Mystie
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Post by Mystie on Nov 27, 2015 19:08:43 GMT
My husband is not sloppy, but he is very, very basic. Dockers and plaid or polo shirts for work and church, Wranglers and plaid shirts or t-shirts at home. He is not a clotheshorse at all. Nether am I, so we fit together well in our plainness.  But I do feel like it reflects poorly on me if he is not dressed appropriately, which is silly, but I still feel kind of responsible for how he looks. He is good about noticing when things get ragged, and moving them into the "work around the house" pile...and then from there into the "shop rags" pile. |
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Post by georgiapea on Nov 27, 2015 19:11:20 GMT
I would so deep six the tacky clothing, once piece at a time. I have no hesitation about tossing DH's worn out tee shirts that have peeling designs on them, or pants that the hem is frayed. Just shove something into the trash the night before garbage day and he probably won't even realize it's gone. Men are pretty oblivious.
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Post by cyndijane on Nov 27, 2015 19:25:23 GMT
Mine just likes his stuff. The longer he's had it, the more attached he becomes to it. Holes and all. It's just him. I can either nag him *daily* or accept his choices don't reflect on me and go on.
As with most things in our relationship, we agreed early on that I let him do his thing and not let it bother me, and those few times a year when I DO say- you have to wear this, go to this event, etc.- he complies without much fuss. It works for us.
It's one of those areas where I choose to say love is blind!
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Post by leannec on Nov 27, 2015 19:36:53 GMT
Sigh! You are singing the song of my people  Dh is a realtor so he dresses well for work but in his off hours you will find him in faded jeans and old t-shirts  He's all about comfort ... I live in yoga pants so I guess I can't complain |
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Post by Daikon on Nov 27, 2015 19:38:06 GMT
My SO lives in heavy metal tees and camo shorts, complete with a chain on the wallet in the summer, regardless of the occasion. Cooler weather brings out the jeans and black hoodies. His office is casual so no need for other clothing. He is doing some side work right now and he has to wear polos and khakis. I tend not to give him a hard time about his shorts because he has to have all his pants tailored because he has short legs. He does look quite dashing in a suit, and I make sure to get a few pics because it is an exception to his daily clothing.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Nov 27, 2015 20:00:37 GMT
I am sure you are aware of the colour "pylon". It is not a pretty colour by any means. My husband came home with a sweatshirt that colour. His mother asked me if I bought it for him. WTF? It's PYLON. You know, glow in the dark orange? Then it all pilled and he continued to wear it.
He was waiting for me at the airport once in a purple and black striped tshirt that had the hem coming down. I thought I had thrown out all the crap in the house. Apparently I had not.
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Post by krc11 on Nov 27, 2015 20:00:51 GMT
If it helps, mine wears the same old tatty shorts/Tshirts or stained sweatshirts/work pants at home and if I forget to look, he will wear it to the grocery store or running errands. If asked, he thinks I'm crazy that he needs to dress up to go to the grocery store. One day, I will get the gutsy and be ready to leave for the grocery store in no-bra, no makeup, tight/old sweats. I'm not sure he'd get the hint.
He will dress up to go out - usually a Hawaiian shirt (we live in Texas and haven't been to Hawaii for 30 years). And his polos/dress shirts are from almost as long ago. Seriously, I now tell him not to wear the brown striped polo for holidays because it's been in most of the Thanksgiving/Christmas photos for decades. I need to revamp his side of the closet...
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Post by krc11 on Nov 27, 2015 20:02:43 GMT
Oh, I have been known to rip from one hole to another on an old tshirt/sweatshirt and saw, Oh, crap, this ripped completely. Off to the rag bag. I haven't ever seen him retrieve those. But if I just put the holey thing in the rag bag, he would fish it out.
