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Post by KikiPea on Aug 1, 2014 23:03:58 GMT
That stupid blog just needs to disappear. Not sure why she even bothered to look there, unless some of "them" pointed it out. SO stupid.
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Post by 1lear on Aug 1, 2014 23:03:59 GMT
Not meaning to cause trouble for Benem, but WTF!!?-I hate mean people, and will miss her posts.
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Post by sbartist on Aug 1, 2014 23:55:51 GMT
That's too bad that people just cannot just be happy for someone. I don't know what happened, I do hope she is okay and still has her friend at work.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 2, 2014 0:22:18 GMT
Seriously??! WHAT THE>>F!!! Are some people really that wacko on here? Just let people share and be human, and have fun on a freaking message board for cripes sake. They must have very very sad lives.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 0:26:35 GMT
You know, we've already been asked to refrain from speculation.
All the assumptions are getting pretty ridiculous. Seriously, we don't know what happened. And maybe we never will. Unless and until benem wants us to know, all the assumptions aren't doing anyone any good.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 2, 2014 0:36:35 GMT
We aren't speculating at all. We are talking about what actually happened at that nasty blog. Though I haven't actually read it, and I don't plan on it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 2:30:34 GMT
Benem has let me know that she has deleted all her posts for personal reasons, and she also asked that I delete anywhere she has been quoted, which I am in the process of doing (if you know you have quoted her and would delete it yourself that would save me a bit of work). It's unclear at the moment whether she will return to the board in the future. I do not have any further details to share, and I would be grateful if you would refrain from further speculation. Thanks everyone. I'm sure she is grateful for your concern. I know I risk being banned with this reply because that's how it goes when you make rules as you go along. However, it's a bit pompous and offensive that you're asking us not to speculate. I mean really, 2ps has always been full of speculation, opinions, lectures, call-outs, support, gratitude - you name it. We should be able to speculate, cogitate, pontificate, whateverate, at our whim, within the TOU of Proboard. You mentioned in another thread that you don't want us to archive any threads that don't have a humorous value. So you'll decide what's humorous enough to memorialized? Rubbed me (and I'm sure others), the wrong way. I think you're in over your head.
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Post by annabella on Aug 2, 2014 2:47:32 GMT
@ammaliatrice On 2peas people could ask the admins to delete threads or their entire post history. No different really. On facebook and other blogs I follow I've seen comments shut down for comments getting out of control. Some moderation is always necessary.
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Post by freebird on Aug 2, 2014 2:50:44 GMT
what the fuck?
Benem, please don't take off. I hope you're still here. I really enjoy your posts, and your weight loss story is inspiring! I don't follow the Mr. Darcy posts, but I do love how confident you're becoming in your new body. Please come back. Why do you care what 7 lonely bitches think about you anyway?
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Post by peasapie on Aug 2, 2014 2:52:29 GMT
Benem has let me know that she has deleted all her posts for personal reasons, and she also asked that I delete anywhere she has been quoted, which I am in the process of doing (if you know you have quoted her and would delete it yourself that would save me a bit of work). It's unclear at the moment whether she will return to the board in the future. I do not have any further details to share, and I would be grateful if you would refrain from further speculation. Thanks everyone. I'm sure she is grateful for your concern. I know I risk being banned with this reply because that's how it goes when you make rules as you go along. However, it's a bit pompous and offensive that you're asking us not to speculate. I mean really, 2ps has always been full of speculation, opinions, lectures, call-outs, support, gratitude - you name it. We should be able to speculate, cogitate, pontificate, whateverate, at our whim, within the TOU of Proboard. You mentioned in another thread that you don't want us to archive any threads that don't have a humorous value. So you'll decide what's humorous enough to memorialized? Rubbed me (and I'm sure others), the wrong way. I think you're in over your head. I disagree completely and I think the courteous thing to do is exactly what the admin. requested.
