peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Jul 25, 2014 14:22:10 GMT
benem, May I ask, I thought it was you.......... What happened with they guy maybe on craigslist or something??? I really don't even know how to describe him..... Was that you? It was on the "other board" so its not like I'm gonna look it up. (and if you don't know what I'm talking about ,,,,, just move on, LOL.. Nothing to see here )
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 14:35:46 GMT
I wonder if he's uncomfortable with the thought of this turning romantic, so he's over-doing the jerk schtick? In any case, I'd keep him as an office-only friend and find someone else to go shopping with. I wondered the same thing.
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Post by triplejscrapper on Jul 25, 2014 19:48:15 GMT
Understatement of the whole flipping year...don't get me started on my latest boy adventure.
Where is the local nunnery at around here? Do they even have nunneries for people such as myself? Can I just enter the witless protection program so I don't ever have to deal with this again? Steph-send me a message please-I think I need what your offering!! Cheaper and a lot less trouble!!!
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Post by phoenixcov on Jul 25, 2014 19:50:00 GMT
There are many varied pitfalls to avoid when dating. Most of which I have blocked from my mind as they are so traumatic. Tread very carefully with your second date young lady and mind the words of an oldie.
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 25, 2014 20:00:17 GMT
Benem, I love this - you made my day! My DH becomes Mr Darcy at IKEA. Heaven forbid I want to look at anything not on the list I no longer even ask him to go to the mall. It's too painful. ETA - I am also 5'-6" tall and DH is 6'-0" tall. You'd think after 35 years he'd know I can't keep up with him. I have been known to just stop and wait for him to realize I am not with him~!
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 25, 2014 20:10:06 GMT
All men are shopping jerks and I married their king.
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oblibby
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Post by oblibby on Jul 25, 2014 20:13:06 GMT
Benem, I can relate to that. Some of the things my (male and female) friends say to me and each other would have a few pearls clutched here, but it's just our way; we all care deeply and are very protective towards each other. If someone not in our friend group said the same things, we'd close ranks and the claws would come out pretty quickly. Take a look at my blog to find out what I've been up to
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Post by kmk1112 on Jul 25, 2014 20:13:25 GMT
Well, yes, having spent many years as a monk might make him behave differently than other men, especially around women. Sounds like an odd duck to me, but if you like him and can take his behavior, enjoy.
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 25, 2014 20:25:17 GMT
My DH loves to shop - for things he wants. He likes grocery stores, you should see the crap in the basket when I go to check out.
But when he has what he wants it's time to go.
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 25, 2014 20:31:16 GMT
I only get to push it through check out and then pay. Not only is he a shopping jerk, he is also cheap.
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Post by Zee on Jul 25, 2014 20:35:12 GMT
Ah, I didn't know he had been outright flirting. I vote for he's just weird then. And next time he wants to take the direct route to Ikea, tell him you'll meet him there. (I can't blame him for wanting to get the hell out of there, though. Ikea is torture to me!)
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Post by Zee on Jul 25, 2014 20:44:52 GMT
Not any more, now I'm in the Philly area. I did use to live in Chicago for a while, years ago before I moved to Iowa, and I have lots of family there so I know just what you're talking about
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Post by Zee on Jul 25, 2014 20:48:24 GMT
And in fact I'll be there in a couple weeks, only staying overnight with my dad before we had back to Iowa for a family reunion/wedding. I'm so dreading the drive. I loathe and despise Chicago traffic, in fact it's one of the reasons we decided we could never live there. And now I'm stuck here on the east coast with way worse traffic. Grrr
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 25, 2014 20:56:52 GMT
And so what are you complaining about. DH bought flooring for the front hall 6 years ago and I am still waiting for him to "put it all together". I would go through your trip to the mall any day if he came home and put it all together.
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Post by chlerbie on Jul 25, 2014 21:20:00 GMT
I just have to say--if you're both irritating each other THAT much over little things like that on the first day you hang out together, I wouldn't consider this something that's going to work out well in the romance department. I love guys who good naturedly rib with me--but none of the stuff that you posted about your day sounds remotely like that was what was happening.
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Post by chlerbie on Jul 25, 2014 21:28:14 GMT
Oh, so this was the SECOND time. Well, then, that makes all the difference in the world.
