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Post by beanbuddymom on Feb 8, 2016 5:59:14 GMT
DD had an all day track event yesterday and we were there all day. They did podium and pics throughout the day. DD had 3 events, and she didn't place in the first or the last one. After the last event DH wanted to go, so we started to leave, I realized we hadn't seen the final results of her 2nd event that ran long and was still going on (others still jumping higher than DD did so it was still going on) she had to leave to go do her 3rd event and then she was done for the day - anyway we forgot to see how she placed in that event after everyone was done - DH said she didn't place but I said I need to see for myself - I ran back into the field house to find them coming down off the podium - we totally missed her podium/ribbon/pics moment. I literally cried right then and there and apologized to DD - DD said it was fine, there were dozens of photographers and the photos would be posted on the track website today.
This morning after we were notified that the photos had been posted I go on the track website with her and they have all the photos up until that last event that ran long, and so no photos of last event and no podium pics of her group.
There were no other moms I know that took pics. She has been looking on the twitter and facebook accounts of the 5 other girls from other schools that were on the podium with her to see if they post pics on there as well as their schools facebook and twitter sites and to no avail nothing as yet.
I finally just now emailed the photographer of the event to see if he had them and asked if he had any left, specifcally of my DD event and asked please would he send the photos to me as I was sick about missing it or if he knew the other photographers could they either ask or forward my info or give me info on them to contact them.
I am sick over it and I am trying to let it go but I know there is someone that was there that took that picture. DD had a big moment and I missed it and I can't make up for that fact that I wasn't there for it, but I hope to goodness someone pulls through and can send me that photo for her wall.
I figure if everyone I tell crosses their fingers for good luck for me it can happen, right? I feel so bad - she says she is fine but I know regardless what she says I want to make that happen for her. I told DH otherwise I am either gathering all those girls at states and making them get up on the podium and recreating the moment, or I am going to start doing some heavy duty photoshop, ha ha.
The irony of it all is earlier in the day when I first saw the podium set up and one of her friends up there placing in another event, I took a quick pic because I knew her mother hadn't made it there and felt bad and wanted to make sure she would have a photo of it and remember telling DH I felt bad her mom wasn't there for that - never realizing what would happen to DD. Weird.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2016 6:09:06 GMT
Oh, I think that has to every parent. Take a photo of the prize. As long as you saw the event , that is what matters
I would stop feeling bad about it because it just make the whole thing worse.
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Post by smginaz Suzy on Feb 8, 2016 6:12:40 GMT
If that takes the prize for worst parent, then the bar is pretty damn low. cut yourself a break-you missed a photo. i know it sucks to not have the kodak moment, but take credit for being there, parenting a great kid, and celebrating her success!
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Post by beanbuddymom on Feb 8, 2016 6:22:58 GMT
Oh, I think that has to every parent. Take a photo of the prize. As long as you saw the event , that is what matters I would stop feeling bad about it because it just make the whole thing worse. You're right, I did see the event itself and she has been very happy about her her results and being able to go to States. I think it's a matter of initially feeling bad I missed the moment but then realizing she didn't care about it as much because she knew she would have a photo of it later, then the reality that wasn't happening either - it was just like a bad spiral - the overall moment of it is great and will remind her of that in the morning as I did today. |
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Post by beanbuddymom on Feb 8, 2016 6:23:39 GMT
If that takes the prize for worst parent, then the bar is pretty damn low. cut yourself a break-you missed a photo. i know it sucks to not have the kodak moment, but take credit for being there, parenting a great kid, and celebrating her success! Thanks you are right, thank you! |
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 8, 2016 6:23:52 GMT
Oh no, I empathise with you, and I know that I would feel exactly the same way you do!! I had to laugh at your comments about recreating the podium moment or Photoshopping, that's something I would do... er, consider... er, joke about doing.  I think it was super thoughtful and considerate of you to take photos of the other girl whose mum wasn't there. I still remember 13 years ago when DD was in her first year of school. I couldn't make it to her very first athletics day due to work, which was really disappointing for me. One of the other mothers, who I didn't even know very well, took lots of photos of all the kids. She got the photos printed and gave me copies of my DD. I was so touched that I cried! I'm sure she thought I was a nutter but I was so touched. I hope that you are able to find photos of your DD on the podium. But if not, don't beat yourself up..... nobody else will mind as much as you do, they probably don't understand why it's so important to you. It's not the end of the world - at least you were there. That's all that your daughter will remember. (((Hugs))) and I totally get it! |
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Post by Basket1lady on Feb 8, 2016 7:37:26 GMT
We all miss photos. It's ok. There will be other podium events. Congratulate yourself for sticking it out for 99% of the meet. Those things are loooong and it's usually cold this time of year.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Feb 8, 2016 8:43:32 GMT
She said it was fine. You may unintentionally be teaching her a different lesson about not letting go of disappointment. Yes it sucks, but in the broader scheme of life is the reaction in proportion to the event?