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Nov 27, 2015 20:23:01 GMT
 (sorry it's blurry) my husband is a mechanic...so he is in greasy grubby clothes during his work day when he dresses to go anywhere else he is in jeans - he's a country boy so he isn't wearing silvers or contrast stitching/blingy pocket jeans but instead some wraglers or harley dark wash jeans he wears a harley tshirt most of the time and to dress up he wears button down harley dress shirts (yes, there is such a thing)! he wears boots generally - either redwing or harley he never wears old ratty jeans or anything with stains - his shirts are always ironed and tucked in - even tshirts - with a belt so yes, he dresses nicely just not in uber-stylish clothes or khakis/polos gina |
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Post by Merge on Nov 27, 2015 20:23:22 GMT
Glad to see all my "sisters in law" on this thread. To clarify - I don't care what he wears around the house. Be comfy. I like yoga pants at home, too. But when we're meeting friends at a sit-down restaurant for dinner, or traveling, or going shopping - dude, put on some decent jeans and a polo shirt or casual button down. It won't kill you. I'd like to belong to the "it doesn't reflect on me so whatever" club - but I can't. |
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Post by smartypants71 on Nov 27, 2015 20:28:07 GMT
Mine is the exact opposite. I think I've seen him in a tshirt maybe 5 times in the six years we've been together. It's a bit annoying because sometimes I just want to wear my freaking yoga pants to go to the movies and he's wearing wingtips and a button down shirt. He makes me look like a total slacker sometimes |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 27, 2015 20:38:21 GMT
My husband has the gall to wear jean shorts!  It's generally jeans and t-shirts for him. I'm no better, so I don't judge too harshly.  I could never dictate what he can and cannot wear. I think it's too controlling. I know you are NOT doing that mergeleft. |
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Post by Merge on Nov 27, 2015 20:42:44 GMT
My husband has the gall to wear jean shorts! It's generally jeans and t-shirts for him. I'm no better, so I don't judge too harshly. I could never dictate what he can and cannot wear. I think it's too controlling. I know you are NOT doing that mergeleft. I'm not dictating. I'm just complaining. He's sitting next to me in the same ratty clothes I complained about this morning, so clearly he cares deeply (not) about my objections. |
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Post by polz on Nov 27, 2015 20:49:34 GMT
Mine is a scruffy hobo. We went to a wedding recently and he was going to wear jeans. To be fair, every other wedding we have been to was a jeans wedding, but I could not get him into a suit. He wore chinos and a shirt. Even if we won the lottery, he'd still dress like this. It's how he rolls.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Nov 27, 2015 20:50:59 GMT
My DH wears golf shirts (a lot of times with a logo) in the warmer months with nice dress style shorts with tennis shoes and in the cooler months he wears a golf shirt with a pullover ( a lot of times with a logo too) over that and jeans. Yesterday it was about 60 degrees here and sunny and he had on the golf shirt with *two* pullovers. I would melt away if I dressed as warmly as he does. The majority of the time he also wears a hat too and they all have something on them- either a golf logo or a scuba diving thing or an airplane related thing (guess what his hobbies are). It's not clothes I would prefer that he wear but I'm okay with it bec I'm really thankful that he's my DH and that's the part that matters! (no reflection on any complaining about your DHs, we've just had a really rough few years and I could very well have ended up without him as a my DH so I have a totally different perspective on the clothes he chooses to wear! And he could be wearing ratty, holey clothes and not care at all so there's that too!  ) |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 27, 2015 20:55:32 GMT
Jeans and t's at home. When we head out to home depot, or grocery shopping, doing work at the schools he wears jeans and T's.
When we have an offically school event (play, awards & etc ...) or are going out he wears a dressy pair of pants or nice jeans and button down dress shirt.
He doesn't own any clothes that are icky...well his paint pants/shorts & a couple of t's he wear when he is painting or doing yardwork.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Nov 27, 2015 21:16:10 GMT
Interesting timing. I am starting "operation hipster" on my DH this week. He wears khakis and polos to work every day. Problem is, the are old, like he has had for 3 or 4 years. I will be getting rid of them and replacing with some newer polos.
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Post by SunnySmile on Nov 27, 2015 22:11:50 GMT
My husband loves being comfy and will change from work clothes into pajama bottoms and a t shirt or sweatshirt for being around the house. He wears dockers and long sleeved button down shirts for work. If he has to run an errand, he will change into jeans or khakis and a nicer t shirt or polo. He wears a suit to church. Luckily, this is one battle I have never had to fight.
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Post by theshyone on Nov 27, 2015 23:31:18 GMT
My husbands casual & dress up is jeans & a tshirt. Grrr.
His work clothes I've been known to garbage when he isn't looking. He works in the oilfield and wears regulation overalls that are very hot. His stuff under the overalls is terrible. Uggg.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 27, 2015 23:51:36 GMT
My husbAnd is the exact same way - even the same age. Once a year I go to Nordstrom and buy him new clothes but most of the time he looks like homeless person...
