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Post by Merge on Jul 25, 2014 18:10:01 GMT
My oldest sort of "found" her style during 7th grade. She's entering 8th now. Youngest, entering 6th, still prefers plain jeans or shorts and t-shirts. I'll be interested to see if 7th is the magic year for her, too. Honestly, with the oldest, it took a kid at school making a comment about the ratty sweater she was wearing to get her interested in nicer clothes. And then once she got a taste ... well, shopping is her favorite pastime these days. My background is similar to yours. Never quite had the right clothes to fit in growing up, never any name brands. And similarly, now that dd is interested, I'm a little on the indulgent side. Mine is also tall and skinny - maybe you should bring yours to Houston and we'll unleash them at the mall together to see if the fashion bug is catching.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 25, 2014 18:25:44 GMT
That might work. The other issue we have is that the first size she tries on is the size she wants. It doesn't matter if they're too small or too short. She either wears a 4 or a 6 in jeans, depending upon where we buy them, and I never remember what place is what size. So if I give her a 4 at Hollister and they're too small (because she really needs a 6 there), forget it. She's going to say the 4s are fine, no matter what. I have explained to her time and time again that sizes are different everywhere, and she goes with me when I buy clothes and she knows that sometimes I have to get this size and other times I have to get the other size because that's the way it works, but she refuses to budge on this. The funny thing is that I have a boy that is the same way. It doesn't matter if it fits or not, in his mind he is a certain size and if that means singing soprano, he sings soprano. Trying to get him to try on different sizes is like asking him to cut off his right arm with a rusty butter knife. My kids are older, and boys, but at that age they couldn't seem to muster up a care for anything. I was grateful that they wore uniforms to school so that I didn't have to fight with them about at the very least matching. (Although I still do with one, he just doesn't understand the matching rules. LOL) Around the middle of 8th grade they started identifying more with the "big kids" (aka the high school kids) they started paying more attention to what they wore, how clean they were, how they smelled and to name brands. This isn't necessarily a phenomenon exclusive to girls.
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Post by holly on Jul 25, 2014 19:04:32 GMT
My DD is going into 8th grade. She knows all the styles but doesn't always wear them because I can't afford to buy her trendy clothes every 5 minutes. She's pretty good though, she doesn't care about labels on clothes but does on shoes. Shoes either have to be Vans, Toms, Bobs, Bearpaws, Uggs, Converse, Sanuk. Just to name a few. No knockoffs. She only has a few of those, not all. Sandals and flip flops don't matter.
She loves Forever 21. She also likes Kohls. She'll go to Aeropostale but knows she can get more for her money at other places and clothes are more flattering. She's shorter and heavier than your DD so she's more aware of her body and showing skin. She doesn't wear anything too revealing. She wears longer shorts. Almost always wears a tank top under her shirts. She's very modest.
Jeans were hard.We finally found a brand a Kohls that fits her well and looks good on her. So I've stuck with that. When they go on sale I try to buy a couple pairs. She likes yoga pants that flair at the bottom.
That's all I can think of. Good luck!
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Post by Dani-Mani on Jul 25, 2014 19:11:21 GMT
Let her wear what she wants. If it works for her, let her do it as long as it doesn't interfere with a dress code policy. I don't worry about what dd wears. She is a junior and her tastes are different than mine so I just let her pick out stuff. This. I'd also be mortified if I knew my mom was posting pictures of me on the internet, asking others to critique my hair and clothing. She's 13, not 3. If she's not interested in fashion, she's not interested in fashion. Get her some solid colored shirts, some jeans that fit, and all it a day. Not everyone in school is trendy, and they shouldn't have to be. I feel like YOU want her to be trendy, which really isn't allowing her a personality at all.
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Post by hennybutton on Jul 25, 2014 19:41:16 GMT
I just thought of an idea. Does she have a friend she can bring shopping? She might enjoy shopping with a friend more than shopping with mom. Sorry, but it's often true. Teens are often embarrassed shopping with mom. You could handle it a couple of ways. First, you could just give her a list of items she must buy and money with which to buy it. The advantage of this method is that it teaches her how to handle money and lets her see how far (or not far) money will go. Or, you can go along, let the girls have at it while you enjoy a latte, a good book, or your own shopping, and just show up to approve the purchases and pay.
That said, it's possible nothing will work. My son is almost 19, is going into college, and still hates the idea of new clothes. He will not shop.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 0:14:21 GMT
I guess I'll just tell her, "K, you have to have X pairs of pants and X shirts for school. Pick them out." and just go with it as long as they satisfy the dress code. Can you both look at back to school ads on line or store flyers? Not those awful ones that make everyone not model thin feel like a cow or where the girls look like like hoochies.....but your kohls ads or sears etc? That may spark some creative ideas for you both that you can tweak to suit her taste. Maybe she's overwhelmed with the choices out there, I know I am.....but I am a bigger woman and have always been a jeans and tshirt kind of girl anyway......once she has a cute "look" she likes she may be able to better pull outfits together. Also ask someone working the Jrs dept if they'd recommend something that's been selling well....maybe a younger person (no offense mom) would get her in the mood to choose? Another alternative is thrift store shopping. If she is truly a jeans and tshirt girl then you can score BIG TIME there with name brand jeans and cute tees for just a few dollars instead of the ridiculously expensive mall prices. It is wonderful that she's so easy to please and laid back. And low maintenance. My dd is as well (9) although she's just recently been asking about "Justice" clothes. Yikes! If we see them in the thrift stores I may get them...... Good luck and your dd is lovely BTW.
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