Post by RosieKat on Jul 22, 2014 19:03:35 GMT
I don't know if this is just a vent thread or a request for advice.
My kids are about as opposite as you can get. DD is 8.5, DS is nearly 6. Their interests are completely different, their talents are completely different, their personalities are completely different. They are both pretty severely ADHD. DD also has some mental health problems and learning disabilities, and it is possible she will not be able to live fully independently as an adult. DS probably has oppositional defiant disorder, still waiting on the doctor's appointment to begin formal diagnosis. I also suspect that later on he will qualify as gifted, but no matter what, he is very bright. He is also very devious and sneaky. I don't like saying that, but it is true.
I have them in all kinds of camps to keep them busy (and separate). It is almost impossible for me to spend time with them one-on-one if the other one is here. The activities tend to be half day, leaving us with a half day plus much of the evening, since DH doesn't get home until at least 6:30. To add to the fun, every kid on the block recently moved, except for the kid with pretty severe Aspberger's who is fine, but not the greatest mix with my kids. Because of DS's age, he doesn't yet have school friends, and DD's all seem to be on exotic vacations.
We can't go anywhere (or stay at home) without them physically fighting. We live less than a mile from church, where they had VBS this morning. On the way home, they were already hitting each other. I warned them that if it happened again today, they were both banished to their rooms. Guess where they are right now? And to top it off, DD is a big girl (height and weight - truly big boned and muscular) and DS is simply strong, so they can seriously hurt each other. They are only physical like this with each other, and we've even addressed this in family therapy to no avail.
I just don't know what to do. I spend my days wanting to bang MY head against the wall because it's just so miserable. They are both great kids (yes, in spite of my first paragraph!), just not together. But I have no real way to separate them, either. Like I said, I don't know if this is just venting or what, but I had to get it out somewhere. Sorry.
My kids are about as opposite as you can get. DD is 8.5, DS is nearly 6. Their interests are completely different, their talents are completely different, their personalities are completely different. They are both pretty severely ADHD. DD also has some mental health problems and learning disabilities, and it is possible she will not be able to live fully independently as an adult. DS probably has oppositional defiant disorder, still waiting on the doctor's appointment to begin formal diagnosis. I also suspect that later on he will qualify as gifted, but no matter what, he is very bright. He is also very devious and sneaky. I don't like saying that, but it is true.
I have them in all kinds of camps to keep them busy (and separate). It is almost impossible for me to spend time with them one-on-one if the other one is here. The activities tend to be half day, leaving us with a half day plus much of the evening, since DH doesn't get home until at least 6:30. To add to the fun, every kid on the block recently moved, except for the kid with pretty severe Aspberger's who is fine, but not the greatest mix with my kids. Because of DS's age, he doesn't yet have school friends, and DD's all seem to be on exotic vacations.
We can't go anywhere (or stay at home) without them physically fighting. We live less than a mile from church, where they had VBS this morning. On the way home, they were already hitting each other. I warned them that if it happened again today, they were both banished to their rooms. Guess where they are right now? And to top it off, DD is a big girl (height and weight - truly big boned and muscular) and DS is simply strong, so they can seriously hurt each other. They are only physical like this with each other, and we've even addressed this in family therapy to no avail.
I just don't know what to do. I spend my days wanting to bang MY head against the wall because it's just so miserable. They are both great kids (yes, in spite of my first paragraph!), just not together. But I have no real way to separate them, either. Like I said, I don't know if this is just venting or what, but I had to get it out somewhere. Sorry.
