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Post by Delta Dawn on Feb 15, 2016 6:33:24 GMT
Update on Tues Feb 16- Well I was up at 5 am with the dog and I didn't think I would get back to sleep. I went to the gym at 7. I did the treadmill for 20 minutes and then did weights. They were hard enough to be challenging and not enough to dislocate anything. Today is Day 1 again. I started on Vyvanase this morning and while I shouldn't feel different yet, I do. I feel more alert and awake. I felt this way before I went to the gym and now I am just "more alert". I will keep my journal up to date with my progress to see how it goes. Wish me luck!
Elannah
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You haven't gone faithfully for about a year. It kills you to put on running shoes and yoga pants and walk on a treadmill for 30 minutes and lift a few weights. You know it's good for you, the gym isn't far from the house, there is always parking somewhere in the lot, you are just a lazy ass and don't go. In the past you were dead serious about the gym. You never missed a single workout, did weights and cardio faithfully about 4x week. You loved going and sweating and were One with the Dao. You worked your ass off, you had a great behind, no fat on your stomach except that which was intended to be there, you looked hot in your Lululemon's and had fancy shoes the whole 9 yards.
Life has changed and one terrible thing happened, then something else is about to happen but not for a month or 3 or 5. What would you do? In the past you got enjoyment out of going. You were faithful completely. Your size 4-6 clothes looked awesome on you. You were the envy of all your friends. You did yoga and pilates and were like a rubber band. But you stopped going.
Do you hold on to the membership or give it up? My GP would like me there 5x week. I know I need to go. Tough love isn't going to get me there. I feel like a total hypocrite because I used to tell people how great I felt. (I did, it was the truth).
Do you keep the membership in hopes of going back or do you quit? Please be honest but gentle.
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Post by its me mg on Feb 15, 2016 6:38:36 GMT
Just wanted to say I'm in the same boat. I want to start again, my brain tells me to but I just won't get off my ass.
I would cancel just on the principal that you know yourself, and you won't go, so why throw away the money? That's not admitting defeat - you can rejoin at any time.
Maybe it's time to try something different?
The gym will happily take your money if you decide you're ready to recommit.
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Post by its me mg on Feb 15, 2016 6:39:47 GMT
and honestly, burn out is real. I used to run miles and miles a day. I can't run around the block now. maybe that's your body's way of telling you to balance yourself this time around.
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Post by alexa11 on Feb 15, 2016 6:54:21 GMT
Keep the membership and GO! Take it day by day and eventually it will become routine again.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Feb 15, 2016 7:10:29 GMT
I have managed to solve my breakfast problem. There is a good shake you can buy that is local to here and it is made with a ton of fruit juice and stuff. It isn't cheap but it's easy to swallow, it's icy cold and tastes good. That was the first thing I needed to work on. Skipping meals has caused me to gain weight as I am hungrier at the wrong times and eat garbage. So the breakfast thing is fixed.
I take care of the house which is good. It is clean, laundry is done, people are fed. The dog is well taken care of. It's me who needs to be taken care of and the only one who can do that is me. None of my BFFs in real life exercise. I am more active than they are. I once had a friend who liked to exercise but she went nuts on me and wanted to go at crazy times and wanted to stay there for hours. That wasn't me so I had to tell her no. That was 5 years ago or more even.
I hate walking to the change room and locking a locker. I hate taking a purse and stuff. It kills me to have to walk the extra 100 feet to the change room to get a locker. Honestly it is easier to throw up than it is to walk that 100 feet. So My purse is a nuisance. Sometimes I just take my license and a $5 and my phone. In and out as quickly as possible. I never saw the gym as a place to enjoy. I saw it as serious work and I needed to just scan my fob and away I went.
I will try and go again tomorrow. I will lay out the clothes I am going to wear and go in the morning maybe. I never have the energy in the AM but tomorrow I may force myself until it becomes a habit again.
I will set my phone alarm to go and make myself do it. I will be glad I went. It's that first step.
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Feb 15, 2016 7:20:27 GMT
I'm right there with you. The hardest part of working out is getting into the car, driving to the gym/Y and actually getting out of my vehicle and going inside. It takes a lot of self-discipline.
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Post by anaterra on Feb 15, 2016 7:28:01 GMT
I am paying for the weight watcher meetings.. not even the cheaper online version... but i havent been since last year...
