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Post by mikklynn on Nov 14, 2015 19:36:15 GMT
Dear BIL (DH's brother), Thanks for not returning my call from Chicago for 36 hours. I ONLY call you when it's important. I left a message saying I was calling to update about what was happening with DH and his cancer treatment. BIL is my go-to for telling the rest of the family. He knows this. Making calls to their siblings is the ONLY thing I ask of him. Jerk.
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 15, 2015 2:51:34 GMT
OK, now I'm ready to smack DH...I made him a lasagna last week to eat when I was at my retreat. He loves it and I don't make it anymore since I am dairy free.
I made it from scratch. I really didn't have time, but wanted him to have meals ready to go. I made a special trip to the store for the ingredients. He ate two servings. I just found the remainder, four servings, in the refrigerator getting moldy! I TOLD HIM to put it in the freezer if he didn't eat it all.
I got home from my retreat, then my parents spent the night, then we left for Chicago. I didn't see it or I would have put it in the freezer myself.
I know he doesn't understand that he really hurt my feelings by letting it go to waste after I put so much effort into doing something nice for him.
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Post by jenjie on Nov 16, 2015 19:49:01 GMT
I got a sweet "thinking of you" card in the mail today. I wish I knew who sent it so I could thank her. Postmark is from my general vicinity. No return address and she only signed her first name. As far as I can think, the only two people I know would be dh's great aunt, who would sign it "aunt" and a woman I used to teach Sunday school with.
I haven't seen her in a few years except when we ran into each other at the gas station earlier this year. We were happy to see each other and gave each other a big hug. I think she sent me a sympathy card when fred passed.
Do I text her and ask if I have her to thank for the sweet card? Or let it go? If we aren't communicating on a regular basis I will always sign my last name. And oftentimes still will, unless we are BFFs. My name is very popular in my circles.
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Post by jenjie on Nov 16, 2015 19:49:36 GMT
Dear BIL (DH's brother), Thanks for not returning my call from Chicago for 36 hours. I ONLY call you when it's important. I left a message saying I was calling to update about what was happening with DH and his cancer treatment. BIL is my go-to for telling the rest of the family. He knows this. Making calls to their siblings is the ONLY thing I ask of him. Jerk. Is Dh ok mikklynn? Or are there new developments?
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 16, 2015 21:12:24 GMT
Dear BIL (DH's brother), Thanks for not returning my call from Chicago for 36 hours. I ONLY call you when it's important. I left a message saying I was calling to update about what was happening with DH and his cancer treatment. BIL is my go-to for telling the rest of the family. He knows this. Making calls to their siblings is the ONLY thing I ask of him. Jerk. Is Dh ok mikklynn? Or are there new developments? He received his treatment on Thursday, but his CT scan showed a suspicious change in his right lung. There is a slim chance it's due to the virus he had, but more likely it is a growth in the very small tumors in his lung. I like to have BIL tell his siblings before I post it on his CaringBridge site if it's not positive news.
He'll get one more treatment in Chicago, then undergo additional scans to see how things look.
He feels great, so that's good! Thank you for asking.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 16, 2015 22:20:34 GMT
We have cut back on holiday decorating and baking and eating? Why? We all got fat. Also we had to put it all away. Normally Christmas carols start on November 1st. Baking starts in mid November with a light fruit cake (it is goooooooood! I mean really good!) And there's the florentines, mince tarts, butter tarts, Mexican wedding cakes, rum balls, and biscotti and then amassing chocolate for Christmas day (that takes a few days to get organized). Shopping because it's our national pastime and we take it seriously. Then decorating the house and the yard. The lights on the house, reindeer in the garden. (They were replaced last year). We used to have 2 trees. Now we are down to one. DS used to have a tree in his room too so technically we were never really down to one). DS got the Lego advent calendar for his birthday (and money) in October so I was shopping even earlier than that! The food that we consume though. I am not talking Kraft Dinner. And the parties and dinners out. And the annual Mom's Birthday Party which is a cocktail party we have between Christmas and New Year's. Then there's New Year's. And Epiphany which we also celebrated in the past with what? MORE FOOD. It's Ukrainian Christmas that day and we will eat something special that night, too. This year all bets are off with Mom sick. We will take Christmas to her. Our family celebrates Christmas in a big way. I don't believe in the "magic" of it, but I sure as heck will make it great for everyone else who does want to celebrate it. We, too, get the comments why do you do so much? Mostly to keep Mom happy and it's worth it. Aren't you Muslim?
