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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2014 23:52:44 GMT
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 24, 2014 23:54:19 GMT
For the record, most men I have gone shopping with anywhere (my dad, my brother, my godfather, my past boyfriends and my husband) there is always a list, a time limit and a mission to complete. In my experience, most men don't like to browse. They like to get in and get out. I have seen more couples look miserable in Ikea than anywhere else.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that because I know I love to browse so if I'm in the mood I better ask my mom or one my girlfriends!
I'm sorry you didn't have an awesome story for us.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 24, 2014 23:54:24 GMT
He doesn't sound like anyone I would want to spend time with...he sounds mean and rude. Anyone who hurts my feelings will be seeing the other side of the door..Buh Bye
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msliz
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Post by msliz on Jul 24, 2014 23:55:51 GMT
I'm not sure if you're entirely enjoying your relationship with this man, but I sure am  Thanks for the play by play! |
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Post by linda~lou on Jul 24, 2014 23:57:21 GMT
Sorry to hear old Darcy has some issues, however it makes for a hilarious story! Sorry it was at your expense. And yeah, boys are dumb!
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Post by molove on Jul 25, 2014 1:05:40 GMT
I'm lost.
So, are you dating this guy? Or want to?
It's a lot of complaining but I can't tell if it's because you actually spent time with him and realized he's a jerk.
Do you have romantic feelings for him and trying to get it to the next level?
It's sounds like you are complaining about him but love every minute. I think.
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Post by phoenixcov on Jul 25, 2014 2:07:12 GMT
You went shopping with a Man? One that you don`t know and haven`t trained for years to shop? Are you mad or just like to walk on the wild side?
Only kidding really. Love your style.
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Post by nepean on Jul 25, 2014 2:17:12 GMT
eta
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 2:26:11 GMT
THis was my ex. Living with that attitude means any time you have issues that make you very angry your frustration/anger it will be laughed off; taken as a joke. He can be mad about things you do and be hurtful to you. But you will never be able to express anger and have it taken as a serious issue that needs to be address and changed. It is a topsy turvy backward communication style that is next to impossible to live with. It took me a long time to realize this is the result of a childhood spent in an abusive family with a mentally ill parent. It isn't the way sane people live.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jul 25, 2014 2:37:45 GMT
I thought Mr. Darcy was looking forward to the IKEA trip just as much as you were. I was hoping to hear about all the fun stuff you two did and that you locked eyes across the table as you shared a plate of Swedish Meatballs...
Maybe he's feeling too attached to you and it's freaking him out. Or, maybe, he's afraid you're too attached and it's freaking him out.
You are right, boys are weird.
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Post by *Scrapper*Stamper* on Jul 25, 2014 2:38:42 GMT
I would so tell him to fuck off THat means my head would spin. No RESPECT no fucking way!!!! I'll be damned if I support myself - figures on the harassment
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Post by pierkiss on Jul 25, 2014 2:57:08 GMT
He kind of sounds like a jerk.  . Sorry. |
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Post by TankTop on Jul 25, 2014 3:17:15 GMT
Sounds like marriage to me.
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Post by scrapaddie on Jul 25, 2014 3:33:31 GMT
Mr Darcy has feet of clay.... No man has the right to be mean/ rude. Not my kind of guy!
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Post by elaine on Jul 25, 2014 4:32:48 GMT
This is SO not the dynamic to base a healthy long-term relationship on. Please take care of your heart.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 5:53:41 GMT
Goodness, and this is putting his best foot forward? I'd drop him so fast it would make his head spin! My antennae is going up and my red flags are waving wildly. This man is NOT Mr. Right. Run away from him quickly! Run far and fast! Just my personal opinion, but I am a survivor of an abusive marriage, and I have a really bad feeling about this one!
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 25, 2014 5:58:29 GMT
I never go shopping with my husband. Ever.
I enjoyed your first date. Looking forward to the next.
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Post by wholarmor on Jul 25, 2014 6:03:53 GMT
Yes, people hurt each others' feelings, and it usually happens with those you care about the most, but really? Aside from the shopping experience(my husband doesn't like to linger in stores), he sounds like a jerk.
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 25, 2014 6:58:42 GMT
IKEA is not for everyone, and you're very brave to go shopping with a new man! I hope you're exaggerating for comedic effect, because otherwise he sounds like a total jerk. Look after yourself, my dear.
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Post by I-95 on Jul 25, 2014 7:59:21 GMT
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Jul 25, 2014 9:27:17 GMT
I missed your first posts so I'm a little lost. If this is a work friend then maybe this love/hate dynamic will work but if it's a romantic relationship it doesn't sound healthy at all.
However, I wouldn't use a trip to IKEA as a basis for determining whether a relationship will succeed or not. That place can be a hell of a strain on any relationship!