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Post by Delta Dawn on Feb 15, 2016 7:42:37 GMT
I have to admit something-I used to take a high dose of a medication and the side effects were weird. One was CRAZY amounts of energy. Like you needed to go and do something very physical every day for enough time to burn off that energy. So I did have that working for me for sure. Sometimes it took two long walks i.e. treadmill fast and then a long walk at night to burn the energy.
I am a competitive person with myself and with others. I hate that about me because I need to win even if it's just me. So I constantly had to be better and stronger and faster every week. I did get there and it wasn't hard to get there when you are medication to make you need to be better, stronger and faster. (I have learned to walk away from an argument on precipitation on a rainy day- if someone is convincing me there isn't water falling from the sky but I have a soaking wet umbrella I won't fight that kind of battle any longer. I lose and move on. Do you get my analogy?) I hate having to be right. I hate competing with myself. Who does this? This week I will lose X more pounds and walk 10 extra miles and burn a zillion more calories. BECAUSE. Having a Fitbit didn't help this as it fed the obsession. I had to beat the day before's steps. I needed 10,000 more steps. I followed people on two peas with fitbits and they were getting 25,000 and i was mad at myself for not getting that many. I had to work harder. Faster. Stronger. So I don't wear a Fitbit any longer. Good move, eh? Or maybe not?
Tomorrow is a new day. I will set out for the best.
By the way I have 2 combination locks and 1 pad lock I could use on the lockers at the gym. The tools are there. I just can't make myself.
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Post by gar on Feb 15, 2016 8:58:22 GMT
Nothing will make me go when I don't want to go. I have very brief phases when I will be 'in the zone' and go but rarely - my answer is to find something else. Don't wast your money. Be honest with yourself. It's not giving in or admitting defeat it's being sensible imo. I now do Nordic Walking - boy is that energetic but I go and it's not a struggle to go. Find some other form of exercise I say.
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Post by mrst on Feb 15, 2016 9:26:16 GMT
To me there are two options
Either go 3or4 tmes a week for 2 weeks and see how you feel. It will be hard but don't make any decision until the end of the 2weeks.
Or try something else..swimming...a class at the gym ..a sport?
I can only swim at the moment as I need a new knee, and getting to the pool is the hard part. Once I've been a few times I'm OK but after a break its really hard to start again.
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Post by julieinsweden on Feb 15, 2016 9:35:20 GMT
I would keep the membership and set myself easier goals. Like going once this week. Or trying one new class this week.
I would encourage you to try new things. I finally tried a cross fit class after lots of others. And much to my surprise I love it. Other classes I have a bad tendency to not be bothered with. But Thursday morning I manage to get my butt out of bed for a cross fit class at 06:30.
Start small.
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Post by CeeScraps on Feb 15, 2016 11:49:50 GMT
I'm there too! I do however enjoy the workout.
I had surgery last May, could not walk on my foot at all until the end of July. August came, and I tried. It was way too soon. I went to pt. That helped a lot. I couldn't get my toes to unknot. They were as hard as a rock.
PT was a gift and was wonderful. Then, school started and it was hard to walk all day, but good. It pushed me to get better on my feet. I went to the gym at Christmas. At that time my knee swelled. I went in and got the shots again. That worked.
From there a couple of days laterI found a spot on my scalp. Went to the dermatologist and it was noting. She froze it off. My knee swells again, I'm now at the chiropractor. My hips were out, he aligns them, swelling goes away.
Ok, now ready to go to the gym. I'm feeling good.....................I get sick with a fever/sniffles. I'm now just about at the end of that mess.
Oh, my next upcoming issue in 2 weeks is that I'm having periodontal surgery. I'm falling apart. I just can't pull it together to get to the dang gym.
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Post by missfrenchjessica on Feb 15, 2016 12:08:14 GMT
I would if I thought I'd get there once all the big stresses in my life were over.
I've done the back and forth with the gym a lot. When I get into a routine and go faithfully, I feel great and start to look good.
When I get out of my routine for whatever reason, it feels like it takes an eternity to get it together and go.
Only you know if you'll go back.
I just quit my "fancy" gym and have only the $10/month membership at Planet Fitness. The fancier gym had good classes and nice facilities, but honestly, I wasn't getting there enough to justify the monthly cost. For what I was using the gym for, Planet Fitness will be fine.
I know for me, it needs to be on my "To Do" list. Maybe put it on your daily schedule 2 times this week and go; like it's an appointment with your doctor. Then add another day. Then add another when you're ready to until you get to a point where you're enjoying it again.
