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Post by grammanisi on Apr 7, 2016 2:58:54 GMT
I have my 11yo granddaughter and her brother, my 12yo grandson, for the week and they do nothing but pick and argue with each other. All day long. I have a small house and it has been cold and rainy, so they can't go outside. I sent them both home with their older sister to spend the night last night! lol! She said no way is she keeping both of them tonight. It's one at a time or not at all!
I also take care of my 9 month old great grandson all day. He happens to be the best behaved of the three!
When they stay with us this summer it will be one at a time, for sure. |
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Post by scrapsotime on Apr 7, 2016 3:15:41 GMT
I have a small house and have other people's children and/or my grandchildren here a lot. Any one who can't get along in my house is banished to separate rooms - no exceptions. In the beginning I said as many times as needed 'I don't care what the rules are at your house this is my house, my rules and that's not happening here.'
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Post by quiltz on Apr 7, 2016 3:50:17 GMT
Don't you have baseboards that need to be cleaned? That was the go to job that I have for kids that can't get along.
Then the windows need cleaning as there is gunk from the winter & there are always corners in the ceiling that are dirty.
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Post by grammanisi on Apr 7, 2016 4:05:00 GMT
Don't you have baseboards that need to be cleaned? That was the go to job that I have for kids that can't get along. Then the windows need cleaning as there is gunk from the winter & there are always corners in the ceiling that are dirty. That is a great idea!! |
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Apr 7, 2016 4:11:18 GMT
I agree, I'd put them to work. My oldest DS is 22 and admits that he annoys his younger brother just for entertainment.
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Post by anniefb on Apr 7, 2016 9:03:27 GMT
I agree, I'd put them to work. My oldest DS is 22 and admits that he annoys his younger brother just for entertainment.  |
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Post by lesley on Apr 7, 2016 10:32:59 GMT
I would set them to work as well. They obviously need some way to get rid of all that frustration!  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2016 11:17:52 GMT
The baseboard cleaning worked for me. Washing cabinets, all kinds of little dirty places around here that can get cleaned!
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Post by Really Red on Apr 7, 2016 11:30:35 GMT
Bribery!! Find some way to bribe them. Every good thing they do, every hour they aren't fighting they get X. I prefer the positive, but you may have to resort to every time you hear them fuss, they clean something. Good luck!
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Post by caro on Apr 7, 2016 15:07:23 GMT
I think having a clean house is the way to go. It sounds like they are bored so cleaning will release that energy.  |
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Post by breetheflea on Apr 7, 2016 15:20:50 GMT
My Grandma had 6 Grandkids, her rule was she would take each kid for up to a week but never more than one kid at a time (unless it was an emergency or just for a few hours). I think maybe that was the most brilliant idea ever now that I have kids who fight over everything...
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 7, 2016 15:42:47 GMT
Take some time and teach them to behave please! They need parenting and fast. I would be notified to know that my kids were so annoying even their sibling our grandparent can't stand to be around them.
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Post by Fidget on Apr 7, 2016 16:29:51 GMT
I would make them hold hands for an hour every time they started bickering!
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Post by mlana on Apr 7, 2016 16:40:11 GMT
I had a grand mother who would have us kids come to her and help her clean. She would have each of us over for individual fun time, but, if we went at the same time, we did marathon cleaning sessions. the things was, when we were done, we were tired enough to not want to argue with each other, but not so tired that we were crabby. Once the cleaning was done, Granny would take us into the kitchen and cook with us. We would make things with her that it would never have occurred to Mom to teach us to make.
Reading your post makes me appreciate the ingenuity of my Granny. She found a way to deal with 2 yigyagging kids without making them feel bad. Thanks!
Marcy
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2016 16:52:31 GMT
Why can't they go outside? Even that age likes to splash in mud puddles!
Cooking with them sounds fun.
How about planning a family meal for tommorrow night?
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Post by carhoch on Apr 7, 2016 17:01:42 GMT
My Grandma had 6 Grandkids, her rule was she would take each kid for up to a week but never more than one kid at a time (unless it was an emergency or just for a few hours). I think maybe that was the most brilliant idea ever now that I have kids who fight over everything... and I plan on doing the opposite take tell all together for 10 days in the summer and a weekend here and there so that they build a close friendship for life. |
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Post by ~Lauren~ on Apr 7, 2016 18:38:33 GMT
My attitude when my 2 were young was "if you've got enough energy to fight, you've got enough energy to clean".
Everytime the bickering started, they each were sent to clean a bathroom or vaccum and dust. It took them a while but they finally stopped bickering. Until that time, I had a sparkling clean house. Win-win for me.
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Post by Mystie on Apr 7, 2016 21:22:55 GMT
Don't you have baseboards that need to be cleaned? That was the go to job that I have for kids that can't get along. Then the windows need cleaning as there is gunk from the winter & there are always corners in the ceiling that are dirty. That was my first thought, too--time to do some spring cleaning for Grandma!  |
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Post by hop2 on Apr 7, 2016 21:41:08 GMT
That is a tough age for siblings.
I never foisted mine on my parents or Inlaws for any length of time without me there to run interference. I think the longest my parents ever watched both my kids at once was 1 night Saturday into Sunday for an out of state wedding. Otherwise I went with them. I knew they could be a handful if they got to bickering.
If we foisted them on anyone for extended periods of time it was paid for and even that was seperate. Summer camp.
I'll second the peas who said find them Jobs. Though I don't say that as if it's a consequence. My kids always naturally gravitated towards my Dad as opposed to my mom. My dad would keep them busy. He'd 'let' them help wash his antique 1929 car. He'd 'let' them help clean out the boat. He'd 'let' them help organize his tool bins. (Practically every tool known to man ) Somehow grandpa always made chores seem like a treat. The chores weren't everyday chores. And he always did the stuff with them. And they have fond memories of working with grandpa. So along those lines, put them to work.
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Post by grammanisi on Apr 8, 2016 15:16:28 GMT
Why can't they go outside? Even that age likes to splash in mud puddles! It is cold and with a sleeting rain. I normally have them one at a time, now I remember why! My granddaughter has been spending the night with her sister and my grandson couldn't be any sweeter since there is no one her to argue with!! |
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