Post by allbymyself on Jul 26, 2014 23:57:04 GMT
While reading thought the family rules thread, it made me think about how to set up something similar with DD20 and I.
It is just her and I in the house (DH left last year, a whole other story!!). DD left for a year overseas in March but ran out of money and returned in May!!! I enjoyed my quiet time while she was away, but it was still a novelty.
She has gone back to her previous job, but because it is seasonal so doesn't get many hours at the moment. I have kept her board at the previous amount as she is trying to save some money towards replacing her car. I also told her that she would have to pay 10% of the electricity bill, she was welcome to eat/prepare meals from from pantry or eat what I cook, but any extras (biscuits, juice, etc) and personal items were up to her. This part seems to be working out OK, except she does eat a lot of junk stuff, and I've resorted to only having fruit cake in the house so she doesn't eat my chocolate biscuits!
My problem is with chores around the place. She does her own washing, and is supposed to clean her bathroom at least once a week. The battles begin when it's time for dishes, vacuuming and mopping, etc. We have a beautiful black Labrador whose greatest delight is to shake hair over freshly swept white tiles, and she loves to dribble water and then paddle muddy footprints throughout the house! We love her anyway!
i sometimes have to work away from home for a few days, but basically I'm working for our family business at home. If I go away, it's nothing for me to get home and find the floors haven't been done, and there is a pile of dishes to be done. I get fed up with continually asking her to do the dishes or floor and she says she will get to them later, and then later turns into the morning, and then she's late for work,etc,etc. Often I end up doing them myself because I need to use something. If she wants to live like a pig while I'm away, I'm ok with that as long as its clean when I get home.
She says the floor is my job cos it's my dog, but she was as keen to get her as I was. I was trying to get on a more housemate/housemate basis when she got home as opposed to the mother/daughter one but it just doesn't seem to be happening.
I suppose I don't push too much because it is handy having her here when I need to take off for work as I don't have to drive and hour to put the dog into kennels.
Any advice?
It is just her and I in the house (DH left last year, a whole other story!!). DD left for a year overseas in March but ran out of money and returned in May!!! I enjoyed my quiet time while she was away, but it was still a novelty.
She has gone back to her previous job, but because it is seasonal so doesn't get many hours at the moment. I have kept her board at the previous amount as she is trying to save some money towards replacing her car. I also told her that she would have to pay 10% of the electricity bill, she was welcome to eat/prepare meals from from pantry or eat what I cook, but any extras (biscuits, juice, etc) and personal items were up to her. This part seems to be working out OK, except she does eat a lot of junk stuff, and I've resorted to only having fruit cake in the house so she doesn't eat my chocolate biscuits!
My problem is with chores around the place. She does her own washing, and is supposed to clean her bathroom at least once a week. The battles begin when it's time for dishes, vacuuming and mopping, etc. We have a beautiful black Labrador whose greatest delight is to shake hair over freshly swept white tiles, and she loves to dribble water and then paddle muddy footprints throughout the house! We love her anyway!
i sometimes have to work away from home for a few days, but basically I'm working for our family business at home. If I go away, it's nothing for me to get home and find the floors haven't been done, and there is a pile of dishes to be done. I get fed up with continually asking her to do the dishes or floor and she says she will get to them later, and then later turns into the morning, and then she's late for work,etc,etc. Often I end up doing them myself because I need to use something. If she wants to live like a pig while I'm away, I'm ok with that as long as its clean when I get home.
She says the floor is my job cos it's my dog, but she was as keen to get her as I was. I was trying to get on a more housemate/housemate basis when she got home as opposed to the mother/daughter one but it just doesn't seem to be happening.
I suppose I don't push too much because it is handy having her here when I need to take off for work as I don't have to drive and hour to put the dog into kennels.
Any advice?
