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Post by Lexica on Jun 27, 2014 21:36:16 GMT
Do you have a "death bed" agreement with anyone to immediately go to your house and remove anything um, potentially embarrassing of that nature, that your kids, mom, or Aunt Matilda would end up stumbling upon should you die unexpectedly?
My sister and I talked about this about a year ago. All of our kids are adults now and they would most likely be the ones cleaning out our houses should something happen to us. She made me promise to be the first one in her house to remove the certain contents of a certain drawer in her dresser. She doesn't want her kids to be scarred by seeing anything that their parents might have enjoyed. 
Anyone else have an agreement like this?
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Post by Grom Pea on Jun 27, 2014 21:40:49 GMT
No but this made me remember that a friend of mine lost her apartment in a fire and we let her store stuff until she felt ok to take it, over 2 years later and we still have it, and some of that stuff includes those types of things...my step mil helped dh load it into the garage rafters because I was pregnant and was like "um this stuff looks like fun" lol! I should probably try to contact her to see if she'll take stuff back so I don't end up having my kids find it in the garage one day...
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Post by my2apps2 on Jun 27, 2014 21:44:28 GMT
Yes, with my sister-in-law. She's my person and I'm hers.  |
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Post by lovemybabes on Jun 27, 2014 21:47:59 GMT
I don't, but I am thinking I need to set that up. LOL! |
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Post by fruitysuet on Jun 27, 2014 21:48:14 GMT
I don't have anyone I'm that close to (I'm very self reliant) but then again I can't think I have anything that would cause embarrassment. Perhaps I ought to check hiding places just in case!
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Post by Lexica on Jun 27, 2014 22:53:44 GMT
No but this made me remember that a friend of mine lost her apartment in a fire and we let her store stuff until she felt ok to take it, over 2 years later and we still have it, and some of that stuff includes those types of things...my step mil helped dh load it into the garage rafters because I was pregnant and was like "um this stuff looks like fun" lol! I should probably try to contact her to see if she'll take stuff back so I don't end up having my kids find it in the garage one day... She left that type of thing with you for two years? I doubt she would want them now. And that seems to be a bit rude and taking advantage of your generosity. Do you have a huge garage or barn or something? I barely have room in my little 2-car garage for my car and my stuff like lawn mower, holiday decorations, washing machine. I would be really inconvenienced with storing things for a lengthy time. You are very considerate. |
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Post by BeckyTech on Jun 27, 2014 22:57:32 GMT
No but this made me remember that a friend of mine lost her apartment in a fire and we let her store stuff until she felt ok to take it, over 2 years later and we still have it, and some of that stuff includes those types of things...my step mil helped dh load it into the garage rafters because I was pregnant and was like "um this stuff looks like fun" lol! I should probably try to contact her to see if she'll take stuff back so I don't end up having my kids find it in the garage one day... Okay, I just have to ask. Why on earth wouldn't she pack such items so that no one could tell what the contents were from the outside? That just sounds so weird. |
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Post by SabrinaP on Jun 27, 2014 22:59:59 GMT
:)Yes my BFF.
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Post by Grom Pea on Jun 28, 2014 1:21:37 GMT
No but this made me remember that a friend of mine lost her apartment in a fire and we let her store stuff until she felt ok to take it, over 2 years later and we still have it, and some of that stuff includes those types of things...my step mil helped dh load it into the garage rafters because I was pregnant and was like "um this stuff looks like fun" lol! I should probably try to contact her to see if she'll take stuff back so I don't end up having my kids find it in the garage one day... She left that type of thing with you for two years? I doubt she would want them now. And that seems to be a bit rude and taking advantage of your generosity. Do you have a huge garage or barn or something? I barely have room in my little 2-car garage for my car and my stuff like lawn mower, holiday decorations, washing machine. I would be really inconvenienced with storing things for a lengthy time. You are very considerate. My friend is a bit of a free spirit and also cannot drive. Basically I thinkthink she was going to abandon everything she owned because she didn't know what to do, dh went and helped her pack up...I think he assumed she'd want it back in a couple of weeks but she moved into a tiny place. There are things like her grand mother's buddah collection so I would never just get rid of anything but she's been kind of absent since the fire, we saw her once and brought her a chair and a box of photos but I tried to call her several times and she's been busy or I've been busy. Dh stuck it in the rafters so it's not like we can't keep our own junk in there :-) |
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Post by Grom Pea on Jun 28, 2014 1:26:52 GMT
No but this made me remember that a friend of mine lost her apartment in a fire and we let her store stuff until she felt ok to take it, over 2 years later and we still have it, and some of that stuff includes those types of things...my step mil helped dh load it into the garage rafters because I was pregnant and was like "um this stuff looks like fun" lol! I should probably try to contact her to see if she'll take stuff back so I don't end up having my kids find it in the garage one day... Okay, I just have to ask. Why on earth wouldn't she pack such items so that no one could tell what the contents were from the outside? That just sounds so weird. To be honest I never went over because I was too pregnant, I assume she just threw stuff into boxes or whatever. She doesn't drive but had bought a car from a friend and was just going to let it go to waste and dh helped her find the paperwork and sell it, he did say she wasn't even going to keep thefile cabinet with the paperwork but he saved it, which enabled her to sell the car. She did tell him the keys burned in the fire but in retrospect he thinks she was just too overwhelmed to even look for them, which kind of sucks because she could have gotten more for the car. I should really just call her and see how she is, hopefully she's doing better, last time I emailed she said she just didn't have it in her to see anyone...and I have a toddler now so it's a hassle for me to hunt her down...I jokingly said to dh we should just do a night delivery and have her open her door to find a box of stuff every once in a while :-) |
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Post by Lexica on Jun 28, 2014 2:03:48 GMT
Grom pea, it sounds like she has some depression issues or something. I can certainly see her being overwhelmed at the time of the fire, but two years later she should be in a better frame of mind, unless things have kept going wrong for her. I'm glad you have the room to store it and your husband is a sweetheart for helping her out. I would never throw the valuable or sentimental things away, but I'd definitely be asking if she still wanted her old "toys" and could I get rid of them for her. I really doubt she is going to use them again. After two years, she's probably replaced them.
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Post by Anita on Jun 28, 2014 2:08:02 GMT
My BFF once gave me directions of what to destroy if she died during a trip. Sadly, I have nothing of special interest to worry about anyone finding.
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Post by akathy on Jun 28, 2014 2:12:36 GMT
Nah, I'm just going to let my kids giggle when they find it
( they are 40 and 38, one is an RN and the other is a nurse practitioner. I think it'd be hard to shock them.
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