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Post by mzza111 on Aug 2, 2014 2:57:45 GMT
I know I risk being banned with this reply because that's how it goes when you make rules as you go along. However, it's a bit pompous and offensive that you're asking us not to speculate. I mean really, 2ps has always been full of speculation, opinions, lectures, call-outs, support, gratitude - you name it. We should be able to speculate, cogitate, pontificate, whateverate, at our whim, within the TOU of Proboard. You mentioned in another thread that you don't want us to archive any threads that don't have a humorous value. So you'll decide what's humorous enough to memorialized? Rubbed me (and I'm sure others), the wrong way. I think you're in over your head. Honestly, this isn't cool. I completely disagree.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 3:22:39 GMT
^^^ I agree mzza. Totally uncool, and completely uncalled for.
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linda~lou
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Post by linda~lou on Aug 2, 2014 3:31:57 GMT
Holy crap! Where would we be without PodMother!!!!! She stepped up, created this board, brought us wayward peas together and you tell her she's in over her head?!??!?
I'm all for free speech and all but there has to be some moderation and I thank the lor' PodMother stepped up to the plate and saved us from drowning!!!!!
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Post by seikashaven on Aug 2, 2014 3:40:33 GMT
Benem has let me know that she has deleted all her posts for personal reasons, and she also asked that I delete anywhere she has been quoted, which I am in the process of doing (if you know you have quoted her and would delete it yourself that would save me a bit of work). It's unclear at the moment whether she will return to the board in the future. I do not have any further details to share, and I would be grateful if you would refrain from further speculation. Thanks everyone. I'm sure she is grateful for your concern. I know I risk being banned with this reply because that's how it goes when you make rules as you go along. However, it's a bit pompous and offensive that you're asking us not to speculate. I mean really, 2ps has always been full of speculation, opinions, lectures, call-outs, support, gratitude - you name it. We should be able to speculate, cogitate, pontificate, whateverate, at our whim, within the TOU of Proboard. You mentioned in another thread that you don't want us to archive any threads that don't have a humorous value. So you'll decide what's humorous enough to memorialized? Rubbed me (and I'm sure others), the wrong way. I think you're in over your head. Speak for yourself. I completely disagree with you. The Podmother is trying to walk a very fine line of respect and freedom for all members. I'm ok with the lines as drawn.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 3:41:03 GMT
Want to know what I think sucks? I think it sucks that the administrator of this board has been asked by a member (or former member...who knows?) to go through and remove the text of whenever she (benem) was quoted in a response.
It seems awfully time consuming and I know 2peas would be happy to remove your account, but they sure as shit would not have gone through and taken the time to remove anywhere you've been quoted.
This is yet another reminder to be mindful of what you put out there on the internet. Don't expect another person (who btw isn't being paid and most likely has a life) to have to come in and clean up your mess because you ran your mouth when you shouldn't have.
I don't know what happened...or why she left...or why she's asking that her entire history be removed...but if I were the administrator I don't know that I would've been as accommodating as the Fairy Podmother has been.
And for those bitching about her rules...SHE started this board when we all needed a place to go. SHE has the one that has spent (I'm guessing) countless hours making it the place it is today for all of us. If for whatever reason you don't like how she handles herself, or the rules of the board, feel free to start your own board. 2peas needed the headaches of the message board for ad revenue. I'm pretty sure that the administrator of this board gets zip from this board.
I'm in a mood...can you tell?