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Post by judy on Jul 25, 2014 21:30:44 GMT
I didn't read your original post but I'm going back to read it now because I love the play by play. Very fun to read.
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jul 25, 2014 22:04:59 GMT
You unleashed the inner child in me with your post. "We licked." That got a belly laugh out of me.
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jul 25, 2014 22:24:25 GMT
Understatement of the whole flipping year...don't get me started on my latest boy adventure.
Where is the local nunnery at around here? Do they even have nunneries for people such as myself? Can I just enter the witless protection program so I don't ever have to deal with this again? Steph-send me a message please-I think I need what your offering!! Cheaper and a lot less trouble!!!
triplejscrapper, sometimes that does sound a lot easier!
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jul 25, 2014 22:39:11 GMT
I forgot to add that I think it was good that you told the truth about the ice cream on his nose. It will keep him guessing.
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Post by AN on Jul 25, 2014 22:41:40 GMT
This is a coworker, right?
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lindas
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Post by lindas on Jul 25, 2014 23:22:59 GMT
Good grief women, lighten up. She posted an upbeat, funny review of her day for your enjoyment, she isn't asking for opinions if she should continue to interact with the guy or not.
Benem, just from your posts here I get the feeling you're a strong, independent woman who can take care of herself. If you enjoy spending time with Darcy then go for it.
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ingrid
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Post by ingrid on Jul 25, 2014 23:56:49 GMT
Good grief women, lighten up. She posted an upbeat, funny review of her day for your enjoyment, she isn't asking for opinions if she should continue to interact with the guy or not. I think there are people who aren't getting any "enjoyment" out of these posts and see some pretty major red flags, especially since this guy seems to be a co-worker. This isn't a blog about her zany escapades as a single person. It's a forum full of people who historically have had zero problem telling you what their opinion is, whether you ask for it or not.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 0:01:51 GMT
Good grief women, lighten up. She posted an upbeat, funny review of her day for your enjoyment, she isn't asking for opinions if she should continue to interact with the guy or not. I think there are people who aren't getting any "enjoyment" out of these posts and see some pretty major red flags, especially since this guy seems to be a co-worker. This isn't a blog about her zany escapades as a single person. It's a forum full of people who historically have had zero problem telling you what their opinion is, whether you ask for it or not. I love fun and games. But some pretty serious red flags seem to be flying (coworker, mean/hurts her feelings when she's nice, not clear about his intentions, etc.)
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KateMarie
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Post by KateMarie on Jul 26, 2014 0:42:10 GMT
That was entertaining. Benem, I'm sure you can handle yourself and whatever relationship you have with Mr. Darcy. Sounds like a fun, flirty relationship to me.
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*~*amanda*~*
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Post by *~*amanda*~* on Jul 28, 2014 11:54:59 GMT
I agree with the others who he sounds not real nice...sorry. It might just be the way we are reading it. I know not everything comes across as intended here, though.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2014 12:10:30 GMT
Strong, intelligent, independent women have ended up in abusive relationships they can't easily leave wondering how in the world they got there. Mr. Darcy had raised a bunch of red flags for those who have btdt. We recognize the starting gate. But like all other strong, intelligent, independent women who end up committed to abusive men the woman is going to excuse his behaviors. He is so good looking, he has such a heart melting accent, he can be so charming...... I'll over look the hurt and the angst he causes.
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 28, 2014 12:16:16 GMT
Volt, I hope this isn't the case here and that the whole "written word is not showing the reality" thing is at play. It would be very sad.
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Post by peasful1 on Jul 28, 2014 17:17:49 GMT
I believe so many marriages end up in divorce because the couple is fundamentally incompatible. They ignore all of the warning signs. Why? For many reasons. Being in love, thinking something isn't "so" bad. That they'll change. That it's charming.
But then years down the road, that funny trip to ikea isn't so funny anymore because it symbolizes everything that is wrong. He doesn't compromise. He doesn't listen. He doesn't appreciate.
I've been married almost 16 years and I have fewer complaints about my husband than the OP has in this recounting of a trip to a store. This outing and relationship sounds painful to me and no way to spend a day let alone a lifetime.
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