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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 6, 2016 8:38:48 GMT
UPDATE/ response: i really appreciate all these comments. Especially the honest ones describing why moms don't like when others buy their kids clothes. I don't feel so alone. Yes, it is DIL's first baby, she's in her 30's and has waited a long time and developed a lot of opinions about everything to do with having/raising children. I think she'll will be very picky about everything this baby girl wears. I thought I had hit a home run when I found this, but clearly not. I was was so poor when my kids were coming, if people hadn't given gifts or hand me downs, the kids would have been naked, as one of the posters here mentioned. My gratitude meant I was not critical at all. DIL and her mother spent the morning organizing the nursery and putting the stuff from the shower away. I walked in for a minute, and DIL was mentioning about one cute little outfit that she had to check who gave it, and if it were not someone who will be around the baby much, DIL will get rid of the outfit. Again, not her style. So it's not just me. There is is a good chance she asked me to return it as she didn't want me to spend my very limited funds on something that wouldn't get used. I came from an abusive household, and was so afraid of confrontation that I could never be that kind of honest. DIL has been working with me for 3 years to say what I like or don't like, rather than smiling and agreeing with whatever the others like. So so she could be modeling the sort of honesty she wants to see in me. This pregnancy has been something she's shared with her mom and girlfriends, not so much me. BUT, she wants me included in other ways. She just had me take maternity photos of her, some of them unclothed or partially clothed, ( all tasteful, I assure you), which shows a level of comfort with me. She has also asked me to be in the delivery room and take pictures. She he and I had a lovely time doing the pictures this afternoon. She was sweet, grateful, and solicitous of my back. She was also very clear about what she wanted, and had no trouble telling me if she didn't like a picture And she includes me when she talks about our new household of 4 coming soon. I appreciate the empathy from those who just got how hurt and disappointed I was. I will definitely learn from this, but it is disappointing that I will not be able to indulge a bit in buying my sweet new grandbaby something cute if I see it and fall in love. **************************************************************** So will someone admit it? DIL's don't want their MIL's buying the baby's clothes? I knew better than to even try with my first DIL. With my second, they were so poor, I only got them necessities from their list. With this baby, a girl, the parents are comfortable, and she was telling people she wanted clothes. I studied the things on Pinterest for her style, plus I live with them so I know her well. I went shopping, and found it!! Classic style, in the color she's decorated the nursery in. Adorable matching dress and coat. Perfect for a baby who will go to church every Sunday. There was one item at the baby shower that got the most oohs and ahhs. You guessed it, that set. People were coming up to me afterward asking where I found it. Today, DIL asked me to return it. She said her sister in law told her that her daughter didn't like that fabric. Ok. I admit it, I'm disappointed. And although I would rather DIL be honest with me, a part of me wonders if she didn't resent the fuss made over the outfit at the shower. I think that things are different than they were when I was having my babies. Moms really want to choose the clothes their baby wears. Or at least who else gets to choose. I get it. It is a reflection of their taste. Which is also different from my mommy times. The clothes were pretty basic. No hand woven vegetable dyed items from etsy I'm giving up. Or I'll go buy some clothing for the poor branch of the family.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 6, 2016 9:32:02 GMT
Today, DIL asked me to return it. She said her sister in law told her that her daughter didn't like that fabric. Whoa. That is just rude. Beyond the pale, rude. This is not a you issue, it is a them issue. With my children, I accepted clothes graciously from anyone who gave them to me, and always said thank you. Your DIL is horribly mannered, rude, self-centered, and thoughtless in her actions. She should be truly embarrassed.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Apr 6, 2016 9:39:44 GMT
Someone who won't be handling it or wearing it does not like it? Beyond weird. Your DIL has bigger problems. Sorry you worked so hard finding the perfect gift. I would be disappointed, as well.
