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Post by Outspoken on Jul 30, 2014 1:14:47 GMT
Couple breaks up, babies never seen each other
This may have been discussed here and I missed it. I am not really up to date with pop culture and I can't say that I even know who these two men are, but my questions are - I wonder if the egg donor was the same for both babies, was there DNA testing done to determine if the baby each man kept is biologically theirs, and IF they share NO genetic DNA, then are they twins? As the mother of fraternal twins, this is just interesting to me. I should also say, I think the men are behaving poorly in this situation, but that is just my opinion.
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Post by quiltz on Jul 30, 2014 1:43:48 GMT
No words for this.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jul 30, 2014 2:23:27 GMT
I think I remember this being posted on twopeas a couple months ago. Such a weird situation - technically twins, but really unrelated. Actually I guess they are related because the egg donor was probably the same?
Either way odd situation.
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Post by myshelly on Jul 30, 2014 2:29:45 GMT
Yes, we did discuss this on the old board.
Parent Trap jokes ensued.
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Post by Outspoken on Jul 30, 2014 2:47:48 GMT
Yes, we did discuss this on the old board. Parent Trap jokes ensued. Do you remember if any of my questions were asked there? |
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Post by myshelly on Jul 30, 2014 2:49:16 GMT
No, I think it was a typical pea thread that got derailed, lol.
Parent Trap jokes led to Lindsey Lohan jokes and we didn't talk much about the actual issue, haha.
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Post by mimima on Jul 30, 2014 2:56:38 GMT
I love Parent Trap, and the source book - Lisa and Lottie, which was translated from the German.
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Post by Judy26 on Jul 30, 2014 2:58:42 GMT
They shouldn't be allowed to have pets let alone children, if this is how they act. Truly selfish and self serving.
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Post by julieb on Jul 30, 2014 3:03:59 GMT
Poor kids - they could have an amazing bond if these selfish, self-centered men would allow them to have a relationship.
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Post by SnowWhite on Jul 30, 2014 3:04:04 GMT
In one of the other articles on this topic, it makes mention to it being "assumed the eggs came from the same donor", that makes me think these babies may not be biologically related. Not that it makes this eff'd up situation any better, but I really can't find any clear-cut indication that they're related. These guys are acting like selfish drama queens (and that's really not intended on being a sexual-orientation slur).
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 4:00:59 GMT
www.cnn.com/2013/09/18/showbiz/tutera-ex-husband-separating-twins/Is about how they know which man fathered which child but I"m not finding anything on the egg donor. They used a surrogate but that doesn't mean she donated the egg too since it was done by an embryo implantation. I see no reason to assume the kids have any biological connection at all other than sharing a womb with both were implanted into.
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Post by Lindarina on Jul 30, 2014 8:15:35 GMT
If the kids share a mother, other than the surrogat, then they should allow them to have a bond. If they are not biologically related at all I don't think it's that big of a deal. They haven't formed a relationship yet, and I'm thinking growing up with those two selfish fathers trying to cooperate will be more damaging  |
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Post by formerpea on Jul 30, 2014 11:17:41 GMT
I agree. Being separated at birth is the LEAST problem of these two poor children.
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 30, 2014 11:33:26 GMT
I guess I am not sure that it is worse for the kids, who never have known one another, to be raised separately than co parented by people who may end up with the gazillion divorced-parent co parenting issues I see posted here and at the old board. The men live on different coasts, so the kids on top of everything else would be shuttled back and forth across the country. Even if they are genetically related, and I don't think there is any information to that effect, kids related through sperm donation are raised in separate households all the time and no one bats an eye. I have twins and I don't think they formed a magical womb bond that it would be tragic for them not to continue in life--they have an amazing bond from having now spent four years 24-7 with each other, and *that* is what it would be tragic to disrupt.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 11:56:08 GMT
It raises some interesting, and frightening, questions for other parents that have gone through the use of sperm and/or egg donors. Someday will other people show up at your door wanting to meet their sibling because they are genetically related? Or will your child feel the need to be the one to go in search of biologically related people?
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Post by Outspoken on Jul 30, 2014 15:51:02 GMT
I guess I am not sure that it is worse for the kids, who never have known one another, to be raised separately than co parented by people who may end up with the gazillion divorced-parent co parenting issues I see posted here and at the old board. The men live on different coasts, so the kids on top of everything else would be shuttled back and forth across the country. Even if they are genetically related, and I don't think there is any information to that effect, kids related through sperm donation are raised in separate households all the time and no one bats an eye. I have twins and I don't think they formed a magical womb bond that it would be tragic for them not to continue in life--they have an amazing bond from having now spent four years 24-7 with each other, and *that* is what it would be tragic to disrupt. My twins definitely have a bond, but, like you said, spending their entire lives together made it what it is! But, one day, this will come to light in both those kids lives, and it may affect them then and it may not. It's just all around weird! |
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Post by sharlag on Jul 30, 2014 15:52:33 GMT
Your thread title sounds like one baby being cut down the middle. That's where my gruesome brain went, anyway.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 15:53:19 GMT
It raises some interesting, and frightening, questions for other parents that have gone through the use of sperm and/or egg donors. Someday will other people show up at your door wanting to meet their sibling because they are genetically related? Or will your child feel the need to be the one to go in search of biologically related people? My friend used a sperm donor. They used an anonymous one but there are some that are open. Also they have a sibling registry that they can sign up for if they choose. They are leaving it up to their child when she is older. As for the "twins" being split honestly I don't have that much of an issue with it. But would prefer if they were allowed to know each other. |
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Post by Outspoken on Jul 30, 2014 16:13:00 GMT
Your thread title sounds like one baby being cut down the middle. That's where my gruesome brain went, anyway. Sorry! |
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Post by sharlag on Jul 30, 2014 16:30:49 GMT
Apparently it was just me. ANd my weirdness.
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Post by Ellie on Jul 30, 2014 17:31:48 GMT
I agree. Being separated at birth is the LEAST problem of these two poor children.  Ugh. Those poor little ones. |
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Post by BoilerUp! on Jul 30, 2014 17:49:59 GMT
Wow!!!  |
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 30, 2014 18:18:31 GMT
... Being separated at birth is the LEAST problem of these two poor children. At least there is enough airing of this story that they will be able to get to know eachother in later years, if that is what they wish. |
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Ugh. Those poor little ones. 
