Friday Vent Thread ... Could lead into Saturday :-)

I'll vent with you!

I'm really tired of my neighbor thinking the rules don't apply to them. They have their trash bin located in the front sideyard, just a few feet away from my front door. It isn't just that it's an eyesore, or that it goes against our HOA bylaws, but more importantly it's the smell and pest problem it creates. The flies that swarm my front door is ridiculous. It's to the point that we don't use that entrance anymore. And yes, they've been told about it, they've received courtesy letters from the HOA but refuse to move it. So unfortunately I'm going to have to escalate the matter and continue to be "that neighbor" with them.

Conchita, I feel your pain when it comes to annoying neighbours!! I live in a townhouse so of course I share walls with 2 neighbours. Both of which think they can play their music at ridiculous volumes all the time. I have spoken to both, nicely, and it worked for a little bit but not long. One of them was very annoyed with me mentioning it. Apparently she has to play music all day (when she's not home) to keep her dog quiet because the neighbours on the other side complained about her dog. I'm sure the dog doesn't need the bass thumping all day long because that's what I get from her place that ever annoying boom, boom, boom. The other neighbour has a teenage son who he doesn't bother to control. The noise was shaking our walls so badly at one point pictures in my daughters room fell off the wall!! And Dad's not much better - sometimes I can sing along with the music coming through my wall. I even quoted some of the songs to him last time!

All three of us have dogs so I try not to complain too much because I feel my two bark more outside than the others but that is only occasionally and we get right on them. This music things is too much for me though especially if, God forbid, I want to sit quietly and read (or pea!!) for an hour or two.

Thanks for the vent space! Hope everyone gets through their trials and tribulations!

My vent: Mom - your child's IEP does not guarantee him an A on every assignment. Yes, he is good at memorization, but that doesn't mean he is a genius. It is perfectly okay for him to miss the harder questions. Yes, I get that he didn't understand the question, that's why he missed it. No, I will not exempt him from analyzing graphs and tables. No, I will not change his last three grades for you. No, I will not provide additional accommodations without the team deciding if they are necessary. Yes, your child is a wonderful young man. He is sweet and very tender-hearted. But no, that doesn't mean I can give him an A on his quiz.

Really really silly and petty vent. Husband. You drive me nuts by leaving lights on in rooms no one is using. You are outside, why are the lights in your office on? Normally this wouldn't bother me but you also bitch about the cost of our utility bill. Well, turn off the darn lights!

I love you dearly, despite your apparent lack of electricity awareness

OMG I need this. I drive a couple special needs kids to school 30 miles away and then drive them home. Anyway, on the way hoome, I didn't feel well so I took side streets instead of the freeway. It took a lot longer and I thought my boss (who knew about it) would call the parents. He didn't so naturally the parents were worried. One got so mad at me she told me not to pick up her child anymore. OK, not sure what else I could've done but whatever. I had only one child before and don't get paid more for the 2nd so this could be ok. Plus they feed off each other, making each more upset, therefore making my drive harder. I did what I thought was best but that child's mom has never liked me.

Monday update: Well it appears I'm no longer employed. My boss showed up unannounced (as is his MO) on Saturday to get the work car to do the route. He said he would call me and hasn't. I will miss the boy I drive, but otherwise, this could work out ok. I never seemed to click with the boss but I did get along well with the first child's family and have asked to use them as a reference for future job searches. 

Wow, I must be ultra cheap.  My max for ANYONE for birthday, Christmas, etc is $50.  A wedding gift from us is $100...(you know, a couple so 2 x $50)

No, you're not. I could probably spend more than I do on my BFF because I can afford it, but I know it would make her feel bad because she can't afford to reciprocate at that same level.

Well, I can afford it and most all my friends can reciprocate, but I-yi-yi...  IMO, gifting has gotten out of hand.  Which is one of the reasons I hate buying gifts.  

So, in keeping with the them of this thread "My vent is that gifting amounts have gotten out of hand". 

I realize that, but don't I get a vent, too. 

Moving on.

Here's my vent: I was a SAHM/WAHM until 2 years ago when I had to go back to work so my husband could sell his businesses in order to stay home with our son who was extremely ill and could no longer attend school (me working a 9-5 job is less stressful for my family than my husband running his businesses 24 hours a day with me doing all of the paperwork). That's not my vent, I'm happy with our set-up.

My vent is that my supposed best friend told me that she reserves her evenings and weekends exclusively for her husband, so she won't be able to go for breakfast with me anymore (something we used to do often on weekdays when I didn't work outside the home), or even meet me for coffee on a Saturday afternoon. She won't even just grab a bite to eat on a weeknight. So, even though we've been friends for 30 years, she is now only available to occasionally email or text me. I work full-time and have a sick child (who is recovering nicely now and has started back at school just last month), but I am able to make time on the weekends/evenings for my friends, so I don't understand why she can't - she is a SAHM so she doesn't have work pressure, and her kids are 20 (away at school) and 16.