grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Feb 5, 2016 14:37:01 GMT
It has happens and it is so embarrassing. To me, crying in public is one of the worst offenses I can commit and it INFURIATES me. So if I'm mad and I well up for whatever stupid, unacceptable reason my fury will rise to the top and I will get worse. And woe to anyone who tries to "make things better". Back the f*** off and leave me alone... and it takes forever for me to come down off that rage. So it just makes the whole situation worse. I know to remove myself immediately.
I absolutely abhor crying in public. For myself that is. It is a huge sign of weakness for me. And it makes me rage. Other people? Don't have an issue (unless they are faking)... but me? Full on RAGE.
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mallie
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Post by mallie on Feb 5, 2016 14:52:22 GMT
Yes. Or I used to. I posted on another thread a few weeks ago how I stopped myself from doing that. It's possible to overcome if you have to.
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bklyngal62
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Post by bklyngal62 on Feb 5, 2016 14:52:34 GMT
Me and I hate it ! I think sometimes I just cry instead of saying things I'll regret later.
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Nink
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Post by Nink on Feb 5, 2016 14:56:52 GMT
I'm so glad I'm not alone in this. As others have said, I think it's my alternative to saying what I really think at the time, which would probably be an f-bomb filled rage and although it would feel great and be much deserved on the other parties part, not appropriate in the work environment.
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Post by whopea on Feb 5, 2016 15:00:06 GMT
Always. Cry when I'm mad, cry when I'm happy, cry when I laugh, cry when I'm touched. I'm a crier and I can't help it. Annoying a lot of the time! Yes, this is me to a T.
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Post by bluepoprocks on Feb 5, 2016 15:00:40 GMT
Yes I do and I also hate it. I really hate when it happens at work. The last time it happened everyone kept asking what was wrong and every time they did I started crying all over again. It was so frustrating.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2016 15:06:22 GMT
If I'm really angry and frustrated, tears start up. If I'm just pissed, no tears. It's more from frustration than anger. However, if I'm angry, it takes me a while to calm down. It's really bad at the end of the day when I need to sleep. I end up staying up late because I can't wind down. If I get angry in the morning, I have energy for the rest of the day. I can be in a good mood for the rest of the day; I'm just keyed up.
Ever since I stopped engaging the ex in fights, I don't get that angry frustrated cry.
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IAmUnoriginal
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Feb 5, 2016 15:25:27 GMT
If the tears are flowing, someone is about to get their ass handed to them.
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~Susan~
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Post by ~Susan~ on Feb 5, 2016 15:31:09 GMT
Yes, and I absolutely HATE that I do. I think it comes across to others that I am weak. I am not weak. I think I just feel so much more deeply than others and that's how it comes out. If I am furiously mad...pea livid and I am not crying, you better watch out because I am about to go bat shit all over your ass
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Post by genny on Feb 5, 2016 15:39:03 GMT
I do that too and I can't stand it, nor can I control it. When I'm in a confrontational situation and cry from anger or frustration, it makes me feel too emotional and makes me THINK the other person sees it as a sign of weakness.
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Feb 5, 2016 15:54:40 GMT
Yes. When I get to the maddest I can be. It is something about the eyes at their stress point. I asked an eye doctor about it once. He said that when a body gets bad the eyes tense up and they can only take so much tension before tears come out. That usually starts the crying for me. once there are tears I am done.
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bunnylady
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Post by bunnylady on Feb 5, 2016 15:59:47 GMT
Exactly this.
I've found that those words can't ever be taken back so I have to physically remove myself now when I get like that. lol
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azredhead
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Post by azredhead on Feb 5, 2016 16:02:23 GMT
Yes but I try really hard not to let them see me cry. I try to do it after. There are only two people who really do it to me. And it infuriates me too. So I have to walk away. Sometimes it's better because it would be bad It would turn into something I couldn't take back and I can rethink the situation and get control of my emotions. It's helped me a little with Dh's SIL cause she does it as does my mom. My mom would do it on purpose and then get mad when I wouldn't get talk. As I got older she would say. Why don't you talk. I say because You won't like what I have to say it won't be pretty! That usually shuts her up for a while till I can cool off. Our relationships gotten much better as I've gotten better but with SIL it's touch and go she still knows how to push the buttons but I've learned how not to show it. That's the hard part.
I had a boss that did it to me once but we were good friends. She could tell I was upset about something with the other boss. We took it outside and she let me blow off steam.She gave me the same advice .'don't let them see you cry. ' they can see you mad and angry' but don't cry. Later we both went in there and took care of it. I feel for ya!
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ddstratton
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Post by ddstratton on Feb 5, 2016 16:30:27 GMT
Mad or frustrated. Either one will bring on the tears, and just make me angrier or more frustrated. Vicious cycle, that is.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Feb 5, 2016 16:37:14 GMT
no, OP, you're not alone- I hate that crying is my reaction to getting mad, but it is. I don't do it quite so often now as I've gotten older, but yeah...
