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Post by Merge on Nov 15, 2015 13:57:17 GMT
We have four bedrooms. Three are occupied and the fourth is DH's office, and too small to hold an air mattress. When people visit, I will kick one or both kids out of their rooms and give the beds to adults. Kids (ours and guests) get air mattresses in the main room. I don't like this, but what are you going to do?
When we visit relatives, I strongly prefer to stay in a hotel. I hate being crammed into a double bed or sharing a pullout or futon with 6'5" DH, and I like having some privacy. But MIL is offended if we don't stay with her. It seems neither hosts or guests can win.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2015 15:25:31 GMT
I personally think there are far better ways to teach a child to have respect for adults and put others' needs ahead of their own than occasionally giving up their bedroom for guests.
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Post by peano on Nov 15, 2015 15:48:44 GMT
I have NEVER seen bemusement used as a synonym for amusement and I live in the US. |
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Post by utmr on Nov 15, 2015 16:05:59 GMT
I hate having house guests. Despise it. That said, if FIL comes to visit, DD2 gives up her bed for the night. Otherwise we offer directions to a hotel.
Several years ago my brother announced that he and his skank-of-the-week were coming to visit (uninvited and unannounced) and would be staying with us. Um, ok. Until he announced they would arrive late Sunday night and leave Tuesday night. I told him that we had work on Monday and they would have to be out of the house by 6:30. He got huffy and told me I could just leave him and this stranger alone in my house all day. Oh hell no. They didn't want to see us, just a free place for some out of town s3x
A hotel is better all around for lots of reasons. If you are generously offered free lodging then you (guest) don't get to complain. The only thing the guest should say is gushing thanks, an insistence on taking the hosts out to dinner, and help with dishes, chores, etc. A nice hostess gift would be nice too.
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Post by peabay on Nov 15, 2015 16:23:43 GMT
OMG yes! I not only had to keep my room clean but my toys were stored in the basement , plus I had to out of my room when a bride was getting her portrait done. My brother never had anybody in his room and got to keep his toys in there. Yikes, that seems a bit extreme. My kids happily slept on the couch on the rare occasion of a guest. It was fun for them. Ditto. My kids never minded and I didn't mind when I was a kid. What - like I was going to make my 76 year old grandmother sleep on a couch? It doesn't happen a lot, but when it does the kids move. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Nov 15, 2015 17:17:00 GMT
I'm going to stand by my WTF? on not kicking the Princes and Princesses out of their beds for a few nights. Good gravy. Yes, it's their house, Which is why they should treat others with respect and courtesy. My nephew has been treated exactly like what you guys are talking about. GOD forbid little lord give up his chair for the 90 yr old grandma. WTH? ah..no. Kids won't die or be damaged for life by giving up their room for few nights. Yea, I get the snooping,that was wrong, but you should have put your stuff away. My girls take their clothes out for the few days, or just go in, and get them, when the guest isn't there. It's been NO big deal. It's been fun for them, like camping out for a few days.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2015 18:37:09 GMT
I'm going to stand by my WTF? on not kicking the Princes and Princesses out of their beds for a few nights. Good gravy. Yes, it's their house, Which is why they should treat others with respect and courtesy. My nephew has been treated exactly like what you guys are talking about. GOD forbid little lord give up his chair for the 90 yr old grandma. WTH? ah..no. Kids won't die or be damaged for life by giving up their room for few nights. Yea, I get the snooping,that was wrong, but you should have put your stuff away. My girls take their clothes out for the few days, or just go in, and get them, when the guest isn't there. It's been NO big deal. It's been fun for them, like camping out for a few days. Yeah, because that is the *only* way to teach that. I'd rather teach respect for his elders on a daily basis than 4 or 5 times a year when we have overnight visitors. For the record, my little "Prince" (  ) who I won't kick out of his room noticed an elderly man get on the train the other day and immediately got up and offered him his seat. What a little brat. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Nov 15, 2015 19:46:09 GMT
Busypea, I'm not talking about your kid. So just relax. But I think with more and more parents, everything revolves around their little princes. What better way then to start at home? and yes every day, but MOST importantly when guests/family are there? Family is everything. All family, not just the little princes.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Nov 15, 2015 20:25:47 GMT
We have a ton of guests as we live far from a huge family. While we do have a guest room, sometimes we have multiple families staying. My kids both have queen bed with a trundle. They love visitors, and really don't mind doubling up - especially if cousins are involved. But it helps that usually they only need to share for a long weekend. They still talk about the first year my daughter had a sizable part in nutcracker and family came out in mass. It was insane. My parents arrived first and scored the guest room. My in laws claimed the downstairs bonus room that had an adjacent bath. Kids gave up their rooms for aunts and uncles - one with an infant. Air mattresses, camping mats, and couches filled the basement. 18 people slept here lots of laughter and good memories!
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) who I won't kick out of his room noticed an elderly man get on the train the other day and immediately got up and offered him his seat. What a little brat. 