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Post by welshjenni on Jul 25, 2014 9:57:47 GMT
My DH would refuse point blank to even go into IKEA... and he walks so much faster than me too.
We rarely shop together - it makes for a quieter life :-)
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Post by stampfox on Jul 25, 2014 10:09:51 GMT
Are you in Houston ?
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Post by oblibby on Jul 25, 2014 10:42:53 GMT
I don't think he sounds bad. Am I correct in thinking he's English? We Brits can have a very dry sense of humour. I have 45 minute rule with shopping. If I haven't got anything in that time, I'm going home. I prefer to be done in 30 minutes  Take a look at my blog to find out what I've been up to |
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Post by hop2 on Jul 25, 2014 11:40:49 GMT
THAT does not get any better. I can attest to it especially now that I have 2 children who are both nearly as tall as him and he has trained them to leave me in the dust while walking and then turn and look back at me with disdain. It is so frustrating. (well DS does slow down (if he remembers) and walk with me because he noticed once how many steps I have to take to keep up with them. He was like "Hey, she's so short that he really does have to take one and a half or two step for each of ours" LOL ) My DH used to walk slower with me, back before we were married and he felt the need to impress me. Then again he slowed down a bit when I was pregnant. But after the kids were born not really at all. And he knows i think that it is so disrespectful. Why does every thing need to be a darned race. Geez, I mean we don't have to stop to smell every rose along the way but we could slow down just enough to realize that there are roses there to be seen!
Ummm FU? Really?
So if it is annoying now then RUN, run like mad, do NOT stop. That attitude does NOT improve for 40 or 50 years, at least. Also wear heavy shoes so if needed you can 'accidentally' kick them in the knees when you finally catch up to slow them down a bit.
Oh and the mall thing. I agree with that too. Frusterates my DD so much. DH will be in and out of the mall in 15 mins. If the suit or shoes fit then he's done no reason to linger. DD has not even started in 15 minutes. Seriously she is still at her first store looking at the racks of stuff she doesn't even intend to buy. I fall somewhere in the middle of the two.
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 25, 2014 11:49:16 GMT
Maybe it's the whole "you can't read tone in text" thing... but he sounds like a douche. I don't know any of the guys in my life who would leave me behind because they walk fast or that would rush me through shopping because they have a time limit. I don't know. From what's been written, I see so many red flags that I don't even know where to begin.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 12:04:56 GMT
Do you seriously want to be with a guy who constantly makes mean comments and hurts your feelings?
Yes people hurt each others feelings all the time but being offered a beer is hardly grounds for being a douche. I think this goes far beyond him being a 'challenge' and if he doesn't care about your feelings now at the start of your relationship (even if that just means being friends)then it's highly unlikely he ever will.
My husband is much taller than me and can walk much faster too, when we're out he goes at my pace, it's just common decency. He also spends a lot of time waiting for me while I browse yarn shops, he never complains or hurries me along. I afford him the same courtesy while he browses gadget shops and game stores.
I agree with Grinningcat that there are a lot of red flags in your post.
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Post by Jubel on Jul 25, 2014 12:09:21 GMT
Do you seriously want to be with a guy who constantly makes mean comments and hurts your feelings? Yes people hurt each others feelings all the time but being offered a beer is hardly grounds for being a douche. I think this goes far beyond him being a 'challenge' and if he doesn't care about your feelings now at the start of your relationship (even if that just means being friends)then it's highly unlikely he ever will. My husband is much taller than me and can walk much faster too, when we're out he goes at my pace, it's just common decency. He also spends a lot of time waiting for me while I browse yarn shops, he never complains or hurries me along. I afford him the same courtesy while he browses gadget shops and game stores. I agree with Grinningcat that there are a lot of red flags in your post.  |
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Post by christine58 on Jul 25, 2014 12:53:23 GMT
Do you seriously want to be with a guy who constantly makes mean comments and hurts your feelings? Yes people hurt each others feelings all the time but being offered a beer is hardly grounds for being a douche. I think this goes far beyond him being a 'challenge' and if he doesn't care about your feelings now at the start of your relationship (even if that just means being friends)then it's highly unlikely he ever will. My husband is much taller than me and can walk much faster too, when we're out he goes at my pace, it's just common decency. He also spends a lot of time waiting for me while I browse yarn shops, he never complains or hurries me along. I afford him the same courtesy while he browses gadget shops and game stores. I agree with Grinningcat that there are a lot of red flags in your post. My point exactly!! |
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Post by Zee on Jul 25, 2014 13:31:33 GMT
I wonder if he's uncomfortable with the thought of this turning romantic, so he's over-doing the jerk schtick? In any case, I'd keep him as an office-only friend and find someone else to go shopping with.
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