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Post by moveablefeast on Feb 15, 2016 12:14:04 GMT
I think trying to jump into going to the gym 5x week is too much. I would start with 2x. 20-30 minutes at a time. You can work up to it from there. Or try something else. Tennis, swimming, cross fit, whatever.
I think you may have to set aside thinking about all those tiny clothes and being the envy of your friends and do what you can do with where you are today.
If you burden yourself with too many expectations it is hard to even start. If you relieve yourself of the expectation and just embrace the process it is so much easier to do one thing good for yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 15, 2016 12:28:57 GMT
I think you need to be kind to yourself and do what you can without thinking you should be doing more, that way lies madness imo. I am the least fit/unfittest (don't know which is right there!) I have ever been in my life, when I'm at home I walk for miles along the river several times a week but here I'm lucky to even get outside. My arse has started a slow descent towards my ankles but I'm trying not to let it bother me too much there is more to life than a pert bottom!
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Post by gsquaredmom on Feb 15, 2016 14:24:41 GMT
You are in a rough place in life. I agree with Lainey. I think you need to be kind to yourself. Do only what you want/ love to do. Exercise might be good for you, and maybe a walk is right for you today. Maybe a light workout at the gym tomorrow. Maybe more another day.
I wish you well
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Post by Loydene on Feb 15, 2016 14:52:01 GMT
Much easier for me to say drop it. But I am one who hated every step in step class, every lift in weight lifting, every single, separate moment of "gyming" -- I won't say AT the gym because I liked talking to the people I met there and I really liked my Russian weight lifter trainer (she is funny as sh!t), but I despise exercise. I don't get the "endorphin's", I don't get the "high", I don't learn to need/want it -- I loathe it from my toes to the tippy top of my head.
I know I "should".
But ... I hate it.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Feb 15, 2016 14:56:05 GMT
I just cancelled my gym membership after not going for a very long time (I think it was almost 2 years). It just doesn't fit my lifestyle anymore. It takes a lot longer to go to the gym than to workout at home, so I have been focusing on what does work for me. I feel a little sad at the loss of the gym membership (not sure why?) but am getting more done here at home than I was at the gym (which was nothing).
That being said, if it is depression or something mood related that is holding you back, I would try going and see how you feel. It might be the boost you need to get back into going regularly and feeling good again.
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Post by katlady on Feb 15, 2016 15:39:35 GMT
I often don't feel like working out, but I talk myself into going. Afterwards I am glad I did. I also changed gyms and found one I really enjoy going to.
Take it slow! Start off a couple of days a week. It may help with some of the stress you are dealing with. And maybe you need a different gym or workout routine.
As for not using the locker room, I often put my keys, Id, money and phone in a little fanny pack. I just carry it around with me and hang it or place by the machine I am using.
You can do this! Ganbatte!
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Post by melissa on Feb 15, 2016 15:42:27 GMT
This happened to me. I struggled greatly with inertia. I went regularly for several years. Part of that was because when my daughter took dance classes locally, the gym was in the same complex. I dropped her off and I worked out. She was dancing 6 days a week, so I went a great deal! Then, she began dancing in NYC and that convenience factor was gone. I kept membership with every intention of going. I went sporadically, but never got back into the regular habit.
I loved that gym too. It had amazing showers (multiple shower heads), was bright and airy, all the equipment you can imagine and many classes. Thought, I do have to say I am a class person and the most convenient class times for me started to be cancelled which did not help me in my quest for regular attendance.
The past year, I kept looking for the next thing, but I just never went. Never tried another gym. Did not go back to ballet class. Nothing. I've gained about 15 lbs. I am at the top of my clothing sizes and I have pants that no longer fit. I am glad I got rid of the size above this, but I wish I had gotten rid of this size too. I will have to this time.
Just last week, I started at a group personal training place, Orange Theory Fitness. It's HIIT. I bought an 8 class a month package. I already signed up for my 8 classes. They are on the calendar, so I have to go. One thing I heard many years ago on the Oprah Winfrey show is that you need to treat exercise like everything else in your life that you normally do. When you wake up in the morning, you know when you are going to brush your teeth, shower, etc. You need to know when you are going to exercise when you open your eyes in the morning. It's the only thing that works for me. I don't love it enough to spontaneously decide to go work out!
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Post by peasapie on Feb 15, 2016 15:49:07 GMT
You have just described my life at least five different times in the past!! I think a lot of gyms get a lot of $$ from people who are in the same boat as you.We exercise a lot and get into the routine, and then for some reason fall away but don't want to give up the gym cause it feels like a total giving in to defeat. So we keep paying to remain a member...
