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Post by danor98 on Jul 29, 2014 3:19:07 GMT
Uggh! I was so embarrassed! I started a new last Monday, today was my 5th day of work. I've been a SAHM since 2000. My son graduated HS in 2011 and I was not need as a SAHM for several years prior! I am excited about this job and so far like it. It is with AFC (American Family Care) it is a family care/urgent care walk-in clinic. I work the front, check in/out insurance checks, phone calls, etc. I love it. Today I had my first chit chat conversation with one of the main doctors on staff. I was feeling mighty proud of my self....internal high fives and all that......(proud because I was able to carry on a conversation with a dr. and not feel like a kid talking to a principal)  then.......... It was almost closing time and I had answered the phone. It was a very talkative elderly gentleman who was asking about the clinic and then where I was from (live in Alabama, born in Illinois....I sound very "northern"). Around the corner comes the doctor, urgently telling me to shut the hell up! Ok...she really didn't SAY that...but that is how I feel! My voice carries, I know that, I am loud, I know that....whoo boy! I know that by tomorrow, she may not even remember it, but I sure won't ever forget it! I'll be whispering, for sure! Thanks for listening.....I felt like sharing and the dog just wasn't interested. |
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Jul 29, 2014 3:30:48 GMT
Oh! That would be awkward. Just shake it off!
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Post by roundtwo on Jul 29, 2014 3:35:35 GMT
A new job always entails a learning curve and you're probably right in that the doctor will have forgotten about it so you just have to dust yourself off and move forward. And while the dog may not be all that interested, he probably doesn't care if you talk too loud, lol!
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Post by danor98 on Jul 29, 2014 3:36:22 GMT
You are right about that, round two!  |
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Post by smokeynspike on Jul 29, 2014 3:38:42 GMT
I can obsess about stuff like that too, but really, at the end of the day I have come to realize that I am only human. I try to learn something from it and move on. It isn't worth that much energy, although sometimes things can be hard to put aside. It helps to ask myself if I will still care about this next week, next year, five years from now? If not, move on.
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Post by SweetieBugs on Jul 29, 2014 3:39:01 GMT
I'm sorry that happened and had to make you feel bad. But, I would also use that as an indication that you probably were talking too loudly and it would benefit you to practice speaking at a lower volume. Some people are loud talkers but depending on work environment, a quieter level needs to be used. I'm glad you are enjoying the work so much.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 29, 2014 3:39:40 GMT
That happened to me at the job I am at now when I first started. The business owner HATES noise. Hates it. We have to talk to all of the patients in hushed tones. It's very easy to get loud and excited when you're talking to a happy patient about happy things. You will get used to it and I'm sure to that doctor it was no big deal at all.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 3:40:28 GMT
Well this will make you feel better. I was a SAHM from 1993 until 2010 or so when a job pretty much fell into my lap.
It was either my 2nd or 3rd day on the job. I went into the breakroom and dumped a cup of ice and soda. I rinsed the sink to ensure there were no soda drops anywhere and to even melt the ice.
A few minutes later, the executive asst. to the company CEO came over and informed one of my fellow employees (not even my supervisor...you see my supervisor hated this executive asst. as did most of the rest of the office) that I needed to make sure and DRY out the sink next time I used it.
Most people in that office hated this woman. Most knew she was a complete control freak. The chairs would have to be "just so" in the break room. I can't tell you the number of times that people would randomly just move the chairs...just because they knew it drove her nuts and she'd go in and fix them...and mutter about what slobs we all were.
She was impossible. She was inhospitable. When we were bought out and layoffs began, it was nice to know that I lasted longer than she did.
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Post by danor98 on Jul 29, 2014 3:43:54 GMT
Ha! Jenny, your story is pretty funny! I bet you felt like I did, except for a wet sink? still embarrassing for a newbie! SweetieBugs, you are right and I AM loud...you can bet I'll be working on my "inside office voice"  |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 3:50:47 GMT
My voice carries as well and sometimes I just get excited or happy and I don't realize I've gotten louder. I do have a "indoor voice" post it on my PC to remind me to keep it down a bit. It's hard because that's just how my voice is.
I wouldn't worry about it..the dr will likely forget all about it.
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Post by danor98 on Jul 29, 2014 3:53:07 GMT
Perhaps I'll try that, Carblover!  |
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Post by scrapaddie on Jul 29, 2014 3:54:25 GMT
Just like teachers have to develop a 'teacher voice'. You need to develop an office voice... It is part of going professional. Especially since you will often be talking about confidential matters.
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Post by danor98 on Jul 29, 2014 4:02:29 GMT
Another good point, Lana. I'm pretty good with the face to face convo's...I know I really have to watch it on the phone...I just have to watch it more carefully!  |
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Post by cherrie on Jul 29, 2014 4:15:05 GMT
She won't say anything more about it but if she did I would say the old man was hard of hearing and you were being nice to a client!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 4:22:35 GMT
We have to remember to use "office voices" since I work in a cubical area and talk to people about sensitive matters. For you, your environment may amplify voices too. If all the floors and everything is a hard surface sound reverberates even more. A voice that wouldn't carry in a room with lots of upholstered furnishings and carpet will carry much further and louder across a room of tile and leather.