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Post by Kerri W on Apr 6, 2016 10:24:23 GMT
Today, DIL asked me to return it. She said her sister in law told her that her daughter didn't like that fabric. I don't even understand this. What the heck does the SIL's DD have to do with anything? I understand feeling disappointed. Here's what I've noticed about my own mother buying my children clothes and my buying clothes for my DGSs. My mother buys very nice expensive clothes...that are just not practical. She says she's fine with the kids wearing them whenever and not just "for good" but that's, again, not practical. And she has the mentality that they are investment pieces. I don't want that responsibility. There are too many stings attached because I know how much time and effort she put into it, I can't treat it like its from a discount department store. What ive noticed buying for my own DGSs is that I have always dressed my kids in name brand clothes from Gap, Gymboree, etc. My personality style is quality over quantity. My DDs have no desire in a matching outfit from Gymbo with the cute little coat and socks and accessories. They'll put them on the boys. Maybe a couple times. They much prefer quantity! Their priority is the latest and greatest and because they're looking for that they prefer inexpensive things. I totally don't get it! Lol But I *will* give them the gift of not making clothing an emotional battle. My mother and my DDs paternal grandmother were very generous buying clothing for my girls (they were twins and it was fun) and I kind of resented never getting to choose anything. No choosing Christmas dresses. No choosing Easter outfits. Even their everyday clothes were chosen by the grandmas. To have said anything at all would have crushed both ladies and I really was thankful for their generosity. So I choose to not make clothes an emotional issue for my girls.
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Post by Patter on Apr 6, 2016 10:33:23 GMT
Wow, I can't imagine. I am sorry. I can't imagine being that picky or rude.
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Post by stacmac on Apr 6, 2016 10:57:26 GMT
I love it when my mil gives me clothes for the kids. On the occasions she's given me something I don't like we still say thank-you, make sure we get a photo of them wearing it at least once and then pass them on to friends/family when it's been outgrown. I don't think it's a 'thing' these days, maybe a personal thing with her and her taste. I do think she was rude to ask you to return it and I'm sorry
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Post by maryland on Apr 6, 2016 11:15:18 GMT
So will someone admit it? DIL's don't want their MIL's buying the baby's clothes? I knew better than to even try with my first DIL. With my second, they were so poor, I only got them necessities from their list. With this baby, a girl, the parents are comfortable, and she was telling people she wanted clothes. I studied the things on Pinterest for her style, plus I live with them so I know her well. I went shopping, and found it!! Classic style, in the color she's decorated the nursery in. Adorable matching dress and coat. Perfect for a baby who will go to church every Sunday. There was one item at the baby shower that got the most oohs and ahhs. You guessed it, that set. People were coming up to me afterward asking where I found it. Today, DIL asked me to return it. She said her sister in law told her that her daughter didn't like that fabric. Ok. I admit it, I'm disappointed. And although I would rather DIL be honest with me, a part of me wonders if she didn't resent the fuss made over the outfit at the shower. I think that things are different than they were when I was having my babies. Moms really want to choose the clothes their baby wears. Or at least who else gets to choose. I get it. It is a reflection of their taste. Which is also different from my mommy times. The clothes were pretty basic. No hand woven vegetable dyed items from etsy I'm giving up. Or I'll go buy some clothing for the poor branch of the family. It sounds like your dil is jealous because your outfit got so much attention. If she is otherwise nice to you and you get along well, I would just let it go. But if she isn't nice to you in general, than I could see why you would be upset. Does she treat her parents like that too? Maybe that's just her personality?
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Post by johnnysmom on Apr 6, 2016 11:25:23 GMT
Wow I can't even imagine being that rude. I gladly accepted clothes from anyone. I'll admit that sometimes they got returned or on a rare occasion got donated with the tags still on. But that's because my MIL doesn't put a ton of thought into shopping. She picks up things on clearance (usually from Kmart or Walmart) months or years in advance they still wear them if they're size appropriate and not totally hideous. Anyhow, this is your DILs issue, she's weird....and rude.
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Post by Kerri W on Apr 6, 2016 11:54:03 GMT
Wow I can't even imagine being that rude. I gladly accepted clothes from anyone. I'll admit that sometimes they got returned or on a rare occasion got donated with the tags still on. Just for the sake of discussion...why is being honest and saying you're not going to use a gift and would like to return it any different from either of the above options? Why is telling the giver rude? Why is keeping the end result from the gift giver any less rude?
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 6, 2016 12:07:46 GMT
I'm sorry you were treated that way. I think it's ok to be honest, but to use some tact. I don't get why the SIL's DIL gets any input one way or the other. My mom got my kids clothes from discount racks etc. and I gladly put them in them. Even now she gets stuff at thrift stores and whatnot but we still gladly accept it.