My decision was to quit the gym routine altogether until I got to the point where i was exercising on my own again, walking daily and doing whatever I could that way. And the truth is I haven't joined the gym again, and haven't needed it. So I'm saving money and exercising on my own. Could that work for you, too?
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Post by scrappington on Feb 15, 2016 16:52:56 GMT
You already know once u get to the gym you feel better.
It's getting to the gym
Get off the couch one day and go
It's an escape time. It makes you feel good. Just get there.
If u do really wanna go see if you can book a couple training sessions. Huge motivation to go to keep an appt.
That could start the routine.
If u know it's not in you right now then cancel the membership and figure it out later.
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Post by caspad on Feb 15, 2016 16:57:23 GMT
Maybe start by trying to go 2x a week.
It doesn't have to be all or nothing.
It doesn't have to be 5% body fat or it's not worth it.
I always find that the days I don't feel like going to the gym, I end up having the best workout. I'm always glad I went. It's just hard to get on those shoes and get in the car. Especially when it is -4F!
Maybe try a group class, or download the Nike Training Club app or the TRX app and try a new routine on your own.
Download the Rock My Run app and get some great fun tunes to keep you distracted as you sweat.
As for the purse and changing obstacles...
Bring your workout clothes to work and change before you leave the office.
Lock your purse and coat in the trunk of your car.
Then you only need to bring in your keys and phone and a water bottle.
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Post by littlefish on Feb 16, 2016 3:32:53 GMT
Show up. Commit to that for, let's say, twice a week for this week. Just show up. Do something you like, not something you feel like you should do, then leave.
Showing up is 3/4 of the battle sometimes.
Another way to think about it--most gyms are banking on you NOT showing up. It's where they make most of their $$, is on people who keep but never use their memberships. Prove the bastards wrong and show up.
You can do this.
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Post by crittsmom on Feb 16, 2016 4:13:03 GMT
I would change gyms if there is another one close. I was okay about going but stopped and I just didn't want to go back. I changed to another gym and it has motivated me so much more, plus I love the water aerobics and can't figure out why I didn't do it sooner.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Feb 16, 2016 4:17:38 GMT
I would change gyms if there is another one close. I was okay about going but stopped and I just didn't want to go back. I changed to another gym and it has motivated me so much more, plus I love the water aerobics and can't figure out why I didn't do it sooner. That is an option right there. There is a rec centre right near me with a gym. I could do water aerobics. I tend to pass out after doing water aerobics and I sweat in the water. There is no pain doing them but the workout is really good. I am the first person to admit that. I hate getting my hair wet. It's hard enough washing my hair, but to have to wash it extra because I am in the pool might kill me. (We won't include my GP in this equation because I already know what her opinion would be). I talked to my BFF who is a GP in Eastern Canada and she told me not as my friend, a doctor or anything but as a woman to go. She said I will benefit so much from it. I really wanted to go today. I had it scheduled this morning, but I also was snarling at my friends and family and thought I had better go back to bed before I bite someone. I will try tomorrow and see. I will give it another month and see how it goes. Maybe I will want to go again. I can always hope. |
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Post by chaosisapony on Feb 16, 2016 4:43:46 GMT
I am not made for the gym, it's simply not appealing to me.
Have you considered trying something new to get you motivated? Maybe something goal oriented instead of just shuffling through workout after workout with no end in sight? I know a few people that have had good success by signing up for a 5k and then training for it. You might also try things like martial arts, dance classes (there's a wonderful adult dance program run through the community college here), or swimming. My personal favorite is horseback riding. It takes a lot of effort to tack up and ride a horse and many people, myself included, find horses to be very therapeutic.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Feb 16, 2016 16:16:43 GMT
Update, good but it's only day 1.
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Post by caspad on Feb 16, 2016 17:12:55 GMT
Delta Dawn I was thinking about you when I was in spin class last night you mentioned that you are really competitive what about starting a martial arts program where you can measure your progress through belt tests? You'll be learning new skills instead of relying on metrics like how far/how fast/how many?
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Post by Chips on Feb 16, 2016 17:37:16 GMT
Elannah, so proud of you! Be gentle with yourself, take it slow, listen to your body but also encourage yourself to keep going.
I too go through spurts where I struggle to get my fat ass anywhere! In winter it is so hard because it is so cold, days are short and I just want to hibernate. I always feel better when I get out and exercise.
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