wrong with me!! I've been very concerned that I might be subconsciously stuffing things down - thinking I'm ok - and one day a long time from now it's all going to manifest in some ugly way and I will end up in a ditch so deep it will take a crane to pull me out.

I've come to terms that I'm ok where I am - as ok as I can be. My grief just looks different and is right for ME. I process everything and just deal with it differently. Your grief - and what they call pre-grief - is right for YOU.

There are some biblical principles that I've been using that have been helpful to me. I know we don't share the same beliefs at all but the principles are good for anyone. So I'm going to throw them out there. I won't be offended if you tell me to take a hike. I won't even include the verses, just the references in case anyone wants to look them up on their own.

Matthew 6:34 says don't worry about tomorrow because tomorrow has enough trouble of its own.

I held onto that one and still do. It's too easy to fight tomorrow's battle before tomorrow comes. What do I do when this happens and that happens... You know what? Combined with a thousand other things the specter of it is insurmountable. But when you take each thing as it comes, somehow you have the strength to do it. I CAN'T worry about things that aren't on the horizon because it's too overwhelming and I won't be able to do anything. One step at a time. Yes you PREPARE for what can be prepared for. And then deal with it as it comes, not before.

2 Corinthians 10:5 talks about casting down imaginations and taking every thought captive.

Ok so A + B = C. But it we aren't careful, we spin these nightmares in our minds where A + B = C becomes A + B + C + Q+ X+ L+ M+ Z = IMPLOSION. Or EXPLOSION. Or RUNFORYOURLIFE!!!!

Right? We do this in everyday situations. She didn't say hi to me. It means She hates me. So I'm going to hate her too. And we create these entire scenarios which may hold no truth. When truth might be that she didn't see me, she has a headache, she's having a bad day, she is focused on something unrelated to me.

Learn to separate truth out of the exaggerations and lies your mind and circumstances are telling you. You and your mom have had some struggles over the years. For awhile your thoughts may want to settle there. Shut them down. Forgive her if you haven't. Forgive yourself if you haven't. And know that you have loved her well. Let go of regrets. They don't have to own you.

That's just one example but you can take ownership of your thoughts while still allowing yourself to feel the emotions.

I don't know if this will help. I'm tired and this is the best I've got. I've tried not to say anything hurtful and don't think I did. But please forgive me if I overstepped.

Hey look at that!  Usually I'm on my phone and can't do emojis.  Glad to be able to give you a hug!

Thanks yesterday it caught up with me.  I fell asleep on the couch and went to bed at 8:30 but I woke up at 3:00.  I must have drifted back to sleep but I've been up again since 5.  Must break out of this cycle.

The grieving process is not totally defined and just because you jumped to acceptance doesn't mean that you skipped denial and anger, they may come at a later date, or they might not.

There isn't one way to grieve, there isn't a wrong way (some could say that drug/alcohol abuse would be wrong, but who are they to judge) to grieve, and just because you are in one stage now doesn't mean you won't come back to it again.

My family laughs at me because I cry at the drop of a hat. Seriously. Just the way I am.

Unfortunately grief has no time frame and you are grieving for the loss that is to come. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this now but it is the circle of life and even when we know it is happening it still hurts like hell. 

What I remember when my mother was at this stage of her life it was the physical pain that surprised me the most. The heartache and the tears and feeling so so sad where what I expected but the physical pain was something else. 

The tears are normal and they could go on for months - people may not be able to deal with your grief but that it what it is - yours. 

It is unrealistic for you to even think that you will be 'over' this in a matter days - please stop beating yourself up, it is what it is and you will deal with it in your own time. Don't rush things and expect to feel strong all the time. 

For information - my mother passed away in 1989 and to this day I miss her so much and can still be in tears over something that seems trivial at the time. I don't think you really recover from loosing your mother. Hugs to you at this most difficult time. 

Awwww.....((( hugs )))) Please TRY not to be so hard on yourself....it's OKAY that you cry a lot !!!!! So sorry for all you're going through!!!!!!

I was the most emotional one when my brother was dying, and even moreso AFTER ...so I understand how you feel..just let the emotions and tears flow !!! More ((( hugs )))) to you !!!!!

P.S.....I love jenjie's post !!!!