I like the idea of taking a picture of the kid in the clothing item and then passing it on if it's not your style.
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Post by Merge on Apr 6, 2016 12:12:06 GMT
Wow I can't even imagine being that rude. I gladly accepted clothes from anyone. I'll admit that sometimes they got returned or on a rare occasion got donated with the tags still on. Just for the sake of discussion...why is it rude to be honest and say you're not going to use a gift and would like to return it different from either of the above options? Why is keeping the end result from the gift giver any less rude? I think when someone goes to the time and effort to pick out and purchase a gift for you, "I don't like this" is a rude response. Even more so - "The baby doesn't like this." Like WTF? Asking to return the item seems to imply that you feel entitled to a gift you would enjoy more, rather than acknowledging that a gift is just that, a gift, and that it is truly the thought that counts. We were so poor when my girls were babies that I happily accepted any and all gifts of baby clothes. If something truly didn't fit or didn't work, I would donate it or pass it on to a mommy friend who could use it. Maybe having been through really hard financial times makes you more appreciative when someone spends their limited time and hard-earned money on you. IDK.
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Post by johnnysmom on Apr 6, 2016 12:15:14 GMT
Wow I can't even imagine being that rude. I gladly accepted clothes from anyone. I'll admit that sometimes they got returned or on a rare occasion got donated with the tags still on. Just for the sake of discussion...why is it rude to be honest and say you're not going to use a gift and would like to return it different from either of the above options? Why is keeping the end result from the gift giver any less rude? Well first of all, she doesn't even know her baby won't like it. She was told that someone else's baby didn't like that type of fabric. But in my case the things that never get worn are usually due to sizing issues. Typically I'll just exchange them but in the case of my mil they were bought so far in advance that they can't be returned. The things I just didn't care for usually became the spare outfit at daycare or in the diaper bag.
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Post by anonrefugee on Apr 6, 2016 12:20:51 GMT
Ah, I'm sorry, it sounds thoughtful and lovely.
15 years ago I dutifully took pictures of my sons wearing the clothes my MIL purchased and mailed them to her. Every . single . stereotypical . trite . baseball or football outfit, shiver.
Could she be concerned about your finances?
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Post by janeinbama on Apr 6, 2016 12:23:00 GMT
The situation was not handled well at all and it sounds like you tried very hard. DIL/MIL dynamics can be tricky at best. Not sure about the "fabric" excuse, but a coat for an infant is not very useful. They cannot be worn in a car seat.
I have 3 daughters and 7 grandchildren and they all have very definite ideas of how their babies were/are dressed. I don't buy ANY clothes without their approval.
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Post by Kerri W on Apr 6, 2016 12:23:21 GMT
@johnnysmom I should have been more clear. I wasn't speaking directly to you...just contemplating the general idea of why one is ok and one is not. Truly just topic of discussion and I'm not even sure where I stand totally on it. My apologies
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Post by johnnysmom on Apr 6, 2016 12:27:08 GMT
@johnnysmom I should have been more clear. I wasn't speaking directly to you...just contemplating the general idea of why one is ok and one is not. Truly just topic of discussion and I'm not even sure where I stand totally on it. My apologies Oh I know. Im not offended. I probably came off a little defensive, that wasn't my intent, it's early, sorry
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Post by brandy327 on Apr 6, 2016 12:27:09 GMT
Today, DIL asked me to return it. She said her sister in law told her that her daughter didn't like that fabric. Whoa. That is just rude. Beyond the pale, rude. This is not a you issue, it is a them issue. With my children, I accepted clothes graciously from anyone who gave them to me, and always said thank you. Your DIL is horribly mannered, rude, self-centered, and thoughtless in her actions. She should be truly embarrassed. What she said. My MIL and I do not see eye to eye much. She's very old school and I'm not so much. With my kids at 11 and 12, she still buys them clothes. Whether I (or the kids) like them or not, we graciously accept them and thank her. She took her time and money to purchase them. We're thankful. The ONLY time I've asked her to return something is on the off chance something is too small. Thankfully she DOES inquire often about what size to buy so it doesn't happen often. Your DIL is rude.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Apr 6, 2016 12:46:59 GMT
I agree that the DIL didn't handle the situation well. How do you get along with her in general?