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Post by danor98 on Jul 29, 2014 4:46:52 GMT
Oh, yes, Volt...there is tile and metal and rooms with curtains...and to make matters worse there is like a pass through kind of walkway that makes my voice all kinds of echoey!  |
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 29, 2014 5:31:43 GMT
Accept the minor criticism and follow the advice. Good to hear that, apart from this very minor blip, you are enjoying your job.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 29, 2014 5:37:48 GMT
I'm sorry that happened and had to make you feel bad. But, I would also use that as an indication that you probably were talking too loudly and it would benefit you to practice speaking at a lower volume. Some people are loud talkers but depending on work environment, a quieter level needs to be used. I'm glad you are enjoying the work so much. I agree with SweetieBugs. We work in customer service and we are on the phone to customers all day. It's an open office and sometimes it can be difficult to hear. My new boss is SO LOUD. We always have to remind him to be quiet. Luckily I have worked with him for 15 years so I feel that I can just shoot him "the look" or give him a big "Sssshhhhhh!" without pissing him off too much. Apart from that, congratulations on your job!! And I had to laugh at your comment about being proud that you were able to have a conversation with a doctor and not feel like a kid talking to a Principal. That's exactly how I would feel too! |
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Post by cupcakepeddler on Jul 29, 2014 5:58:47 GMT
Ohhh there is nothing worse than that first reprimand. At my last job I was dumped into it with very little training and using a completely foreign computer system and I made a huge boo boo with the accounts on one of my first weekends alone, it all balanced out in the end but I did get a serious speaking to. It is all new and it is not just the job that you have to learn it is also clients/customers, other staff and the location/building, I think some people forget that.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 29, 2014 10:47:57 GMT
I can totally see you having a chatty conversation with the guy on the phone. Keep the pleasantness (who doesn't want that when calling the doctor?) but just modulate the volume. And congrats on the new job! |
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Post by Really Red on Jul 29, 2014 10:59:33 GMT
Congratulations on your new job! I think it's always surprising when people correct something we didn't think was an issue, but I can tell you I had to ask someone to keep it down the other day (I did it very apologetically), because I think we all don't realize how our voices carry, but when you're concentrating or trying to do something, it can be surprisingly loud.
Not exactly sure what the dr. said to you, but hopefully he was kinder than you heard (I would have heard like you!) and now you know. Good luck the rest of this week!
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Post by Scrapbrat on Jul 29, 2014 11:07:35 GMT
I'm sure that was hard, having not been back in the work force very long! I think you are right in just taking it in stride. However, I waned to relate that I have the same problem -- I know I talk too loudly sometimes, especially (for whatever reason) when I'm on the phone. Something that used to help me, although it sounds really silly, was to put a sticky note that said "Speak softly!" right on the face of the phone. Then when I went to answer a call, I'd see the note and be reminded about my voice volume. Just a thought.
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Post by purplebee on Jul 29, 2014 11:14:01 GMT
She won't say anything more about it but if she did I would say the old man was hard of hearing and you were being nice to a client! That was my thought too. I can relate, we as a family are loud talkers, so I have to watch it at times. But it IS easy to just revert into your natural speaking pattern. Good luck with the job, just a bump in the road and now you know how that Dr. feels. Sounds like you will be busy and your days will go by quickly. |
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Post by I-95 on Jul 29, 2014 11:20:32 GMT
Ouch! You'll be fine...just shhhh |
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 29, 2014 13:02:38 GMT
Oh, that could have been me! I am happy you love the job.
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Post by Ellie on Jul 29, 2014 13:17:59 GMT
Aww. That is tough. I was once "spoken to" about being loud-ish in a cubicle environment at a previous job. I don't really enjoy talking on the phone that much, but this job entailed international calls at least a couple times a week. Since I was uncomfortable on the phone, I guess I compensated by talking really loudly! Loudness = bravery? Not so much. I was so embarrassed when my boss gently spoke to me about it, but my face faded to its normal pasty condition after a couple weeks.  |
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Post by loco coco on Jul 29, 2014 13:42:21 GMT
congrats on your new job!
every workplace is SO different. My office is quieter than a library because my boss hates talking and chit chat. When people come in for appts they talk regular, which seems loud in here, and my boss will come out and give them the death stare lol! Just be aware of your volume going forward and Im sure you will do great!
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Post by danor98 on Jul 29, 2014 23:51:00 GMT
Thank you all for your advice and encouragement. I went to bed last night and I am just getting back home now (no phones or computers allowed at work) YIKES!
It is so nice to see so many of you understanding and encouraging me1 Thanks for all the good wishes......you gals are awesome!
My boss told me this afternoon that part of the reason he hired me is to add more of a mature vibe to our office! Ha! If he could only see me after hours!
Love you all!
Norine
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Post by Zee on Jul 30, 2014 0:24:48 GMT
Use your office voice and also remember that sometimes doctors are assholes because they can be. I say that as a nurse. Lol.
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Post by librarylady on Jul 30, 2014 0:30:36 GMT
For those of you with voice issues (too loud, too soft)..you might want to download audacity. audacity.sourceforge.net/We used this program at school to get kids to see the vibrations his/her voice made. Then use the graph to see when you are speaking too loudly or too softly. Practice to get your voice graph within the desired range. |
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