Where do your guests sleep if you don't have a guest room?

If you don't want overnight guests, I suggest that when the last kid moves out, you downsize and buy a house with 1 or 2 bedrooms.

We've never had adult overnight guests at our house.

My kids have sleepovers with their friends. Those are the only overnight guests we have.

I would not (never have, never will) keep a guest room. I want all the rooms in my house to be places that the people who *live* there will use everyday.

Almost always we put them up in one of the very nearby hotels. We pay and I get nothing but genuine thanx in return. I have a welcome basket that I ask to have dropped off in their room when I make the reservation.

When my parents come I make sure they have their favorite breakfast things, fun snacks, magazines, throw blanket, full-sized toiletries, gift cards to local restaurants. All the things they would get in my home. However, I can't give them sleeping arrangements that will work out in any fashion and their old and they love feeling spoiled. They enjoy wine by the pool that I don't have. So, it works.

I am the outlier of five siblings that all live within a two hour drive from each other and our parents. You would think I would get more visitors, but I don't. We are a stopping point for my aunt and uncle on their occasional visits to points south. They appreciate seeing us for dinner, and they head out super early in the morning. When any of my nieces or nephews visit they typically are road tripping and have others with them that, again we can't accommodate. Since its just a pass thru, it is usually only one or two nights. So far all have camped and slept in cars at some point, so a hotel rocks. The one time any sibling visited solo, I stayed in the hotel with her. It was perfect. That leaves one of my nieces that has visited solo twice. My ds sleeps on the couch she sleeps in his loft bed.

I visit them every summer with my ds. We pig pile wherever at each house for several nights.

J

Yeah, and apparently you haven't read all the explanations about the space on this thread but still add your comments.
OP, I cannot see why redirecting your sis to your mom's house is any kind of issue. It was all-around the best option in your case.
I have a very large family and we are spread all over the country. It makes it great for visits, but although sometimes I stay in one of their homes when I travel, I always assume that I will get a nearby hotel if their rooms are otherwise booked. Sometimes they are booked with their returning kids, other times with other visiting family and friends, and other times I know they just need a break and want some space. I like to think we are close enough that I don't question their hosting as they are grownups and can make the decision that is right for them at the time. And seeing that I am also a grownup, I can get a hotel room without getting all uppity about it.

If I didn't give birth to you or you are not married to me,
A motel .

I've never actually had guests stay so it's not something I've had to worry about. All of my family live within 7 minutes of my house (except my mum who is 30 minutes away) and all of my friends live in this city. 

My kids have friends sleep over all the time. They both have queen size beds so their friends sleep with them.

If I did have overnight adult guests then they would sleep in one of the kids beds and that child could sleep on our new queen size sofa bed. I wouldn't put a guest on the sofa bed.



I completely agree with this. Even after having read all the posts and replies.

I think it is funny that when we as women stand up for what we are comfortable with and what we want IN OUR OWN HOUSE, that other women beat us up for it.  You don't want a guest at a specific time, fine, it is your house.  No one should make you feel bad for saying no to something in your OWN HOUSE. 

I don't understand why some if you feel like you need to pay for the motel?

My husband's oldest brother only visits family when he has a place to stay and all the meals PLUS entertainment is provided.

He then goes on very expensive vacation with his friends and seems to have no qualms about paying for those trips.

The boy's friends...the couch, recliner, loveseat, or floor.

Anyone else...local hotel.

We got rid of the guest room for a reason.

Depends on who it is.. .typically older relatives get beds and kids go on floors in sleeping bags or one of the couches... We (mom/dad) usually keep our own room.  

This reminds me of when we used to visit my grandma.  There were SO many of us and she lived in a big old farmhouse, but still didn't have enough bedrooms.. she had these mats (I think she made them) that were like really thick quilts but layered.  They were about an inch or two thick.  We would throw those on the floor (hardwood) and sleep on those.  

Mom, my sister and I would share her old room (the blue room)..mom and I slept on a full or queen bed and my sister would sleep in the crib!! HAHAHA.. until she was probably five years old.. she loved it.

My aunt and uncle slept in the purple room (her old room).. their kids all slept on the floor or in my uncle's room (there were six of them)  

My uncle's room had two queen beds in it and two cousins would share his room in the spare bed. And the rest got the floor or the one couch.  Good times!

Our guest room is gone as we are having another kid but you wouldn't believe the crap I got from people thinking we would bunk our two girls together to preserve the precious guest room. Sorry, not going to give guests, who we might have every 15 months or so, an entire room instead of someone living in the house 365 days a year.

We'll either get a sofabed or a blow up mattress and guests can stay in the bonus room. If that isn't up to their standards, we have hotels in our town. If they plan to stay more than 3 days, I would prefer that they stay in a hotel. I am an introvert and my house is my sanctuary and having guests exhausts me, always being "on" and playing hostess. When I travel to visit family, I prefer to stay in a hotel for the same reason, I need time and space to recharge and I can't do that in someone else's home.

My mom has been fishing for an invite from us to have her stay with us when the baby is born and I'm holding my ground that it isn't happening. She and my dad stayed with us for two weeks after I had my daughter and it was so incredibly stressful for me trying to figure out life with a newborn, breastfeeding, having them always be around, having them be in the way by trying to maintain their lifestyle/routine, I was trying to be "on" and not bitchy (which I did not succeed at BTW), I never rested. I've been getting the guilt trip from my mom this time around but oh well, it just isn't happening.

We don't have a guest room, but my boys just bunk together when we have guests. Growing up, that's what we did. The kids slept on the floor and guests got the beds.

We maybe have guests in the house for 8- 10 nights a year. I really don't want to waste a room for the other 355 days a year for a guest room. All of our rooms are functional all year long. We have a five bedroom home and two sons. The other rooms are an office and scrapbook room. The rooms have wall to wall furniture and the office could hold a blow up mattress if needed. If older guests stay, they get one of my son's rooms. If they are my sons' age, they get a spot on a couch or floor downstairs away from the kitchen and master bedroom.

OP, do your thing. I am guessing your sister would just prefer to stay with you and that is why she was put out.