As for grandparents buying clothes for the kids, I have mixed feelings. My mil used to buy a ton of clothes for the kids. The problem was that they weren't the style I would choose and most likely were the wrong size for the season. She is a bargain shopper and buys anything she thinks is a good deal, and didn't take into consideration when it would fit the child (shorts that fit in winter, etc). I also thought she bought clothes that seemed terribly outdated. She lives in NY and maybe those styles are more common there but not here. I would describe it as similar to how I see the royal babies dressed. Jumpers and other "classic" clothes. Anyway, I always said thank you and made a point to take pic when the kids wore the clothes she sent. But there were things that didn't get used, usually due to size issues. I felt bad and didn't like that she was spending money on things that didn't work. I'm not sure why, but she stopped sending things quite awhile ago. Probably a good thing because now the kids are picky. Although sending them cards or a gift for Christmas or their birthdays would be nice.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 12:51:52 GMT
I'm sorry she hurt your feelings. Gift giving is difficult. I've never been a believer in a child having a "style", certainly not at the expense of my family's feelings.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 6, 2016 12:52:04 GMT
Your DIL is insensitive. I'm sorry.
My DIL was a single mom when our first grandchild was born. She and DS didn't marry until their DD was 3. I discovered she felt like I was saying she could not provide nice things for her child. Luckily we were able to have a heart-to-heart. I explained I bought baby clothes because it was fun and brought me joy. Now, we didn't have the same taste, but she was gracious about it. I liked to dress baby like a little girl, she liked to dress her like mini-me of herself.
Now that the grands are 12 and 7, she's thrilled when I buy them clothes.
Could you have a heart to heart with your DIL? Explain that it brings you joy, but you'd like to respect what types of clothes she wants for baby?
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Post by gloryjoy on Apr 6, 2016 12:54:52 GMT
Reading this post makes me nervous. I buy my two year old grandson A LOT of clothes, a LOT! I would say half his wardrobe is from me.
I work in daycare and I'm pretty up on what all the young mom's and kids like to wear, now I'm just unsure.
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Post by MerryMom on Apr 6, 2016 13:11:13 GMT
@johnnysmom I should have been more clear. I wasn't speaking directly to you...just contemplating the general idea of why one is ok and one is not. Truly just topic of discussion and I'm not even sure where I stand totally on it. My apologies Oh I know. Im not offended. I probably came off a little defensive, that wasn't my intent, it's early, sorry I think the difference is when you return a gift that doesn't fit, isn't practical, won't use, or you have similar items in the same size, AND the giver doesn't know that you exchanged or returned it, then the giver's feelings aren't hurt. But when you go directly to that person and say, "For X reason, I don't like this or I won't use it so please return this gift", to me that is very "in your face". Additionally, I also think it is rude to expect the giver to be responsible for returning a gift. That is why I give books as baby gifts now or onesies and generic sleepers. But honestly, I always include the receipt or gift receipt. That way, if they have duplicates in the same size, I think my including the receipt or gift receipt indicates to the person that I am okay if they need to return or exchange the item. When it comes to dressy clothes or a coat for a baby, then I do think the mother's taste may come in to play. Personally, if she would have said that to me, then I would have handed her the receipt or mailed her the receipt. I think if she wants to return or exchange the gift, then SHE needs to do the work. Take a deep breath and take the high road. Perhaps she didn't mean for it to come across to you as it did. I also don't think you should take it that she is deciding who gets to choose who buys a gift either. I'm a "step grandma" and I buy the grandkids Christmas presents and for whatever reason, the one stepdaughter and her husband are very picky when it comes to "whatever". A few years ago, the grandson was crazy about the Hulk and I made him a big fleece tied blanket with Hulk fleece material, big enough for a twin size bed (he was 3 at the time). He watches the Avengers, and Incredible Hulk movies and cartoons plus has the action figures. A few months after Christmas, I asked them how he liked the blanket. Silence, then the son in law says, "oh we had to put the blanket away because E asked us once if the Incredible Hulk was going to take him." I guess they felt the blanket gave him "anxiety" and "stress". What was ironic was the grandson was wearing an Avengers tshirt with a much more menacing looking Hulk than the fleece blanket had (which looked a little more cartoonish) PLUS he was carrying 2 Hulk action figures. I just looked significantly at E and raised