sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Feb 17, 2016 14:33:32 GMT
... what makes you decide whether to answer or not? I rarely do the  smiley, or a similar sentiment, just because everyone else is saying things so well. But when I see more than a page of the same (especially when people are pissed off at the OP), I guess that it's an emotional situation? Or do you think adding the same response will really drive home to the OP the 'rightness' of the majority? |
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Post by JustTricia on Feb 17, 2016 14:39:37 GMT
If there have already been multiple posters, the only time I will respond to a thread like that is if I have something different to add, still disagreeing with the OP, but for a different reason. I also don't understand the "yeah, that"'s or "I agree with this" if that is the only thing you say in the post. Just hit the like button in those cases.
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Post by perumbula on Feb 17, 2016 14:42:12 GMT
If a pile on is happening (Which I separate from just lots of people disagreeing with the OP. Disagreements can be good natured and the OP can be reasonable and understand the other point of view. A pile on is when it gets mean.) I rarely post. If I do it's to respond to something that's been said recently and it might be a mild defense of the OP in an effort to defuse some of the tension.
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Post by pierkiss on Feb 17, 2016 14:47:56 GMT
My mood. My answering any thread depends on my mood. I have to be in the mood to talk on here to begin with. Sometimes I am just in the mood to read. Other times I'm here to discuss fluff. Sometimes I want a heavier more substantial conversation. Sometimes I'm pissed off at the world and want to show it.  And if the OPs question is particularly prickly, and gets under my skin, I will voice my opinion, no matter how many other people have said the exact same thing. |
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Feb 17, 2016 14:48:13 GMT
A pile on is when it gets mean.) I rarely post. If I do it's to respond to something that's been said recently and it might be a mild defense of the OP in an effort to defuse some of the tension. I agree with your definition, and usually I wish I could defuse the tension as well. |
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Post by gar on Feb 17, 2016 15:02:45 GMT
And if the OPs question is particularly prickly, and gets under my skin, I will voice my opinion, no matter how many other people have said the exact same thing. This is sort of what I meant when I chose Topic as my answer. if it's a subject I feel strongly about I will add my voice even if my POV has already been covered by other posters. I think t's human nature to want our voice to be heard. |
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Post by bluepoprocks on Feb 17, 2016 15:03:11 GMT
I hate when things turn mean. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and everyone is free to disagree and to state their reason for disagreeing but there is no need to get nasty and no need for personal attacks. I don't usually participate in these pile on threads. If I have a point of view that hasn't been stated I will occasionally post but I make sure it isn't something mean.
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Post by TheOtherMeg on Feb 17, 2016 15:05:56 GMT
There are usually posts that state my opinion, so I have a tendency to just hit the like button as I read down the page(s). Sometimes I'll quote a reply I like and insert the  smilie, but liking is quicker. It doesn't have quite the punch of a , though. It's also device-dependent. If I'm on my phone, I'm not likely to type out a reply. |
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Post by myshelly on Feb 17, 2016 15:07:58 GMT
I think a lot of peas are waaayyyyyy too sensitive and I don't understand being sensitive about strangers on the internet.
I don't think a lot of peas saying the same thing equals a pile on.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 15:18:42 GMT
Good question.
That's all I got because I don't participate in those threads (typically)
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Post by grinningcat on Feb 17, 2016 15:23:04 GMT
I have a bunch of reasons including the topic, my mood, the OP. Just depends on that moment. Sometimes I feel strongly about the topic, sometimes I'm just in a pissy mood and sometimes I just don't like the OP. So it really depends.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 15:30:19 GMT
... what makes you decide whether to answer or not? I rarely do the smiley, or a similar sentiment, just because everyone else is saying things so well. But when I see more than a page of the same (especially when people are pissed off at the OP), I guess that it's an emotional situation? Or do you think adding the same response will really drive home to the OP the 'rightness' of the majority? If by the time I find a thread it already has a ton of responses in disagreement with the OP and I happen to also disagree, I rarely comment. My further "yeah that" or likewise sentiment is of no value. My #1 criteria for any thread is who the OP is. There are some OP's that I just don't bother with engaging. Especially when the OP has a long standing history of posts that are generally going to end up in a "pile on". I'm always puzzled by others who, knowing the MO of such an OP, continue to try and argue points with them. Continue to try to "show them the error of their ways." Some people will not ever change to see your side of the argument. In my world, there are a whole lot of better things to do with my time then beat a dead horse. |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Feb 17, 2016 15:32:51 GMT
I really don't think we need a poll. It's pretty clear that a pile-on occurs due almost exclusively to who the OP is. There are lots of times a poster will get a lot of negative feedback - but the true pile-ons are saved for a handful of posters who aren't well liked and in some cases clearly detested. The only exception I can think of is when the OP tries to defend their opinion - particularly if they are rude in their defense. That'll make the thread go ugly fast.