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Post by inkedup on Aug 2, 2014 3:46:28 GMT
I also think the speculation about mean people and their supposed actions is unfair. None of you know what happened to benem. She shared....A LOT. Maybe "Mr. Darcy" found out about her posts on his own. Maybe she thought better of posting such personal info and decided to start fresh. Maybe she met Zac Efron and he asked her to run away with him....on the condition that she renounce all previous male attractions. Who knows and why are those of you who never visit the blog so sure Benem's disappearance is related to it?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 3:50:17 GMT
Well this just sucks, and that's a fact.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Aug 2, 2014 3:59:29 GMT
I know I risk being banned with this reply because that's how it goes when you make rules as you go along. However, it's a bit pompous and offensive that you're asking us not to speculate. I mean really, 2ps has always been full of speculation, opinions, lectures, call-outs, support, gratitude - you name it. We should be able to speculate, cogitate, pontificate, whateverate, at our whim, within the TOU of Proboard. You mentioned in another thread that you don't want us to archive any threads that don't have a humorous value. So you'll decide what's humorous enough to memorialized? Rubbed me (and I'm sure others), the wrong way. I think you're in over your head. Yikes. Where to start? Of course the admin is making rules as she goes along. How else would she? This board was a spur of the moment creation, and she's reacting to situations as they occur. In both instances you cite, she used language like "I would be grateful if you would refrain from..." Hardly pompous. She doesn't have to say it that way; she doesn't HAVE TO do anything. Her board; her decisions. I admire her thinking and her delivery. Doesn't much matter if I agree with her. So far, I do. When I don't, I'm confident she won't ban me. She's not in over her head. She's a class act.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 4:03:36 GMT
Well, I'm not thrilled with moderation but this isn't my board and I'm not the one putting the time into it, so I can either not like it but keep my mouth shut or leave.
That said, I do think that undertaking deleting someone's entire history and, more specifically, deleting even quotes from other people's posts is a slippery, slippery slope. If a person wants to delete their own, then have at it but that seems to kind of overstep what was stated when this board was created.
But like I said - not my circus, not my monkeys.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Aug 2, 2014 4:07:19 GMT
(Cont.) And I just realized that the ironic thing is we're doing exactly what Fairy PodMom asked us not to do by continuing this thread. Oops.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 4:09:45 GMT
Personally, I assume that admin's decision to remove quoted posts was based upon the facts and details of the member's request (meaning it was warranted under the circumstances). Those reasons were also presented privately to admin, and therefore are of no business of mine.
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Post by craftchickapowpow on Aug 2, 2014 4:09:49 GMT
again my dear ole Dad's voice rings in my ears "CCPP, don't shit where you eat " Speculatively speaking.
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 2, 2014 5:32:40 GMT
Thank you, Admin, for coming on here to update us.
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Post by admin on Aug 2, 2014 6:08:49 GMT
I know I risk being banned with this reply because that's how it goes when you make rules as you go along. However, it's a bit pompous and offensive that you're asking us not to speculate. I mean really, 2ps has always been full of speculation, opinions, lectures, call-outs, support, gratitude - you name it. We should be able to speculate, cogitate, pontificate, whateverate, at our whim, within the TOU of Proboard. You mentioned in another thread that you don't want us to archive any threads that don't have a humorous value. So you'll decide what's humorous enough to memorialized? Rubbed me (and I'm sure others), the wrong way. I think you're in over your head. In over my head? You may well be right. But it is what it is, unless you all want to move to somewhere with an admin who's not completely new to this game, and has it all together from the beginning, you're pretty much stuck with me, learning as I go. Knowing that, it's up to you how you respond. The 'humorous' thing was badly worded on my part. I went back to clarify, and said quite a bit more which is pertinent to what you're saying here, so you might want to read it: 2peasrefugees.boards.net/post/109061/thread Well, I'm not thrilled with moderation but this isn't my board and I'm not the one putting the time into it, so I can either not like it but keep my mouth shut or leave. That said, I do think that undertaking deleting someone's entire history and, more specifically, deleting even quotes from other people's posts is a slippery, slippery slope. If a person wants to delete their own, then have at it but that seems to kind of overstep what was stated when this board was created. But like I said - not my circus, not my monkeys. There is a third choice - not like it and say so. It's not a bannable offence I won't know when I get things wrong if no-one tells me. I would generally agree with the rest of your post but... Personally, I assume that admin's decision to remove quoted posts was based upon the facts and details of the member's request (meaning it was warranted under the circumstances). Those reasons were also presented privately to admin, and therefore are of no business of mine. Thats correct.
