MorningPerson
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Post by MorningPerson on Mar 26, 2016 1:07:45 GMT
Yeah, it's one thing to allow a teenager to stay home alone for the day. And a whole other thing to leave him for a weekend, during which he will be hanging out with kids who you "know that most of them drink on occasion."
Add all that to that the fact that he'd be missing a holiday weekend with his family -- that would be big fat no.
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Post by mom2samlibby on Mar 26, 2016 1:24:23 GMT
Family trip. This is a totally different situation than your last post. Last time, I sided with him. 9 hours is fine, but 2 days/2 nights - no way.
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mom22girls
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Post by mom22girls on Mar 26, 2016 1:32:16 GMT
Hmm if they drink on occasion I think a house with no parents on a holiday weekend might just be an occasion! I have a 15 year old daughter, so far a good kid but no way would she be home alone all weekend.
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jenkate77
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Jun 26, 2014 1:33:16 GMT
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Post by jenkate77 on Mar 26, 2016 1:38:21 GMT
Thanks Peas! I was pretty sure that I was right on this one, but I was pretty sure I was right last time too!
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FurryP
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Jun 26, 2014 19:58:26 GMT
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Post by FurryP on Mar 26, 2016 1:52:16 GMT
I am not even a parent, and I would say NO WAY JOSE! You're going with me kid. And that is FINAL!!
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Post by anxiousmom on Mar 26, 2016 2:17:21 GMT
I trend toward more lax parenting as well and I would say the boy would be going with us for the family holiday. Family trumps hanging out with friends.
Under normal circumstances, I would be okay with an overnight for a 15 year old. My kids at 15 and 13 would babysit their younger brother/sister at their dad's for the weekend. Granted, I am in the same town and there are other family members from both my ex and his wife that live fairly close by, so in the event of an emergency there are people around to help out, but for the most part, they were the weekend sitters.
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LeaP
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Jun 26, 2014 23:17:22 GMT
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Post by LeaP on Mar 26, 2016 2:45:45 GMT
A pea consensus! Congratulations Family trip is my vote too. I have a 15 year old and I think she could go one night but not two. While most often she is smart and responsible, sometime she is what can only be described as stupid. Your original post with the nine hours home alone was completely different. Good for you for letting him go camping and stay home alone more often.
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Post by Zee on Mar 26, 2016 2:49:00 GMT
I was on his side last time but this time, no. He'd be coming with us.
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Post by refugeepea on Mar 26, 2016 2:54:51 GMT
Two nights alone in Moab with Senior boys that occasionally drink? I'd be worried they'd get stupid and try to go rock climbing in vehicles and do something stupid.
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Post by anniefb on Mar 26, 2016 3:27:17 GMT
I was on the side of leaving him home alone last time but I don't think 2 days and 2 nights with no parental supervision is really appropriate for a 15 year old. He should be spending the holiday with his family. The older kids drinking and getting up to stuff would concern me too since you wouldn't be there when he comes home.
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my3freaks
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Jun 26, 2014 4:10:56 GMT
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 26, 2016 3:46:48 GMT
I have a 16 year old and a 20 year old. I said on the original question that I would leave my older kid alone for the day at that age (15), and did, but don't leave my younger one home alone pretty much ever. I don't think she'd have anyone here, but she has proven several times that we can't trust her judgement at this point. I agree with everyone that your son should go with you this weekend. Not only because it's a holiday, and he should spend it with the family, but I know exactly what I would have been up to if I'd been left alone for 1 night, never mind 2 at that age. It would definitely have involved friends, alcohol, and poor choices all around. Guess how I know that?
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Post by miominmio on Mar 26, 2016 6:35:21 GMT
The older kids drinking and getting up to stuff would concern me too since you wouldn't be there when he comes home. This is the part that would bother me, so no, I wouldn't let him stay home alone even for one night. If I was sure he wouldn't be tempted to drink, I would be comfortable with leaving him alone (if there was an adult not too far away for him to contact if something happened), but with peer pressure and the normal hormone induced stupidity that can happen to even the most level headed teenager.....no, I would not let him stay at home.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Mar 26, 2016 7:20:05 GMT
2 days and 2 nights is a recipe for disaster.
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Post by DinCA on Mar 26, 2016 10:33:35 GMT
No to staying home alone for one night, much less two. Staying with a friend and friend's family is fine so long as you approve of the friend and family. And I don't have a hard-fast rule on family trips because there are always exceptions.
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Post by txdancermom on Mar 26, 2016 14:56:46 GMT
We would let both of our 15 year olds stay home during the day by themselves. However, over night - no way - they either came with us, stayed with a friend, or when we had to be gone for a couple nights taking ds to college and dd would be home alone, had an older friend (who we trusted and with a drivers license) stay at the house overnight.
I am one to let the kids "fly" on their own, but 15 is not old enough to stay alone, and dd was even uncomfortable until after she had been off at college staying home by herself overnight.
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suki32
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Post by suki32 on Mar 26, 2016 15:07:52 GMT
It doesn't much matter how must you trust your child, it's if news gets out you are away. My neighbor let her daughter have a few friends over while they were away. Before you knew it the road was swarmed with cars of teenagers. Some even driving in to my driveway looking for the party. If word gets out there is a house with no parents home it could get put of control. I don't know what type of town you live in. Just offering up my experience.
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Post by littlemama on Mar 26, 2016 16:21:08 GMT
I was on the side of him staying home last time, but no way on this one. Family trumps friends, and a trip out of town with hs seniors? No. (I'm the mom of a us senior who doesn't do anything sketchy, but I hear stories)
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