my eyebrow and said "I see" to the parents and left it at that (but thinking 'as opposed to what you let him watch, play, and wear, but it's all about the blanket'). Oh and the next year, we got E a really nice kids oak table and 2 chairs that we bought in Amish country in Ohio. Really pretty and we got the "barely stained' or "natural" finish. But guess what, they either returned it and got a set painted in high gloss black paint or they painted the table and chairs themselves in high gloss black paint. I'm thinking, well if I would have known that you wanted it in black, I would have gone to IKEA and got you some particle board piece of crap DIY thing versus a beautiful oak wood handcrafted table and chairs!! I mean isn't the point of wood furniture to actually see the oak? So since I was 0 for 2 with presents that I spent considerable time to either make or to drive and purchase, I now ask them for exactly what they want me to get for him and I buy it. I might get a few little presents to supplement, but I'm tired of being a tad bit insulted. So I get what you mean. Now on the other hand, the other stepdaughter basically comes out and asks us to buy clothes for her kids or take them for a haircut. She'll call and say, "Oh can L and/or G spent the weekend with you? And oh, if so, you can take them to get their hair cut, or, they need a fall or spring jacket so if you want to take them shopping, here is their size. etc. etc. She isn't too subtle about it. If I want to do it, then I do it, but if I don't, then I don't. ETA: In trying for conciseness and brevity in my response, and based on the comments about buying furniture being so intrusive, (kid size table and chairs), I erred in being too brief. I didn't just buy the table and chairs as a big surprise to them. They had seen the kid-size oak table and chairs that my mother had bought for my son years ago. It's way too small for my son now so it is put away, but I get it out at Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter and it is the "kid's table". They had admired it so I thought it was a safe choice. Later on that year, when I was getting gift ideas for Christmas, they didn't give me any suggestions. I asked about several items (coat, certain kinds of toys, Leapster, etc.) and I got no, we have that already or he doesn't like that. After several strike-outs, I finally asked if they would like a table and chair set and they said yes. I said, "I know you don't like dark stained furniture, do want me to get something light or natural?". No problem and nothing said like "oh, get unpainted furniture" or "see if they have it in black". But then the big switcheroo or paint over with nothing said, I guess they were hoping that I didn't notice the kid size table and chairs sitting in their living room had been painted black. I felt it was a good present. Also, their home has several oak furniture pieces (kitchen table, living room end tables, computer desk) that aren't painted black, their oak pieces have a very light stain or is natural. Based on that, I felt safe in assuming that the oak furniture was within their taste range. I guess that is what bothered me more than anything, I had a conversation with them ahead of time, they approved it. I even mentioned the color, nothing said, then the big change after the fact. What should I even bother? Should I just give you money or a gift card and you can go get exactly what you want or like. What is also interesting is that when my husband or I don't get what they specify, usually E really likes it. I think they (the parents) think he is a computer nerd 6 year old hipster kid and he actually likes outdoor things and has kind of a farm boy bent. My husband got him a fishing pole, tackle box, and some basic fishing items for his 6th birthday. Mommy and Daddy looked skeptical, but E really liked and asks to go fishing a lot or just cast the line with a weight on the end. We got him a basketball hoop and he loves it. I'm not saying they are always wrong or always right, but as kids get older, maybe open their horizons and be open to other things. Anyways, they are the parents and we go by what they say, but sometimes, I just have those little conversations in my mind. (As I am sure my mother did with me at times).
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Post by pierkiss on Apr 6, 2016 13:13:36 GMT
Wow really?!? I've never turned down gift clothes from my mom or my mother in law! Nor anyone else for that matter. Both moms would be heartbroken if I told them they couldn't buy clothes for my kids.
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Post by used2scrap on Apr 6, 2016 13:17:23 GMT
Doesn't sound like it was handled well, but a Sunday dress and coat that everyone oohed and aahed over likely is very impractical. My babies were very sensitive to scratchy material, tags, snaps etc. Add in colic and reflux/formula vomiting and laundry was a nightmare. Kiddos lived in cotton pjs and rompers. Yes I managed to put the gifted outfits on and snap pictures, but usually through lots of tears--my PPD and the sensitive tots too. I'm confused by your post who the new mom is, but regardless of her relationship to you, I tend to cut the mom slack...