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Post by theshyone on Feb 17, 2016 15:34:05 GMT
I'm the one vote for other: I read the OP and I reply. Sometimes I then read the rest of the thread much of the time I don't. I don't like my opinion swayed/influenced by other responses. I'd forget what I was going to say.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Feb 17, 2016 15:37:00 GMT
I don't think a lot of peas saying the same thing equals a pile on. I agree. Oftentimes my general position may have been stated but if I have additional comments to support that position I will add them after my . I believe we can have (and have had many) a spirited discussion with several viewpoints without it turning into a pile on. When things do turn ugly, I tend to want to back away from the thread even if I feel I have something else to add. |
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Feb 17, 2016 15:41:55 GMT
I'm always puzzled by others who, knowing the MO of such an OP, continue to try and argue points with them. I COMPLETELY agree! I feel like they're feeding into those poster's strategy of getting negative attention. Although there can be value in others (not the oP) reading the responses. I have read some very well-written responses on pile-on threads, and learned some things. I just doubt that certain OPs are open to that learning process. |
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Feb 17, 2016 15:43:11 GMT
I really don't think we need a poll. It's pretty clear that a pile-on occurs due almost exclusively to who the OP is. There are lots of times a poster will get a lot of negative feedback - but the true pile-ons are saved for a handful of posters who aren't well liked and in some cases clearly detested. The only exception I can think of is when the OP tries to defend their opinion - particularly if they are rude in their defense. That'll make the thread go ugly fast. Only one person actually voted that though! |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Feb 17, 2016 15:46:41 GMT
I really don't think we need a poll. It's pretty clear that a pile-on occurs due almost exclusively to who the OP is. There are lots of times a poster will get a lot of negative feedback - but the true pile-ons are saved for a handful of posters who aren't well liked and in some cases clearly detested. The only exception I can think of is when the OP tries to defend their opinion - particularly if they are rude in their defense. That'll make the thread go ugly fast. Only one person actually voted that though! I think many people underestimate just how much they're affected by the OP. |
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Post by Zee on Feb 17, 2016 15:48:48 GMT
I don't have just one answer. In the case of Rainbow, I think she loves the attention, even negative attention, because she's bored and lonely, so I don't think the current thread is hurting her feelings in the least. I also can't muster up two shits to give about her views on gender identity, her Amazon reviews, her vegan diet, or her vague financial situation. Doesn't mean I'll never comment, just that it's low-hanging fruit.
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Post by Drew on Feb 17, 2016 15:50:03 GMT
I'm curious about the need or urge to reduce tension on certain threads. Why? Is it to soften things for the OP...or does it affect you if there's tension on the first page of threads? Just curious. I've never felt the need to defuse a thread.
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Feb 17, 2016 15:52:46 GMT
I'm curious about the need or urge to reduce tension on certain threads. Why? Is it to soften things for the OP...or does it affect you if there's tension on the first page of threads? Just curious. I've never felt the need to defuse a thread. 1. I hate conflict 2. I root for the underdog, unless they're a real assho!e. 3. I come here to lift me up, and ugliness doesn't do that. So it's my wish to make this place what *I* want. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 17, 2016 15:59:09 GMT
I'm curious about the need or urge to reduce tension on certain threads. Why? Is it to soften things for the OP...or does it affect you if there's tension on the first page of threads? Just curious. I've never felt the need to defuse a thread. 1. I hate conflict 2. I root for the underdog, unless they're a real assho!e. 3. I come here to lift me up, and ugliness doesn't do that. So it's my wish to make this place what *I* want. ITA! I can only think of one pile on thread that I have even participated in and it was one of elannah's. People were attacking her pretty good and I don't think she was thinking and writing very clearly. I guess I feel like I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. People have off days. People have real struggles. It doesn't feel good to me to kick someone while they are down. |
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Post by gmcwife1 on Feb 17, 2016 17:04:26 GMT
I didn't vote because it can be any of the choices, depending on my mood, time or the poster. There are a couple of people that I swear post stuff just for attention. How or if I respond really just depends on my own mood at the time.
