Peas mom question

Are you asking about discipline type advice or diet?

I'm sorry he's hurt you so much! That's awful! Does he head but anyone else?

Our dd was always on skim milk. That may help a little bit especially depending on how much he drinks.

I don't recall how old he is. When he becomes or starts to become frustrated give him the words to use instead. He doesn't have the vocabulary to come up with words for the way he is feeling. Say something like....this (whatever it is) seems to be hard.....let's solve the problem.

We'd tell dd to use her words when she wanted or needed things.

So his weight was not an issue 3 months ago? Is this sudden? Maybe growth spurt? Maybe another medical issue and he needs to be seen again?

What are good carbs? What is the treat? How often for both? He needs carbs, but all of the fruit juice and fruit WIC is supplying are also carbs. Any grains, cereals, breads, pastas are carbs, as well. Did WIC give you a suggested meal plan? Does he need more activity?

It may be just that it is natural for him and he will always be tall and sturdy......could run in the family.  Sometimes there is nothing one can do about it since he is already having a healthy diet.  It causes a lot of stress worrying about it if you are doing everything right.

I had one of those boys too and in my case it was his Kindergarten Head, not his Doctor or a Nurse or anyone else, who kept on about it.  That caused me a lot of stress even though I didn't, and don't, mainly buy sugary or processed food etc., for my family or serve enormous portions.  A few years later I had to smile when she came up to me and apologised explaining that her newest Grandson was exactly the same!

By the way, that DS is now 6'5" and still sturdy, though not fat, and has been that way since his late teens.  

Does he look big/chubby? 50lbs is a lot for a 2yo. My oldest was heavy when he was little (not that heavy) but he was just solid. He wore pretty much the right size clothes (at that age he probably wore a size 3T. Now he's 6ft tall and skinny as a rail.

Really all you can do is make sure he's drinking plenty of water instead of juice/milk, eating healthy. Is he eating a lot at once, maybe not recognizing that he's full? Maybe many small meals instead of just 3. Is he getting enough exercise? If you can't get outside much maybe consider one of those mini trampolines (we have one and yds loved it from ages 1-4), lots of dancing and stuff.

Mayoclinic.org.
Nutrition for kids: guidelines for a healthy diet

Don't know how to link, but it gives very specific amounts of each food type by age.

Looking at that plate and looking at the Mayo Clinic list, I think that plate is deceptive.

The plate does look like it might lead to more food than toddlers/early preschool age kids might really need.   If I was trying to hit all 4 food groups in all meals when my kids were little, they would have been eating a very small amount of each food.  We used to strive more for a balanced diet over the course of a week than over a day or any one given meal.  That way if a kid decided to eat nothing but berries for lunch one day, we would just roll with it and offer something different for the next eating time.

That's pretty much what we did. Average over a week. Mayo's guidelines would have very small grain and protein and huge fruit and vegetable portions on that plate, but I think the amounts per meal would be very small on there.

Let me tell you a little story about WIC and their 'comments.'
My son is now 27 so this was nearly three decades ago, but related.
My son was born 'built to kick ass' as we like to joke. Born 8lb 12oz and 21 inches long but his shoulders were so broad that he got stuck coming out and nearly died. Suffered permanent damage because of it. He was a whopper then and still is.

I qualified for WIC so I had to take him to the checkups at the Health Department. The first step was the weigh-in. Every time, the NURSE would weigh him and cluck her tongue at me. "He's too fat. He's in the 99th percentile!" Yes, back in those days they would actually say just that. Then...they would measure him. Lo and behold he was in the 99th percentile for that too. Then they would apologize. As smalltowngirlie said, they need to use some common sense and not rely only on their charts.

Are you heavy? Because I myself was morbidly obese at the time, and I think they just assumed that since I was so fat that I was overfeeding my son. Not true. I might not have taken good care of myself diet-wise but that child was fed to perfection. No junk, very healthy diet, never ever pop to drink, etc. and he was as active as could be. Like your son, he was on the go from sunup to sundown. He was just a BIG kid. Big and strong. Today he is over 6 ft tall and built like a tank, but not fat. All muscle.

I must say, I have seen posts from you here before about how your son is fed and admired you for them. We didn't have a plate like that back in those days but I worked in hospital dietary and had a very good understanding of nutrition. I think you are doing fine. You have a big strong healthy boy, it seems. If you really have concerns, ask your doctor to assess him. I'm pretty sure you can find percentile charts for height and weight online. If he seems to be in a proportionate range, just relax. But...I know what it's like to feel 'attacked' about this very subject. Especially when you are trying hard to do what is right and people are drawing conclusions based on a number.

Now if he is not in proportion, then you have been given a few good suggestions here. This world has gotten so hung up on putting people into a box that it's ridiculous. People are people, not a number on a chart.

That is just my opinion, but it is a subject that even thinking back on it nearly 30 years still upsets me.
Best wishes to you and your little guy.