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Post by beachhappy22 on Nov 16, 2015 22:29:49 GMT
Mom-Thanksgiving dinner at 1pm does not work for our family and it never has. You know this. First of all-it is too early. 2nd-your grandchildren like to watch the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade on television and Santa does not show up until the end which would be noon. We live over an hour and a half away. You do the math. We arrived last year as dinner was in progress (grrr....) and I was so tempted to take my family and turn right around. I just don't get it. FYI-we have arranged holiday dinners for years to accommodate anyone working (me included) but for the past several years we have not had that issue. I would love to tell her we are passing this year and staying home but then I would miss out on seeing my family. Edited to add-yes, my kids no longer believe but it is tradition at our house to watch the parade.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Nov 16, 2015 22:59:25 GMT
We have cut back on holiday decorating and baking and eating? Why? We all got fat. Also we had to put it all away. Normally Christmas carols start on November 1st. Baking starts in mid November with a light fruit cake (it is goooooooood! I mean really good!) And there's the florentines, mince tarts, butter tarts, Mexican wedding cakes, rum balls, and biscotti and then amassing chocolate for Christmas day (that takes a few days to get organized). Shopping because it's our national pastime and we take it seriously. Then decorating the house and the yard. The lights on the house, reindeer in the garden. (They were replaced last year). We used to have 2 trees. Now we are down to one. DS used to have a tree in his room too so technically we were never really down to one). DS got the Lego advent calendar for his birthday (and money) in October so I was shopping even earlier than that! The food that we consume though. I am not talking Kraft Dinner. And the parties and dinners out. And the annual Mom's Birthday Party which is a cocktail party we have between Christmas and New Year's. Then there's New Year's. And Epiphany which we also celebrated in the past with what? MORE FOOD. It's Ukrainian Christmas that day and we will eat something special that night, too. This year all bets are off with Mom sick. We will take Christmas to her. Our family celebrates Christmas in a big way. I don't believe in the "magic" of it, but I sure as heck will make it great for everyone else who does want to celebrate it. We, too, get the comments why do you do so much? Mostly to keep Mom happy and it's worth it. Aren't you Muslim? I am but my family is not. I don't have to shun them during their holiday time to make me an asshole, right?
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Post by jenjie on Nov 16, 2015 23:07:40 GMT
Is Dh ok mikklynn? Or are there new developments? He received his treatment on Thursday, but his CT scan showed a suspicious change in his right lung. There is a slim chance it's due to the virus he had, but more likely it is a growth in the very small tumors in his lung. I like to have BIL tell his siblings before I post it on his CaringBridge site if it's not positive news.
He'll get one more treatment in Chicago, then undergo additional scans to see how things look.
He feels great, so that's good! Thank you for asking.
[ Ahhhh in sorry to hear that. I'll be praying. Glad he's feeling good!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 16, 2015 23:46:12 GMT
I am but my family is not. I don't have to shun them during their holiday time to make me an asshole, right? I think more people should Learn to be this accommodating during the holidays! Btw. Am coming to spend the entire holiday season with you. I think you will be able to just float me home. I hope you have a special season with your mother. My husband's mother was on the edge during the holiday season and finally passed on New Year's Eve.
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Post by lesley on Nov 17, 2015 0:00:26 GMT
Dear DH, if you're going to come home for the weekend, and don't tell us until you're only a couple of hours away, then please don't get annoyed when you find out no-one wants to change their plans. We do have a life when you're not here.
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Post by padresfan619 on Nov 17, 2015 0:01:26 GMT
Sigh. I'm behind at work because our purchaser can't get his act in gear and provide me with the products I need to get my work done. I literally spent the last hour and a half of my day twiddling my thumbs and listening to my podcasts because I am all out of inventory. And when I do get my needed supplies in suddenly I will be the one getting hassled about being behind.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Nov 17, 2015 0:11:42 GMT
I am but my family is not. I don't have to shun them during their holiday time to make me an asshole, right? I think more people should Learn to be this accommodating during the holidays! Btw. Am coming to spend the entire holiday season with you. I think you will be able to just float me home! You want my biscotti! Just trust me. It is that good! It is for the 25, 26, and until I make more of it. It is that good! The Christmas cake, though, is to die for. You do want that, too. It's not a fruit cake and it doesn't taste like one either. It just *is*. My mom made it and we tried to make one every 2 years because of the work that goes into it. I buy presents for people. They are holiday presents because they want to celebrate, right? Remember the tv show "Shalom in the home?" I try to live by those words. I don't succeed but I try. The holidays this year will be dicy though. Mom is deteriorating quickly and may not make it to Christmas. That is going to tear me to pieces because I am very close to her. She isn't the same person any longer so that helps, I guess.
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Post by shaniam on Nov 17, 2015 0:18:13 GMT
I am so tired of people asking me to do something for nothing. I seriously got a Facebook message today from someone I haven't talked to in over eight years asking me to design a catalog cover for them. I am so tired of feeling like I am ring taken advantage of. My mom is the worst. Can I make this or that for her to give to whoever or so and so? I'm just tired of it. I really don't want to be a person who will only do something for others if there is something in it for them, but I'm tired of there never being something in it for me.
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Post by scrapbookwriter on Nov 17, 2015 1:30:44 GMT
I am so tired of people asking me to do something for nothing. I seriously got a Facebook message today from someone I haven't talked to in over eight years asking me to design a catalog cover for them. I am so tired of feeling like I am ring taken advantage of. My mom is the worst. Can I make this or that for her to give to whoever or so and so? I'm just tired of it. I really don't want to be a person who will only do something for others if there is something in it for them, but I'm tired of there never being something in it for me. "Sure, I'd love to! 50% down, the balance upon completion. Here are my rates." Creatives (writers, artists, photographers, etc.) are often asked to write, design, photograph "for the exposure." I always say, "People die from exposure."
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