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Post by ShesaRenegade on Jul 24, 2014 22:55:19 GMT
I saw this on Pinterest and immediately thought of this thread.
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Post by ladytrisha on Jul 24, 2014 23:12:53 GMT
My Mom's former boss played around with a SYT. So he left his wife and kids and SYT got her Mr. Wonderful.
As years passed, my Mom had to work with SYT who thought she was all that and a box of cookies. She'd come in, take the cash out of the till and off she'd go shopping. I met her at several parties and she was the dumbest ugliest woman - ugly inside too. I honestly think it was the magic hoohah thing because I couldn't figure out what else he saw in her.
He told my Mom years and years later it was the biggest mistake he ever made. He truly regretted it. His old wife had a good life, the kids grew up and she was surrounded by love and grandkids. SYT drove his kids away.
The saddest part was when he was diagnosed with Parkinsons - SYT (by this some more like ROW (really old wench) wouldn't let him quit work until they had $1mil in the bank. Hard to do when she'd swipe all the cash. He cried when my Mom retired as she was his confidant. My parents retired and had a great, not fancy life together. Meanwhile, the business tanked, the business was foreclosed, bankruptcy was filed and parkinsons was worse. So she stuck him in the cheapest, dirtiest convalescent hospital and refused to move him even when his son offered to pay.
The kicker was when he died, she scheduled his funeral for a day the son had to work and wouldn't change it - she's a bitter, rich, ugly hag. His son had a memorial service which was full of love and memories along with friends and family. ROW didn't realize that she couldn't take that away from them.
Karma is patient and most of the time it gets the SYT too!
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Post by mztfied on Jul 24, 2014 23:50:59 GMT
In my age group this is happening so very often. Seems when many men hit 60+ suddenly they are wondering how this happened to them. Where did the good times go? And oh they so want to feel that sweet supple skin again against their own. Ah youth.
Most of the women I know don't come out of this very well off. Several have been left with next to nothing. Many have not worked so are completely adrift financially. And if they get anything in the divorce settlement they have no clue how to preserve it or make it work for them.
Families are fractured. It's just so sad.
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mallie
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Jul 3, 2014 18:13:13 GMT
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Post by mallie on Jul 25, 2014 0:14:32 GMT
In my age group this is happening so very often. Seems when many men hit 60+ suddenly they are wondering how this happened to them. Where did the good times go? And oh they so want to feel that sweet supple skin again against their own. Ah youth. Most of the women I know don't come out of this very well off. Several have been left with next to nothing. Many have not worked so are completely adrift financially. And if they get anything in the divorce settlement they have no clue how to preserve it or make it work for them. I saw this happen so often in my parents' generation. I have a very vivid memory of one of our neighbors -- she came home from spending a week with her parents at Lake George to find that her husband had moved the SYT into their house, changed the locks, and put her clothes and the kids' clothes on the stoop of her parents' home. The house was in his name, she hadn't worked since high school, and he hired a great lawyer and she got nothing. Saw it over and over and over. Saw it so often that even as a child I vowed to never be a SAHW because what I saw made me very aware of how vulnerable and trapped you can be without a financial foundation of your own. In the last 40+ years since I was a child I have watched two more generations go through the same story with the same results. The douchebags are looking to replace their wives with a newer model who doesn't know (or pretends not to care) that they fart in bed or pick their nose or would never change a diaper. And the SYT think they have a magic hooha that will prevent them from ever aging and will be sufficient to keep the guy from getting any older. (I am consistently amazed by the number of young women today who have utter disdain and contempt for older women and think that they will never age or gain weight they can't lose. I admit to smirking when they get a bit older and their "great catch" then trades THEM in for someone even younger.)
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scorpeao
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Jun 25, 2014 21:04:54 GMT
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Post by scorpeao on Jul 25, 2014 3:10:25 GMT
In my age group this is happening so very often. Seems when many men hit 60+ suddenly they are wondering how this happened to them. Where did the good times go? And oh they so want to feel that sweet supple skin again against their own. Ah youth. Most of the women I know don't come out of this very well off. Several have been left with next to nothing. Many have not worked so are completely adrift financially. And if they get anything in the divorce settlement they have no clue how to preserve it or make it work for them. I saw this happen so often in my parents' generation. I have a very vivid memory of one of our neighbors -- she came home from spending a week with her parents at Lake George to find that her husband had moved the SYT into their house, changed the locks, and put her clothes and the kids' clothes on the stoop of her parents' home. The house was in his name, she hadn't worked since high school, and he hired a great lawyer and she got nothing. Saw it over and over and over. Saw it so often that even as a child I vowed to never be a SAHW because what I saw made me very aware of how vulnerable and trapped you can be without a financial foundation of your own. In the last 40+ years since I was a child I have watched two more generations go through the same story with the same results. The douchebags are looking to replace their wives with a newer model who doesn't know (or pretends not to care) that they fart in bed or pick their nose or would never change a diaper. And the SYT think they have a magic hooha that will prevent them from ever aging and will be sufficient to keep the guy from getting any older. (I am consistently amazed by the number of young women today who have utter disdain and contempt for older women and think that they will never age or gain weight they can't lose. I admit to smirking when they get a bit older and their "great catch" then trades THEM in for someone even younger.) Happened to my mom when I was a senior in high school. She hadn't worked in 10 years because she was raising my little sister; her dad was my step dad. He left my mom for another woman, and my mom was screwed. She ended up trying to kill herself. Fun times! It was when the paramedics were working on my mom (I was 17) that I vowed I would NEVER be reliant upon anyone for my financial future; I joined the Army soon after. When I found myself in the same situation 14 years later I had a job that allowed me to take care of myself and my dd.