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Post by lisae on Nov 28, 2015 1:56:22 GMT
He has started dressing nicer since he decided he wanted to wear button up shirts for the pocket on the front. He does have these t-shirts he bought with his business name on them that he was wearing every single day and I finally told him - enough! I was sick of those plain white shirts with the blue lettering. So he still wears them occasionally but mostly other shirts now. It also helped when I went through his closet and turned some of his so-so clothes that weren't quite as nice as they once were into everyday stuff. I did the same for myself. What were we saving them for?
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Post by gale w on Nov 28, 2015 2:00:33 GMT
Mine is a farmer and dresses like one. Jeans and a tee shirt (sometimes holey, usually stained) or a flannel plaid shirt. Boots or black chucks on his feet and always a ball cap on his head. He never wears shorts.
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Post by irisheyes on Nov 28, 2015 4:05:32 GMT
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Post by ntsf on Nov 28, 2015 6:19:46 GMT
my dh wears jeans, hiking boots and hemp pull over shirts to work. he wears the worn out hemp shirts...to do grubby work in and on weekends. he wears nylon cargo style pants to go with those. so he actually looks ok on weekends. if we are going out, he always dresses nice..with a blazer. when we go on a cruise, he has his custom tux..still fits into it after 30 yrs...he would never wear a button down shirt at work..a grateful dead t-shirt would fit in more.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Nov 28, 2015 8:08:44 GMT
Mine looks like a vagrant at home. I turn a blind eye, as there are far worse things in life. He has to dress smartly and professionally during the week, so I guess he just likes to do the opposite in his own time. He wears a particular sweat shirt that he must have had for nearly 20 years!
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Post by darkchami on Nov 28, 2015 8:12:26 GMT
I am right there with you. My husband has been known to sigh at me for requesting that he wear a clean shirt with no holes. Oh the horror! Sometimes a clean t-shirt is just too much to ask.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 28, 2015 15:46:20 GMT
Mine wears khakis and collared shirts to work. And that is usually what he wears when we go out. At home and for casual wear it's shorts and t-shirts. He will wear a suit willingly for a formal occasion.
He's not a ball cap guy for which I am grateful. I have no problem with them when they are for a purpose (out in the sun, playing a sport, etc), but I hate them worn all day everyday.
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Post by Zee on Nov 28, 2015 16:22:11 GMT
He dresses fairly nicely for work, and is casual at home, but I pretty much buy everything he wears so it's all ok. I don't allow Dad jeans, white tennis shoes, or anything that remotely suggests middle-aged suburban dork, but he's not 25 or a hipster so I don't buy him anything that would make it look like he's trying too hard, either.
He does tend to wear out cuffs, collars, and hems and not even notice, so I have to suggest that he get rid of things sometimes, but I wouldn't just throw his things away. I wouldn't like it if he did that to me.
I like styles like the Marc Anthony line at Kohls on him, suits him well. Despite the fact that MA looks like an anemic, sleep-deprived vampire, I like his style.
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Post by malibou on Nov 28, 2015 16:25:17 GMT
Phew. Looks like I dodged a bullet. When Dh and I met 25 years ago, it was pretty bad. Since we discussed getting married the night we met, he was comfortable enough to say on the second day of knowing me that he knows he has no fashion sense and if I would help he would be grateful and cooperative. All has been fine since. The only thing he does is show some reluctance to get rid of some things from when he was heavier, like sweaters.
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Post by gale w on Nov 28, 2015 19:19:34 GMT
Mine wears khakis and collared shirts to work. And that is usually what he wears when we go out. At home and for casual wear it's shorts and t-shirts. He will wear a suit willingly for a formal occasion. He's not a ball cap guy for which I am grateful. I have no problem with them when they are for a purpose (out in the sun, playing a sport, etc), but I hate them worn all day everyday. It doesn't bother me because I'm so used to it but I get it. The first time I saw dh (before we were married of course) at a funeral home for a mutual friend, he had no cap on and I didn't even recognize him. lol. He takes it off for church, funerals, and at home but otherwise his noggin is always covered. Thankfully he has a decent one for when he's not working. His work ones are pretty nasty. But the thing that bugs me is that he won't buy or wear a store bought cap. They're all the freebies from farm equipment or seed or fertilizer dealers so they all have logos on them. My sister sent him a nice one from Alaska and it's never been worn. |
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But I do feel like it reflects poorly on me if he is not dressed appropriately, which is silly, but I still feel kind of responsible for how he looks.
I could never dictate what he can and cannot wear. I think it's too controlling.