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Post by beachbum on Aug 2, 2014 15:52:09 GMT
Personally, I assume that admin's decision to remove quoted posts was based upon the facts and details of the member's request (meaning it was warranted under the circumstances). Those reasons were also presented privately to admin, and therefore are of no business of mine. exactly.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 2, 2014 16:04:07 GMT
I know I risk being banned with this reply because that's how it goes when you make rules as you go along. However, it's a bit pompous and offensive that you're asking us not to speculate. I mean really, 2ps has always been full of speculation, opinions, lectures, call-outs, support, gratitude - you name it. We should be able to speculate, cogitate, pontificate, whateverate, at our whim, within the TOU of Proboard. You mentioned in another thread that you don't want us to archive any threads that don't have a humorous value. So you'll decide what's humorous enough to memorialized? Rubbed me (and I'm sure others), the wrong way. I think you're in over your head. Yikes. Where to start? Of course the admin is making rules as she goes along. How else would she? This board was a spur of the moment creation, and she's reacting to situations as they occur. In both instances you cite, she used language like "I would be grateful if you would refrain from..." Hardly pompous. She doesn't have to say it that way; she doesn't HAVE TO do anything. Her board; her decisions. I admire her thinking and her delivery. Doesn't much matter if I agree with her. So far, I do. When I don't, I'm confident she won't ban me. She's not in over her head. She's a class act. I agree totally with Ameliabloomer. There is no need for personal attacks. This is not the old pod, and if someone thinks in the cold light of day that they may have put too much information 'out there', it is not unreasonable to ask for it to be removed. I agree that it is a time consuming thing for the FPM to have to do, and had it been down to me I might have removed the whole thread and put an explanatory note. I did wonder if Benem might come to regret her posts re Mr Darcy. After all, this is an open forum, and it wouldn't have been difficult to work out who the people concerned were.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 16:09:27 GMT
Remember anywhere she was quoted in these stories would likely be the transcripted conversation, so actually the unsuspecting man's words, not benem's. I can understand deletion being warranted in those cases. But that's the chance you take when you post personal stuff. None of us are particularly new to the whole quoting thing so when you post something, you know there's a chance someone is either going to quote you so that they can reply or quote you for posterity.
Again, I think it's a slippery slope. Asking an Admin (I'm sorry, I just can't with the whole "Fairy Podmother" thing) to go through posts and delete not only your posts but anywhere you are quoted is just asking a little too much. It's one thing if you ask for something specific to be deleted and provide a link because something you said in the heat of the moment might prompt your ex to petition to take your kids away, but just in general when you have spun some fantasy-like Fifty Shades of Gray story that might come back to bite you in the butt is entirely different. Personal responsibility in posting and all that.
But like I said, not my board or decision. Good thing because I'd be all "sucks to be you" about it. Delete your own shit if you want and be careful what you post the next time around.
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marianne
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Post by marianne on Aug 2, 2014 17:13:34 GMT
I know I risk being banned with this reply because that's how it goes when you make rules as you go along. However, it's a bit pompous and offensive that you're asking us not to speculate. I mean really, 2ps has always been full of speculation, opinions, lectures, call-outs, support, gratitude - you name it. We should be able to speculate, cogitate, pontificate, whateverate, at our whim, within the TOU of Proboard. You mentioned in another thread that you don't want us to archive any threads that don't have a humorous value. So you'll decide what's humorous enough to memorialized? Rubbed me (and I'm sure others), the wrong way. I think you're in over your head. I love how those who do nothing sit back and belly ache about those who do. I didn't notice you jumping in to create a place where the homeless Peas could congregate... and make it possible for people like you to find fault! The bottom line here is what burningfeather said and said well ...this isn't my board and I'm not the one putting the time into it, so I can either not like it but keep my mouth shut or leave.Don't like the way admin runs this board? Boogie on, girl, boogie on.
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craftchickapowpow
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Post by craftchickapowpow on Aug 2, 2014 19:19:07 GMT
me too!
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Post by doesitmatter on Aug 3, 2014 8:20:55 GMT
Apparently I missed a lot....
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