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Feb 5, 2016 16:39:03 GMT
Yes. When I get to the maddest I can be. It is something about the eyes at their stress point. I asked an eye doctor about it once. He said that when a body gets bad the eyes tense up and they can only take so much tension before tears come out. That usually starts the crying for me. once there are tears I am done. thank you for this explanation! I still don't like that I do it, but it makes it a bit more understandable-- perhaps those of us who do it just tense up more than other people ... ??
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Post by peanuttle on Feb 5, 2016 17:15:41 GMT
I do and I hate it! Especially when it comes to work situations.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2016 17:33:09 GMT
Oh yeah...and sometimes it's just uncontrollable blubbering, especially when DH is involved.
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Post by mcscrapper on Feb 5, 2016 17:36:29 GMT
Always. Cry when I'm mad, cry when I'm happy, cry when I laugh, cry when I'm touched. I'm a crier and I can't help it. Annoying a lot of the time! Yes, this is me to a T. Me too! Most people would never guess this about me either. I've been told that I have a "strong" personality. I think a lot of people that do have stronger personalities are more likely to do this. At least that is what I keep telling myself. I can cry at the drop of a hat over damn near anything if given the right circumstance. I've cried at a soccer match my kid helped win! Not only am I all of the above, I am also a proud crier and frustrated crier. I can sometimes control the mad cry as I've gotten older, it seems my happy or proud cries are harder to control. m
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 5, 2016 17:39:52 GMT
If I am really, really upset I will mad cry. I hate it because it's embarrassing. But with my bipolar, I am usually having a lot of mixed up feelings when I'm angry. It's never usually just anger. I might be feeling depression and sadness and very hopeless by the time I actually lose it.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Feb 5, 2016 17:45:26 GMT
Me! Before DD was born, I NEVER cried. Now - I cry when I am happy, sad, excited, angry, frustrated, etc.
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Post by Jennifer C on Feb 5, 2016 17:55:15 GMT
Wow, it's comforting to see so many of you do it too. I don't do it as much as an adult, but when I was young I did. My older brother loved making me mad so he could laugh at me when I cried, which made me cry more because I was do angry. I have to raise my hand and admit to being with your brother. My sister is a crier. The angrier she got, the more she cried. I used to be on the debate team and wanted to be a lawyer, I don't know how my sister loves me still. The other day I heard her husband tell her Are you crying? There's no crying in political candidate talk. She told him if he wanted to debate to go find me and that I would chew him up and spit him out. I would of, but only because he made my sister cry. Oh how times have changed. Jennifer
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Post by joylynaroundthebnd on Feb 5, 2016 17:58:40 GMT
In the process of that right now. So many things building up and a boss who talks down to me and does not agree with my decisions. Now I am in the break room at lunch in tears.
The fact that I cannot control the tears makes me angry.
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Post by mommaho on Feb 5, 2016 17:59:21 GMT
I'm right there sitting next to you on this. I cry when I get angry but try to walk away before the other person can see me. I guess I just feel like it gives them the upper hand. I also cry over Hallmark commercials, sappy movies, some youtube videos
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Post by papersilly on Feb 5, 2016 18:36:27 GMT
nope. I'm the complete opposite. I get freakishly calm and quiet when I get angry. it gives me time to calm down and process what is making me angry.
one thing I do not do is cry or bawl in public out of anger, shame, or disappointment. that is where the calm comes in. I rarely cry in grief in public either. that is a very private thing for me. however, I will sniffle over a sad movie or at a memory of a loved one who has passed on.
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Feb 5, 2016 18:44:57 GMT
I do this too!
Usually it takes a lot to make me THAT mad but, if things keep building up I explode and the tears start rolling.
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Post by kath323 on Feb 5, 2016 18:55:23 GMT
It is very rare for me to cry at all and only usually happens when I am fearful (think health issues, car accident).
When I get angry, I can be bone-chillingly cold. I don't cry publicly (includes work) and very few people have ever seen me get misty.
My mother is exactly the same. I've never seen her cry-ever (not at a wake, during a movie or at a wedding). Apparently when my brother had open heart surgery at the age of 2, she faced it head on, asked what had to be done and swiftly made sure it happened. According to my dad, she never broke down through the whole ordeal. I'm not sure I would react quite like that in a similar situation, however, but her loving stoicism (as I refer to it) probably makes me prone to not crying, as it never occurred at home.
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Nink
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Post by Nink on Feb 5, 2016 19:05:05 GMT
In the process of that right now. So many things building up and a boss who talks down to me and does not agree with my decisions. Now I am in the break room at lunch in tears. The fact that I cannot control the tears makes me angry. Sorry you're having that kind of day. That was me yesterday and it sucked. Hope you're day gets better. Hugs.
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Post by dillydally on Feb 5, 2016 19:29:31 GMT
Ugh, I do that too. If I'm home, it doesn't bother me nearly as much as if I'm at work - (1) because it seems so unprofessional and weak, and (2) I HATE, HATE, HATE to cry in public (I avoid movies that I know will make me cry)
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georgiapea
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Post by georgiapea on Feb 5, 2016 20:53:11 GMT
No, I just go batshit!
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