Did you have a lot of visitors after baby was born?

With my first we had lots of family visits that day in the hospital. I was a teacher & my principal/boss came to visit. I love that she did, but we had that kind of relationship. I didn't have too many visits once we were home.

With my 2nd he was a month early and had time in the NICU. So hospital visits were not going to happen. Heck, I was a basket case so I even sent my mom & DS1 away because I was such a mess. Once we were home we had some visits, but we kept those to friends dropping off food. I wasn't up for the visit and with DS being a premie whose lungs weren't fully ready at birth, we were told to keep him isolated if we could.

I love hearing how others have lots of visits and people around all the time. But I also cringe because that would have driven me nuts! MIL came when DS1 was born and stayed a week. OMG. I was never so ready for someone to leave!

Nope. My mom came for an hour or two a week after we got home, DH's family visited for a weekend about 3 weeks later, and the ladies from church dropped over and cleaned our house once at about week 2, which was really helpful. My cousin came to help me take babies to dr appointments when I called. But that's it. We didn't have many visitors or help after having new babies. When people did visit, I had to wait on them, make up rooms, cook meals, etc. not enjoyable in my exhausted state.

Interestingly, when I called certain friends and practically begged them to come over (because I was lonely and tired of only being around babies), they told me I should be enjoying being a new mom and they were going to leave me alone to "bond with my babies". Or that I should be happy I'd been so blessed to have 2 babies. I felt abandoned and unable to talk with anyone or do anything since I had 2 newborns and couldn't easily get out. Ended up finding new friends after that.

On the other hand, when a co worker had her baby, her mom came from Romania to help and lived with them 2 years! Taking care of the house and baby. I can't imagine that.

Yes, I had lots of visitors for both of my children.  Mostly coworkers and friends.

I'm cringing for you. Ugh. I would hate that too. I was glad my MIL wasn't really a "kid" person so she gave us our space. My mom was in a nursing home on an Alzheimer's lock down floor so we went to see her when we were up to it. Worked for me, LOL.

When my niece had her first baby, her in-laws came up from four hours away and stayed at their townhouse for two weeks. Would have been nice if they would have helped the new parents AT ALL, but they didn't and in fact expected to be waited on by my niece who had literally just given birth two days prior! Seriously WTH? Who does that? The poor girl was trying to learn how to nurse, the baby wouldn't latch, she was exhausted, her DH was already back to work, and her idiot MIL was asking when she could expect breakfast! Niece called me from her bedroom in tears, saying she felt like a hostage in her own home. All kinds of wrong. I wanted to go over there and throat punch both her in-laws and her DH for allowing them to be such intrusive jerks.

That sounds lovely. What a great memory of that nurse!

I have to keep telling my family that the hospital is not a party center, and although the nurses never say anything, they don't like it.

With my DD, we told everyone that no one was coming to the hospital until she was out of me. I ended up with a sorta scheduled c-section (long story there) so I called family and told them the time I was going back. My parents, DH's dad and new gf, DH's mom, and my sister were all there when I got out of the OR. Baby was in the NICU and they all got to see her before me! No biggie. I got to love on her later. They all came and checked on me in recovery a few at a time. It was actually nice. Then I was there for 3 days after and they came and went from time to time and called first. Once we were home, we made it VERY clear that we wanted no one at the house for 2 weeks minimum. MIL kept trying to come over and we ignored her calls and door knocks. She didn't get it (she still doesn't). It's a good thing that no one was there. Kiddo didn't want to nurse, I was in NO mood to visit with people. After I got off the pain meds and got nursing figured out, I was a much nicer person and was able to actually enjoy the visits of a few hours here and there with people.

This time around (due in March) I plan on doing the same. No one at the house for 2 weeks. Gives us a chance to adjust to life as a family of 4.

I'm fortunate tho- my DH is a SAHD so he's amazing around the house. He lets me chill and do what I need to do. He cooks and cleans for us when I just don't have the energy.

My nurses asked who is allowed and who isn't and they played bouncer if needed.  It was great!

Very few, actually, and that was OK with me. I had a hard time breastfeeding at first and so I spent a lot of time half undressed and not ready for company. It was special the ones who did come. I just wasn't up for much.

I hated hospital visits as I was trying to breastfeed and people would just walk in. Ugh. At least at home I could control where I was and whether I was presentable.

My only birth was a rushed, painful induced labor and eventual c-section and he was 6 weeks early.

We didn't originally want anyone at the hospital until after he was born, but when things went to hell we called our parents. In laws came up immediately and I was so thankful they were there! Ex dh was so overwhelmed with the emergency everything; having them there to settle him was amazing.

He was in NICU for 12 days and we had a lot of family and close friend visitors, but once home we limited who came and went. More due to his health than my want for privacy.

He was born in November and he had some significant breathing and swallowing issues until he had a chance to grow into himself.

By Thanksgiving he was doing really well, so we started having visitors and going out.

Nope.  None, actually.

My best friend visited in the hospital, once.

My mother left before we went home from the hospital, and my ILs didn't come for two weeks.

I'm still a little bitter. No one from work (where I'd worked for 10+ years), no social friends. I guess you realize who your true friends are, then.

I must be the anti anti social freak of nature. We had very few visitors at the hospital. In my circle's norm, it's leave the new parents alone (especially the mom!). Wait until they get home and things are more relaxed. Also, most hospitals now don't allow kids 14 and under.

I think it's probably different because I come from a huge family. There's the brief visits of hello and good bye, an occasional present, or a meal. The thinking is usually they got this. If they don't, they'll give us a call for help. The bigger help was my family taking care of my other kids after I had the second and third babies.