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Post by roundtwo on Jul 25, 2014 3:42:15 GMT
The stories that have been shared here make me so sad and I really wish it didn't keep happening. So many broken people and families. I know I am one of the lucky ones - I managed to get a great deal with spousal support and his pension and like Karin, I am in a new relationship that is full of love and kindness and respect. I must admit sometimes I feel guilty for how well things turned out.
ShesaRenegade, love that quote!!!!!
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scrapaddie
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Jul 8, 2014 20:17:31 GMT
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Post by scrapaddie on Jul 25, 2014 4:00:01 GMT
Hmmmm.. I got nothing but bills in my divorce.... But I am going tomAfrica and to New Zealand/Australia.... Paid for with no debt!
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Jul 25, 2014 4:00:37 GMT
My mom didn't work and I never wanted to dependent upon someone for money. They didn't divorce until I was out of college and she did just fine. I never wanted to put myself into that position. I need to work. Summer is just enough time off.
Love it!
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anniebygaslight
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Jun 28, 2014 14:08:19 GMT
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 25, 2014 7:09:49 GMT
My very good friend was the *Ann*. Left heart broken and devastated when her sorry excuse of a twat of a husband left her for the Nanny. The Nanny wasted no time in landing him with 3 children. *Ann* eventually married a really lovely bloke she met at the stonemason's yard she went to, to order a headstone for her father's grave. She always says that her Dad arranged this marriage.
Fast forward 12 years, and *Ann* is rolling about laughing at the fact that the Nanny is spitting blood because twat face has left her for a big titted bimbo who works at the gym that he frequents. He has dumped his second family too. Git.
I will never understand what it is that these women see in elderly millionaires, really I won't.
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Post by I-95 on Jul 25, 2014 7:50:58 GMT
Dh and I have had a long and happy marriage (27 years) and I have often joked that it's because I always said if he left me for a SYT he was taking the kids with him. Let the new honey deal with the tantrums, the dirty laundry, the up all night puking, and see how long she sticks around. Meanwhile you could bet I'd be driving the 'wazhiz', taking the kids to WDW on my weekends, spoiling them rotten and sending them back to him and the SYT to discipline and do homework. Reality is a b*tch.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 25, 2014 11:35:57 GMT
Dh and I have had a long and happy marriage (27 years) and I have often joked that it's because I always said if he left me for a SYT he was taking the kids with him. Let the new honey deal with the tantrums, the dirty laundry, the up all night puking, and see how long she sticks around. Meanwhile you could bet I'd be driving the 'wazhiz', taking the kids to WDW on my weekends, spoiling them rotten and sending them back to him and the SYT to discipline and do homework. Reality is a b*tch. Oh, I admit to having a little fun with this over the years...the heading to daddy's house coke or chocolate sundae with hot fudge, whip cream and sprinkles? Sure! Let him deal with the sugar high and the caffeine spins.
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Post by MissBianca on Jul 25, 2014 22:57:37 GMT
Dh and I have had a long and happy marriage (27 years) and I have often joked that it's because I always said if he left me for a SYT he was taking the kids with him. Let the new honey deal with the tantrums, the dirty laundry, the up all night puking, and see how long she sticks around. Meanwhile you could bet I'd be driving the 'wazhiz', taking the kids to WDW on my weekends, spoiling them rotten and sending them back to him and the SYT to discipline and do homework. Reality is a b*tch. LOL this is my friend. They have 11 kids and he was having fling after fling with his new coworkers. Well, my friend was at the park with the kids and her ex showed up with the SYT, not knowing the family would be there. Friend went right up to her and introduced all 11 of the kids to the SYT. She had no clue he had any children, and there was no denying they were his, they all look just like him down to the flaming red hair. SYT took off like she was on fire! Now he's gone to bad mouthing mom to the kids and is making them choose sides, so some live with him and some live with her. Well now the kids are cramping his love life so he's not happy but they won't leave because he's convinced them mom is such a horrible person.
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Post by cecelia on Jul 25, 2014 23:32:27 GMT
LOL this is my friend. They have 11 kids and he was having fling after fling with his new coworkers. Well, my friend was at the park with the kids and her ex showed up with the SYT, not knowing the family would be there. Friend went right up to her and introduced all 11 of the kids to the SYT. She had no clue he had any children, and there was no denying they were his, they all look just like him down to the flaming red hair. SYT took off like she was on fire! My grandmother is nearly 90 and has suddenly started to share some family secrets. She recently shared with us that she discovered my grandfather had a "paramour" in the early 1950s. Never one to back down, she took her 6 young kids and surprised my grandfather and his SYT at their secret rendezvous. She introduced the SYT to my dad, aunts and uncles and handed the baby to the SYT, telling her that the baby still did't sleep all night and she hoped that wouldn't interfere with their nighttime fun. My grandmother turned around and left. Grandpa and the 6 kids beat her home and my grandmother insisted he never strayed again. My cousins, aunts & I were shocked!!!
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allbymyself
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Jun 27, 2014 3:56:48 GMT
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Post by allbymyself on Jul 26, 2014 0:11:14 GMT
I am currently going through all of this. H moved out last year, there was OW, not sure if she is still on the scene but I don't think so. She is 10 years younger than me, petite little thing, loves all the boy stuff such as riding dirt bikes, and and so much fun and very understanding of his marriage difficulties. She told him he should demand I give him more respect!
We have to continue working our business for another two years. In the meantime I am trying very very hard to forge a new life for myself. I didn't realise how much of my life was tied up into pleasing him and making his home life easier.
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