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Post by disneypal on Apr 7, 2016 17:39:55 GMT
I haven't read all the replies but it depends on who the 20 year old is. If she were my sister, friend or daughter, I would speak with her and encourage her to make good choices - advise her that she should wait a few years to start a family, maybe 4 or 5 more years. I don't think 20 is too young to get married but I think she should wait a few years to have children. She would still be really young but at the same time, can enjoy her early 20s without the responsibilities of raising a child.
If it were not my sister, friend or daughter, I wouldn't say anything to her.
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flute4peace
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Post by flute4peace on Apr 7, 2016 18:00:13 GMT
If you are close, you might just want to ask her if she would like help coming up with a budget. Once you see how expensive a baby is, you might consider putting it off. I really like this approach. It's an offer to help by teaching her how to budget, while not making her defensive about having a baby (she'll be able to see for herself after working through the budget). Then just try to be there for her as a mentor if she'll receptive to that.
If there are drugs or abuse involved, that changes my response.
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Post by karinms on Apr 7, 2016 18:05:16 GMT
There are no drugs or abuse in the relationship that I know of, other than the fact he does what the hell he wants and doesn't seem to consider how she feels. I won't get into my feelings about him. Lazy ass pretty much covers it.
I am not going to say anything at all....but if it comes up... I am going to ask how the baby would fit into her budget and leave it at that.
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