You sound very upset, and I get that you are disappointed, but think about what you want to teach her. When something does not go your way, pick yourself up, brush it off and move on.
If you happen to find a pic, ok, but if not, that's ok, too. It's ok to forgive yourself, too.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Feb 8, 2016 10:44:11 GMT
It's okay to let it go. (I would be sad too).
Try not to "share" your sadness with dd. You were there! You saw her in her moment of glory.
Take her out for a celebration dinner/snack/ice cream and snap a photo of her there. Also, snap a pic of her at home with her ribbon/award and her winning smile.
All is not lost.
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Post by beanbuddymom on Feb 8, 2016 11:08:26 GMT
It's okay to let it go. (I would be sad too). Try not to "share" your sadness with dd. You were there! You saw her in her moment of glory. Take her out for a celebration dinner/snack/ice cream and snap a photo of her there. Also, snap a pic of her at home with her ribbon/award and her winning smile. All is not lost. Oh yes, got some nice pics of her afterward and definitely staying positive today for her. It's inside that I'm destroyed today because I don't want to her to feed off my sadness for sure! I just felt bad because all her friends were posting their pics. I told her let's focus on states and how fortunate you are to be one of the very few on your team to do that! |
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Post by peabay on Feb 8, 2016 11:36:59 GMT
I've stopped bringing my camera to events because I felt that I spent so much time behind the lens and not embracing and enjoying and experiencing the moment. I haven't once regretted "the picture not taken."
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Post by myboysnme on Feb 8, 2016 13:03:17 GMT
I actually have dreams, as recently as last week, where I am trying to take a picture of my son doing something and the camera won't work. You know how when you are trying to get the flash to go off and it keeps trying to focus? Then in the dream I am looking for the phone to take pictures instead and the battery is dead.
In other words, your scenario is my nightmare. I do know exactly how you feel and you will not rest until you get a photo, no matter how crappy. I have waited at the finish line to get my son crossing the line only to have 6 other runners block my shot. I have snapped them getting on the school bus for the last time only to have someone else block the picture.
And when my son won MVP I wasn't even there. But I did have him pose with the trophy and then set up a vignette with his cleats, jersey and trophy. But it's not the same.
Someone got the shot - one of those other parents got the shot. Find out who they are. Even though they are probably those parents who never take the pics off their phone and don't know how to send it or post it.
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Post by ilikepink on Feb 8, 2016 16:52:13 GMT
We have all missed photos like that - it will be okay.
I always took pictures of all their friends at the sports events, and frequently gave photos to the other moms. In fact, I just threw some out from middle and high school (my boys are 27 and 29, lol)
You saw it - that's what counts. My twins were at two different events at the same school/field - a track meet and baseball game. I went back and forth between them. Don't tell my baseball-playing son that I missed his home run because I was at the track side of the field; he thinks I saw it--I did get a shot of the high-fives after, though.
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Post by beanbuddymom on Feb 8, 2016 18:11:40 GMT
We have all missed photos like that - it will be okay. I always took pictures of all their friends at the sports events, and frequently gave photos to the other moms. In fact, I just threw some out from middle and high school (my boys are 27 and 29, lol) You saw it - that's what counts. My twins were at two different events at the same school/field - a track meet and baseball game. I went back and forth between them. Don't tell my baseball-playing son that I missed his home run because I was at the track side of the field; he thinks I saw it--I did get a shot of the high-fives after, though. I think you are missing my point - I DIDN'T see it. She got a ribbon, was up on the podium, and I missed it completely. Not just the picture but the moment entirely as I was coming back into the field house when they finished the awards and she was walking away. I saw her do the jump that earned her the ribbon but not the actual awarding of it, nor did I even know she was up for it until I came back in. I am fine, I just felt bad mostly that she was standing there facing the crowd and I wasn't standing there. Awkward. But she said it was fine and she didn't even know I was not there until she was walking away and saw me run up, so it was fine. She knows the picture isn't as important as the accomplishment. But honestly since there were two dozen people taking pictures there, SOMEONE has to have the photo so she is considering it a challenge now - and she said 2 of the girls friend requested her on Facebook last night so I guess they are also looking for pics as their parents weren't even there so it's become a mission for the 3 of them now, ha ha. I find it nice that she is friendly with her opponents to the point that she knows them, has seen them at many meets over the last year or so to the point that they are friendly so that makes my heart full and proud as well. She's a great kid and I'm incredibly proud of her. |
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