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Post by pelirroja on Apr 6, 2016 13:38:19 GMT
You live with them so please tread carefully. I understand your feelings are hurt (mine would be too) but expectant moms can be a little off sometimes. Let's chalk it up to pregnancy hormones and give her the benefit of the doubt. If it turns out your DIL is so easily influenced by other people's opinions, give her some empathy (not spoken aloud) that even as a grown-up, she still needs the acceptance and approval of others.
Coats for babies are complicated because they can mess with the car seats, so it might be a safety issue. I'm not sure how she knows the baby wouldn't like it since the baby's not here yet. Maybe she was worried about you spending money on this? FWIW, the dress and coat sound lovely. Sorry this happened to you.((hugs))
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Post by loco coco on Apr 6, 2016 13:44:39 GMT
This is really weird, Im pregnant with my first and would love my MIL to buy clothes. They go through so many clothes not every outfit needs to be perfect or picture worthy. Im sorry she reacted this way.
I could see this if you were buying nursery decor that didnt match her theme or something like that but not clothes!
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Post by bigbundt on Apr 6, 2016 13:57:04 GMT
You live with them so please tread carefully. I understand your feelings are hurt (mine would be too) but expectant moms can be a little off sometimes. Let's chalk it up to pregnancy hormones and give her the benefit of the doubt. If it turns out your DIL is so easily influenced by other people's opinions, give her some empathy (not spoken aloud) that even as a grown-up, she still needs the acceptance and approval of others. I agree. Is she a first time mom? That can make the most sane person do things out of character too! If it was an outfit I didn't care for I would have probably accepted it and then put it on her once for church and taken a picture for you and then put it away. However if it was something that I just hated and I knew cost a lot of money, I would feel sick that someone spent that amount of money on something that wouldn't get used. Especially if the gift giver lived with me and was expecting that the outfit would be worn frequently to church (which is what I am gathering from your post). I humor my mom with kid clothes, a lot of the clothes she sends are a little old fashioned. Cute on a hanger but just not practical for babies. Buttons, scratchy lace, stiff cotton fabric, have to be ironed, have to be removed entirely to change a diaper, outfits with a bunch of little stuff that my babies would never keep on (like a hat) and that I would have a hard time keeping together as a set. But my mom lives in a different state so it is a lot easier to get around than if she was living with me. I can just take a picture and take the outfit off right away.
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Post by bigbundt on Apr 6, 2016 13:57:41 GMT
And I'm curious to see what this outfit looks like!
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 6, 2016 14:06:12 GMT
Oh and the next year, we got E a really nice kids oak table and 2 chairs that we bought in Amish country in Ohio. Really pretty and we got the "barely stained' or "natural" finish. But guess what, they either returned it and got a set painted in high gloss black paint or they painted the table and chairs themselves in high gloss black paint. I'm thinking, well if I would have known that you wanted it in black, I would have gone to IKEA and got you some particle board piece of crap DIY thing versus a beautiful oak wood handcrafted table and chairs!! I mean isn't the point of wood furniture to actually see the oak? First, I totally agree with you about the blanket. It seems like the child would have much more anxiety caused by watching the shows than a fleece blanket. Sounds like mom wasn't a fan of the blanket. I do have to disagree with you on the table. First, that is more like adding furnishings to their home and taste does reign in this case. But not everyone is a fan of the oak/wood look. It's really not in style now either. I would be much happier to have a solid oak table then paint it because the table/chairs are better quality and would stand up to use better over long term use than a cheap table from Ikea would. My inlaws were smart and gave us a solid oak table/chairs for DD that were unfinished. I was able to finish them in a style to match the nursery and my home.
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Post by epeanymous on Apr 6, 2016 14:08:41 GMT
My MIL and I aren't close, and we have very different taste in clothes (she is the one who likes trendier stuff), but whenever she gets stuff for the kids, we say thank you, and I try to post pictures of the kids in the clothes. I don't think this is a universal DIL thing. If you were talking about bigger items, I would probably agree with you -- I've seen situations get tense where a grandparent, e.g., decides to buy bedding for the nursery or a stroller or something like that, where the parent probably has a strong preference about an item they will be using every day -- but a few outfits? That is a true no harm, no foul situation.
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