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Post by Country Ham on Feb 17, 2016 17:09:24 GMT
I never really thought about it. I try and post without reading the other responses so I wouldn't know if I was part of a pile on or part of the majority until too late.
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Post by mom on Feb 17, 2016 17:25:02 GMT
For me it depends on who is posting and what the topic is. And my mood.
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Post by perumbula on Feb 17, 2016 17:57:01 GMT
I'm curious about the need or urge to reduce tension on certain threads. Why? Is it to soften things for the OP...or does it affect you if there's tension on the first page of threads? Just curious. I've never felt the need to defuse a thread. I've seen some threads headed in a very bad direction be saved because someone had the courage to go against the tide. Either they helped clarify something the OP was struggling to say in a way the others could understand or they cracked a joke or they added a haiku. I love it when a potential pile on turns into a thread worth remembering. The threads that are remembered best from Pea history are those threads. The first two pages will be nasty pile on and then the fun starts. Who would even remember "I'm gonna sew," torn bears, hissy fits over turkey, or kitten heels if it weren't for those who wanted to defuse the the tension and bring some fun and understanding back to the Peas. |
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Feb 17, 2016 18:02:38 GMT
I try and post without reading the other responses You're not the only one with that posting strategy. To me, a longer thread of posts needs to be read so that your response takes all of that content into account. Some OPs clarify things later in the thread. Also, some of the responses are just plain interesting, or help me see the OP differently. |
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Post by gar on Feb 17, 2016 18:11:47 GMT
I try and post without reading the other responses You're not the only one with that posting strategy. To me, a longer thread of posts needs to be read so that your response takes all of that content into account. Some OPs clarify things later in the thread. Also, some of the responses are just plain interesting, or help me see the OP differently. I tend to agree. Quite often a thread goes off at a tangent or the discussion takes on a different angle and then when someone hasn't read it and just answers the original question it's almost irrelevant. |
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Post by Kerri W on Feb 17, 2016 18:19:03 GMT
You're not the only one with that posting strategy. To me, a longer thread of posts needs to be read so that your response takes all of that content into account. Some OPs clarify things later in the thread. Also, some of the responses are just plain interesting, or help me see the OP differently. I tend to agree. Quite often a thread goes off at a tangent or the discussion takes on a different angle and then when someone hasn't read it and just answers the original question it's almost irrelevant. And let's be honest...it pisses us all off when somebody comes in and answers the original question when we are twenty-seven times removed. We started the thread talking about "do these shoes match my outfit" and have progressed through "obviously you are a whore since you're looking at shoes like that" straight on to "the hardiness of blue tulips canNOT be disputed." We don't really care at that point if you like the shoes and think they'll match the outfit. |
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Post by lurkingsince2001 on Feb 17, 2016 18:42:05 GMT
I usually only join in if I feel I have something to add to the conversation. But sometimes a thread will bother me and I'll feel the need to put my worthless two cents in, especially if I feel someone on the thread has gone too far and gotten personal or insulting. Maybe that makes me the hall monitor, which I hate. But, it's not about being a control freak so much as wanting a place to relax or have good conversation that doesn't devolve to high school or a mean girls reenactment. It seems like the post count/look count go up exponentially to the drama level so I assume there's a lot of peas with popcorn who enjoy the show. I do it too so it's more observation than criticism. I've also noticed that peas tend to latch onto one point and use it as a rallying point and completely miss better made or more relevant posts on the thread and that pointing it out just gets the hord to focus on me. Sometimes that's useful and gives the person on the bottom of the pile a break.
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smiley, or a similar sentiment, just because everyone else is saying things so well.
And if the OPs question is particularly prickly, and gets under my skin, I will voice my opinion, no matter how many other people have said the exact same thing. 
